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iLegendd:
Don't Take Her Seriously Except This Happens

bukatyne:
Well it is Naija women that would deliver themselves.

'Nigerian' men have audacity sha.

pocohantas:
Please shut up.

tete7000:
You occupy your minds with worthless issues. You don't learn about women focusing on negativities carved out around them. What you end up with is needless aversion for women. All you people want to tell yourself and assure yourself with is notions of women are whores, women are cheats, etc. No intelligent discussion about womanhood.

dipsx:
Well we are not perfect but I believe in being the person u desire in the other.

First self-respect, my word is my bond. If I have committed to u then I do everything within my power to ensure I am not the one defaulting.

Secondly You need to get a trust-worthy person ready and open to learning, this is largely dependent on how honest u are as a person as in step1. I am that honest to telling my wife I just wanted friends with benefits at the beginning cos I was planning to marry my tribe then.

My wife is the 3rd woman I have shared my passwords with even though the 1st two didn't work, trust was never the issue.

Presently we are just 3yrs in marriage and far from perfection too but trust issues are almost entirely absent. She has the history of almost all the ladies but not exes I have long calls with.

Na me no dey remember her ATM pin cos money no dey too dey there. My cards are in her possession but she has never withdrawn in my absence without asking me first.

Because of this openness I can tell you that my wife doesn't at any point in time know my balance or salary, she care less about those details knowing and believing that I am not spending frivolously. We both need some privacy to account balance or how each person spends cos I can't take permission from her to help F&F. I am a very prudent person as well as I no get person to look up to most times.

We don't have joint accounts at the moment but with how we living that is almost what is happening.

The more u try to hide the more U induce others to probe. Openness is by far d easiest way to hide things as usual there is often nothing to hide.

greypencils:
So if you have female children, will you tell them they are inferior to their male classmates? Will you tell them not to aspire to be great in life because whatsoever they do, whatsoever career they decide to pursue, men will always be superior even if such a man is poor & an illiterate? Is that the ideology you will pass on to your female children?

Will you tell your female child to remain in an abusive relationship where she is being battered by a man with your thinking, a man who believes his wife shouldn't be bigger than him? Will you agree if that man with your thinking asks her to throw away that university degree you are so proud of as her father and go stay in a shop he wants to open for her because God forbids, she earns money and becomes somebody of substance with her 9-5?

Think carefully before you answer me. Your female child will have a husband just like you with your same ideology, I promise you.

As a man, I repeat, You are to DICTATE the moral code to your girlfriend/fiancee/wife. Tell them what you want, INSIST on it and SHOW them by being that person FIRST. If they won't toe that line, DROP THEM. But you be that person you want them to be FIRST. SHOW them what you expect of them NOT TELL them. You want faithfulness from your wife, BE FAITHFUL. You want openness from your wife, BE OPEN. That is your leadership & superiority as a man.

A bit of myself once again. Before I got married, my girlfriend now my wife knew my ATM & phone password. I knew hers too. Till date, we operate on that same level. Right now, my wife transfers her salary to my account because she believes I am more frugal with expenses than she is. I didn't ask her to do so. She is doing so of her free will. That is what being open gets you.

I will use examples of two very successful men, Elon Musk and Barrack Obama. Elon has no respect for women hence his women don't stay with him. Neither do his children who all declare that he is a shitty father. Is he successful? Yes. Is he happy his children don't want to have anything to do with him? I promise you, HE IS NOT. THAT IS WHAT THE RED PILL GETS YOU.

Obama on the other hand does house chores & through it, He enjoys the companionship and partnership of his wife. The same house chores that red pillers have refused to do as 'house chores demeans them'.

Who do you think is truly happy between both men?

GloriousGbola:
where have i seen this before?

oh yes this same brand of pseudo science



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpZdrR_wpXQ

which leads us here

bukatyne:
Interesting thread to start the weekend.

The OP contains a few nuggets; Yes, a woman's phone should be more accessible than her body, ditto a man and trust (both ways) is mandatory in a relationship.

Then it went downhill.

But again, what do I expect from a man who saw his father command his mother to sit at home after she dresses up from an event? As much as we hate to hear it because it is a wide net dragging a lot of people, family background matters a lot except we deliberately rise above it.

Write ups like the OP's thrive because a lot of women (by nature/nurture) lack self-worth, have a low self-esteem and/or self-respect.

When you know you are enough in yourself and derive your worth from God, you would naturally repel a number of men. And it is fine.... you only need 1 that your values align.

And while knowing your worth, get knowledge..... Ubun.ja's threads here are a great place to start. As you read, you notice the that traits you would have excused out of innocence are actually deliberate efforts to break your spirit and sap your core.

cococandy:
Hold classes and teach other men on NL. They need this lesson

musicwriter:
What you called "Western culture" is actually African. It's adoption by the West is relatively recent.

Women even ruled nations in ancient Africa. Yes, there were women Queens in Africa before you heard of anything like that in Western culture.

Women weren't considered as human beings in Western culture and weren't allowed to participate in anything. You see that in your Bible.....in the new testament. Up to 1920, women weren't allowed to vote in Britain, the US, etc.

Not allowing someone to read your phone messages is a matter of privacy, which African women enjoyed from time immemorial.

Nothing was introduced into this world by white people until recently. It's just a question of them adopting something - like a gay couple and imposing it on others....even when a country like Saudi Arabia and Malaysia had been pro-gay before the West.

kkins25:
For real!!!!

In Ghana, the King of the Akans has an overlord to whom he is accountable. That person is a woman and has always been a woman! That seat is specifically designated for women only! I'm not talking pre-colonial whatever. I'm talking today!

We inherited alot of rubbish from the West. Now, they even want to tell us how to define a "woman."

iamtoofan:
Good question ! my daughter would understand her place and grow to love it ... if you are proud of what or who you are, no one or bad mouth can make you feel inferior or less about it
In my Pov i don't see life as a competition, so i cant raise my daughter to see life as men vs women ... infact in my experience, a woman stands to gain more being feminine than putting up feminist crap

What works for your r/ship, lets say you are luck not everybody can adopt that, the most important thing is knowing what works for you, in my case for instance i dont need her to show me her account or i never asked how much she earns .... just dont leave everything to me, pick up some roles in the house as well..

i dont believe all these openness crap ... Bro naa your belle make you know, even in open r/ship one party is taking advantage of the other .. no 50 : 50

Instead of looking for a woman to dictate moral code to why not simply just find a woman that resonate with "your" moral code .. ... dictating peoples life is wrong and that where compatability comes in.

To get a reliable best out of ur partner show dem what you want and when they make effort to do it, be there to compensate, never force anyone to please you

Bro ,how old is "Red pill" and how old is Elon musk .. that man is just living is encoded life. The pride of a father is to leave a legacy behind, those children for life will always be connected to their father's legacy whether they like it or not.


I see you judge happiness base on audio... there are men who wash plate, wash bra and their wife still cheat on dem with big head . Is jay Z washing brassierre to enjoy campanionship and partnership with beyonce.

if you ask me obama carries tew much white hair for his age and for someone over happy

ObalendeCMS:
I won't be surprised if those two up there, going back & forth, end up smashing!

Ishilove:
See man weye get sense, not all the single to stupor males that have simply refused to grow up and learn from older, more experienced men like you

joseph1832:
Well, this is how many women end up getting old and retiring to the church, paying tithes and sowing seeds and hoping their pastor will perform the miracle of getting the perfect man for them to marry. Lmao.

iLegendd:
E be like say I go ignore you before you push me into exposing my worth.

Just know that, academically, I was top 3 in Nigeria and top 2 abroad with a distinction.

Physically, I'm muscular and healthy — I never miss exercise.

Spiritually, I'm average — deviating from religion gradually.

Financially, I don't begged for money no matter the hardship from family members or outsiders — I give (especially when I have) before people go start to dey send DM to bill me.

Intellectually, I find solutions to problems faster than most people I have ever met home and abroad. It's only my guy in Spain that finds solutions faster than me. I don't know where that one got his own brain. I'm still the one that taught him female psychology and how to get any woman and last long in bed while he taught me a lot about technology hacking, etc., which is even my field.

With my big muscle and big dick, you known no say I suppose get standard and pride? So, I choose, not you.

If you call someone like me with all the muscular and brain weak, I wonder what you'll call other men.

Feminist no really get brain and choice sha. Always attacking men toll menopause and they become bitter. For me, I like women and will always treat them well, massage them, cook for them when I'm happy, f*ck them like no one ever would, pamper them, fight with them, reconcile, f*ck them again, spend what I'm willing to lose, etc., but don't ever insult me directly or indirectly or my mom or even any of my siblings — I don't forgive or forget. I have a journal where I write everybody's offences down no matter how little it is.

So, that's a little bit of me.

greypencils:
You will teach your daughter to know her place meaning when her husband cheats on her and beats her up, she accepts it like the obedient wife that she ought to be...Good ideology, father of the year.

Regarding my using the word 'dictate', there is no way you can be the man in your own home without being firm on certain issues. Like those few times your girl wants to wear that short dress you know is too revealing, you put your foot down and insist on what you want. Those times your girl want to attend that party you disapprove of, you spell out your desires and lay down the rules as the man. Issues like that is where you bring your leadership to play not faithfulness and openness. You want your girl to be faithful, BE FAITHFUL. You want your girl to be open, BE OPEN. That is the rule. Ain't hard is it?

PrettyRX:
Gosh! You talk too much for a man. Online alpha male, offline sissy *(pukes🤮) No man of substance as you claim blaabbss about online What a shame!

iLegendd:
Silence yourself, insignificant fo*l. The very thing you mock—talking—is precisely what has propelled me to the financial success I enjoy today.

My so-called excessive speech has been meticulously transformed into books, which effortlessly generate more income in a single month than many doctors earn while I sleep. Must everyone embrace your dreary existence as a reclusive introvert, steeped in insignificance?

You imb*ciles wield the phrase "you talk too much for a man" like a crude instrument, attempting to weaponize it against those who dare to express themselves.

It’s a pathetic, insidious tactic designed to diminish and silence, pushing people to retreat into obscurity. And yet, when you’ve driven them into the shadows, you hypocrites turn around and dismiss their struggles, telling them to go out and work.

My so-called “talking too much” is precisely what keeps me thriving, so why should I change what clearly isn’t broken and join you?

Take your absurd “you talk too much” criticism and shove it back to the womb that birthed you. Go mute if you please, but I’ll continue doing what has worked for me.

Do you honestly believe that if I had stayed silent, I would have written the books that transformed my life? All of them were once posts on Nairaland.

Every comment I make here, and even yours, could be woven into a bestselling masterpiece. When you're long gone, that book will endure, ensuring that your descendants will still be paying royalties to mine. D*mb brain. Haven't you heard the phrase, men with pen are powerful. An introvert can only be powerful in silence if his life has already been sorted out financially and otherwise. You want everyone to be like your timid dad, right?

You bitter, frustrated feminist. Always hunting for ways to muzzle others because you can't stand their voice. What you deem as a flaw is often the very thing I double down on, until you lot are left speechless.

This isn’t a playground for acting stoic and "macho"—in the digital age, your words are your wealth. Silence is akin to irrelevance and death.

So, crawl back to your hole. I’m not done yet; the next thread will be even more ruthless.

If your 1 minute man husband or boyfriend needs help on how to satisfy your frustrated self in bed, let me know—I have the natural solutions.

Being a real man is about controlling your emotions, but this digital age permits you to express and even act violent and cause a scene when needed.

So, dirty b*tch, "you talk too much" can't be used as a weapon against me.

Shut up for the rest of your being and allow us speak.

abba190:
help me with life changing 100k. i have spottend and opportunity but lack of capital is gonna make me lose it. Help my life

Zooposki:
Go read this study and stop the foolishness.

bukatyne:
Interesting thread to start the weekend.

The OP contains a few nuggets; Yes, a woman's phone should be more accessible than her body, ditto a man and trust (both ways) is mandatory in a relationship.

Then it went downhill.

But again, what do I expect from a man who saw his father command his mother to sit at home after she dresses up from an event? As much as we hate to hear it because it is a wide net dragging a lot of people, family background matters a lot except we deliberately rise above it.

Write ups like the OP's thrive because a lot of women (by nature/nurture) lack self-worth, have a low self-esteem and/or self-respect.

When you know you are enough in yourself and derive your worth from God, you would naturally repel a number of men. And it is fine.... you only need 1 that your values align.

And while knowing your worth, get knowledge..... Ubun.ja's threads here are a great place to start. As you read, you notice the that traits you would have excused out of innocence are actually deliberate efforts to break your spirit and sap your core.

dipsx:
One of the easiest way to live with a spouse/partner is to share password to your phones.
It helps you to be very careful and responsible especially as a man.
Started it long before marriage still doing it till date including my ATM pins.
It gives you almost 0% suspicion.

kkins25:
Hey! Interesting research! I uploaded the doc to ChatGPT, my new BFF, to understand its content and how it relates to the claims you've, rather, the YouTube made. I've argued that women are better at comprehension, which I believe, is why they perform better in subjects that involve reading and writing and dominate such industries. For example, the content writing industry is completely a woman's domain.

So, I was excited to give the study a look.

Now, to the substance of the article, let's begin with the statement, "Correlation isn't causation."

Point 1: [/b]The participants of the study included:

119 healthy adults.
26, 683 patients with psychiatric issues.

[b]Point 2: The objective of the study was to figure out the amount of blood flowing through the cerebrum in both males and females. The researchers used this as an indirect way to measure the level of cerebrum activity between the genders.

Point 3: The researchers observed that females had higher activity in many parts of their cerebrum compared to men.

These parts are indeed areas of interest because the cerebrum is the "brainy" part of the brain. In fact, It's largely responsible for the comment you're reading right now! Okay, as my BFF would say, let's delve into point 4.

Point 4: I find that the speaker in the YouTube video ( I didn't watch the video, but I'm assuming that's how you drew your conclusion) try's put words into the mouths of the researchers. The research aimed to uncover insights into the difference in psychiatric disorders between genders.

It is known that women are more susceptible to certain psychiatric disorders, such as mood and anxiety disorders, while men are more prone to addiction and antisocial personality disorder.

The researchers are trying to understand why. Could there be something different about the male and female brains? The answer is yes. That brings us to point 5.

Point 5: The study finds that women have significantly more blood flowing through their cerebrum indicating higher neuroactivity in the region compared to men. Could this be why women and men get different types of psychiatric disorders? Possibly. But, this research alone can't answer that question. What it does is take us one step closer to the finish line.

That said, I can infer how the YouTuber drew their conclusion:

1) Women have higher activity in the brain.
2) Does higher activity mean a better brain?
3) Yes.
4) Therefore women have better brains than men.

But, that's somewhat misleading. I propose an analogy: An organism with longer legs will run faster than another with shorter legs. At face value, it's sound logical. But, wait a minute! Giraffes have longer legs than Cheetahs! Oops, not so logical now.

That's because there are many facets to running. The structure of the leg, the weight it carries, the size of the animal, and so on. Replace "Cheetah" and "Giraffe" with "Male" and Female," then replace "running" with "neuroactivity." It's the same faulty logic that the YouTuber uses. Since women have more brain activity in regions associated with leadership skills, they are considered better suited for leadership. While I don't disagree with the premise or find it an absurd claim, I’m simply pointing out that, based solely on the journal cited, that's a misguided interpretation.

What the study does say, is that because women have higher blood flow in those regions, it makes sense that they are more likely to struggle with disorders such as mood and anxiety disorders.

musicwriter:
What you called "Western culture" is actually African. It's adoption by the West is relatively recent.

Women even ruled nations in ancient Africa. Yes, there were women Queens in Africa before you heard of anything like that in Western culture.

Women weren't considered as human beings in Western culture and weren't allowed to participate in anything. You see that in your Bible.....in the new testament. Up to 1920, women weren't allowed to vote in Britain, the US, etc.

Not allowing someone to read your phone messages is a matter of privacy, which African women enjoyed from time immemorial.

Nothing was introduced into this world by white people until recently. It's just a question of them adopting something - like gay couple and imposing it on others....even when a country like Saudi Arabia and Malaysia had been pro-gay before the West.

0neal:
The Western culture was adopted or got its origin from Apostle Paul's teachings.

Fact check me I dare you

And Apostle Paul was a strict Patriarch

Christians today don't even practice every jot and tittle of what Apostle Paul wrote by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit in his Epistles compiled in the New Testament.

descarado:
What do you mean by western culture?
Do you mean Anglo-Saxon culture?
West is broad and not homogeneous. We always tend to lump them together. The same way others tend to lump Africa together yet it's the continent with highest number of countries.

bukatyne:
I said know their worth in God and not minions of the Church/ their pastors.

budaatum:
To your "calm down", see below.



You don't need strong women. Weak men usually don't. And that's why I am simply not the woman for you.

Thankfully for you, there's lots of women out there for you to pick from. We after all live in a world where some women think they are a man's rib. I'm just not one of them.

Sunmolar:
Is man's life all about woman?... someone who's suppose to be a help meet.

iamtoofan:
Bro now you are trying to force a baseless POV, why make it all about "cheating" or what makes you feel my own daughter cant cheat on her hubby ... no be human.

Knowing her place could mean defending are position, it could very much mean let the man lead, respect him and embracing wifey role

even if you teach ur own daughter kung fu or kick boxing trust me it wont alienate the possibility of her man to cheat or despite tonto dikeh madness how did it pay off ... is that the daughter that makes ur head swell. Baba for the gurlz

I dont dictate e.g if my woman want to wear open belle and follow me out, i simply give her an option to take a cab and i go on my own. @least it sounded like an option

Leadership is all about taking responsibility, if i cheat am ready to take the responsibility but will my woman do that,
As a man you bring your leadership to play when it comes to protecting & fixing any mess in and outside, faithfulness & openness should be built on "Trust" not monitor

i dont do rules, instead "Fair play" is my watchword and i believe more r/ship will thrive better on "fairness as watchword"

its illogical for a female child to use her father as a model, its a mismatch oya say the same for a son nd see how you will sound

0neal:
The Western culture was adopted or got its origin from Apostle Paul's teachings.

Fact check me I dare you

And Apostle Paul was a strict Patriarch

Christians today don't even practice every jot and tittle of what Apostle Paul wrote by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit in his Epistles compiled in the New Testament.