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We have been dating for exactly two years now and to be honest, he is a very sweet and romantic man. I absolutely adore him because he is kind, caring, gentle and considerate. He also listens... Most men these days, do not listen. My boyfriend listens when it comes to most things. However, when it comes to matters of the bedroom, he is closed-minded, shy and quite reluctant. These are a huge turn off for me but I know nobody is perfect so I talk to him about it and it goes in one ear and out the other. He says fine he would try harder and do what I ask but when the time comes, he shys away, leaving me upset and even frustrated.

Am I being too coded? Alright! He enjoys bjs... He would moan, shake - these things I enjoy. I absolutely enjoy being able to fully satisfy him but what of me? He does not give head!
Crazy huh? Imagine wanting and enjoying something you refuse to give. How is your partner supposed to feel?
Oh and for those of you wondering, I am extremely clean. Maybe too clean even.
This is a problem for me. He is too reserved and finds it difficult to try new things.
Guess what guys? He is talking about marriage when he cannot even satisfy me in the bedroom. I just smile and change topics because I know I am not gonna marry him.
I don't want to be sad and miserable. I am young and I want to be happy and satisfied.

He wants to introduce me to his family officially before he comes to see my family this December. What do I do? He is a very nice man and he is well-behaved, sane, stable but he does not know how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. What do I do?

OH and he is not on nairaland. He thinks nairaland is boring. He prefers Instagram so hopefully he doesn't see this ever. 😒

Like you said, nobody is perfect. If his good outweighs the bad, you better marry him.

Consider him, it's difficult to find someone 70 percent better to your favourable subjections.

And bare it mind, you will still get tired of sex someday, it is just a matter of age..

Peace!!!

He won't ever change and u know that for sure so why torture urself and cheat urself when u can have multiple orgasms till u cant stand anymore? Anyways except u plan on cheating on him, I suggest u talk to him as in really lay ur cards out on the table for him to play his hand and if it's still same cards then u can send me a mail
Just playing. Life is short live how u want with who u really want and who wants u too.. If he truly listens he could have made some adjustments or compromised for ur sake if not for anything but to return the favor. Being sexually frustrated can make u do stupid shyt ur not supposed to do and shyt could get really messy quick. You know what u should do right?

slimdamatrix1:
Like you said, nobody is perfect. If his good outweighs the bad, you better marry him.

And be sad for the rest of my life? Hmm!

Lonestar124:
Consider him, it's difficult to find someone 70 percent better to your favourable subjections.

And bare it mind, you will still get tired of sex someday, it is just a matter of age..

Peace!!!

I am not getting tired of it soon. You're telling a female who hasn't even reached her mid twenties that she would get tired of sex?

What am I supposed to be doing with the remaining what, eighty years of my life? Listening to my friends brag about how satisfied they are? Hmm!

dkidd:
He won't ever change and u know that for sure so why torture urself and cheat urself when u can have multiple orgasms till u cant stand anymore? Anyways except u plan on cheating on him, I suggest u talk to him as in really lay ur cards out on the table for him to play his hand and if it's still same cards then u can send me a mail
Just playing. Life is short live how u want with who u really want and who wants u too.. If he truly listens he could have made some adjustments or compromised for ur sake if not for anything but to return the favor. Being sexually frustrated can make u do stupid shyt ur not supposed to do and shyt could get really messy quick. You know what u should do right?

This actually made me laugh.

Thank you for being realistic with me.

AishaDant:
This actually made me laugh.

Thank you for being realistic with me.

Welcome... A little humour is good for the soul

AishaDant:
We have been dating for exactly two years now and to be honest, he is a very sweet and romantic man. I absolutely adore him because he is kind, caring, gentle and considerate. He also listens... Most men these days, do not listen. My boyfriend listens when it comes to most things. However, when it comes to matters of the bedroom, he is closed-minded, shy and quite reluctant. These are a huge turn off for me but I know nobody is perfect so I talk to him about it and it goes in one ear and out the other. He says fine he would try harder and do what I ask but when the time comes, he shys away, leaving me upset and even frustrated.

Am I being too coded? Alright! He enjoys bjs... He would moan, shake - these things I enjoy. I absolutely enjoy being able to fully satisfy him but what of me? He does not give head!
Crazy huh? Imagine wanting and enjoying something you refuse to give. How is your partner supposed to feel?
Oh and for those of you wondering, I am extremely clean. Maybe too clean even.
This is a problem for me. He is too reserved and finds it difficult to try new things.
Guess what guys? He is talking about marriage when he cannot even satisfy me in the bedroom. I just smile and change topics because I know I am not gonna marry him.
I don't want to be sad and miserable. I am young and I want to be happy and satisfied.

He wants to introduce me to his family officially before he comes to see my family this December. What do I do? He is a very nice man and he is well-behaved, sane, stable but he does not know how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. What do I do?

OH and he is not on nairaland. He thinks nairaland is boring. He prefers Instagram so hopefully he doesn't see this ever. 😒

Have you ever wonder if he is gay?

AishaDant:
We have been dating for exactly two years now and to be honest, he is a very sweet and romantic man. I absolutely adore him because he is kind, caring, gentle and considerate. He also listens... Most men these days, do not listen. My boyfriend listens when it comes to most things. However, when it comes to matters of the bedroom, he is closed-minded, shy and quite reluctant. These are a huge turn off for me but I know nobody is perfect so I talk to him about it and it goes in one ear and out the other. He says fine he would try harder and do what I ask but when the time comes, he shys away, leaving me upset and even frustrated.

Am I being too coded? Alright! He enjoys bjs... He would moan, shake - these things I enjoy. I absolutely enjoy being able to fully satisfy him but what of me? He does not give head!
Crazy huh? Imagine wanting and enjoying something you refuse to give. How is your partner supposed to feel?
Oh and for those of you wondering, I am extremely clean. Maybe too clean even.
This is a problem for me. He is too reserved and finds it difficult to try new things.
Guess what guys? He is talking about marriage when he cannot even satisfy me in the bedroom. I just smile and change topics because I know I am not gonna marry him.
I don't want to be sad and miserable. I am young and I want to be happy and satisfied.

He wants to introduce me to his family officially before he comes to see my family this December. What do I do? He is a very nice man and he is well-behaved, sane, stable but he does not know how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. What do I do?

OH and he is not on nairaland. He thinks nairaland is boring. He prefers Instagram so hopefully he doesn't see this ever. 😒

So, what are the new things he is not trying, care to elaborate more?

Is it only the BJ that satisfy you? What about his penetration game? If that's okay, then I suggest you buy rose toy. You will get the man that will Bleep and lick you very well, but he won't do 40% of what your current bf is doing.

AishaDant:
We have been dating for exactly two years now and to be honest, he is a very sweet and romantic man. I absolutely adore him because he is kind, caring, gentle and considerate. He also listens... Most men these days, do not listen. My boyfriend listens when it comes to most things. However, when it comes to matters of the bedroom, he is closed-minded, shy and quite reluctant. These are a huge turn off for me but I know nobody is perfect so I talk to him about it and it goes in one ear and out the other. He says fine he would try harder and do what I ask but when the time comes, he shys away, leaving me upset and even frustrated.

Am I being too coded? Alright! He enjoys bjs... He would moan, shake - these things I enjoy. I absolutely enjoy being able to fully satisfy him but what of me? He does not give head!
Crazy huh? Imagine wanting and enjoying something you refuse to give. How is your partner supposed to feel?
Oh and for those of you wondering, I am extremely clean. Maybe too clean even.
This is a problem for me. He is too reserved and finds it difficult to try new things.
Guess what guys? He is talking about marriage when he cannot even satisfy me in the bedroom. I just smile and change topics because I know I am not gonna marry him.
I don't want to be sad and miserable. I am young and I want to be happy and satisfied.

He wants to introduce me to his family officially before he comes to see my family this December. What do I do? He is a very nice man and he is well-behaved, sane, stable but he does not know how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. What do I do?

OH and he is not on nairaland. He thinks nairaland is boring. He prefers Instagram so hopefully he doesn't see this ever. 😒

AishaDant:
We have been dating for exactly two years now and to be honest, he is a very sweet and romantic man. I absolutely adore him because he is kind, caring, gentle and considerate. He also listens... Most men these days, do not listen. My boyfriend listens when it comes to most things. However, when it comes to matters of the bedroom, he is closed-minded, shy and quite reluctant. These are a huge turn off for me but I know nobody is perfect so I talk to him about it and it goes in one ear and out the other. He says fine he would try harder and do what I ask but when the time comes, he shys away, leaving me upset and even frustrated.

Am I being too coded? Alright! He enjoys bjs... He would moan, shake - these things I enjoy. I absolutely enjoy being able to fully satisfy him but what of me? He does not give head!
Crazy huh? Imagine wanting and enjoying something you refuse to give. How is your partner supposed to feel?
Oh and for those of you wondering, I am extremely clean. Maybe too clean even.
This is a problem for me. He is too reserved and finds it difficult to try new things.
Guess what guys? He is talking about marriage when he cannot even satisfy me in the bedroom. I just smile and change topics because I know I am not gonna marry him.
I don't want to be sad and miserable. I am young and I want to be happy and satisfied.

He wants to introduce me to his family officially before he comes to see my family this December. What do I do? He is a very nice man and he is well-behaved, sane, stable but he does not know how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. What do I do?

OH and he is not on nairaland. He thinks nairaland is boring. He prefers Instagram so hopefully he doesn't see this ever. 😒

I don't give head n I don't take it

I believe only a man who can't use his dick rightly will use mouth

I have never used mouth n I will never use it n I don't accept it too cos to me it's dirty no matter how clean u claim u are

Probably it's because of d course I studied in school cos I know much about micro organisms a lot

AishaDant:
And be sad for the rest of my life? Hmm!

Because he cannot lick your sore plate

Too much porn is affecting your brain.
You may lose all those qualities you mentioned about him and get hooked with a stupid man who's only good in the bedroom (sorry, in licking plate i mean). I think you'll be satisfied.

Sharpsharp00123:
I don't give head n I don't take it

I believe only a man who can't use his dick rightly will use mouth

I have never used mouth n I will never use it n I don't accept it too cos to me it's dirty no matter how clean u claim u are

Probably it's because of d course I studied in school cos I know much about micro organisms a lot

Summary in bold

very4tune8:
Have you ever wonder if he is gay?

No, I haven't. He is mostly easily turned on by me. We do a lot of PDA and I can be very naughty... Now you have me wondering 🤔

Sapasenator:
So, what are the new things he is not trying, care to elaborate more?

He likes bjs but does not give head.

Sex without head is like trying to use a piece of wood to start your car when the key is lying right beside you. It just doesn't work for me.

SenecaTheYonger:
Is it only the BJ that satisfy you? What about his penetration game? If that's okay, then I suggest you guy rose toy. You will get the man that will Bleep and lick you very well, but he won't do 40% of what your current bf is doing.

It is a very important part of sexual satisfaction. Most of you males do not understand it but it is fine. 😒

Sharpsharp00123:
I don't give head n I don't take it

I believe only a man who can't use his dick rightly will use mouth

I have never used mouth n I will never use it n I don't accept it too cos to me it's dirty no matter how clean u claim u are

Probably it's because of d course I studied in school cos I know much about micro organisms a lot

I am afraid your belief system is rather faulty then. If you don't give head or receive it, that means pre-intimacy is not important to you.
pre-intimacy is extremely important when trying to get sexual. Sometimes, I might not even be in the mood but a convincing pre-intimacy puts me in the mood. I can see some males are having a hard time understanding my point but it is fine. I need it to be satisfied!

Yomit71:
Because he cannot lick your sore plate

😐

Yomit71:
Too much porn is affecting your brain.
You may lose all those qualities you mentioned about him and get hooked with a stupid man who's only good in the bedroom (sorry, in licking plate i mean). I think you'll be satisfied.

The fact that some men think sexual satisfaction is not important is very weird to me. Intimacy with my partner is an important part of our relationship. Why am I doing everything possible to satisfy him and he cannot do same for me?

Some of you are just used to lazy females in the bedroom so you expect females like me to accept anything. I am afraid I will not remain unsatisfied especially when I can fully satisfy my partner. 😒

AishaDant:
The fact that some men think sexual satisfaction is not important is very weird to me. Intimacy with my partner is an important part of our relationship. Why am I doing everything possible to satisfy him and he cannot do same for me?

Some of you are just used to lazy females in the bedroom so you expect females like me to accept anything. I am afraid I will not remain unsatisfied especially when I can fully satisfy my partner. 😒

You talk of sexual satisfaction, most of you lot demand for what you are not able to do for your partners. You want him to do everything and if he declines, you rush to NL to open a thread. Do you think about what he truly needs and try to satisfy him?

Nnamdipapa:
You talk of sexual satisfaction, most of you lot demand for what you are not able to do for your partners. You want him to do everything and if he declines, you rush to NL to open a thread. Do you think about what he truly needs and try to satisfy him?

Trust me, my boyfriend is an extremely satisfied man. He brags about how satisfied he is and how he doesn't joke with the things I do in the bedroom for him. The problem here is the fact that he cannot satisfy me in return.
I am not even trying to paint him bad, I adore him but this is a problem in our relationship.

I am not a lazy female. If I was, this would not be a problem for me. I am a lover girl!
I know how to love and treat a man like a king especially if he deserves it. So, don't add me to your "lazy female list"... I am a different kind of female. That's all 😒

AishaDant:
Trust me, my boyfriend is an extremely satisfied man. He brags about how satisfied he is and how he doesn't joke with the things I do in the bedroom for him. The problem here is the fact that he cannot satisfy me in return.
I am not even trying to paint him bad, I adore him but this is a problem in our relationship.

I am not a lazy female. If I was, this would not be a problem for me. I am a lover girl!
I know how to love and treat a man like a king especially if he deserves it. So, don't add me to your "lazy female list"... I am a different kind of female. That's all 😒

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AishaDant:
He likes bjs but does not give head.

Sex without head is like trying to use a piece of wood to start your car when the key is lying right beside you. It just doesn't work for me.

Na, that Is a fail in my book. He should be able to give at least an hour of "head", 40minutes head alone and about 20minutes of head in combinations with dexterous fingers before proceeding with intimacy. At least two orgasms for the lady before penetrative intercourse.

What reason/s is he giving for failing in this important duty?
What was is background? Are you his first date?

AishaDant:
I am afraid your belief system is rather faulty then. If you don't give head or receive it, that means pre-intimacy is not important to you.
pre-intimacy is extremely important when trying to get sexual. Sometimes, I might not even be in the mood but a convincing pre-intimacy puts me in the mood. I can see some males are having a hard time understanding my point but it is fine. I need it to be satisfied!

so I should put my health at risk by swallowing micro organisms cos I want to please someone?

That's impossible

My health n sanity first before pleasure

Sapasenator:
Na, that Is a fail in my book. He should be able to give at least an hour of "head", 40minutes head alone and about 20minutes of head in combinations with dexterous fingers before proceeding with intimacy. At least two orgasms for the lady before penetrative intercourse.

What reason/s is he giving for failing in this important duty?
What was is background? Are you his first date?

I am glad you agree. He is just closed-minded and afraid to try new things.
Well, I am his first serious girlfriend. Still not enough reason for an excuse if you ask me.
I have made my decision Sha.

Sharpsharp00123:
so I should put my health at risk by swallowing micro organisms cos I want to please someone?

That's impossible

My health n sanity first before pleasure

So do whatever works best for you then.

AishaDant:
We have been dating for exactly two years now and to be honest, he is a very sweet and romantic man. I absolutely adore him because he is kind, caring, gentle and considerate. He also listens... Most men these days, do not listen. My boyfriend listens when it comes to most things. However, when it comes to matters of the bedroom, he is closed-minded, shy and quite reluctant. These are a huge turn off for me but I know nobody is perfect so I talk to him about it and it goes in one ear and out the other. He says fine he would try harder and do what I ask but when the time comes, he shys away, leaving me upset and even frustrated.

Am I being too coded? Alright! He enjoys bjs... He would moan, shake - these things I enjoy. I absolutely enjoy being able to fully satisfy him but what of me? He does not give head!
Crazy huh? Imagine wanting and enjoying something you refuse to give. How is your partner supposed to feel?
Oh and for those of you wondering, I am extremely clean. Maybe too clean even.
This is a problem for me. He is too reserved and finds it difficult to try new things.
Guess what guys? He is talking about marriage when he cannot even satisfy me in the bedroom. I just smile and change topics because I know I am not gonna marry him.
I don't want to be sad and miserable. I am young and I want to be happy and satisfied.

He wants to introduce me to his family officially before he comes to see my family this December. What do I do? He is a very nice man and he is well-behaved, sane, stable but he does not know how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. What do I do?

OH and he is not on nairaland. He thinks nairaland is boring. He prefers Instagram so hopefully he doesn't see this ever. 😒

Aunty Aisha, the Head Girl but not for class.

Yomit71:
Too much porn is affecting your brain.
You may lose all those qualities you mentioned about him and get hooked with a stupid man who's only good in the bedroom (sorry, in licking plate i mean). I think you'll be satisfied.

God bless u

They are now making it look like a normal thing for a guy to lick them

Porn have so messed up their psyche that they see all those rubbish as normal

The same way these people are making gay look normal

It's annoying n I can't even picture myself doing it, I will rather lick alum than lick pussy

AishaDant:
I am glad you agree. He is just closed-minded and afraid to try new things.
Well, I am his first serious girlfriend. Still not enough reason for an excuse if you ask me.
I have made my decision Sha.

Sexual compatibility is very important in a romantic relationship and as you mentioned earlier some of his his other endearing qualities. It is something you guys will hash out between yourselves. I believe any skill can be learnt and he is not a lost cause plus if you trully love your woman, you will want to have her satisfied.

I am naturally a curious and experimental guy but I despise receiving heads, I like to giving though but for whatever reason I never enjoy blowjobs. I would rather a handjob than a head .

I have had request to try an*al which I had to decline, also a request for sexual congress during menstrual period was roundly turned down by me as well. Other than those boundaries I don't see why a normal heathy guy should not be able to ravish and engage in a health sexual congress with his girlfriend.

You may have to teach and guide him.

AishaDant:
He likes bjs but does not give head.

Sex without head is like trying to use a piece of wood to start your car when the key is lying right beside you. It just doesn't work for me.

sorry porn have messed u up, the west propaganda have ruined many

They make licking plate look normal with their press n now they are done with that they are now making gay look normal

In no time gays will start coming here to create threads about how their partner isn't doing it well