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kay29000:
How old is he?

Late 40s

randymirrors:
She's deceiving the gullible. She can never be happy no matter how rich. I'm married to an older man, not even in the age range of Ned Nwoko and I'm far older than Regina. I regret this everyday of my life. It's better to be single for life than to be married to someone who doesn't match your vibe. No joy. I wish I could be single again. I regret everything. It's a pitiable state.

Eeyah!

Sis, you are in it already. Just make sure you do not yield to temptations that will bring avoidable regrets and above all, focus on your children because they are your hope of a better, joyous and happy tomorrow..

Best of luck.

randymirrors:
Late 40s

Okay. Apart from the good sex, how is it being married to an older man in the context of this post?

And hat's the age difference between you and your husband? 10? 15? 20?

kay29000:
Okay. Apart from the good sex, how is it being married to an older man in the context of this post?

And hat's the age difference between you and your husband? 10? 15? 20?

15+. It's nothing. Mismatched energies. Archaic way of doing things. Not attuned to current trends. Downright boring. I don't like being in the company of his friends cos of the age difference. I regret my life everyday. Said this in my previous comment on this thread. No point lying about it. Sex and money don't make marriage. Not up to six months yet I keep thinking about the possibility of leaving. Be in a loveless marriage then you'd know that being single is like being in heaven.

kay29000:
Exactly. I remember when I was in my late 20s, one girl was always telling me about one guy in his 40s that she was nacking...at the time, I used to think she was lying when she used to talk about how good the guy was. Now that I'm around that age, I just laugh at my younger self who was thinking men in their 40s can't perform in the bedroom.

I’m in my 40s and I used to nack a girl that is 24. She loves the way I nacked more than anything. I can make any girl sit right even in my 40s.

randymirrors:
15+. It's nothing. Mismatched energies. Archaic way of doing things. Not attuned to current trends. Downright boring. I don't like being in the company of his friends cos of the age difference. I regret my life everyday. Said this in my previous comment on this thread. No point lying about it. Sex and money don't make marriage. Not up to six months yet I keep thinking about the possibility of leaving. Be in a loveless marriage then you'd know that being single is like being in heaven.

Hmm...I understand you. But was it an arranged marriage? How did you meet? Did you ever at one point like the idea of spending the rest of your life with him?

kay29000:
Hmm...I understand you. But was it an arranged marriage? How did you meet? Did you ever at one point like the idea of spending the rest of your life with him?

Oh I did. At a point in time, I was even attributing all the good things coming to me to him (and I'd only known him for a month). I told my mum it was because of him I was experiencing those things even though it obviously had nothing to do with him.

The feelings started to fizzle out when I realized he doesn't have a strong personality as i'd love my man to have + one or two issues that we had. If not that I had told my family members about him too early on (out of excitement), I wouldn't have married him. Met at a wedding party.

Truth is, I'm the one who doesn't deserve him. That man is a good man.

randymirrors:
Oh I did. At a point in time, I was even attributing all the good things coming to me to him (and I'd only known him for a month). I told my mum it was because of him I was experiencing those things even though it obviously had nothing to do with him.

The feelings started to fizzle out when I realized he doesn't have a strong personality as i'd love my man to have. If not that I had told my family members about him too early on (out of excitement), I wouldn't have married him. Met at a wedding party.

Hmm...Okay. Forever is a long time...what do you think you will do moving forward? Will you try to find some reason to keep being his wife, or will you leave?

randymirrors:
15+. It's nothing. Mismatched energies. Archaic way of doing things. Not attuned to current trends. Downright boring. I don't like being in the company of his friends cos of the age difference. I regret my life everyday. Said this in my previous comment on this thread. No point lying about it. Sex and money don't make marriage. Not up to six months yet I keep thinking about the possibility of leaving. Be in a loveless marriage then you'd know that being single is like being in heaven.

That’s you and the lifestyle you have chosen. Age is nothing for rich men and rich women in America. I would rather cry in a phantom Rolls Royce than happily married to a broke person with no future ambition. The idea of going to airports in overseas or on a cruise ship is healing. Even for the middle-classed family in America, you don’t have time for all the funs and parties like in Nigeria. Husband does not see wife as both work different schedules just for survival to pay the bills.

I came to Nigeria to date this young girl and I had to drop her. She is into the life of party and she arranges girls for men at any private parties in Island. I had to drop her so that I don’t regret it. Whereas you will across a young girl like her that is not living the life of partying and smoking shisha or hookah. You are free to divorce your rich husband for the broke man in the face-me-I-face-you. When the dusts clear, you may not get this opportunity again after 5 years.

kay29000:
Hmm...Okay. Forever is a long time...what do you think you will do moving forward? Will you try to find some reason to keep being his wife, or will you leave?

That's the fix I'm in right now as I often ask myself, "better I leave now that the marriage is still fresh or stay to see if things will get better". Fear of the unknown. It's better to hide under the cover that you've not met anyone you like than to say I'm not doing again so that you don't get blamed in future esp by family cos they'd tell you, "shebi we advised you against leaving abi we didn't".

akigbemaru:
That’s you and the lifestyle you have chosen. Age is nothing for rich men and rich women in America. I would rather cry in a phantom Rolls Royce than happily married to a broke person with no future ambition. The idea of going to airports in overseas or on a cruise ship is healing. Even for the middle-classed family in America, you don’t have time for all the funs and parties like in Nigeria. Husband does not see wife as both work different schedules just for survival to pay the bills.

The feeling of being in love is sweeter than being in money without love. I've tasted both so I can talk about it. Does this mean I'd be with a broke man again if I were single? NO.

randymirrors:
That's the fix I'm in right now as I often ask myself, "better I leave now that the marriage is still fresh or stay to see if things will get better". Fear of the unknown. It's better to hide under the cover that you've not met anyone you like than to say I'm not doing again so that you don't get blamed in future esp by family cos they'd tell you, "shebi we advised you against leaving abi we didn't".

Dilemma.

seunoladele:
BEFORE YOU MARRY A MAN 20 YEARS OLDER...

You have to take note of the high disparity and see if you can cope.

Will he see you as a friend or a daughter who must always listen to his command and nothing more? Or he will put his age aside and be your best friend, gist mate and romantic partner? You need a young blood to enjoy your life with and age doesn't really determine the freshness of the blood. Attitude is, if you understand what I mean.

I have met guys who were just few years older than me and treated me like a kid with no thought of her own and I have met men far older who treat me like a buddy, some even say "Yes ma". You get it? Attitude basically matters not just the accumulation of numbers.

At forty, your sexual desire peaks and you want more sex like no man's business. At forty, his own sexual desire begins to decline talk less of when he is sixty years old! But with good diet, enough sleep, right attitude to work and a very young heart, the man can boost his libido, desire you like crazy, have sex 2 to 3 times a week and stay on top of his sexual games with you!

One lady separated from her elderly husband because she was starving sexually! There are young men less than thirty or a little over thirty who also starve their wife sex!

Attitude matters.

God's will matters most!

If God says at 25, you will marry a man who is 45, who are we to say NO?

When Jesus says YES, nobody can say NO my dear!

Do not box God!

Still, don't do what your power can't carry!

Not every lady can marry a man far older than she is.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

You will not mis-choose in Jesus' name!

© Seun Oladele.
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Younger women are attracted to the experiences older men have and find them more mature and stable in terms of finance than guys of their age or slightly older.

So, young women find older men within that 20-year gap in age desirable.

It seems like a woman marrying a man that much older than her is far more likely to cheat, but maybe that's unfair to say.

What are the stats?