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ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

TheBreastSucker:
You need someone to suck your breasts?

Please let me see a pic of your breasts first before I decide to contact you

lonelygem:
You go cry!

When the time comes, u will no that she doesn't want but she needs you as father figure. You are being used for damage control. Imagine playing all the father role and you are seriously warned and u realized that her child is constantly the source of problems between u both.

Nomatter how kind you are, it's their World against yours. She would never put your ahead of her child. You can't freely scold a child you she expect you to nurture like your own child.

Consciously or unconsciously, she thinks about the father of their child because the love she has for her child is constantly a reference of affection.

Whenever she think or remember any bad treatment measured on her by her baby father, she assume men are bitches and you being the closest will receive all the premeditated evil on account of 'I go treat their fvck up'.

You will end up being manipulated, used and dump. If u know you don't have a mouth wide enough to shout 'God! Why me' just Waka pass..

Nomatter how sweet she appears to you now, it can never be the same. She was hurt by someone but she will eventually bleed on you and transfer her aggressions on u being the next man standing next to her. Their general assumption is 'men are evil'.

My humble opinion if u don't mind.

Mutant001:
pansophist is not that brilliant..
He mixes quater truth with the flawed perspective of it all one dimensionally and not considering the other party drawing conclusion from false analogy and then boom making it a true fact...and when in reality all what he says are quarter truth baked up with flawed assumptions.
You claim to open a thread about advice but here you are throwing tantrums..is this what you do for a living looking for a companion,, seeking for advice in a faceless forum while drooling and obsessing over gay threads and other diversity etc is that what you call fulfilment ..you must be a joker...if you truly want to be Happy and fulfilled in this life..try to be tolerant about people's sexual orientation, culture, ethnicity, religion,,, infact all diversity that is different from yours and work on how to better your life and that of your loved ones... If not just receive whatever calamity nature throws at you wholeheartedly!!

CandyOps:
No rules bro...

Na the future go determine if our choices today make sense or not. A good woman is a good woman irrespective of her mistakes.

I have dated 1 single mom and was Fwb with another... 1 was a bitch the other was cool headed lover at heart.. but just got preggy at 19.

It depends on what you want. Most times guys that do that either settle for training the stepson or send him to village to grow with granny. But it depends on what you want.

I didn't settle with mine though... so I cut the relationship off at 3 to 4 months because the likeness was getting too much.

She was mature. Na societal pressure they make most guys run from single moms dem no be say the babe no tick all your boxes.. ngl it's a huge baggage

Baronthecelebri:
Don't marry her, since she has a son, because that son will go back to his land. Nigeria men loves their father property, but if it's a girl child you can accept her, and monitor her till she reach 19 or 20, then you can Bleep her, to fulfill the scripture that says the husband man that labor must be the first partaker.

GOFRONT:
Watch as Someone would come here to say "Football match nor dey start with 1:0 down"


Single mothers don suffer in this life

Between a single mother and a HIV carrier, I dont know who suffer stigmatization Pass sef.

Figger:
What about divorced single mothers, I guess their own case is worst. I'm dealing with one currently but I don't see the possibility of ending with each other.

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

NiceBreezeHuh:
People get married every Saturday including single mothers. If you wish to go ahead fine, if not, fine as well. Another man will go for her as long as she's employed and beautiful with good character. The choice is yours.

ICTspecialist:
Umbrateeth04 Dynoz01 how many accounts do you have on this forum

Rizzputin:
Most single mothers are sweet, caring and supportive when they like you.

In fact, they can be so caring and well mannered you'd want to marry then asap.

But... it's a trap. They're merely pretending. Once they get what they want from you (marriage), her bad side will start showing.

Take note, I didn't say "true colour" Because someone's true color isn't just their bad side. It's a combination of good and bad. So, once she gets married to you, the bad side of her true color will show. And some times, it may not be a bad side you might want to deal with or handle.


The second reason why you should never marry a single mother is because she has a hidden resent for men. Her story is typical amongst single mothers. Their exes are always "deceiving" them.

But regardless of how sad their ex story is, she CHOSE to date him. CHOSE to sleep with him unprotected. So even though her ex will get a majority of the blame. She gets the blame too. No matter how bad she paints her ex, it's the same man she opened her legs for and had a baby with.... and it's the same man that's now the father of her child...

Which brings me to the third and biggest reason....

No matter what you do or sacrifice, no matter your love for each other.... that child will always be above you in her heart & mind. The child's needs and wants will be placed above yours.

Which means a strong connection and attraction will always be to her ex. Her ex can use the child to get to her heart and between her legs again and again.

Worst of all, the ex can make life a hell for you if he wants the child to come and stay with him. If the woman doesn't agree, you'll find yourself entering into a war you shouldn't be in.


On that note, the best thing is to repay her in whatever capacity she has supported you and bid her fare well.

The only time I MIGHT consider a guy marrying a single mother is if the father of the child is dead.

If not, it's a bad idea

Dynoz01:
schizophrenic mongrel...are you still fantasizing about me...while fantasizing...you can as well call my moniker...so I can trap your wretched soul and teleport it to the great beyond...then you will be dead, done and dusted!!

ICTspecialist:
I want to use my big thick and curved dick to reformat your brain and make you change your sexual orientation after heavily pounding your pussy hard for hours

Rizzputin:
Most single mothers are sweet, caring and supportive when they like you.

In fact, they can be so caring and well mannered you'd want to marry then asap.

But... it's a trap. They're merely pretending. Once they get what they want from you (marriage), her bad side will start showing.

Take note, I didn't say "true colour" Because someone's true color isn't just their bad side. It's a combination of good and bad. So, once she gets married to you, the bad side of her true color will show. And some times, it may not be a bad side you might want to deal with or handle.


The second reason why you should never marry a single mother is because she has a hidden resent for men. Her story is typical amongst single mothers. Their exes are always "deceiving" them.

But regardless of how sad their ex story is, she CHOSE to date him. CHOSE to sleep with him unprotected. So even though her ex will get a majority of the blame. She gets the blame too. No matter how bad she paints her ex, it's the same man she opened her legs for and had a baby with.... and it's the same man that's now the father of her child...

Which brings me to the third and biggest reason....

No matter what you do or sacrifice, no matter your love for each other.... that child will always be above you in her heart & mind. The child's needs and wants will be placed above yours.

Which means a strong connection and attraction will always be to her ex. Her ex can use the child to get to her heart and between her legs again and again.

Worst of all, the ex can make life a hell for you if he wants the child to come and stay with him. If the woman doesn't agree, you'll find yourself entering into a war you shouldn't be in.


On that note, the best thing is to repay her in whatever capacity she has supported you and bid her fare well.

The only time I MIGHT consider a guy marrying a single mother is if the father of the child is dead.

If not, it's a bad idea

Dynoz01:
schizophrenic mongrel...are you still fantasizing about me...while fantasizing...you can as well call my moniker...so I can trap your wretched soul and teleport it to the great beyond...then you will be dead, done and dusted!!

ICTspecialist:
men bro this is deep, harsh as it sounds but that's bigger truth.. even if you're married to a fresh lady the moment she gives birth her love, attractions, care and focus shifts from you to her child.
We all know women use love, care and all forms of deceptive guise to manipulate men into marriage and once this has been achieved she now prioritizes her child..
So I may not be surprised her first child from a previous relationship would be prioritized.
Omo sha women plenty ooo so I guess I'll have to start looking elsewhere.
Moreover till now I've kept it a secret from my parents and friends cos shame dey catch me

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

We4all:
Can you see your life? You keep trolling Ahnie, but your life has comma, semi-colon and colon. No full stop at all.

ICTspecialist:
çomma ke?
Isn't ahnie a single mother as well?
Me I'm fresh and a virgin oo I no be baby daddy unlike you a roadside akara seller with 3 bastards from 3 different men

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm in my early 30's and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.

Onegai:
How good is your relationship?

Have you guys worked on your flaws, communication skills (very important), pride, anger, trust, forgiveness and compatibility?

If yes, go and marry her.

Love her son like yours.

In my extended family, several men have married single mothers and some have had their ex-wives remarry other men.

Okafor's Law is a myth made up by Nigerians. Because Nigerian women, once they're over you, you better be ready to SPEND before they give you eye again. So if her ex is already cohabiting with another woman, rest assured she dislikes him enough not to want to even kiss him. Even if he comes back to beg, he has to come back with oodles of money to tempt her.

All my single mother friends, when their exes tried to return, ran so far away it was crazy. One even hired fake fiance to chase her ex away. Once a woman is over you, the way her eye will be clear in seeing you, mehnnnn no going back.

If you are worried about what people will say, maybe you shouldn't marry her. Because bros, you should be able to look anyone confidently in the eye and say "and so? E consign u??".

If you're not strong enough to do so, don't marry her. If you are, go on soun.

Gromilla010:
I love that

Why are homophobes so scared of homosexuals?

Onegai:
Okafor's Law actually works more for the men than women.
A lot of Single Dads would happily show up and sleep with their exes. .