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A Nigerian lady has broken the internet after sharing a heartbreaking ordeal, listing 19 devastating things her ex-boyfriend, Yinka from Abeokuta, did to her during their relationship.

In a post on her social media page via social media, she recounted intimate details of her past relationship.

The lady how Yinka repeatedly displayed red flags, made her feel undervalued, and left her emotionally shattered despite her efforts to be a supportive partner.

She wrote:

“I’m healed now. Send me another YINKA from Abeokuta who was born, raised, and now lives in Lagos.”

– “The kind who takes hours to reply to my texts with just ‘how far,’ yet chats with his ex and other women non-stop.”

– “The one whose phone isn’t on DND but ignores my calls without checking why I’m reaching out.”

– “The one who can talk for two hours straight only when he wants me to come over, then goes silent until he needs me again.”

– “The one who begs his ex to talk to him, even when she’s cursing and rejecting him.”

– “The one who excuses his chats with his married ex by calling it ‘Okafor’s Law,’ even though she has kids.”

– “The one who spends time with random women, including his employees.”

– “The one who lets me rest my head on his chest but texts his ex saying he’s lonely.”

– “The one whose family and friends know me, but he insists we’re just friends even after we started dating.”

– “The one who loves showing me off but has never bought me a single outfit.”

– “The one who hasn’t given me a simple gift in five years.”


– “The one who can cover his friends’ bills but has only ever given me a few thousand.”

– “The one who complains about any gift I buy him.”

– “The one who gets upset because I have male friends.”

– “The one glued to his phone, watching Instagram reels and TikTok lives, and even sending gifts to streamers, but forgets to say hi until he wants intimacy.”

– “The one who has never said ‘I love you’ and, when I say it, just smiles and tells me to ‘calm down.’

– “The one who was attentive as a friend but turned cold once we started dating.”

– “The one who asked me to ‘try harder’ to make him love me.”

– “The one who, when I finally sent a breakup message, replied with just ‘lol.’”

– “The one who constantly reminded me we come from different worlds, hoping I’d tire and leave on my own.”

“I’ll stop here, for now. But, if life has another Yinka in store, let’s see.”

Her heartfelt post quickly went viral, capturing widespread attention as she laid bare the painful journey she endured with Yinka.

Lol....

Egoism in one package... God knows what the Op was doing in there for up to an hour

lol….you're probably his sidechick

Lmao

These red flags alone should be able to make you realize that you were indeed a very matured and certified side chick.....

BTW, Nigerian bannies have done worst to us,the men.... just that , black men hardly come on social media to explain their feelings...

So, therefore make she get out

The girl was the one forcing the relationship, it was very obvious that the guy never loved the girl and he didn't even hide it. But the girl kept on pushing for five years, hoping the guy will fall in love with her despite all the signs otherwise. Don't blame the guy.

Nigerian men have being through worse in the hands of Nigerian daughters of Eve...
Very deadly beings

Glad when i read about a guy dishing what ladies do on a regular
Lol
She fell hard for him
He knew it.
Wrecked her self esteem
It's a dog eat dog world now

And yet you stayed for 5 years, because...? ...

If this guy is as bad as she's painting him, why did she stay with him for 5 years? ...

It's one of three things, it's either she couldn't do better before now and thus stayed till she finally could...

Or she has very low self esteem, so much so she could put up with this for this long...

Or she's blatantly over exaggerating his flaws to get cheap attention and pity ...

Either ways, this kind of woman isn't worth being with ...

Friend-zoned a good guy or good guys, shunned and possibly disrespected those who loved her, and stayed with a man who loves another woman for five years; yet she still thinks she’s the only victim.

Aunty, menton one thing you are doing wrong too .

I thought this is the type of guy who is not boring to them, abeg make she rest.

Any woman who has been in a failed relationship is a damaged woman.
Any woman not contributing financially to your life does not value you.
Understand life

Eh ya, she was not loved in the first place.

The treatment when you are tired with your side chick

What gift has she bought for the guy in five years of the relationship? Parasite!

The above described exactly what women want in a man and what will continue making women chase men.

Women prefer men who doesn't want them. This instantly makes the man a high value man and she'll chase him. As a man. Never rush to respond to a woman's call or Whatsapp messages. Delay for hours before responding to her messages or calls! The reason she doesn't take you serious is because you're always available. Women don't like men who are always available!

The guy above understand this and hence he uses it very well. Attention is the most powerful tool you have as a man over a woman, use it very well.

Exceed15:
Aunty, menton one thing you are doing wrong too .

They never do anything wrong.... Once woman spread legs give you........then she feels she has done everything right...

Exceed15:
Aunty, menton one thing you are doing wrong too .

No mind her. They will always want to push the blame,so that the society will pity them,like they always do. You no go get dark character or say you no dey hear word,then you want a man to wife you na.

oz4real83:
The girl was the one forcing the relationship, it was very obvious that the guy never loved the girl and he didn't even hide it. But the girl kept on pushing for five years, hoping the guy will fall in love with her despite all the signs otherwise. Don't blame the guy.

When you hear na better man I dey find, it doesn't real mean the man has a good personality but that the man has money to throw around and then they usually don't care about his attitude towards them how then can you explain all of these if it's not this scenario? They do all their best when they see a man with little money to be in his good books even when he knows they aren't in his that's life for you.

Fahvvy:
And yet you stayed for 5 years, because...? ...

If this guy is as bad as she's painting him, why did she stay with him for 5 years? ...

It's one of three things, it's either she couldn't do better before now and thus stayed till she finally could...

Or she has very low self esteem, so much so she could put up with this for this long...

Or she's blatantly over exaggerating his flaws to get cheap attention and pity ...

Either ways, this kind of woman isn't worth being with ...

Or lastly she saw him as a cash cow and tried all her possible bet to keep him for ever.

She even tried sef.

Some of them go as far as having a child for such terrible men.

I have zero pity for you.

All these might actually be half-truth, yinka might not actually be as bad as she is painting him tho.Women can play victim even though they are actually our worst nightmare.What kept her in such a relationship for that long.

For 5 years u stayed with him and u saw all the red flags . Na wa oo. There is nothing wrong with the man, u as the woman is the problem

Yet you stayed for five years, the story no complete...


I sell herbs tho

BigYash:
No mind her. They will always want to push the blame,so that the society will pity them,like they always do. You no go get dark character or say you no dey hear word,then you want a man to wife you na.

Exactly my brother. They will cook up narrative to make the man look like the devil not knowing they lost their relationship due to their toxic character.

advanceDNA:
They never do anything wrong.... Once woman spread legs give you........then feels she has done everything right...

My brother. I know some of them . They will take away the child from reach of their father and claim neglected single mother. Marry single mom at your own peril.

He must be a 'fine boy'.

IBB007:
lol….you're probably his sidechick

Not really ooo,the babe was just an emotional bank . I wonder why she had to take time to value herself and walk away .

She still has feeling for him

Baronthecelebri:
She still has feeling for him

She is dickmatized.

– “The one who has never said ‘I love you’ and, when I say it, just smiles and tells me to ‘calm down.’

– “The one who asked me to ‘try harder’ to make him love me.”


You were just dating yourself all this while...the guy never had any feelings for you.

The guy was just using you to cure conji nothing else..