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ObalendeCMS:
Wahala for who dey "marry" Nigerian woe men!

Rubbish!

VeryWickedBro:
OP all these happened because they know you are weak by giving birth to girls in the first place.

Rubbish!

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders fam.
Majority of people here have idea about my story and if you don't, you can go through my previous post to get a glimpse.

This month made it one year and seven months have been Separated and living apart from my ex wife due to infidelity and cheating from my ex wife part. Since then, my two daughter aged 8 and 7 had been living with her and I do take responsibility of them until this January 2024 when my wife took my kids to her father and step mom place because there was this course she was order to go for 6months officially outside lagos state. I was so angry because she never seek my permission or approval before taking them there and because of this, I stop sending money or paying their fees till now. I saw it as a act of disrespect if I the father can't be informed of where my kids are been taking to for a long period of time. She already took them there before informing me.

She was supposed to finish her course outside the state by June and since then, she never called me to inform me she is back until yesterday when I put a call to her and she told me she got back since June. I asked about the kids and to my shock, she told me the kids are still there with her father and step mom. How can you leave the kids at your parents place while the father and mother are available, I got so upset and the discussion resulted to insult and curse on phone. She told me she had a serious issue at work and she couldn't combine the kids stress to what she is going through presently. To be honest, I was even thinking to reconcile with her cos of the kids despite she cheated but the way she behave and talks on phone shows she is not remorse or even care if the family is back together or ready for any reconciliation despite the fact she was at fault. Now my kids are my focus but I don't know how to go about this.

The information I got from her dad was that he will not release the kids to either me or her on less the money he had spent on them is refunded back to him. This is already looking like a kidnap and abduction case which I told her that if she doesn't pick those kids before weekend, I will file a case of child kidnap and abduction against her and her father. Pls I need advice on how to go about this and those that have first class experience with such should assist with advice. Thank you all

May I know why you are unable to divorce and file for FULL custody of your kids? She is not available so she is keeping the kids with her parents but you are available.

goran3310:
Excellent. Pay her father money and take the children with you. Very simple. And the most effective. If you care about the children, take them with you. Give her father the money he invested in your children. The woman will ask you to give her children. Don't refuse. The court ruled that the children should be with her. Talk to her. Tell her that the children can be with you because she has responsibilities. I hope she is normal enough and won't ask you for money to support the children while the children are with you.

You are right. He should take the children.

Shokoloko:
May I know why you are unable to divorce and file for FULL custody of your kids? She is not available so she is keeping the kids with her parents but you are available.

No family court in Nigeria will award him full custody, he's a single man, the children are young female children and he has admitted to not taking care of his responsibilities for no reason other than pettiness and pride.
All his wife needs to do is move back in with her parents and speak to a lawyer. They've already done 2 years of separation and she can file in Magistrate's court.

No lawyer will lie to him, because they know he'll be ordered to pay upkeep, rent and schoolfees to the parent with primary custody. That's the Law in Nigeria and people get judgements for it every day and take that document to passport offices, banks and more.

The reason Nigerians do anyhow is because they don't settle matters in court or follow the rule of law, but choose to settle their matters by their own hands.

Let everyone go to Ikeja High Court or Igbosere, their eye will clear. Or let FIDA take up this case and write to his employer and tell them what he's done.

If devil wants to use OP, let him go and kidnap those children, he'll sleep in police station. Even mothers get arrested for doing that.

He needs to calm down and drop his pride and anger.

Onegai:
No family court in Nigeria will award him full custody, he's a single man, the children are young female children and he has admitted to not taking care of his responsibilities for no reason other than pettiness and pride.
All his wife needs to do is move back in with her parents and speak to a lawyer. They've already done 2 years of separation and she can file in Magistrate's court.

No lawyer will lie to him, because they know he'll be ordered to pay upkeep, rent and schoolfees to the parent with primary custody. That's the Law in Nigeria and people get judgements for it every day and take that document to passport offices, banks and more.

The reason Nigerians do anyhow is because they don't settle matters in court or follow the rule of law, but choose to settle their matters by their own hands.

Let everyone go to Ikeja High Court or Igbosere, their eye will clear. Or let FIDA take up this case and write to his employer and tell them what he's done.

If devil wants to use OP, let him go and kidnap those children, he'll sleep in police station. Even mothers get arrested for doing that.

He needs to calm down and drop his pride and anger.

You are right. The actual reason that I asked OP that question is because OP does not really want his children. From Op's previous posts, his new relationship is not working out well so he wants to get back to his ex and she refuses. So OP wants to ensure that she is so occupied with the kids 24/7 that she does have the time to find a new partner.
I knew that OP would not answer me because it is not about his children; it is about keeping his ex at home.

Shokoloko:
You are right. The actual reason that I asked OP that question is because OP does not really want his children. From Op's previous posts, his new relationship is not working out well so he wants to get back to his ex and she refuses. So OP wants to ensure that she is so occupied with the kids 24/7 that she does have the time to find a new partner.
I knew that OP would not answer me because it is not about his children; it is about keeping his ex at home.

They never want their children, it's all to control their ex-wives.

He has found out the grass isn't greener outside but is too prideful to go beg but also is worried that the wife has moved on and he's about to be replaced.

This sort of behaviour is far too common and foolish.

Really, the bible was correct: the spirits of Anger and Pride are demonic spirits. They destroy so much.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders fam.
Majority of people here have idea about my story and if you don't, you can go through my previous post to get a glimpse.

This month made it one year and seven months have been Separated and living apart from my ex wife due to infidelity and cheating from my ex wife part. Since then, my two daughter aged 8 and 7 had been living with her and I do take responsibility of them until this January 2024 when my wife took my kids to her father and step mom place because there was this course she was order to go for 6months officially outside lagos state. I was so angry because she never seek my permission or approval before taking them there and because of this, I stop sending money or paying their fees till now. I saw it as a act of disrespect if I the father can't be informed of where my kids are been taking to for a long period of time. She already took them there before informing me.

She was supposed to finish her course outside the state by June and since then, she never called me to inform me she is back until yesterday when I put a call to her and she told me she got back since June. I asked about the kids and to my shock, she told me the kids are still there with her father and step mom. How can you leave the kids at your parents place while the father and mother are available, I got so upset and the discussion resulted to insult and curse on phone. She told me she had a serious issue at work and she couldn't combine the kids stress to what she is going through presently. To be honest, I was even thinking to reconcile with her cos of the kids despite she cheated but the way she behave and talks on phone shows she is not remorse or even care if the family is back together or ready for any reconciliation despite the fact she was at fault. Now my kids are my focus but I don't know how to go about this.

The information I got from her dad was that he will not release the kids to either me or her on less the money he had spent on them is refunded back to him. This is already looking like a kidnap and abduction case which I told her that if she doesn't pick those kids before weekend, I will file a case of child kidnap and abduction against her and her father. Pls I need advice on how to go about this and those that have first class experience with such should assist with advice. Thank you all

1. If you ex wife disrespect you is no reason has your children to be at the receiving end.
2. Call your father in-law, and restitute the money he has spent on your children and add a tip for him to buy hot drink or wine.
3. Forget about that marriage and plan life for your kids. Trust me, if you remarry for your own sexual needs. You children will grow up with serious maltreatment. No woman can treat another person child like hers.

Shokoloko:
You are right. The actual reason that I asked OP that question is because OP does not really want his children. From Op's previous posts, his new relationship is not working out well so he wants to get back to his ex and she refuses. So OP wants to ensure that she is so occupied with the kids 24/7 that she does have the time to find a new partner.
I knew that OP would not answer me because it is not about his children; it is about keeping his ex at home.

Is Like you read my mind Dear, the purpose of everything the OP is doing is him trying to control the wife, if you look at this same post that went to front page but was from the family section, he was insulting single mothers, I am sure he is of the mindset that no man will want a lady with 2 children but since the mother took the children to her parents house, she has more freedom now and can probably starts dating and that is not what the OP wants lol

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders fam.
Majority of people here have idea about my story and if you don't, you can go through my previous post to get a glimpse.

This month made it one year and seven months have been Separated and living apart from my ex wife due to infidelity and cheating from my ex wife part. Since then, my two daughter aged 8 and 7 had been living with her and I do take responsibility of them until this January 2024 when my wife took my kids to her father and step mom place because there was this course she was order to go for 6months officially outside lagos state. I was so angry because she never seek my permission or approval before taking them there and because of this, I stop sending money or paying their fees till now. I saw it as a act of disrespect if I the father can't be informed of where my kids are been taking to for a long period of time. She already took them there before informing me.

She was supposed to finish her course outside the state by June and since then, she never called me to inform me she is back until yesterday when I put a call to her and she told me she got back since June. I asked about the kids and to my shock, she told me the kids are still there with her father and step mom. How can you leave the kids at your parents place while the father and mother are available, I got so upset and the discussion resulted to insult and curse on phone. She told me she had a serious issue at work and she couldn't combine the kids stress to what she is going through presently. To be honest, I was even thinking to reconcile with her cos of the kids despite she cheated but the way she behave and talks on phone shows she is not remorse or even care if the family is back together or ready for any reconciliation despite the fact she was at fault. Now my kids are my focus but I don't know how to go about this.

The information I got from her dad was that he will not release the kids to either me or her on less the money he had spent on them is refunded back to him. This is already looking like a kidnap and abduction case which I told her that if she doesn't pick those kids before weekend, I will file a case of child kidnap and abduction against her and her father. Pls I need advice on how to go about this and those that have first class experience with such should assist with advice. Thank you all

Just refund the school fees your father in law has been spending on your children and end this matter

Truth be told you also have your faults in this matter