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policy12:
I read people contribution and all I can say is that every one is right, though different opinions but every comment are on pointing out the problems. Objectively there is no single reasons to this.

From...

1. Women weaponizing sex.
2. The aftermath of knowing the woman you marry after marriage.

My submissions:
3. Women wanting men to always be the sex initiator.
4. The modern day stress, some men come back from work tired and weak.
5. The heart of men is heavy, a lot go through the men's mind, ranging from family issue to other issues.
6. Mental health capacity of the men also matter.
7. Financial stress.

A man cannot be going through aforementioned points and you expect him to be sexually active.

Precisely.
Hence the shock many here are going to get when suddenly the mid life cryses blow beats them.

Anyway, let them keep thinking marriage is built on their joysticks.

Dreamhans1:
Lie lie. Only selfish people does that.
Secondly, aren't you dumb if you can't see through a woman before marriage?
Or not smart enough not to be able to control the aerodynamic of your life

No problem na, abuse me, if you marry and when you do, you would see. Your turn is coming, (Ehn lie that you have been married for 25 years so you have conquered marriage)

brain54:
At 105 I will still be knacking my wife o...

Don't know if I will live that long.

But I know I will; if I live that "young" ... Even if with less vigour.( open to understanding)

Me wey my libido and tetestorone dey increase the older I get.

The only thing that will probably reduce is the vigor and intensity. (I understand my body die!)


Maybe 5 strokes in 15 mins.

Less focus on other women and more wifey... So original statement is accurate.

Na to pour everything on wifey body... With less vigour of course!

😂😂😂😂

eventainment:
From this angle, there is a sense of truth as well. Especially women they marry who is available; especially when they are in their prime or close to it. Then as time passes especially when they become financially okay themselves they start craving for their original desires. Hitherto is why I tell every guy not to entice or woo a woman with money. Know what she likes before you marry her. Some try to paint a color you desire over her cause over time the paint wears off

Sharp of you to havea noticed the bold which is where you see the whole new her or is it old her she did not reveal, one must wonder, which brings about the situation in that picture.

A lot of commenters do not get the situation described by the op and even the op has gotten distracted by the comments they made. Anyway, the wise can filter diamond from sand.

Dtruthspeaker:
No problem na, abuse me, if you marry and when you do, you would see. Your turn is coming, (Ehn lie that you have been married for 25 years so you have conquered marriage)

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eventainment:
Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

you are really right, too many knows stop me sleeping with my wife, even the married woman i replaced her with have started with no, I have stop sleeping with her too, na to watch tictok and place her be my hubbies nown

Whenever I see some women who were married at about the same time as my wife, I immediately understand why some men abandon their wives and start running after younger ones.

Stomach don be like GEEPEE tank, B00bs don sag finish come dey touch stomach, stretch mark everywhere like person wey fight lion, some women are always tying PDP & APC wrapper and wearing Obituary T-shirt to match. Let's not even talk about body odour, some of them start smelling like the intestine of goat. Eewww!

How on earth will these women remain attractive to their husbands?
I thank God for my wife o. By now meself for don dey read from the book of lamentation.

In conclusion, whilst I admit that other factors may also be in play, I believe the primary factor is that some women become out of shape after marriage.

#Picks_tooth

PS- dear kobojunkie, this my post no concern you o. Today is Sunday, I'm having a headache in my stomach please. I no get power to argue.

Is The Socalled Woman aggression for equality with their husbands that is damaging marriages,after china bejin confrence 1995 till date, this has been destroying and debasing marriage institution till date
The SUMMARY IS ABOUT WIVES are bedeviled with THINKING THEY ARE BOTH CAPTAINS OF THE SHIP WITH THEIR HUSBANDS. TWO CAPTAINS CANNOT LEAD A SHIP,ESPECIALY WHEN THE WOMAN FEELS SHE ALSO HSS MONEY AS THE MAN. wives should respect the husbands wishes that is meant to keep the home going well and sweet,e.g from as trivial things often ignored by wives liked right food the man desires to home cleanliness and organized home.

policy12:
I read people contribution and all I can say is that every one is right, though different opinions but every comment are on pointing out the problems. Objectively there is no single reasons to this.

From...

1. Women weaponizing sex.
2. The aftermath of knowing the woman you marry after marriage.

My submissions:
3. Women wanting men to always be the sex initiator.
4. The modern day stress, some men come back from work tired and weak.
5. The heart of men is heavy, a lot go through the men's mind, ranging from family issue to other issues.
6. Mental health capacity of the men also matter.
7. Financial stress.

A man cannot be going through aforementioned points and you expect him to be sexually active.

I am surprised that only few married men are talking, when it comes to marriage it is not always one part fits all. By January it will be 10 years with my wife: These are my experiences:
1. She is still sexually attractive to me (though she looks way younger than her age).
2. In the early stages I had sex outside countless times(they call it cheating, but I don't its just sex with other ladies) now I had totally lost that desire.
3. Yes stress is killer of sex both for the man an woman but significantly higher in men.
4. Yes women mostly want you to initiate sex, my wife still does that.
5. These days if I touch her na belle, I dey even fear to touch her.
6 The truth for all men is that we get tired of one soup. we need varieties.

At forty-six years old and upward, women are not young and agile. African women surely are not. They lose all youthful looks and energy in their late thirties.

The men lose interest. It doesn’t take long to see one’s partner like a sibling especially if the person stops putting effort into looking good. Many wives start tying wrappers like towels one day after marriage. The act is associated with elderly women. A fifty-eight year old man will not climb his thirty-seven year old wife because she reminds him of his mother every time she ties wrappers around the house. Hit the gym and dress sexy occasionally, the man will mount you with glee.

Fiscus105:
Is it every wife deceived husband?

Is it after like 10 yrs or more that, he now realise that?

To me, it's just a flimsy excuse by we men to go wayward.

Thank you jàre. It's an excuse for infidelity. I have an elderly male friend who is in his early 60s. We talk. His wife is almost the same age as him. He's a bit well to do so he can afford some luxurious home. He doesn't touch the wife anymore. They sleep in different rooms even. I was curious and asked him questions. He said as often as 3 months, 4 months before he checks her out. He has a side chic who is way younger, he prefers to do it with that one.
The wife has committed absolutely no offence. He'd often tell me that I'm a small girl, that his marriage is over 30 years so what's there to see again. I know the wife, she's still hale and hearty. Men why?

Dreamhans1:
I'm married but not up to 25 years. I control my friends, my business partners,my clients. My spousal partner can't shock me.
You can't achieve these without having a great sense of self awareness and
you can't achieve these by hurting others and
you can't achieve these by blaming others

From your high confedence i know, you are the Mr.god There is still a shock waiting for you. You are not the first to walk by that control everything way. Nonetheless i do not pray evil befall you.

Ballzproblem2:
Yeah I said it's not easy due to economic reasons, imagine a low income household after three kids you are telling your wife to work out ,she go just look you wan kain.but those married to rich or financial stable men have no excuse,it's the least yoou can do if you not a provider.

Low income wifes do not need work out, they are always thin and hungry and suffering, so they need fattening, rest and more rest. There own. blow out is not even upto 10 years

meobizy:
At forty-six years old and upward, women are not young and agile. African women surely are not. They lose all youthful looks and energy in their late thirties.

The men lose interest. It doesn’t take long to see one’s partner like a sibling especially if the person stops putting effort into looking good. Many wives start tying wrappers like towels one day after marriage. The act is associated with elderly women. A fifty-eight year old man will not climb his thirty-seven year old wife because she reminds him of his mother every time she ties wrappers around the house. Hit the gym and dress sexy occasionally, the man will mount you with glee.

This is why forever, men will hate your gender.
You people are Satan's children. See how you Lie so openly.

placeofallure:
Thank you jàre. It's an excuse for infidelity. I have an elderly male friend who is in his early 60s. We talk. His wife is almost the same age as him. He's a bit well to do so he can afford some luxurious home. He doesn't touch the wife anymore. They sleep in different rooms even. I was curious and asked him questions. He said as often as 3 months, 4 months before he checks her out. He has a side chic who is way younger, he prefers to do it with that one.
The wife has committed absolutely no offence. He'd often tell me that I'm a small girl, that his marriage is over 30 years so what's there to see again. I know the wife, she's still hale and hearty. Men why?

See Lies!

Everyone knows that even before a man even marries he already has his pockets full of excuses to cheat, so he does not need to wait till his wife is old to cheat. He was already doing it before you knew him and I am certain you are the young girl he is side chicking.

johnog4sure:
I am surprised that only few married men are talking, when it comes to marriage it is not always one part fits all. By January it will be 10 years with my wife: These are my experiences:
1. She is still sexually attractive to me (though she looks way younger than her age).
2. In the early stages I had sex outside countless times(they call it cheating, but I don't its just sex with other ladies) now I had totally lost that desire.
3. Yes stress is killer of sex both for the man an woman but significantly higher in men.
4. Yes women mostly want you to initiate sex, my wife still does that.
5. These days if I touch her na belle, I dey even fear to touch her.
6 [b]The truth for all men is that we get tired of one soup. we need varietie[/b]s.

The bold proves you are a pagan hence your thinking and hence that picture in op's opening post will surely take place when secret wardrobes start bursting open revealing the skeletons kept there.

eventainment:
Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

I support this comment with 10 cows, 20 bag of rice and 100 litres of groundnut oil..... The points were clearly stated.... Especially some pick hubbies or get more engrossed in making money....

It's called pheromones , it is biologically okay for a man not to feel attracted to his wife anymore after 10 years. our forefathers where able to solve this problem by having multiple wives. This way the pheromones is well preserved as you might not need to sleep with same woman until the next 1month. but when she gets it after that one month. she gets it hot hot.

Sex is like food for men , if you eat rice every day, you will get tired after 2years, but try eba for 1 week then go back to the rice and see how much appetites will have for the rice again.

Our forefathers never complained about getting tired of sex at 40 , the evidence of their many children says it all. We have adopted the oyinbo lifestyle.

Fiscus105:
Uhmmm, prejudice way of reasoning, I guess.
So many men, abandoned their wife sexually and running after girls ,that are not in any way match their wife, even in bedmatic affairs.

The infidelity among married women, high abundantly now, no thanks to sexually deprivation of wife, for no reason by men.

In as my, some women are culprit too, but most come from men.

This is bitter fact, that we men shying away from.

Well, in your opinion it's a prejudiced way of reasoning which I won't debate because it's your opinion, but your opinions are very valid some men/women take extramarital affairs as a sport irrespective of how their spouses play their roles well these men aren't satisfied. I've seen men date women their wives are far better in all areas. Some persons start this infidelity habit because of peer influence and truth be told when you are with a like mind even evil can be made to look good. If we play a close analysis you'll still agree that if a man is comfortable at home he barely hangs around with friends except it's his nature to be around friends. In my conclusion, there are lots of exceptions to what I propounded the first time but if a man/woman who wasn't a chronic cheat begins it after conjugal bliss there is a high possibility that their own spouse is the cause.

eventainment:
Well, in your opinion it's a prejudiced way of reasoning which I won't debate because it's your opinion, but your opinions are very valid some men/women take extramarital affairs as a sport irrespective of how their spouses play their roles well these men aren't satisfied. I've seen men date women their wives are far better in all areas. Some persons start this infidelity habit because of peer influence and truth be told when you are with a like mind even evil can be made to look good. If we play a close analysis you'll still agree that if a man is comfortable at home he barely hangs around with friends except it's his nature to be around friends. In my conclusion, there are lots of exceptions to what I propounded the first time but if a man/woman who wasn't a chronic cheat begins it after conjugal bliss there is a high possibility that their own spouse is the cause.

What you just narrated, common when men are at 35-45, that are prime ages for men, to be "hot cake" for different women, most especially, if you are a type who is working in reputable organisation and having little change to give out as gifts.

By this age, all those hot women of yesteryears that had made serious errors by marrying wrong men, their eyes would have cleared, that, it's not "dark and tall" that are most important when choosing hubby. So, these type of women would be rushing for attentions of men in that range. If such men not careful, he won't know nwen he forgets his beautiful marriage.

placeofallure:
Thank you jàre. It's an excuse for infidelity. I have an elderly male friend who is in his early 60s. We talk. His wife is almost the same age as him. He's a bit well to do so he can afford some luxurious home. He doesn't touch the wife anymore. They sleep in different rooms even. I was curious and asked him questions. He said as often as 3 months, 4 months before he checks her out. He has a side chic who is way younger, he prefers to do it with that one.
The wife has committed absolutely no offence. He'd often tell me that I'm a small girl, that his marriage is over 30 years so what's there to see again. I know the wife, she's still hale and hearty. Men why?

This is why men mostly prefer to marry younger girls so that as they both age he could still find her attractive, especially if she is making efforts to look attractive.

Dtruthspeaker:
See Lies!

Everyone knows that even before a man even marries he already has his pockets full of excuses to cheat, so he does not need to wait till his wife is old to cheat. He was already doing it before you knew him and I am certain you are the young girl he is side chicking.

Resist the urge to ṣalaye. I owe you Nothing!

Dtruthspeaker:
The bold proves you are a pagan hence your thinking and hence that picture in op's opening post will surely take place when secret wardrobes start bursting open revealing the skeletons kept there.

I dont really understand paganism so I wont argue, as for the secrets there are none.

Dtruthspeaker:
Because he now sees her for all that she is.

He now understands everything about her and has figured her out.

He now knows and understands how she thinks, why she married him and her meaning of every word or silence.

Now is when he sees she had lied and deceived him and she is not fully all he thought she was and so, problem.

I endorse this message.

eventainment:
Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

Very good answer again. Plus, I have a steady side chick that blows my mind away on a king sized bed.

MAN DEY THINK OF HUSTLING.

Fiscus105:
This common saying among men, is it true, or just myth? I posted this because of revelation that my friend who is working as a clinical psychologist in one of federal government hospitals shares with me.

He said, many of wives in their 40s, do come for consultancy and usually telling him, about sexual starvation being experienced from their husbands, despite they are married, still young & agile and staying together with hubby.

Women at that end tend not to keep themselves decent and appealing to their husbands.

And men cannot have sex all the time... Hustling takes a toll on men... To keep food at home, and sort bills....

And many don't want more than 2/3 children these days...

Na see finish deh cause am…

ROFLMAO. Person try troll the topic dey throw insult left and right. See as people ignore am. Posters are either becoming wise or the ones who normally cause trouble have left. Kobojunkie that is known to stir pointless arguments gets ignored nowadays. Nobody awards real world medals for winning debates online.

Even love needs a balanced diet: romance, LOVE, hot sex. A poor diet consists of selfish sex. In-Out-asleep

johnog4sure:
I dont really understand paganism so I wont argue, as for the secrets there are none.

You are the mighty king na, so who do you fear that you should hide your secrets?

But, no problem, since you have solved an conquered marriage, let us lesser living things continue the struggle.

Dtruthspeaker:
You are the mighty king na, so who do you fear that you should hide your secrets?

But, no problem, since you have solved an conquered marriage, let us lesser living things continue the struggle.

Marriage is a choice not an achievement