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I just heard a discussion in the bus that took me aback

One of the lady said she feels it is right for intending couples to let their partners know about their past there by there won't be any secret. She went further to say even if he doesn't tell her things before they became an item,as long as they are now an item she deserves to know especially what happens while dating

The other lady said if her guy asks her she won't say anything because it's not necessary and relevant

What do you think?

Very necessary so you know how to plan your escape route

Me after listening to my banny past 🤭

Not necessary. If you love him/her. Then the future together matters more than the past. Old things are past away.

Its very important to know..bUt you must be prepared as a man to hear the greatest shocking news of your life....

Imagine your banny telling you she did more than 5 flushing and setting with her ex in the past . Na instant smack down the werey go just collect ASAP

Lol...of what benefits is the past information to each spouse??
Even if you want to discuss, just talk about the basics...
Don't go deeper!!
You can name a "Few" guys that were Ur date or frnds in the past...
But no reason to list how many of dem has sex u...

And why should I be interested in the past of my spouse

Puss360:
Don't go deeper!!
You can name a "Few" guys that were Ur date or frnds in the past...
But no reason to list how many of dem has sex u...

And why should I be interested in the past of my spouse

Why would you want to keep those deeper and the number of those thats had sex with you from him? That alone is a call for concern

As for the bolded, men and wome see things differently. Dont use your perspective as a female to invalidate this great concern from men

Puss360:
Lol...of what benefits is the past information to each spouse??
Even if you want to discuss, just talk about the basics...
Don't go deeper!!
You can name a "Few" guys that were Ur date or frnds in the past...
But no reason to list how many of dem has sex u...

And why should I be interested in the past of my spouse

. Very easy for you to say via the female perspective...But as a man,the thought of different men mounting your would-be wife in the past isn't something a man can take, unless he just wanna chew her as well, just like the others...

Sonnobax15:
. Very easy for you to say via the female perspective...But as a man,the thought of different men mounting your would-be wife in the past isn't something a man can take, unless he just wanna chew her as well, just like the others...

Why should u begin to dwell on the thought of "Previous men" banging Ur wife?
If u always think of the past u can't move forward

A man and a woman are not the same a man is interested in a woman's past why a woman is interested in a man's future or present.

Let me explain what I mean, studies have shown that a woman with more bodies or a promiscuous past tends not to last in a marriage or a relationship, just like a woman that have had more relationship she is also not going to have a successful marriage compared to a woman with less relationships and a woman that doesn't have a promiscuous past.
Then coming to a man a woman is interested in your future because she wants to be sure you can be able to take care of her and be able to take care of your children. She wants the best man possible for her with a bright future.

A man wants a woman with less baggage, less bodies and if possible a virgin while a woman wants a man with experience.

It is necessary, in case he has children hidden somewhere... Last thing I want is to have a teenager one day knocking at our door saying he or she is looking for his or her father.

EmperorCaesar:
Why would you want to keep those deeper and the number of those thats had sex with you from him? That alone is a call for concern

As for the bolded, men and wome see things differently. Dont use your perspective as a female to invalidate this great concern from men

No need bro. Their bc never ever exceeds 3

Dainty09:
I just heard a discussion in the bus that took me aback

One of the lady said she feels it is right for intending couples to let their partners know about their past there by there won't be any secret. She went further to say even if he doesn't tell her things before they became an item,as long as they are now an item she deserves to know especially what happens while dating

The other lady said if her guy asks her she won't say anything because it's not necessary and relevant

What do you think?

Their past is their past why bringing it to their present.

A woman's past affects her present relationship