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This common saying among men, is it true, or just myth? I posted this because of revelation that my friend who is working as a clinical psychologist in one of federal government hospitals shares with me.

He said, many of wives in their 40s, do come for consultancy and usually telling him, about sexual starvation being experienced from their husbands, despite they are married, still young & agile and staying together with hubby.

Because he now sees her for all that she is.

He now understands everything about her and has figured her out.

He now knows and understands how she thinks, why she married him and her meaning of every word or silence.

Now is when he sees she had lied and deceived him and she is not fully all he thought she was and so, problem.

Dtruthspeaker:
Because he now sees her for all that she is.

He now understands everything about her and has figured her out.

He now knows and understands how she thinks, why she married him and her meaning of every word or silence.

Now is when he sees she had lied and deceived him and she is not fully all he thought she was and so, problem.

Is it every wife deceived husband?

Is it after like 10 yrs or more that, he now realise that?

To me, it's just a flimsy excuse by we men to go wayward.

Fiscus105:
Is it every wife deceived husband?

Is it after like 10 yrs or more that, he now realise that?

Yes!

A few some, who actually have been good and devoted wives did not intend to. (98% of the rest, intended to)

And that is why he is even in this state for in his realeyelisation he sees what she has done;

1) If she is among the 2%, then, he is only very very angry and wishes to kick her out but God saves her, for as bad as her offence is, it still does not justify his putting her away.

2) If she is among the 98%, then bye bye marriage. And this is another time the man thinks it is right to cheat. (Mistake). But bye bye marriage.

He won't even be lying down like that picture shows (maybe you at the beginning of his real eyelisation but it certainly ends with him never being on that bed

And all that 10 years went by because he loved her thinking she was what he thought her to be. But, Truth came and kicked him.

"The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable," James A. Garfield,

Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

eventainment:
Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

Uhmmm, prejudice way of reasoning, I guess!

So many men, abandoned their wife sexually and running after girls ,that are not in any way match their wife, even in bedmatic affairs.

The infidelity among married women, high abundantly now, no thanks to sexually deprivation of wife, for no reason by men.

In as much, some women are culprit too, but mostly come from men.

This is bitter fact, that we men shying away from.

Shakara don end. wetin remain?

eventainment:
Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

That is because you are following the op's words whereas what op is talking about is one of the many blows that hits all marriages. but men do not see it coming.

Women using sex as a weapon, is not really here since most people fornicate before they marry, so uncle can see it coming.

But consider this, while you thought she was all over the moon for you is why she married you only for you, over the course of 10 years to start seeing evidences that show you that the other guy who she preferred above you did not want to marry her, and is her spec for now after10years you now know the Truth of what she likes and she would like to and that actually she is just managing you.

Can you deal with that?

And God help you, that you are already suspicious of her chieating with someone close to her who is her spec. oya na, go and lie down next to her not to talk of riding her, let me see.

eventainment:
Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

This is the truth...the whole truth.

From a married mans perspective, visiting a particular place constantly for that long wears away the thrill and excitement and eventually seems like a chore, and men don't like chores so they either get frustrated and die in silence or do the sneak out to explore the forbidden forest.

Some Solutions.

Women should always see themselves as the center of attraction in their marriage and endeavor to reinvent themselves in every possible way as often as possible and to keep their marriage as exciting just like the first day.
They should plan get away trips with their spouse as often as possible and keep the peace in the home to make sex approach more comfortable for the man, cos sex is the last thing on the mind of an angry man.

Because their wives have become unattractive at that age.

Women become sexually unattractive to men from the age of 30 but some men would not agree with me because they want to be political about it.

Most times is because the women become out of shape after childbirth,women should try and maintain their shape ,I know it's not easy .

2aces:
From a married mans perspective, visiting a particular place constantly for that long wears away the thrill and excitement and eventually seems like a chore, and men don't like chores so they either get frustrated and die in silence or do the sneak out to explore the forbidden forest.

Some Solutions.

Women should always see themselves as the center of attraction in their marriage and endeavor to reinvent themselves in every possible way as often as possible and to keep their marriage as exciting just like the first day.
They should plan get away trips with their spouse as often as possible and keep the peace in the home to make sex approach more comfortable for the man, cos sex is the last thing on the mind of an angry man.

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Thanks for this

Ballzproblem2:
Most times is because the women become out of shape after childbirth,women should try and maintain their shape ,I know it's not easy .

So, if the husband now abandoned his wife, such husband dnt have reason to angry if wide go out, to seek sexual pleasure outside oo

I think we need a doctor to break this down to novices like us. For me, as a man gets older his testosterone and want for women also decreases. Most men daily habits of drinking and less exercise doesn’t encourage the bedroom performance coupled with the declining testosterone. As a man’s libido decreases, the woman’s own increases. Fact. So, a woman in her forties always requires sex due to her increase libido. It is now a challenge for the man to meet up. Most men in their forties are beginning to realize the work of the prostrate and are also realizing more about their body - that their body is not the same as it used to be. They most times don’t tell anyone but harbor this inside until it becomes too late. I will advise most to see a urologist and open up on issues regarding their reproductive health.

confidant:
I think we need a doctor to break this down to novices like us. For me, as a man gets older his testosterone and want for women also decreases. Most men daily habits of drinking and less exercise doesn’t encourage the bedroom performance coupled with the declining testosterone. As a man’s libido decreases, the woman’s own increases. Fact. So, a woman in her forties always requires sex due to her increase libido. It is now a challenge for the man to meet up. Most men in their forties are beginning to realize the work of the prostrate and are also realizing more about their body - that their body is not the same as it used to be. They most times don’t tell anyone but harbor this inside until it becomes too late. I will advise most to see a urologist and open up on issues regarding their reproductive health.

This silent problem is eaten deep in marriages, but very difficulty to speak out, more reason pastors having affairs with wives of members

In future, I pray psychologists/ marriage counselors,won't be telling wives to do a little bit infidelity to spice up marriages.

I read people contribution and all I can say is that every one is right, though different opinions but every comment are on pointing out the problems. Objectively there is no single reasons to this.

From...

1. Women weaponizing sex.
2. The aftermath of knowing the woman you marry after marriage.

My submissions:
3. Women wanting men to always be the sex initiator.
4. The modern day stress, some men come back from work tired and weak.
5. The heart of men is heavy, a lot go through the men's mind, ranging from family issue to other issues.
6. Mental health capacity of the men also matter.
7. Financial stress.

A man cannot be going through aforementioned points and you expect him to be sexually active.

Fiscus105:
So, if the husband now abandoned his wife, such husband dnt have reason to angry if wide go out, to seek sexual pleasure outside oo

marriage should be dissolved.

Dtruthspeaker:
Because he now sees her for all that she is.

He now understands everything about her and has figured her out.

He now knows and understands how she thinks, why she married him and her meaning of every word or silence.

Now is when he sees she had lied and deceived him and she is not fully all he thought she was and so, problem.

Lie lie. Only selfish people does that.
Secondly, aren't you dumb if you can't see through a woman before marriage?
Or not smart enough not to be able to control the aerodynamic of your life

Dtruthspeaker:
That is because you are following the op's words whereas what op is talking about is one of the many blows that hits all marriages. but men do not see it coming.

Women using sex as a weapon, is not really here since most people fornicate before they marry, so uncle can see it coming.

But consider this, while you thought she was all over the moon for you is why she married you only for you, over the course of 10 years to start seeing evidences that show you that the other guy who she preferred above you did not want to marry her, and is her spec for now after10years you now know the Truth of what she likes and she would like to and that actually she is just managing you.

Can you deal with that?

And God help you, that you are already suspicious of her chieating with someone spe close to her who is not her spec. oya na, go and lie down next to her not to talk of riding her, let me see.

From this angle, there is a sense of truth as well. Especially women they marry who is available; especially when they are in their prime or close to it. Then as time passes especially when they become financially okay themselves they start craving for their original desires. Hitherto is why I tell every guy not to entice or woo a woman with money. Know what she likes before you marry her. Some try to paint a color you desire over her cause over time the paint wears off

Ballzproblem2:
Most times is because the women become out of shape after childbirth,women should try and maintain their shape ,I know it's not easy .

Well thank you you added it's not easy, it shows you have some element of empathy. But if she had sacrifice her life in bearing me children and at the end gets bent out of shape, I'll still stand by her and still place her above the any young girls coming after my deek, physique and money

After marriage you start add fat like cow,you start dirty like pig. Why won't he run?

You start using sex as weapon to extort your husband. Why won't he run?

Girls full outside dey wait for you to loose guard your husband,if you don't know.

At 105 I will still be knacking my wife o...

Don't know if I will live that long.

But I know I will; if I live that "young".

Me wey my libido and tetestorone dey increase the older I get.

The only thing that will probably reduce is the vigor and intensity. (I understand my body die!)


Maybe 5 strokes in 15 mins!

Dreamhans1:
Well thank you you added it's not easy, it shows you have some element of empathy. But if she had sacrifice her life in bearing me children and at the end gets bent out of shape, I'll still stand by her and still place her above the any young girls coming after my deek, physique and money

Yeah I said it's not easy due to economic reasons, imagine a low income household after three kids you are telling your wife to work out ,she go just look you wan kain.but those married to rich or financial stable men have no excuse,it's the least you can do if you not a provider.

It seems you guys are proving that Dr Kassim or what's his name right. That this same man's rod will stand to another woman but for his wife, it becomes zero


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHfjnDBUn0s

Rather than debate him, we were being righteous. What will make a man not attracted to the woman he vowed to love forever? What killed his animal instinct? That's more of a psychological and phsyiological issue, don't you think?

2aces:
They should plan get away trips with their spouse as often as possible and keep the peace in the home to make sex approach more comfortable for the man, cos sex is the last thing on the mind of an angry man.

I don't think so

Women use sex as emotional blackmail, bargaining chips and manipulation…

As men grow older, they begin to see life from all angles, they become focused and engaged in meaningful, less stressful activities.

Undergoing the above mentioned just for few minutes of thrust becomes exhausting…

They begin to look elsewhere for more robust and less stressful sex life. Having sex outside becomes easier; the outside girls don’t give you stress! Give money and fun and you are good to go!

Wives that had been using sex to blackmail their husbands eventually master the act, and they don’t change easily. They become used to not giving up the cookie at the man’s call, and men can’t stand it, especially as they had invested their all in the woman.

papyjaypaul:
It seems you guys are proving that Dr Kassim or what's his name right. That this same man's rod will stand to another woman but for his wife, it becomes zero


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHfjnDBUn0s

Rather than debate him, we were being righteous. What will make a man not attracted to the woman he vowed to love forever? What killed his animal instinct? That's more of a psychological and phsyiological issue, don't you think?

If you are married, I believe you know why. I pray you never marry the wrong person in life, most times you get to know the person you dated much much more after the "Yes I do." Forget the paparazzi photos u see on social media and the DP of partners, most marriages are the edge of collapse.

Beyond that beautiful look and handsomness most couples display, a lot is happening in the home.

In Yorùbá proberb, " àdìyẹ nlá ágún, a mọ iyẹ nì kó jẹ ká mọ" Simply put, people are going through a lot, but the looks won't let others know.

Some couples are not attracted to each other after marriage, some don't even talk to each other in the home, some ladies attitude is enough to drive the man to Yaba left.

Tell me how u want two people, who are at logger head with each other to have sex?

Sex is tiring if it's the only thing you can give...


Atleast sometimes cut his finger and toenails

Burst his pimples, take time to comb his hairs and beards and wash his face with those skin treatmen of yours.

Cook better food for his, just put a song and whine tha waist for him...

Let him see you love and care for you and he won't mind.


But when it's everytime, u don naked lie down for bed 🤦‍♂️.
Abeg carry this pussy comot my front

The d is for women as young as they come till the age of 29. At 29 years, it starts to become a taboo to want that woman.

The d is also for the single version of the wife; after marrying her she becomes unattractive.

A man must eat many soups, or walk away if his wife has any problem that makes him not want her.

2aces:
From a married mans perspective, visiting a particular place constantly for that long wears away the thrill and excitement and eventually seems like a chore, and men don't like chores so they either get frustrated and die in silence or do the sneak out to explore the forbidden forest.

Some Solutions.

Women should always see themselves as the center of attraction in their marriage and endeavor to reinvent themselves in every possible way as often as possible and to keep their marriage as exciting just like the first day.
They should plan get away trips with their spouse as often as possible and keep the peace in the home to make sex approach more comfortable for the man, cos sex is the last thing on the mind of an angry man.

Here you are talking about men who do think marriage is just an adult game of playing mummy andI daddy.

Fiscus105:
Uhmmm, prejudice way of reasoning, I guess.
So many men, abandoned their wife sexually and running after girls ,that are not in any way match their wife, even in bedmatic affairs.

The infidelity among married women, high abundantly now, no thanks to sexually deprivation of wife, for no reason by men.

In as my, some women are culprit too, but most come from men.

This is bitter fact, that we men shying away with.

U opened a thread to blame men while pretending to seek real answers. From Ur replies to the contributions it's obvious what Ur true intentions are. Now to Ur topic it comes from both men and the wives. A lot of wives don't know how to take care of themselves. After a few years of marriage and kids they just let go. Become big slobs, physically unattractive, mentally stale and unwilling to do better. A lot weaponize sex for favours in he marriage, and then the man himself develops a defense mechanism to balance the equation, some outrightly deny their husbands the right to love making and even when they do comply it becomes like a chore, boring boring and unwilling to do things they used to do that spiced up their sex life in the earlier stages. So what do U expect am n to do? Retain his semen forever and develop prostrate cancer and other reproductive health problems? No we change oil in another available filling station ⛽

Now for some men. Most times it's the sex game itself. Before U married her U used to fvck her 367 ways but now she's Ur wife Nd mother to Ur kids u think its insulting or demeaning to hang her legs over her head and thrust hard full throttle, u no longer make pre-intimacy interesting, u don't make her feel like the girl u met 15/10 years ago, u don't surprise her with goodies anymore, no more special dates, the kids and work take all the time and u both can't plan weekend trips together for strictly fun why the kids spend that weekend with a trusted family member, u treat her like she's a dinosaur. The sparks are dead and long forgotten only somewhere lost in memories. It takes two to tangle. Instead of trying to play the blame game like Ur obviously doing and as most couples who grow apart do they forget the importance of working together and trying to catch that ol' thing back like it used to be. There are couples in their 70's and 80's still acting and active like they are in their 20's. But a lot of people lately instead of looking inwards for solutions they look outwards and bring in more problems which results in the high rate of divorce and separations. Which is now becoming normal in our society today.

Everything isn't about men Vs women. Stop the bs