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I have these two girls at hand, I have dated one before, so she's like an ex but we still chat often and even trying to come back again, though what led to the breakup wasn't anything serious, so we are cool.
This girl is in her early 20s, not really ready for committed relationship or courtship as she's more concerned about her fashion career which is a good and valid point or reason. She's done with service recently and I think she's not ready to return home soon probably because she's more comfortable where she served..

I met the second girl in NYSC camp in 2022, she's mature, quiet, also a fashion designer and a Christian but we never had anything together like relationship, though we met again after camp, she lives 3 bykes away from my side.. She is ready for something serious, owns her own fashion shop and doing not bad for herself..

Although, I actually like the first girl cz she's pretty and smart. I am thinking of planning myself right now, they both believe in starting up with a guy and they both would add value but the second girl is ready, and also has something doing already while the first is yet to settle herself.

Please advice me, who do you think I should go for?

Free both of them abeg bros.

You're seeking validation and advice on-line.

You advise urself. If U truly love urself as a man U know which road to follow but I guess Ur still moved by breasts and yansh. If ur not ready yet better leave the girl that's ready for men who are and go and face Ur plaything

Give both of them some test to see which will pass it. You can deliberately do annoying thing to see their reactions

Then you can decide

Go with the second one.....I know you like the first one wey no dey ready

Only Genotype can decide for u..........Run a genotype test on both girls. Whoever that has the genotype thats not compartible with you should take the Exit door whether she is Ready to settle down or Not......sharp sharp

U wey want the first girl cox she is more pretty,am sure if u should woo the second girl ND u start planning marriage nd the first girl comes around u will dumb the second one

dkidd:
You advise urself. If U truly love urself as a man U know which road to follow but I guess Ur still moved by breasts and yansh. If ur not ready yet better leave the girl that's ready for men who are and go and face Ur plaything

Sir, just advice me like your younger brother.. I'll greatly appreciate

dboY1123:
I have these two girls at hand, I have dated one before, so she's like an ex but we still chat often and even trying to come back again, though what led to the breakup wasn't anything serious, so we are cool.
This girl is in her early 20s, not really ready for committed relationship or courtship as she's more concerned about her fashion career which is a good and valid point or reason. She's done with service recently and I think she's not ready to return home soon probably because she's more comfortable where she served..

I met the second girl in NYSC camp in 2022, she's mature, quiet, also a fashion designer and a Christian but we never had anything together like relationship, though we met again after camp, she lives 3 bykes away from my side.. She is ready for something serious, owns her own fashion shop and doing not bad for herself..

Although, I actually like the first girl cz she's pretty and smart. I am thinking of planning myself right now, they both believe in starting up with a guy and they both would add value but the second girl is ready, and also has something doing already while the first is yet to settle herself.

Please advice me, who do you think I should go for?

Do all these analysis in your head and man up...before marrying my wife
Had 4 girls to choose from the first now in the US, the 2nd in UK, the 3rd about to go to Canada and the 4th became my wife. The first knows my wife they av met but dey don't speak to each other. And there is a high chance we get to meet again. But I am happy with my wife cos we can live any kind of life we want to.

dboY1123:
I have these two girls at hand, I have dated one before, so she's like an ex but we still chat often and even trying to come back again, though what led to the breakup wasn't anything serious, so we are cool.
This girl is in her early 20s, not really ready for committed relationship or courtship as she's more concerned about her fashion career which is a good and valid point or reason. She's done with service recently and I think she's not ready to return home soon probably because she's more comfortable where she served..

I met the second girl in NYSC camp in 2022, she's mature, quiet, also a fashion designer and a Christian but we never had anything together like relationship, though we met again after camp, she lives 3 bykes away from my side.. She is ready for something serious, owns her own fashion shop and doing not bad for herself..

Although, I actually like the first girl cz she's pretty and smart. I am thinking of planning myself right now, they both believe in starting up with a guy and they both would add value but the second girl is ready, and also has something doing already while the first is yet to settle herself.

Please advice me, who do you think I should go for?

you are a confused human

What's the point of taking 1 when you can actually take 2

As a man I be

Let me tell you the truth

You no get shame

Very shameless

You don tell us what the two girls have and can bring to the table.
.

You yourself what are you doing to empower yourself

duduade:
As a man I be

Let me tell you the truth

You no get shame

Very shameless

You don tell us what the two girls have and can bring to the table.
.

You yourself what are you doing to empower yourself

I work (teaching), graphic designer and videographer

dboY1123:
Sir, just advice me like your younger brother.. I'll greatly appreciate

Choose the one that is kind/empathy driven.

Chose the one that's respectful, not just to u but others.

One of my friend said choose a girl that occasionally buys something for you on her way to your place.........even if na just small biscuit wey u like..its a sign that a lady is thoughtful and not about herself alone in a relationship...

Choose a lady that ask after your folks from time to time......e get why...

U said u like one because she's smart:..if we ask I what u mean by smart now...u na superficial cráp u go talk........No let ur male carnal mind confuse love for lust after fine face, brezz & yansh, love........superficial attributes means nothing in the long run....

Ask a lady about long term goals, where she wants to be in the next 5 to 10 years....make una nor dey date all these empty heads who just think they are doing u are favour by datin you, yet you are the one sponsoring their existence..

some women's ultimate aim is to find a man and not worry about bills again....Well maybe u become a billionaire tomorrow,but that doesnt mean u should marry a woman that's not ambitious, with zero purpose but to collect money from her husband and open shop, and still be collecting more money every month to restock the shop..

See..to marry good girl nor hard....na brezz, fine face, and olosho vibes dey confuse most men...

At the end of day... fly will follow shít, bees will follow nectar ....I'm sure u get that this is not about insects....

advanceDNA:
Choose the one that is kind/empathy driven.

Chose the one that's respectful, not just to u but others.

One of my friend said choose a girl that occasionally buys something for you on her way to your place.........even if na just small biscuit wey u like..its a sign that a lady is thoughtful and not about herself alone in a relationship...

Choose a lady that ask after your folks from time to time......e get why...

U said u like one because she's smart:..if we ask I what u mean by smart now...u na superficial cráp u go talk........No let ur male carnal mind confuse love for lust after fine face, brezz & yansh, love........superficial attributes means nothing in the long run....

Ask a lady about long term goals, where she wants to be in the next 5 to 10 years....make una nor dey date all these empty heads who just think they are doing u are favour by datin you, yet you are the one sponsoring their existence..

some women's ultimate aim is to find a man and not worry about bills again....Well maybe u become a billionaire tomorrow,but that doesnt mean u should marry a woman that's not ambitious, with zero purpose but to collect money from her husband and open shop, and still be collecting more money every month to restock the shop..

See..to marry good girl nor hard....na brezz, fine face, and olosho vibes dey confuse most men...

At the end of day... fly will follow shít, bees will follow nectar ....I'm sure u get that this is not about insects....

Thank you sir, well the first girl is not even endowed at all... Not bress or ass , she's decent, she doesn't bill me at all.. the only difference is that the second girl doesn't mind getting married or being in a committed relationship and she has a work already,

they are both fashion designer while the first thinks she needs to figure life out first before going into a committed relationship that leads to marriage and she's kinda younger than the first girl, also..about 24..

About love, I have been to a date with the second girl, not really anything serious...
I've not touched the first girl either,cz I know she's very decent also.

My plan is to start planning for future, they are both respectful, kind..

Sexual compatibility is very important for marriage brother. don't listen to all these men talking about superficial stuffs, if you are not sexually attracted to a woman, you would suffer her and yourself in marriage. Find a respectful woman, groom her to your taste and importantly make sure you two are sexually compatible.

What exactly do you hope to gain from marriage as a man? I'm confused at all the responses you've been getting.

Go for who is ready for business

@Op, do you need a Mary Kay makeup to make up your mind ?
You told us about the girls but you failed to tell us about your self, your age, your financial status & what you do presently.
Guy, are you emotionally, financially, spiritually & mentally to go into the journey of marriage?
Ask yourself.

Magnoliaa:
What exactly do you hope to gain from marriage as a man? I'm confused at all the responses you've been getting.

What do women gain?

dboY1123:
I have these two girls at hand, I have dated one before, so she's like an ex but we still chat often and even trying to come back again, though what led to the breakup wasn't anything serious, so we are cool.
This girl is in her early 20s, not really ready for committed relationship or courtship as she's more concerned about her fashion career which is a good and valid point or reason. She's done with service recently and I think she's not ready to return home soon probably because she's more comfortable where she served..

I met the second girl in NYSC camp in 2022, she's mature, quiet, also a fashion designer and a Christian but we never had anything together like relationship, though we met again after camp, she lives 3 bykes away from my side.. She is ready for something serious, owns her own fashion shop and doing not bad for herself..

Although, I actually like the first girl cz she's pretty and smart. I am thinking of planning myself right now, they both believe in starting up with a guy and they both would add value but the second girl is ready, and also has something doing already while the first is yet to settle herself.

Please advice me, who do you think I should go for?

The unready one is a liability. The ready one makes your life easier. In this ages of high inflation best action is the one that makes most sense

dboY1123:
I have these two girls at hand, I have dated one before, so she's like an ex but we still chat often and even trying to come back again, though what led to the breakup wasn't anything serious, so we are cool.
This girl is in her early 20s, not really ready for committed relationship or courtship as she's more concerned about her fashion career which is a good and valid point or reason. She's done with service recently and I think she's not ready to return home soon probably because she's more comfortable where she served..

I met the second girl in NYSC camp in 2022, she's mature, quiet, also a fashion designer and a Christian but we never had anything together like relationship, though we met again after camp, she lives 3 bykes away from my side.. She is ready for something serious, owns her own fashion shop and doing not bad for herself..

Although, I actually like the first girl cz she's pretty and smart. I am thinking of planning myself right now, they both believe in starting up with a guy and they both would add value but the second girl is ready, and also has something doing already while the first is yet to settle herself.

Please advice me, who do you think I should go for?

It's wisdom to go for the one that is ready. However, you guys need to sit down and ask relevant and salient questions about the future. The kind of family you want, discuss your likes, dislikes, in laws, children, spiritual life, health life, etc. you get the drift?
Remember it's a life time commitment. Not a time to allow emotions to toss you both up and down. Congratulations.

dboY1123:
Although, I actually like the first girl cz she's pretty and smart. I am thinking of planning myself right now, they both believe in starting up with a guy and they both would add value but the second girl is ready, and also has something doing already while the first is yet to settle herself.
Please advice me, who do you think I should go for?

You are not mature enough for a relationship — not the Nigerian nonsense you all call dating and marriage— and you will certainly not be happy with any of these women if you continue this way.

guysis:
■ It's wisdom to go for the one that is ready. However, you guys need to sit down and ask relevant and salient questions about the future. The kind of family you want, discuss your likes, dislikes, in laws, children, spiritual life, health life, etc. you get the drift?
Remember it's a life time commitment. Not a time to allow emotions to toss you both up and down. Congratulations.

That isn't wisdom but simply preference to go with that which is most known. The boy is himself not ready hence the reason why he still has many choices. That is foolishness waving at him but he does not or maybe cannot see it because he is not himself ready for the sort of commitment that marriage requires.

Ask him this. If it had been one of the gals he was seeing trying to make up her mind on whether to go with him or with another guy, would he choose that gal?

You want a lady that will start up life with you. Tomorrow you will hear. " I was with him when he was seeping on a mat.

I Feed him day and night
I made his preek longer .

duduade:
As a man I be

Let me tell you the truth

You no get shame

Very shameless

You don tell us what the two girls have and can bring to the table.
.

You yourself what are you doing to empower yourself

U get sense so? Mum also grow old sincerely.

What is wrong dissecting between the two ladies? You think a man who is doing this doesn't have money? Both ladies are just starting their lives and nothing to give to that dude if you are thinking the guy wants to reap them off, The way some of you talk is appalling.

dboY1123:
I work (teaching), graphic designer and videographer

Leave that dude, having standards as a man means the man is shameless to him, pathetic

What will we gain from answering?

THEY BOTH COULD SUK MY DICK

Hide ur face

fadal:
THEY BOTH COULD SUK MY DICK

Toh, just go for both.

Are you ready as a man, financially and otherwise?
I hope you are not hoping that those girls will bring their money and start supporting the marriage once you marry them.
Na my update I don share so oo