₦airaland Forum

Elanqy:
Then stay single or marry from your tribe.
Men from the tribe aren’t ranting

An hopeless SIMPle man spotted🙄🥱This one will pay 20M bride price just to marry olosho put for house.......... continue being senseless, the lord is your strength

wirinet:
No one is complaining about bride price. Bride price had beeb practiced un Africa and many parts of the world from the beginning of recorded history. It is the exploitation of the bride price to blackmail intending suitors by very few African societies that people are condemning.
We Itsekiris don't sell our daughters, and you will find many prominent people married to Itsekiris that gives our daughter utmost respects due to that fact. Many prominent people married to itsekiri ladies include T.Y. Danjuma, Bola Tinubu, Bode George. We need not ask for an arm and a leg in order to give away our daughters to these men.

DUDE MARRY FROM YOUR TRIBE NOW?


THOSE LIST WERE NOT CREATED WITH YOU IN MIND.


THE PEOPLE THAT OWN THAT LIST ARE MARRYING AND NOT COMPLAINING.


YORUBA NO GET LIST NOW, WHICH KIND WAHALA COME BE THIS

Make I come pay that bill, your papa come dey call me my son first.

Stolen:
DUDE MARRY FROM YOUR TRIBE NOW?


THOSE LIST WERE NOT CREATED WITH YOU IN MIND.


THE PEOPLE THAT OWN THAT LIST ARE MARRYING AND NOT COMPLAINING.


YORUBA NO GET LIST NOW, WHICH KIND WAHALA COME BE THIS

I am sure you are aware of how many over 30 year old spinsters are still living in their fathers house in such tribes. The irony is that ladies from such misogynistic and exploitative tribes refuse marrying from their own tribe.

For your information, I am married from Igbo tribes. My father inlaw ensured I was not exploited by his family nd clansman. I paid what I could avoid at the time. Since then I sponsored their daughter to school and helped the junior sister gain admission to the University.

wirinet:
I am sure you are aware of how many over 30 year old spinsters are still living in their fathers house in such tribes. The irony is that ladies from such misogynistic and exploitative tribes refuse marrying from their own tribe.

For your information, I am married from Igbo tribes. My father inlaw ensured I was not exploited by his family nd clansman. I paid what I could avoid at the time. Since then I sponsored their daughter to school and helped the junior sister gain admission to the University.

GOOD NITE!

CyrusVI:
Closely followed by the Igbos...as per day we no fit read news make we no attach tribal identity join



Back to the Op.

So basically, they were just rearing the girl like she's some special breed of dog to sell to the highest bidder in the future.

Girl wey Dem prolly deflower for free

Wey them still dey knack as d guy dey uk sef.

APOPTOSIS:
I will spend more than that if the Lady deserves it.
If the Lady exudes peace & produces Gold on whatever she touches, I will pay 15M

U will stress ur life just to pay 15m on someone's head? You think that's normal?

TheBillyonaire:
That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

Keep your dirty mouth shut
Rubbish

fawaz050:
So the value of a woman is N3.5m. pele o Valuation Specialist

I'm telling you, many of them are just daft and lack reasoning. Don't be surprised that you're talking to an idle 200-level student.

Father4all:
The worst is, she isn't even a virgin

Na the exact reason d guy cancel d tin.

D reality struck him that he's paying for a used kpekus, in fact, they could be banging d babe currently.

Wetin 9ja girls no fit do?

Geonigga:
It might shock you that the said bride might even be a hook up girl in disguise

Akwa ibom babes weh bad gan.

BoldBrainz:
You're the clown here!

How do you start negotiating a 3.5m naira brideprice list? What do you think is going to be the eventual outcome? You're yet to even consider the cost of putting the traditional marriage ceremony together and you're here talking garbage.

If na your brother, advise am make e go negotiate that kind list.

Oga, that guy is saying the truth. Bride price list does not stop any man from marrying.
If the man shows commitment and present N1000, he will be accepted.

EeyanMayweather:
This is the reason why the guy is angry . The dude can probably afford it .
Dude has weighed his options and decided it’s not worth it . I would too if I were in his shoes

D guy suspects someone is still currently banging d babe while he's stressing himself to cough out 3milla.

That is the pain; the suspicion. You are right.

GigFc:
The guy is not ready, my own marriage was even more expensive. If you know about marrying a riverine woman from rivers state, you'd know what I mean.

The idea is not to form strong man and pay for everything, you can monetize a lot of items and get huge discounts here and there. Last last you won't spend up to 2m.

I was asked to bring 4 cartons of original cognac, plus other drinks. That's why they don't marry alone, you go with your experienced family and people from your woman's side that know the secrets to how these things are done.

As a man, these things are normal and should be considered a right of passage. Don't go and be fretting anyhow over such issues.

U are talking too much. All these are not the reasons.

Som1 else is likely banging his babe currently while he's bringing out 3.5million from his pocket.

The reality either hit him at that point or someone discussed with him at the nick of time.

APOPTOSIS:
If marriage is not for the Poor....how then do Bricklayers, Gravediggers and Palmwine Tappers from same communities marry such ladies?
Do they give them expo or subsidy?

How hin papa also marry hin mama?

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

You are mád!!!

The girl is not even a virgin and you want me to spend 3.5 nkpi on her?

Simps like you are so messed up

GigFc:
You wife to be has numerous body count?

Naa tear rubber virgin ooo. I cannot lay 1 kobo bride price for a non-virgin.

List is foolish.
But it's only ~ $2,000 US.
The in-laws look foolish with such a list.
Just ask for Drinks or actual cash in that amount.
But underwear and what not? Wtf?
So, the in-laws would be my concern, not the money.

TheBillyonaire:
That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

...

I beg run away.. before they finish you

GigFc:
The guy is not ready, my own marriage was even more expensive. If you know about marrying a riverine woman from rivers state, you'd know what I mean.

The idea is not to form strong man and pay for everything, you can monetize a lot of items and get huge discounts here and there. Last last you won't spend up to 2m.

I was asked to bring 4 cartons of original cognac, plus other drinks. That's why they don't marry alone, you go with your experienced family and people from your woman's side that know the secrets to how these things are done.

As a man, these things are normal and should be considered a right of passage. Don't go and be fretting anyhow over such issues.

Did you marry your wife as a virgin?

If not, you wasted that Cognac and all what you paid. In our culture,only virgins deserve bride price

luminouz:
Did you marry your wife as a virgin?

If not, you wasted that Cognac and all what you paid. In our culture,only virgins deserve bride price

K

JoeEeL:
U are talking too much. All these are not the reasons.

Som1 else is likely banging his babe currently while he's bringing out 3.5million from his pocket.

The reality either hit him at that point or someone discussed with him at the nick of time.

SMH... You are talking too few.

AntiChristian:
I get them plenty that headslams like Jesus!

And stop telling lies!

Them born Una with lies?

You have been living a life of lies based on the false teachings of a paedophile, robber and murderer who lived 1400yrs ago in Mecca/Medina, yet you're accusing a normal person of being born with lies?
Nawa for this deceived jihadi guy oo.

I just watched a video of an Egyptian now who got himself extricated from this 1400yrs old lies your jihadists have been living, and i wish i could send it to you.

Expectedly, you jihadists will soon behead him for exposing your lies on account of blasphemy.

That is not true. Some parts of Igbo land like IMO can be expensive but most Igbo lands are far cheap even than the SW. The fulanis are most expensive. 50 cows no be beans.

CyrusVI:
Closely followed by the Igbos...as per day we no fit read news make we no attach tribal identity join



Back to the Op.

So basically, they were just rearing the girl like she's some special breed of dog to sell to the highest bidder in the future.

Girl wey Dem prolly deflower for free

FineUsername:
Omo, any person wey do this one na very big FOOL!
Make person no born this kind unfortunate son ooo.

na poverty dey do you nothing else.

Taich:
Hmm, the person lives in the UK, if he can’t pay a marriage list of <£2k, he should please live the girl alone. People forget what the culture about bride price is really all about. It is a litmus test, it will test how deep your pocket is, and your negotiation skills . It will test if you are matured enough to handle challenges that consigns your potential wife and family. Apparently if the lady has a problem or a need of £2k , the husband may send her back to her family for help. I like what happened, if the man thinks he is being extorted , let him live the lady alone. Is better to discontinue at this stage than later, we will all be ok.

What is the man buying? Oh I guess you believe he is buying the lady

BoldBrainz:
You're the clown here!

How do you start negotiating a 3.5m naira brideprice list? What do you think is going to be the eventual outcome? You're yet to even consider the cost of putting the traditional marriage ceremony together and you're here talking garbage.

If na your brother, advise am make e go negotiate that kind list.

you're not ready for marriage truly. That amount is not much considering inflation in the country. People negotiate bride price list. My cousin a yoruba guy negotiated and he ended up paying 1.5m for the whole list. This happen last year.

Are you looking for free wife to marry?? So you don't know it's respectful you marry your wife properly?

VULCAN:
When I buy a used car, I can do whatever I like with it.

When I buy a wife, I can do whatever I like with her.

The wise will understand the message I am passing here

It's unlikely TheBillyonaire will, though.

na poor man dey reason like you obviously

GiZcorp:
And who told you marriage is for the highest bidder... No wonder most of you are punching bags in your odogwu husbands house.

no sir. Na poor men dey even maltreat their wives pass because he got her cheaply. I'm a yoruba guy and i know how yoruba men maltreat their wives and kids. Some cannot even feed one wife and kids they will still marry another cheap wife add

armyofone:
Everyone must come get their share oh when they heard he is outside Nigeria.
He could have taken the list and strike or reduce everything/expenses that he feels were exaggerated.

If he truly canceled the marriage, then maybe he wasn't really in love in the first place.

exactly

oluwaseyi0:
Did your father pay bride price twice? 500k to bride father and another 300k to bride mother?

yes. It is done. Don't let poverty affect your brain. That amount isn't much considering inflation and he can even negotiate to 2m. The guy no serious abeg