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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Nobody: 5:32am On Dec 20, 2024
How is work ethnic and business sense? Are you ready to take risk or you like stability? What age did you make your first million naira? Are you people friendly or know how to network? Is your Shakara too much that you drive men away? Or descent that good men want to date you?
If you have business sense then there is a chance you will be successful. For example of 2 tailors who sews native. One knew how to network with rich peeps and made his craftmanship or tailoring skills is one of the Best. The other tailor did not know how to network and his tailoring skills was avetabe
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by drstranged: 5:43am On Dec 20, 2024
If you're a Christian then you'd understand God's concept of the role of a woman and marriage. If you desire to get married and have a happy marriage, then you must understand that as a woman your husband and children now come first before your chase for wealth. If you choose to be single then you can chase as much wealth as you want without having any man as husband to submit to or without having the primary responsibility of your family (husband and children), even though chasing this option will probably come at a cost of your happiness because truth is, there's no amount of wealth you acvumulate that will give you happiness as a woman if you don't have a loving family (husband and kids) to fall back on.
So essentially like many have said here, you'd probably have to sacrifice or compromise. Choose what's more important to you. But know that if you marry, you might still be able to chase your wealth but your primary duty would now shift to playing your role as wife and mother. Every other thing can be achieved but they become secondary compared to the first. And finally, you must have an understanding husband who would key into your ambitions, and you MUST REMAIN SUBMISSIVE to him (which I doubt MOST women can do).
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by richmond500: 5:53am On Dec 20, 2024
idahme:
Children will come later grin grin grin grin grin grin grin, Nkonjo iweala was having children in addition to her career and blossomed. Millions of ladies have done this and became successful. No man who has his senses on will ever agree to this views of yours but majority Wil agree she gives birth to fewer children and then squarely face her dreams.

Child birthing won't hold you down, even for those who work in big corporations there are opportunities for women to birth children without any consequences so what is the fuse about child birth hindering your goals. If she thinks it will it's better not to get married or tell the man she is involved with about her intentions not to get pregnant so he makes his decisions appropriately.
childbirth and taking care of children when they are small is such a task, if she doesn't want to, u can't force her into it.
You don't know her dreams so don't compare her to Ngozi Iweala who rose to fame politically
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Baronthecelebri(m): 6:13am On Dec 20, 2024
I support you, pursue money when it's time to have children, just fine one guy to give you belle, simple as ABCD
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by verdad00: 7:15am On Dec 20, 2024
You can have them both if you are a true born again christian. You don't need to sacrifice any thing cause JESUS CHRIST has done that already. Humble yourself before GOD and he will send you a true born again Christian man/husband.

With GOD all things are possible
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by id4sho(m): 8:07am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
Get a man with same goal as you
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by idahme(m): 9:59am On Dec 20, 2024
richmond500:
childbirth and taking care of children when they are small is such a task, if she doesn't want to, u can't force her into it.
You don't know her dreams so don't compare her to Ngozi Iweala who rose to fame politically
If she doesn't want to you can't force her grin, who is forcing her? No one, if she thinks child birth will hinder it's good she never gets married at all.

Some women are in her shoes but won't open up and tell their spouses about their intentions not to get pregnant or give birth but will go ahead to take birth control pills unknown to the man, that's fraud and should never be tolerated. If I can bear my responsibilities in marriage what stops you from bearing yours? I repeat no man in his senses including you will let his wife continue pursuing her career without giving him a child until she passes the time of birth.

what age do you even think a woman with this mindset can reach before getting married? Probably she is between the ages of 25 and 32 after graduation and NYSC , what years will she chase her dreams before thinking of childbirth? You want the husband to wait until she enters menopause? grin Some women experience this from age of 30s grin.

Career woman keep careering grin. Check around you, majority of the successful women the world over are married, gave birth and did their career alongside. If anyone thinks otherwise she better not deceive anyone by staying single so she can do whatever she likes.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by oyeb15: 10:34am On Dec 20, 2024
God dont give with both hands.


Live with dat.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Jackipapa: 10:35am On Dec 20, 2024
Fear not, make money and make your choice of who father your children.
Do this and thank me later!
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by mysticwarrior(m): 10:35am On Dec 20, 2024
Na your t0t0 be the price wey you go pay just like Genevieve, and it's not even a guarantee.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Nobody: 10:39am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
Make ya money. You should be able to get any type of dîck if true love becomes unavailable.
You can get sperm donors too to have ya own kids.
Money is the data of life.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by faoogoke(m): 10:42am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
You cannot eat your cake and have it!
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by NobleStag007: 10:42am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
Don't marry a stupid person.

All man love successful women.

Don't marry for handsome or money.. kindness and understanding is the key
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Okiton: 10:43am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
Become successful first

Day don break again for more yeye topics
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by unmask: 10:45am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
follow your heart. What you will regret is doing one and spending the rest of your life regretting. So whichever burns deep is what you follow
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by israelmao(m):
If the top is your aim sometimes you need a total separation from the world of distractions in order to build a glorious destiny.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by casualobserver:
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
You can’t have everything in life…no one does. Choose the one you will not regret. As a woman I will advise you prioritize family and children. That is Gods purpose for women. Trust me career success as a woman will come at great cost to you (or your children) because it is not the natural path for a woman. People may admire and applaud you if you reach great career heights as a woman but you will bear the pain of choosing career over family in private.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Faposky95: 10:50am On Dec 20, 2024
Omoawoke:
Family is a team work, not individual success.

The way you desire success for yourself “I want to be wealthy!”
What happens to “I want I and my husband to be wealthy “
Afterall, your family wealth is for you, your husband and children… I sense a kind of selfish ambition (pardon my judgment)
But I as a man, will avoid someone like you… nothing personal, but I rather prefer to be with a woman that knows that when it’s time to make sacrifices, she won’t hesitate when necessary for the overall good of the family.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by GoldenEagleNG(m): 10:50am On Dec 20, 2024
Namaster:
Marriage and children are EXCUSES used by rat-minded women to justify their MEDIOCRITY.

Choose a spouse that whose ambitions and expectations ALIGN with yours.

DON'T marry a man who's interested in a homemaker and turn around to bitch about it.

FOLLOW the footsteps of the Venerable Madam Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala.
You got it correct. They know what they want, but they choose to look for men who are at the other side of life that doesn't alighn with what they want. Then they end up complaining.

Am beginning to believe women are build up for self-destruction. They know all the good things of life but decide always to test the destructive part out of experimentation or out of stupidity.

If you are an ambitious woman, either choose a man who will never be jealous of you or less ambitious to either envy you but asslick you. The consequence is, you will be denied that protection women innately demands . The other is that, you will get a sisi man that will never amount to much.

This are the main option, but I know deep down in her mind, she is looking for a man that is is ambitious like her with lots of money that just need a wife that is respectful and ready to care for him and the fafamily.

It always end in commatose
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Cocolatti(m): 10:51am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
What most of us refuse to accept is that everything has a price. The architect of the universe made it in such a way that everything should be in moderation. It's difficult to eat your cake and still have it.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by fineboynl(m): 10:51am On Dec 20, 2024
Under this tinubu government. Do people still talk about becoming wealthy?
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by QuestLINKsPrpty(f): 10:52am On Dec 20, 2024
ednut1:
Okonjo Iweala is not marriedhuh Dora Akunyili didn’t marry? Make una dey calm down abeg
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Streetmovement(m): 10:52am On Dec 20, 2024
Wotoporiously cool speaking

In the opposite direction I'm beginning to think I'm not gonna find love again cuz time no dey again, speaking of sacrifice I will gladly sacrifice love for money 💰

As a man I need to focus on the bag now more than ever, if love come meet me for road with the bag no wahala.

Do what works best for you, I rest my case
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by babestell(f): 10:53am On Dec 20, 2024
Look for role models who have what you have and observe them. Ask questions, learn from their mistakes, learn their skills. you can have the best of both worlds.

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by lymelyte(m):
As a woman,you chances of securing a man dwindle as your climb up the ladder. Climbing up the ladder makes you develop masculine trait which a real man doesn't find attractive.
Secondly, as you become successful as a woman,your taste for men becomes higher. And as we know it through psychological evolution,women are hypergamous which means that women like to submit to men higher than them. I.e women tend to date upwards while men usually don't have any issue dating downwards.
The pool of high value men up the food chain want to put up with a submissive feminine woman not an assertive/masculine successful woman. So the pool of men available for you to date as a successful lady shrinks unfortunately. Also,if you by chance find that man,best believe you won't be the only one in the picture...
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by everyday: 10:54am On Dec 20, 2024
Marry me as a second wife and i will grant you the freedom you want.Ifninyerested,quote me

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by TossTos(m): 10:56am On Dec 20, 2024
Honey , do not sacrifice or trade you aspiration, passion or dreams for this excuses..
Everyman want a successful woman , that is the blunt truth .. A man might hide it for his woman , but deep down we want a successful or let me say a wealthy woman that we might co build our homes .. taking this current situation of this country as a case study ... You have a go ahead from me personally, to purse your dreams first , then let's talk of other things .. I personally like woman who are industrious. And me , i will gladly , religiously and compulsorily must support....

Go and thrive my woman
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Omoawoke(m): 10:59am On Dec 20, 2024
verdad00:
You can have them both if you are a true born again christian. You don't need to sacrifice any thing cause JESUS CHRIST has done that already. Humble yourself before GOD and he will send you a true born again Christian man/husband.

With GOD all things are possible
You that Jesus has sacrificed for you, where’s your perfect life?
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Adakintroy: 11:00am On Dec 20, 2024
Rich people are not lonely they are always around people but their dealings are mostly impersonal
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by NNEVERAGAINN: 11:02am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
Okay. What exactly do you want?
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by eyenogoquiet(m): 11:02am On Dec 20, 2024
You no stand well, you fit even loose 2:0
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Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by sonofsteven: 11:04am On Dec 20, 2024
Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.
I've got a solid advice for ya

Pursue your career

When you get some certain amount of success, go for sperm donor, carry pregnancy and deliver as much as you want and continue your life

If you are unable to carry pregnancy, or pregnancies, pay for surrogacy, have your eggs taken and fertilized in another's and you pay them

So it won't disturb your career
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