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Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by bentenny(m):
So u think marriage turned his financial life around😆😆
Dey play!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by BrotherJapa:
LordIsaac:
But of a truth, I know of someone who has suffered for like 36 years....on the 37th year he got married, and gbam....ĥe now travels around the world. The wife is just but a university undergraduate who appears very decent.
These kind of stories are why Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world. It is straight from the books of Lamba, Chapter 10, verse 5!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by udemzyudex(m): 10:48pm On Dec 21, 2024
Lol.. Nice script, na to expand am turn am to movie remain.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Sweetvie: 10:49pm On Dec 21, 2024
Don't give up
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by LordIsaac(m): 10:50pm On Dec 21, 2024
BrotherJapa:
These kind of stories are why Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world. It is straight from the book of Lamba, Chapter 10, verse 5!
I understand your bias; marriage should not be entered into carelessly!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Emmabyte: 10:50pm On Dec 21, 2024
Sleep just sleep yes keep sleeping
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Afolue(m): 10:54pm On Dec 21, 2024
Struggling at 40! Omo..! That one serious oh..! Even wheelbarrow pusher for don make am by some level @40
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by BrotherJapa:
LordIsaac:
I understand your bias, marriage should not be entered into carelessly!
In life, you plan according to the rules that apply to the most people and not the exceptions or what we call "outliers". Over 80% who married in abject poverty will die in poverty, that is the statistics for the majority. If you marry as a broke man, you will understand the suffering that Job passed through in the Bible.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by LordIsaac(m): 10:58pm On Dec 21, 2024
BrotherJapa:
In life, you plan you life according to the rules to applies to most people and not the exceptions or what we call the "outliers". Over 80% who married in abject poverty died in poverty, that is the statistics for the majority. If you marry as a broke man, you will understand the suffering that Job passed through in the Bible.
I agree with you totally, without ignoring the outliers.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by youngrichnigga: 10:59pm On Dec 21, 2024
Tell your guy to cut soap for you or give you his Baba's contact. Hussle o before you marry make you not regret undecided undecided undecided
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by dododawa1: 10:59pm On Dec 21, 2024
The worst part is that this guy was my guy back then but as soon as he made money.
He shun all of us.






Matured minds,will understand better.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 10:59pm On Dec 21, 2024
BrotherJapa:
➜In life, you plan you life according to the rules to applies to most people and not the exceptions or what we call the "outliers". Over 80% who married in abject poverty died in poverty, that is the statistics for the majority. If you marry as a broke man, you will understand the suffering that Job passed through in the Bible.
... without the relief that Job, an Israelite, eventually enjoyed. undecided
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 11:01pm On Dec 21, 2024
LordIsaac:
➜I agree with you totally, without ignoring the outliers.
Those described by the OP are the outliers! They are not even considered a minority since there is no link between the success that came to them after marriage and marriage itself. undecided
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by LordIsaac(m): 11:03pm On Dec 21, 2024
Kobojunkie:
Those described by the OP are the outliers! They are not even considered a minority since there is no link between the success that came to them after marriage and marriage itself. undecided
There may be links not captured by the article. I am not implying causation here; and I must add that there may be confounding variables that strengthen the association/connection between marriage and economic success.

Take for instance, in developmental literature looking at major turning point indicators over the life course for individuals, Samson & Laub (1996) argue that marriage can be a good predictor of desistance. So, it won't be out of place to associate it with improved socio-economic status.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Ouchbabe(f): 11:06pm On Dec 21, 2024
PlanetZero:
Just travel out
Is not that easy oo.
My friend travelled to Canada this January and I know the whooping millions she spent.
No be everybody get that kain moni
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 11:08pm On Dec 21, 2024
LordIsaac:
➜There may be links not captured by the article. I am not implying causation, but there may be confounding variables that strengthen the association/connection.
Stop dribbling your self! undecided
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by BrotherJapa: 11:13pm On Dec 21, 2024
Kobojunkie:
Those described by the OP are the outliers! They are not even considered a minority since there is no link between the success that came to them after marriage and marriage itself. undecided
These people nor understand wetin outliers mean reason their pastors continue to cash out with Lamba stories.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Omalicious1: 11:16pm On Dec 21, 2024
Sirchiboy:
Well I think if you are in this shoes.
I will tell you a story of a guy that blew up in just two years after getting married.
This guy had been struggling in ph.
He worked in Mr sweet as a cook.
Worked in differen places for years but nothing.
All of us used to play betting in rumuola.
But as soon as he got married this guy blew up..
Now this guy control millions.
Bought house in different places and cars.
The business he is doing is just interior decorations and furniture.
The worst part is that this guy was my guy back then but as soon as he made money.
He shun all of us.
Me next year I don go marry ooo.
I know believe that some women carry grace and anointing that really open doors for men ooo .
If he shunned you immediately he started making millions, well, he just showed you that he was never your guy in the first place. No matter what, don't compare your life to his, there might be certain deep things about him that if u know, you will be more happier than him. Don't get carried away by his lifestyle. Focus on your hustle, your time will come.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by omooba969(m): 11:17pm On Dec 21, 2024
Sirchiboy:
Well I think if you are in this shoes.
I will tell you a story of a guy that blew up in just two years after getting married.
This guy had been struggling in ph.
He worked in Mr sweet as a cook.
Worked in differen places for years but nothing.
All of us used to play betting in rumuola.
But as soon as he got married this guy blew up..
Now this guy control millions.
Bought house in different places and cars.
The business he is doing is just interior decorations and furniture.
The worst part is that this guy was my guy back then but as soon as he made money.
He shun all of us.
Me next year I don go marry ooo.
I know believe that some women carry grace and anointing that really open doors for men ooo .
Something is definitely wrong with you, you need a psychiatric evaluation ASAPU!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by BrotherJapa: 11:17pm On Dec 21, 2024
To stay away from dating and procreating in order not to spread the sapavirus.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by MamaOghenero(f): 11:22pm On Dec 21, 2024
LordIsaac:
But of a truth, I know of someone who has suffered for like 36 years....on the 37th year he got married, and gbam....ĥe now travels around the world. The wife is just but a university undergraduate who appears very decent.
If data subscription was costlier, it would have saved us from seeing comments like this.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by LordIsaac(m): 11:23pm On Dec 21, 2024
MamaOghenero:
If data subscription was costlier, it would have saved us from seeing comments like this.
Avoid the fallacy of generalization. You don't know all the story!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by LordIsaac(m): 11:25pm On Dec 21, 2024
Kobojunkie:
Stop dribbling your self! undecided
You don't know all the story!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by AfonjaPriest: 11:26pm On Dec 21, 2024
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Pickmycall: 11:28pm On Dec 21, 2024
Sirchiboy:
Well I think if you are in this shoes.
I will tell you a story of a guy that blew up in just two years after getting married.
This guy had been struggling in ph.
He worked in Mr sweet as a cook.
Worked in differen places for years but nothing.
All of us used to play betting in rumuola.
But as soon as he got married this guy blew up..
Now this guy control millions.
Bought house in different places and cars.
The business he is doing is just interior decorations and furniture.
The worst part is that this guy was my guy back then but as soon as he made money.
He shun all of us.
Me next year I don go marry ooo.
I know believe that some women carry grace and anointing that really open doors for men ooo .
How him take blew?Abi na Nollywood movie you dey tell us?
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Kobojunkie:
LordIsaac:
➜You don't know all the story!
I don't need to know all stories. I simply need to know that there is no physical evidence between being married and having success in business or a career. The billions of successful people around the world who found success long before even imagining marriage are more than enough proof of this simple fact. undecided

Even a child in primary 2 should be able to explain this one to you easily.

If a single individual can be successful in business and/or career then what that means is that marriage has nothing to do with success in business and career.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by dauntless15(m): 11:32pm On Dec 21, 2024
If you're forty and single and yet struggling and this didn't motivate you to make it adding someone else's daughter to your miserable life won't motivate you to make it either, this explains why you're forty and struggling because you're dumb to some extent, someone who should be at a drawing board figuring out what went wrong or how he spent his youth chasing nonsense which led him to be a fool at forty is here concocting stupid superstitious stories of suddenly becoming successful just because you got married, marry naw, you go chop sand tire a bottle will become your best friend that is if you can even afford a drink after that wife of yours who's supposed to be your lucky charm sleeps around with multiple men to make ends meet simply because you couldn't.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by LordIsaac(m): 11:32pm On Dec 21, 2024
Kobojunkie:
I don't need to know all stories. I simply need to know that there is no physical evidence between being married and having success in business or a career. The billions of successful people around the world who found success long before even imagining marriage are more than enough proof of this simple fact. undecided

Even a child in primary 2 should be able to explain this one to you easily.

If a single individual can become successful in business or career then it means marriage has nothing to do with success in business and career.
I beg to differ. Even the richest woman in Nigeria made that association clear. I shall reiterate for emphasis sake, you are entitled to your opinion, but do not assume it holds in all circumstances.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 11:37pm On Dec 21, 2024
LordIsaac:
➜I beg to differ. Even the richest woman in Nigeria made that association clear. I shall reiterate for emphasis sake, you are entitled to your opinion, but do not assume it holds in all circumstances.
Your response does not make sense of any kind. huh
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Lanretoye(m): 11:37pm On Dec 21, 2024
Melagros:
COMRADES, my advice to everyone out there is that, either, 30, 40, or 50, don't marry unprepared under the tenure of this dullard prresident called Tinubu because you'll suffer untold hardship
i don't know why no Hausa or yoruba thinks this way.
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by Emeka511(m): 11:50pm On Dec 21, 2024
Don't give up!!
Re: What Advise Do You Have For 40 Plus who Is Still Struggling In Nigeria by HisXLNC1: 11:51pm On Dec 21, 2024
By age 40, one should be a critical thinker. At this age, one would have had enough experiences in life that can make one wise. If you have existed for 40 years and still have not lived, and don't have a viable means of livelihood, I suggest you 'stoop'. Let go of pride. Acquire a skill (whether you are a graduate or not). Ignore what people will say (idlers will always find something to talk about). What goes on in the head of other people should not affect your resolve, your focus and determination. Soon enough, you too will become a celebrated employer.
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