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In my previous post, I talked about how you should never upgrade a woman to girlfriend or wife unless she gives you access to her phone without hesitation. The keyword is "without hesitation."

If she refuses, there’s something she’s hiding, and you’ll regret it later if you don't take your share and leave or keep her as just a friend with benefits.

Here’s the story of someone who’s facing this situation now:

1. My wife and I had a misunderstanding, but we settled it the following day. I don’t know what prompted me to go through her phone; I’m not the type to check a woman’s phone. I saw her chats with her ex-boyfriend. She told him everything that had happened between us.

My take: Do you see the first mistake? His ego. He feels checking a woman’s phone is a sign of weakness, insecurity, or lack of trust. No. Not checking is a sign of weakness. Learn to tell people, “I trust you,” but don’t truly trust them until the day they die. Then, and only then, can you say, “You never betrayed my trust, and I’ll forever cherish it till we meet again.”

2. She told him everything that happened and even said she regrets marrying me. Her ex said he’s happy she’s realized her mistake. She also told him I warned her against communicating with him. The ex asked her if I was mad, saying I had no right to stop her from communicating with him.

My take: Do you see the audacity of the ex? Why? Because this man is a nice man. Nobody respects a nice man for too long. A time will come when he’ll be insulted or taken for granted. This is why every man must have an atom of "Burna Bad Boy" in him.

3. He told her I had no right to stop her from communicating with him. He asked her to promise she would never stop loving him or even think of cutting off contact. She made a promise to him that she would love him forever, stating he was the only man she would ever love. Then, he asked her why she was still married to me.

Info: Why does she love the ex so much? Because he’s a bad boy with authority, unlike those SIMPs who pretend to be alphas and say, “I don’t have time to check her phone, I’m bigger than that,” but secretly, they really want to. They just don’t want to be seen as insecure, so they act like they don’t care.

4. When he asked her why she was still married to me, she said it was because we have three children, and she couldn’t just leave me without a serious issue. He advised her to accuse me of molesting our daughter. At first, she said no, but on a different date, he persuaded her again, and she finally agreed. He told her once she accused me of molesting our daughter, she should leave me and come to his house.

My take: Don’t give a woman too much quietness and peace of mind at home—it’s boring to them. They want some drama, or else they’ll miss their stubborn, adventurous exes, especially the ones who were dramatic, unpredictable, chaotic, romantic, and good in bed. This is exactly what’s happening in this man’s life.

5. He told her that after accusing me, she should leave me for his house and tell my people what I supposedly did. The first day I read her chats with her ex, I was deeply hurt, but I withheld myself from confronting her and pretended as if I hadn’t seen anything. She never knew I went through her phone because I hardly ever do.

My take: She didn’t know he checked her phone because he seldom does. Well, at least he does it once in a while, which is better than those SIMPs who never do it, even though deep down, they want to.

6. As I read the second chat, I waited for her to accuse me. I didn’t tell anyone. Finally, she accused me of molesting our only daughter. I had screenshots of her chats with her ex, but I didn’t show anyone.

My take: I’ve talked about this "molesting" tactic before as one of the tools women use, and the world tends to believe them. Now, it’s happening.

7. I didn’t show anyone the screenshots because I wanted her to leave. She’s a dead trap. No one believed her except her family members and some of her friends. Then, I showed everyone the screenshots. Now she’s been begging, but I’ve made it clear that the marriage is over. My mom wants me to take her back.

My take: This is why I always say a woman’s family background and her past matter, but some SIMPs disagree. Her family supported her. His mom wants him to take her back—women supporting women. This implies that his mom shares similar traits and might not even be loyal to his father. Never forgive a woman if conversations with her ex resurface during marriage or courtship. Whether she cheats or not, send her back to her ex and become her new ex—or at least her ex-with-benefits.

8. My mom wants me to take her back, but I don’t want to. I don’t have any urge to be with another woman, even though my friends advised me to bring one in. My mom is against it. She said that when she had issues with my father and left, another woman almost killed me. She doesn’t want any other woman in my house.

My take: Women always have an excuse or reason to support other women’s wrongdoings. As I said, discard any advice from a woman unless it’s against other women.

9. My mom insists she doesn’t want another woman in my house. She’s been preaching forgiveness for days now. I tried bringing a lady home, and my mom sent her away. She said I should "manage" my wife. That it’s better since she’s the mother of my kids. How do I stand a woman who framed me up? How do I sleep on the same bed with someone who accused me of molesting our only daughter?

My take: Don’t be a mommy’s boy if your mom is too religious or always preaches forgiveness for evil acts—especially when it benefits her gender. Burna Boy’s mom isn’t religious, so she’d give better advice. When Uju Stella tried to pin a pregnancy on Burna, his mom chased her away. That’s gangster. Your job is to protect your son, not project your own regrets from promiscuity or bad character onto him.

10. How do I sleep on the same bed with a woman who accused me of molesting our only daughter? I don’t want to be violent with her, but I’ve warned her several times to stay away from me. What should I do? We’ve been married for seven years. When I met her, she was already separated from the ex. Where did I go wrong?

Advanced Advice: When it comes to relationships or marriage, as a man, don’t listen to your mother unless what she’s saying is against women.

Here Is Where You Went Wrong:

1. First Mistake: You should have had access to her phone from the start, just as she should have access to yours. Any hesitation to give you access = red flag 1. With this knowledge, you should have known she was hiding something and never upgraded her to girlfriend, let alone wife—only a sex partner. If she gets pregnant and refuses to terminate, she ends up as a baby mama. Period.

2. Second Mistake: Being good and nice doesn’t work with women. Be bad to them—extremely bad—then mix it with some kindness, humor, great sex, and money. It’s never failed me. No woman has ever dumped me; I’m always the one who refuses to commit. I keep them as sex partners the moment I sense even one tiny red flag.

3. Third Mistake: Avoid women who’ve had dramatic, chaotic, steamy, abusive, fight-and-reconcile relationships with their exes—especially if you’re a nice guy. It gets worse when the ex gets in better shape, makes more money, and becomes more charming. You’ll never match that energy. Even if you have access to her phone, she’ll still meet him when she’s in his city. Most of your kids might not even be yours—they’ll be his.

Bonus: You're probably the cause.

Fear women. Never take a red flag for granted. If you see even one, never commit. Instead, use money and great sex to get her addicted to you while encouraging her to search for Mr. Right. Make her feel good, but never let her emotionally manipulate you into committing—otherwise, you’ll regret it.

Women don’t forgive, but they always expect to be forgiven. Wise men don’t love, and they don’t forgive either. They only like people for the vanity it brings or distance themselves for the sanity it gives:

Vanity—the sex you give me.
Sanity—the distance I give you.

SilentEmma:
See long story...

Robnectar:
U no read am

SilentEmma:
Read fire...

iLegendd:
You'll regret not reading it—if you're a man.

SilentEmma:
Abeg wetin dey inside the write up wey never happen before, and wey I never hear

SilentEmma:
Abeg wetin dey inside the write up wey never happen before, and wey I never hear

Robnectar:
E go still reach u, no learn now

iLegendd:
Even in this era of AI, some people are still lazy to read. If it looks too cumbersome, he could easily open his ChatGPT and give it a prompt that says: Read the text below out loud: paste your text and enter.

ChatGPT will refuse, then you click on the voice conversation button and speak into it by telling it to read the text in the chat.

It'll might refuse again, but persist and tell it to read it and it'll agree to give a summary, then tell it to give a detailed summary and it'll end up reading everything.

From there, you can start having a conversation with it from what it read or even ask for its opinion, solution and suggestions.

Some people are not really using this AI era to fast track their productivity. When Buhari called us lazy, I thought he was wrong.

SilentEmma:
Abeg wetin dey inside the write up wey never happen before, and wey I never hear

iLegendd:
Do you remember that your classmate in SS2, the dumbest one that struggles to pass exams?

If he takes you to his house, opens his hidden room and you see bundles and cartons of money everywhere and there is no space to enter the room. As someone who has seen money before, will you be shocked or not? Money wey long pass Buhari's height.

You'll surely be shocked, so that's exactly how the story is. I'm not saying you should read it, I'm only saying even something you know can happen in a way you never knew.

So, don't be among those youths Buhari called lazy. This character you have towards reading is going to translate into other aspects of your life.

If you start exercise now, two days later, you'll quit. If you start a business and after some months it doesn't generate you millions, you'll quit. I know your type.

I'm not attacking you o, I'm just being honest and trying to help you change. I'll be sad if you see it as an attack and not as a correction.

SilentEmma:
Okay I will read it...

iLegendd:
No, no, no. Please don't. I don't want you to go through any mental stress. I was only passing a message.

SilentEmma:
Lolz 😂😂😂 I don read am o ...

iLegendd:
My Wife and I Had a Misunderstanding and This Happened

Part 2 of "Treat Her as a Friends with Benefits Until She Does This" https://www.nairaland.com/8236941/treat-friend-benefit-until-she

iLegendd:
You should better go and unread it. It'll affect your mental health.

iLegendd:
Even in this era of AI, some people are still lazy to read. If it looks too cumbersome, he could easily open his ChatGPT and give it a prompt that says: Read the text below out loud: paste your text and enter.

ChatGPT will refuse, then you click on the voice conversation button and speak into it by telling it to read the text in the chat.

It'll might refuse again, but persist and tell it to read it and it'll agree to give a summary, then tell it to give a detailed summary and it'll end up reading everything.

From there, you can start having a conversation with it from what it read or even ask for its opinion, solution and suggestions.

Some people are not really using this AI era to fast track their productivity. When Buhari called us lazy, I thought he was wrong.

SuperOnyi:



This is why I told my mom that although she's my everything but there are certain times I will not do as she says because she's just too "Christlike," which is why everybody wants to step on her.

I don't blame the family of that woman for believing her, besides, they just did what any family would be for their own. God forbid but if I accuse someone wrongly, there's no way my family wouldn't have my back as they know me as someone that never lies. But come to think of it, that was a very serious allegation that could have gotten him locked up for a long time...

That woman is despicable and if I was her brother (God forbid ), she will totally lose my trust, SuperOnyi will personally persuade the husband not to get back with her.

His mother will end up ruining his life all in the name of "forgiveness."

SuperOnyi:




Sir, what do you think of using Chatgpt as an author to write a book faster?

iLegendd:
I haven't written any book with it, but if it's a topic you're good at, write it yourself and use ChatGPT for proofreading and some minor corrections.

SilentEmma:
Hahaha... But why women life be like this... Were they sent to kill a man before his time... I really feel for that guy sha...

As for me, I no dey ever trust any woman before, though I have learnt another lesson from the guys story...

Story and lessons no dey finish

SuperOnyi:



I prompt it, do some research on Google, and then write my own content looking at Chagpt's, but I'm just too slow; I want to use it to generate contents now just to meet up with my target, then just do some "human touching."

iLegendd:
That's the power bad boys have over women. Look at how he convinced her on his third attempt to lie against her husband, the father of her 3 kids, which I doubt he's the real father of all 3.

When I saw that news of a Canadian woman with drugs in Lagos airport, I just laughed and knew one bad boy from Nigeria that lives in Canada must be involved.

This is why men should make sure ex is out of the picture. Knowing that you had an ex is even a turnoff, but since it has become a culture, men had to let their egos down and settle with used products.

Women think we're happy? The tear rubbers our fathers and grandfathers enjoyed, we can't enjoy it anymore, yet they're laying false allegations and cheating on us. It's sad.

Yes, I do understand her family for standing with her at first because some evil men do such dastard acts, so I truly get it. But now that they know, they should better apologize and she should move in with the bad boy.

iLegendd:
You can give it a detailed prompt to generate the table of content and put them in chapters, then prompt it to write each chapter. You just need to watch some YouTube videos on prompt engineering or prompting for authors.

BigDickProblems:
Your catchy lines are captivating but they are stale now. You don’t need to post all the time bro.

BigDickProblems:
Your catchy lines are captivating but they are stale now. You don’t need to post all the time bro.

iLegendd:
I just created one right now. Let me see how you'll cry.

https://www.nairaland.com/8239571/see-type-woman-most-men#132430369