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| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 10:52pm On Dec 05, 2024 |
Onegai:Alright coward? 👍 Or is it old hag with a mug so ugly she's like a bulldog chewing a wasp too scared to show that face that looks like a slapped ass on a video call and be proven wrong you deluded CuNT |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 7:19pm On Dec 06, 2024 |
Banned for a grand total of 3 hours 🤣🤣 |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by armyofone(m): 10:31pm On Dec 06, 2024 |
Fenrir:German beer is it then! Send the 6 or 12 packs in ![]() |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 10:33pm On Dec 06, 2024 |
armyofone:6 or 12? Mate im European we buy by the crate and thats 24 |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by armyofone(m): 10:36pm On Dec 06, 2024 |
Fenrir:24 crates then...actually make it 48 ![]() |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 10:43pm On Dec 06, 2024 |
armyofone:From my experience you guys cant handle alcohol but id love to see you try and keep up, you'd be one and done on first night of oktoberfest I miss a good skål, all are welcome take a chair there is plenty ale to share Skål Skål SKÅL |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 9:53am On Dec 07, 2024 |
Fenrir:Werey 🤣🤣 |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 9:56am On Dec 07, 2024 |
Fenrir:It is cultural. Every ethnic group and race have their own sets of cultures and we have to respect them, no matter how strange they may seem to us as individuals |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 10:00am On Dec 07, 2024 |
Fenrir:Don't let Tiv people read this. Those folks are walking brewries |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 10:31am On Dec 07, 2024 |
Ishilove:Not true asshole when you come to marry European women we dont demand you do anything because your not us Real respect is understanding interracial means intercultural and when we come to Nigeria only 6% actually do your bullshit Introduction yes, bride price yes, but thats it you see marriage and life after are more important then the childlike egos of your fathers and uncles |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 11:46am On Dec 07, 2024 |
Fenrir:You are very ill mannered. Since you lack the capacity to engage in civil discourse on social media like your neanderthal ancestors, I must insist you fvck off forever. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by naptu2: 11:53am On Dec 07, 2024 |
Ishilove:You should know by now that there are trolls that are on Nairaland to advance certain interests. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Magnoliaa(f): 12:09pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
Wahala o. Called someone a fool, called another an asshole. All unprovoked. Because he has thrown a bunch of high-falutin "social marker and status" word salad around now, everyone assumed the girl in question is with him because of that and he's a catch. When he's clearly a walking, flashing neon sign. At 39 at that. A God-hating single father. I CANNOT imagine what someone in proximity to him will be experiencing seeing how repulsed I am by his vibes only based off of his comments on here. Osino made her feel safe and secured. Naso. OLRBRK lmao (just incase you quote me to insult me as well). |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Magnoliaa(f): 12:22pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
Alright coward? 👍Oh. I did not even see this. This is certainly a Yabaleft case atp. O de le lowo G-boy ninu sha. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 12:40pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
naptu2:It is pretty obvious |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by rapheal5(m): 1:52pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
Fenrir:calm down bro not all tribes in nigeria ask for arms and legs before you can marry their daughter.... |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by cococandy(f): 3:16pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
Don’t let me slap you What’s this? Fenrir: |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Acidosis(m): 5:31pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
cococandy:Sorry, I couldn't resist 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by cococandy(f): 8:07pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
Acidosis:He just insulted the whole country. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
rapheal5:Thats the point mate, its not up to the tribe, its not up to the family, its up to the bride and groom only If a couple decide to do none of it all Are the coppers called? Does anyone go to prison? Does anyone die? Is there an earthquake? Does the world end? Can anyone actually stop a wedding? Im choosing to the small introduction and a modern bride price because my country vales honour and duty not Fake religion like you Not fake respect like you Not dark age and meaningless bullshit traditions like you The mrs already told her family if its choice between them and me she will always choose me as they have never done anything for her |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Acidosis(m): 9:57pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
cococandy:I know he must have said something awful. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by rapheal5(m): 11:06pm On Dec 07, 2024 |
Fenrir:You sounded like you love nigeria but you dislike everything in it, the fact that you're unlucky to meet people you share the same ideal of life with doesn't mean you should cancel everything about nigeria... In your world where you came from there are fake people too and alot of psychopath.. No where and no one is perfect.... |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 12:10am On Dec 08, 2024*. Modified: 2:21am On Dec 08, 2024 |
rapheal5:Go back and read what i actually said I love everything about your country excepct 3 things 1) the religious abuse as it doesn't if i dont believe in your god or not as it doesnt impact any life but mine, am i a militant atheist? Am i forcing it on you? 2) the lies from the much older generations saying crap about wedding traditions being mandatory, no country on earth outside north Korea and strictly muslim countries have ever made culture or tradition mandatory, its only mandatory for you if you want multiple wives but then you cant have civil or white weddings only traditional allows you have multiple,but im white so nowhere on earth am i allow multiple wives or i go to prison so traditional doesn't fucking matter 3) cow skin is food here to me thats nasty but i eat pigs skin in the form of crackling and fried pigs blood for black pudding so each to their own i guess |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 12:27am On Dec 08, 2024 |
Ishilove:You admit neanderthals existed? Interesting as that proves your religion wrong as evidence 9 other species of humans existing has been discovered, and most Europeans do have 2-4% neanderthal dna as our species interbred with them at around the last ice ages and yes its 4% in me |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 2:21am On Dec 08, 2024 |
cococandy:Oh yes please ma'am, Your welcome to slap me you kinky little minx |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by tosinhtml: 4:41am On Dec 08, 2024 |
rapheal5:Maybe it's his terrible wording, I do agree with him on religion over education in Nigeria, the selfish and greedy wedding process in Nigeria is absolutely bizarre. Wedding processes in Nigeria from Families especially from Imo State & those South West Yoruba alaga ceremonies are just a way to grab every little penny they can get, more like selling their daughters to slave trade. The whole marriage tradition in Nigeria should be absolutely abolished. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 7:13am On Dec 08, 2024 |
tosinhtml:It's not going anywhere, neither will culture be abolished because they are the best rock of every society. Can they be modified to reflect modern realities? Yes. Can they be abused? Like every man made system, yes they can. Does culture evolve? Yes. Is culture dynamic? Some aspects are. If you try to erase what makes a people unique, what forms their identity and belief system, then you will have a very big problem on your hands. VERY BIG |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by tosinhtml: 7:25am On Dec 08, 2024 |
Ishilove:What you described is not a culture, the culture is meeting up with families & introducing yourself which is what is needed. Every other thing such as bride's uncles & aunties extorting bride groom's family is completely unnecessary & should be abolished totally. Besides we are quick to abolish other forms of culture that we don't like, but what it is comes to the greedy one that allows extortion, we hang on it like our lives depend on it. You follow someone to a wedding ceremony in South West, the alagas want to use the opportunity to extort all the guests, both married & unmarried. What sort of culture is that?! |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by rapheal5(m): 7:48am On Dec 08, 2024 |
Fenrir:Well i think the religion and wedding tradition is all about our personality... My dad was a muslim he's dead now, my mom is a christian, i only remember following him to mosque once, i prefer going with my mom to church till i was old enough to make a choice... My father never discriminate he sees life in a different way entirely compare to other muslim men, he never force any of us to learn quran, before his death my brothers never go to church or mosque... He was a retired soldier and before any muslim condemn my father as a non true muslim he was born and brought up by top islamic scholar in Islamic way an indigene of a state muslim claimed is closer to paradize in nigeria.... My mom a devoted christian never force any of her children to go to church, it's by choice and lastly my sister got married till today we never ask her husband to come pay for her dowry or call him for anything.... Eastern ppl with long brides list can't be compare with southwest alaga, the alaga primary job in traditional wedding is too make the wedding fun more like a MC, it's by choice, most yoruba brides list will contain a medium size basket, and it's mostly fruits, 7 or 21 yam max, 1 red wine and 1 bottle of local gin, they won't ask you to provide what the whole family can't afford or lack... |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Ishilove: 9:33am On Dec 08, 2024 |
tosinhtml:You're still not getting my point. You write that the whole marriage tradition should be abolished, and I countered that it cannot and will not be abolished because every society has their culture and traditions. In my post, I also mentioned that those practices can be abused, just like any man made system. The extortion from family members is one of the forms of abuses that happen in the course of carrying out our cultural practices. You can only call the abusers to order, not abolish centuries old identity pillars of a people. |
| Re: I Need Wedding Advice Please by Fenrir(op): 10:58am On Dec 08, 2024*. Modified: 11:19am On Dec 08, 2024 |
rapheal5:I have no problem a bride price, i think its bloody wonderful and i believe it should be legally mandatory worldwide as it would save a lot of women marrying deadbeats, if a man wants a wife and family he should prove he is capable of providing for them The things i have a problem with are you only want to celebrate YOUR traditions Interracial marriage means intercultural wedding so the best of brides traditions and the best of the grooms so 50/50 and not cultural domination from 1 side If a groom is not Nigerian you let him marry you proudly as himself If something is forbidden in his culture like prostration then you dont demand or expect him to do at all especially with all his people watching insulting his family to stroke the ego of yours And i mean by greedy and selfish is the introduction process and who you expect to attend Mother Father Siblings Aunts Uncles Cousins Friends Religious leaders Mentors And bosses Bleep that!! If not raised to do it, how do you expect a man to cope with it? The groom and his people travel to the brides people with gifts and money and hosts its your duty to make sure the guests are comfortable with situation so it is just sheer greed and selfishness to expect the gifts and money then also demand who attends as it should only be who the groom wants to meet that day Only mother, father and siblings are important Kinsmen are only needed for a traditional bride price if a traditional wedding is happening, if not the immediate family can just give a list of whats truly important to them and the groom gets that As nothing about a bride price is legally mandatory or set Its only socially considered mandatory not legally, huge difference |
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