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I have seen Millenials and Gen Zs mock our parents and grandparents for marrying through arranged setups, where love was secondary to family and societal expectations.

They see it as unromantic and outdated. But while they laugh, one question stands out: has the freedom to choose love made modern relationships any better?

Today, people are free to date and marry whoever they want, yet heartbreak is more common than ever. The idea of arranged marriages now feels outdated and unappealing. However, one thing is clear: many of those “unromantic” marriages managed to stand the test of time, while modern love stories often crumble under pressure.

Many in this generation date 10, 20, or more people in search of “the one,” only to end up disillusioned. Failed relationships, emotional scars, and unrealistic expectations have created a generation of emotional zombies.
An emotional zombie is someone who has been through so many heartbreaks that they’ve lost the ability to connect deeply with others. They go through the motions in relationships but are too guarded and cynical to truly love.

This is becoming more common today. People enter marriage not because they’re ready to love, but because they’re tired of being alone. Sadly, this emotional detachment often leads to more failed marriages.

Our parents’ marriages, though not always based on love, often lasted because they prioritized commitment, compatibility, and shared goals. Modern couples, on the other hand, are more likely to give up at the first sign of trouble, constantly searching for perfection that doesn’t exist.

To fix this, we need to learn from the past. Heal your emotional wounds before entering relationships, focus on shared values rather than perfection, and remember that lasting love requires effort and resilience.

Is modern love truly better, or have we lost something valuable?

Let’s discuss!


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Nice Write up.

All the arranged marriage I know has lasted longer than the ones that started through relationship

Could this mean that love is not enough?

Are we just going after an illusion now a days?

With arranged marriage, couples get married to coexist and endure each other rather than for love, already they know that there's no room for divorce because they never loved one another from the beginning.

But that doesn't mean they never cheated on each other with the people they love.

Emotional Vampires


STD/STI lab rats

Love doesn't exist and has never existed.
What we call love is an emotional lapse which could heal would time as reality dawns on the 'contriver'.
Love experience that most people claim, makes them subject to manipulation by the second party in the love game.

Just perform your duties ceremoniously and enjoy an enduring relationship.

That way you will not be a subject of manipulation in your home.

Uchefame:
All the arranged marriage I know has lasted longer than the ones that started through relationship

That's because arranged marriage is just low-key slavery. The husband in such a marriage is a slave buyer and the wife's family is the slave seller with the wife herself being the commodity(Slave) to be sold(Bride price).

It lasts longer because the wife is just property, and "property" cannot demand for equal rights.

You can say that again, there's this Pakistani man where my sister lives, last year he got into an arranged marriage with a 15 years old child from Pakistan... From what I heard, she can't speak any English, I guess he made a deal with her family, which was to marry her in exchange of supporting them financially since he's a business man.

The girl is not allowed to leave the house in his absence or even go outside of the house... When she goes out with the man, she has to cover her entire face and this is SA where Sharia law is not applicable, I'm not trying to disrespect other people's faith, but she should at least just wear a hijab and not a niqab... This man proudly told my sister that the girl's duty as his wife is to sleep with him, give birth to his children, and nothing more because they already have a maid.

She's not allowed to go to school or make friends... Apparently she gave birth to a baby girl this year and the man even invited my sister to come and see the baby because they get along just fine as neighbours.

Everyday365:
That's because arranged marriage is just low-key slavery. The husband in such a marriage is a slave buyer and the wife's family is the slave seller with the wife herself being the commodity(Slave) to be sold(Bride price).

It lasts longer because the wife is just property, and "property" cannot demand for equal rights.

Samantha125:
You can say that again, there's this Pakistani man where my sister lives, last year he got into an arranged marriage with a 15 years old child from Pakistan... From what I heard, she can't speak any English, I guess he made a deal with her family, which was to marry her in exchange of supporting them financially since he's a business man.

The girl is not allowed to leave the house in his absence or even go outside of the house... When she goes out with the man, she has to cover her entire face and this is SA where Sharia law is not applicable, I'm not trying to disrespect other people's faith, but she should at least just wear a hijab and not a niqab... This man proudly told my sister that the girl's duty as his wife is to sleep with him, give birth to his children, and nothing more because they already have a maid.

She's not allowed to go to school or make friends... Apparently she gave birth to a baby girl this year and the man even invited my sister to come and see the baby because they get along just fine as neighbours.

Wow! 😳 That's terrible. 😔

That's the problem with all these traditional types. They believe that stone age, primitive ways are rational.

Also we meet again, it looks like you are from South Africa, thought you were pretending. Looks like it was my bad.

Have we met before? I don't remember...😅😅😅

Everyday365:
Wow! 😳 That's terrible. 😔

That's the problem with all these traditional types. They believe that stone age, primitive ways are rational.

Also we meet again, it looks like you are from South Africa, thought you were pretending. Looks like it was my bad.

Samantha125:
Have we met before? I don't remember...😅😅😅

You don't remember?
Ok 👌 thanks 👍
Forget everything i just said. 🤗

You're that guy who refused to translate pidgin for me...

I went digging...😅😅😅

Everyday365:
You don't remember?
Ok 👌 thanks 👍
Forget everything i just said. 🤗

Samantha125:
You're that guy who refused to translate pidgin for me...

I went digging...😅😅😅

😙 nope that's not me.
Don't know who that is.

You called me an Americana and said I was forming ajebo...🤦🤦🤦

You owe me for playing with me like that...😑😑😑

Everyday365:
😙 nope that's not me.
Don't know who that is.

No love on the streets.

Everyone just trying to play smart, and not get outsmarted.
Really crazy times to find love.

ATEAMS:
Emotional Vampires

STD/STI lab rats

Two lines only.

Sound deep.

ItisWell22:
No love on the streets.

Everyone just trying to play smart, and not get outsmarted.
Really crazy times to find love.



Two lines only.

Sound deep.

Absolutely.... it's just what it's

Samantha125:
You called me an Americana and said I was forming ajebo...🤦🤦🤦

You owe me for playing with me like that...😑😑😑

Ok then. What should I do?

Don't worry, one day is one day...

Everyday365:

Ok then. What should I do?