I think it should be mandatory for intending couples to live together for 6month to 1 year beforeor marriage...I will be sharing my own personal experience.
my fiancee have been staying with me for the past 7month we are getting married next year and our parents knows we are staying together.
I must confess is a lot staying with a woman.... Growing up anytime my mum and dad have misunderstanding and she start complaining about things we the children always support my mum but my dad always tell us we will understand things better when we get married...he was always at receiving end of things.
Now i realised what he meant then.
I have learnt a lot within this few months which I will like to share.
1: women will frustrate you but you must be really patience because is just there nature.
2: Money is the only thing that makes them happy...no matter how good you are on bed or how faithful 70% of her happiness is based on money
3: If you don't have money she will disrespect you no that for sure.
4: women are naturally stingy if she is spending her money on grocery or anything in the house she expecting you to pay her back double.
5: she will try to impose her way of doing things on you/try to control you.
6: women are manipulative if you are not careful she will try to drag you to herself and family alone
7: the only powerful weapon women think they can use to punish you is sex.
8: women expects alot from there man... buying them car,house infact she expects everything to revolve around her.
9: To be honest this sharing of bills thing can't work just save yourself the stress... just no you are carrying 90% of the bills....if she use her money to cook to her she is doing you a favour.
Let me stop here....what I wrote are just my personal experience and what I have heard from married guys.
To be honest no man is complete without a woman infact they are the salt of this world.

So my advise to any man who is planning to marry make sure you live together with her for at least 6 month so you can know the person you're marrying to know if you can handle the pressure and her characters...
Note : As a man if you lack Patience and not able to over look things don't bother marrying ooo.

If you are also staying with your fiancée feel free to add to the list of the things you have learnt.

It's not mandatory that intending couple should live together... because they aren't married yet..because if they do,, they'll be committing fornication.

PLS KEEP QUIET.

To me staying together isn't necessary at all...

She should stay in her papa house more before landing to chop my money,.

Though she will be coming once in a while to wash my bosers and underwares,

That's normal for her because she's my wife,

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Ezi1993:
It's not mandatory that intending couple should live together... because they aren't married yet..because if they do,, they'll be committing fornication.

lol.... the thread is for adults not teenagers

Godoverevery:
I think it should mandatory for intending couples to live together for 6month to 1 year....I will be sharing my own personal experience.
my fiancee have been staying with me for the past 7month we are getting married next year and our parents knows we are staying together.
I must confess is a lot staying with a woman.... Growing up anytime my mum and dad have misunderstanding and she start complaining about things we the children always support my mum but my dad always tell us we will understand things better when we get married...he was always at receiving end of things.
Now i realised what he meant then.
I have learnt a lot within this few months which I will like to share.
1: women will frustrate you but you must be really patience because is just there nature.
2: Money is the only thing that makes them happy...no matter how good you are on bed or how faithful 70% of her happiness is based on money
3: If you don't have money she will disrespect you no that for sure.
4: women are naturally stingy if she is spending her money on grocery or anything in the house she expecting you to pay her back double.
5: she will try to impose her way of doing things on you/try to control you.
6: women are manipulative if you are not careful she will try to drag you to herself and family alone
7: the only powerful weapon women they think they can use to punish you is sex.
8: women expects alot from there man... buying them car,house infact she expects everything to revolve around her.
9: To be honest this sharing of bills thing can't work just save yourself the stress... just no you are carrying 90% of the bills....if she use her money to cook to her she is doing you a favour.
Let me stop here....what I wrote are just my personal experience and what I have heard from married guys.
To be honest no man is complete without a woman infact they are the salt of this world.

So my advise to any man who is planning to marry make sure you live together with her for at least 6 month so you can know the person you're marrying to know if you can handle the pressure and her characters...
Note : As a man if you lack Patience and not able to over look things don't bother marrying ooo.

If you are also staying with you fiancée feel free to add to the list of the things you have learnt.

Guy, you are spot on, 100%. Every single point you listed, from 1-9, played out between me and my girl

It is compulsory that intending couples should cohabitate before finally finalizing marriage. E get reason..


Incase you don't know na me talk

davidhobo:


Guy, you are spot on, 100%. Every single point you listed, from 1-9, played out between me and my girl

Bro no be small thing ooo

fati2001:
PLS KEEP QUIET.

Na truth he talk nAh

Hmmm

I've never been in a relationship before but tbh, Nairaland has really made me scared of marriage. Not like I ever fancied it before but..... Chai! And the way nairaland portrays women ehen....

Back to Op, I think you're somehow right with the little I've seen.

What do I know anyway?

Fake Christian zealousness kee you there.

Everything is fornication, from your mind to kissing to entanglements whilst living in different homes.

Ezi1993:
It's not mandatory that intending couple should live together... because they aren't married yet..because if they do,, they'll be committing fornication.

While living together is advisable, we humans are different and some people will not want it.

But bia OP, how far were you and your fiancee in the courtship/friendship before engagement?

IF you 'shack up' with someone you are not compatible with, compatibility will not just appear from nowhere.

Godoverevery:
I think it should mandatory for intending couples to live together for 6month to 1 year....I will be sharing my own personal experience.
my fiancee have been staying with me for the past 7month we are getting married next year and our parents knows we are staying together.
I must confess is a lot staying with a woman.... Growing up anytime my mum and dad have misunderstanding and she start complaining about things we the children always support my mum but my dad always tell us we will understand things better when we get married...he was always at receiving end of things.
Now i realised what he meant then.
I have learnt a lot within this few months which I will like to share.
1: women will frustrate you but you must be really patience because is just there nature.
2: Money is the only thing that makes them happy...no matter how good you are on bed or how faithful 70% of her happiness is based on money
3: If you don't have money she will disrespect you no that for sure.
4: women are naturally stingy if she is spending her money on grocery or anything in the house she expecting you to pay her back double.
5: she will try to impose her way of doing things on you/try to control you.
6: women are manipulative if you are not careful she will try to drag you to herself and family alone
7: the only powerful weapon women think they can use to punish you is sex.
8: women expects alot from there man... buying them car,house infact she expects everything to revolve around her.
9: To be honest this sharing of bills thing can't work just save yourself the stress... just no you are carrying 90% of the bills....if she use her money to cook to her she is doing you a favour.
Let me stop here....what I wrote are just my personal experience and what I have heard from married guys.
To be honest no man is complete without a woman infact they are the salt of this world.

So my advise to any man who is planning to marry make sure you live together with her for at least 6 month so you can know the person you're marrying to know if you can handle the pressure and her characters...
Note : As a man if you lack Patience and not able to over look things don't bother marrying ooo.

If you are also staying with your fiancée feel free to add to the list of the things you have learnt.

All women/ ladies are not like your babe. You get?

cooooooks:
While living together is advisable, we humans are different and some people will not want it.

But bia OP, how far were you and your fiancee in the courtship/friendship before engagement?

IF you 'shack up' with someone you are not compatible with, compatibility will not just appear from nowhere.

Bro you can never no a woman well during courtship.... living with a woman day in day out is another level entirely ooo....
She can just provoke you intentionally sometimes and you have to really control yourself....u no women and there mouth.

dorin27:
All women/ ladies are not like your babe. You get?

They are all largely the same

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


They are all largely the same

Okay.

dorin27:
All women/ ladies are not like your babe. You get?

Yes ooo..she is the most beautiful lady on earth and she the one am spending the rest of my life with

She has her flaws and she doesn't pretend or act perfect like you. . lol.
I call her "mama" because she not a saint like you

Godoverevery:

Yes ooo..she is the most beautiful lady on earth and she the one am spending the rest of my life with

She has her flaws and she doesn't pretend or act perfect like you. . lol.
I call her "mama" because she not a saint like you

Congratulations in advance is all I'll say to you. As for other things you wrote, I'll pretend I did not see them.

dorin27:
Congratulations in advance is all I'll say to you. As for other things you wrote, I'll pretend I did not see them.

Thanks saint Mary

fati2001:
PLS KEEP QUIET.

Pretty lady are you based in Lagos?

Godoverevery:

Thanks saint Mary

You're welcome.

dorin27:
Congratulations in advance is all I'll say to you. As for other things you wrote, I'll pretend I did not see them.

shots fired... why u Dodge the bullet na?

brain54:

shots fired... why u Dodge the bullet na?

because I choose to.

I know people and their mouths. You should not be thinking of "controlling yourself" even in a heated argument. If you are with someone who you often find yourself needing 'control' to not hit them; take a break to avoid stories that touch.

Potential domestic abuse aside, I largely agree that you need to live together with your gf before proposing/marrying. However, do not live with someone for 2 years if you don't want to marry (and she does).

Godoverevery:

Bro you can never no a woman well during courtship.... living with a woman day in day out is another level entirely ooo....
She can just provoke you intentionally sometimes and you have to really control yourself....u no women and there mouth.

dorin27:
because I choose to.

good decision... its late. won't you sleep?

brain54:

good decision... its late. won't you sleep?

I will...after you sleep

dorin27:
I will...after you sleep

I thought its ladies first...

brain54:

I thought its ladies first...

it doesn't have to be that way all the time.

dorin27:
it doesn't have to be that way all the time.

hmmm...OK let me unfold my mat

aswr..I can't marry a man dat I have not stayed with 4 ar least a week to 2 weeks

Living together before marriage is unnecessary. You can easily know your potential spouse by taking the time to court, study (their personality, habits, beliefs), and ask them the right questions. In the words of Nietzsche, “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory". If you answer in the affirmative, there's no need to cohabitate. If not, then you need to go back to the drawing board.