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Bonab:
This is true,some ladies have bad taste when it comes to choosing a life partner. They use their early twenties to play around with jokers and wants to start being serious when they are now getting older.

Unfortunately,not all of them are lucky to correct their mistakes on time,some regret it for the rest of their lives.

If you have ever opened a woman's heart, you will likened them to kids.

Women never gets serious, they only pretend. When a bad guy with the key 🔑 opens her up, she'll love him till death.

They'll tell you, "He's a nice guy but he's so boring". As if Life is supposed to be one nonstop rollercoaster Nollywood thriller.😁😁
Later when they start reaping the unsavory consequences of settling for their 'exciting bad boy', they'll start looking for the previously-discarded 'nice guy' to saddle with the baggage of their stupidity and poor choices...

This is a Nigerian faceless forum and I don't see any harm here since we're all strangers... It's not like I disclosed her personal details and everything.

BlessingIsraelM:
Sis, this is unnecessary. She trusted you to keep her secrets. Please edit

Why sorry?
Why not toughen up and accept the consequences of your actions?

If it was your brother, would you desist from assisting him despite getting along with him just fine?

Triplerg:
Just know that you are an enabler in this game your sister is playing. If you can't tell the guy the truth, then I think you should desist from assisting oyour sister any further. There are consequences for any wrong done

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

Hey! Women😲

justtee42k:
Any woman that makes you doubt your bible is not even good for you.
Change your thrashing way of looking for a lady.
Some guys are just thieves at times, always looking for what is higher than them.

Look for a wife and not a lady.

A lady is someone who is independent and wants to live the way she likes.

A wife is a person who is ready to be submissive and listen to your orders .

The bible says, who finds a good wife not who finds a good lady.

So a lady should be a wife before you agree to marry her.

Thanks for acknowledging that men even have any problem at all. For that you have a soul.

Starz825:
Life...

Anyway... we came in here with nothing...we leaving with nothing... married or unmarried

Life is just a vacation centre...we will all go back home.

Just enjoy your vacation.

Everyman should read Williams Shakespeare "seven ages of man"

Nonetheless I think we should still make good decisions and live our lives so to make positive impact

You're a good wife but I'm sorry your sister is none and such type end up birthing all her children to different father.
And if may asked, would the adopted children bear the surname/lastname of the new husband?

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

I think the statement that women loves bad boys is wrong... let me explain

presentation is key for every product, you may be a good boy but if the way you present yourself is not Ok, ladies will reject you. In the dating cycle, first impressions matters a lot.

bad boys tends to do well in presenting themselves attractive on the face value, whether they lie about it or not doesn't really matter to women. if you are a good guy, garnish your goodness with a good presentation. Speak boldly and socialize moderately then ladies will come.

No one likes their potential partner to come crude and rough, no matter what value they hold on the inside.

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

This is deep

Samantha125:
I just hope she'll change, because I really feel bad for the guy.

Don't feel bad for him. Instead, Congratulate him for the impending life lessons.

ednut1:
What of men that ignored good girls for yansh and breast/ baddie

They don’t cry the way ladies do

Yes, they will.

olumidedvd:
You're a good wife but I'm sorry your sister is none and such type end up birthing all her children to different father.
And if may asked, would the adopted children bear the surname/lastname of the new husband?

TOPCRUISE:
What goes around comes around. You marry bad boy and you expect not to become a punching bag in your home.
Those saluting you for choosing the bad boy over the nice man with good intentions are the ones who will still sing “say no to domestic violence” when they see how disfigured your face and how emaciated you have become.

The whole idea of "Bad boy" does not mean the person must be evil, woman beater or replication of devil

There are men we consider bad boiz who are only just living wayward life and

There are men people consider good, but the evil dey do behind

if you had a daughter you would have picked Evans over an ik ogbonna as a perfect suitor whereas Evans the kidnapper is the real bad ..

people judge books by the cover

Samantha125:
If it was your brother, would you desist from assisting him despite getting along with him just fine?

Let him be my twin brother, I will tell him the truth. You are okay with her using your name to lie that she borrows money from you? Just so you know, any consequences that will befall your sister will also befall you.

Samantha125:
I can't, my hands are tied... At the end of the day, she is still my sister and I love her.

She told me everything in confidence and even trusted me to be in charge of her finances... It's not every sibling that would make you in charge of his or her savings account to a point that they'd even willing to register it in your name.

If the truth is meant to come out, then the truth will one day come out... But it's not gonna be me doing it.

You're aiding and abetting nonsense. Is it because she's your sister? If you happen to be the guy's sister, will you do such? Pls let's be fair in our dealings o. That guy is your sister's savior, he no deserve such treatment.

AcadaWriter0:
What about men who overlook good girls for those with more prominent features?

Create a thread about that and stop derailing the topic.

Benniemannz:
There's nothing equal here. The topic is for you girls to wise up. Stop trying to make everything a comparison between genders. Learn the lessons

Will you blame her, what about the mumu man she quoted??

These days, some men are the ones empowering the nonsense gender equality online..

The post is about women with bad taste, but the mumu man was quick to rub us in, what do you expect.?

Thanks for putting the girl in her place though..

As for the topic: As a man, don't be that 2nd choice/option to any woman. Many of these kinds of women are damaged already. It is not your duty to save them (because you can't)...

SIMPs will love this post

the simps are acting as if all bad boys makes women single mothers

YoungLionken:
Will you blame her, what about the mumu man she quoted??

These days, some men are the ones empowering the nonsense gender equality online..

The post is about women with bad taste, but the mumu man was quick to rub us in, what do you expect..

Thanks for putting the girl in her place though...

No mind that one. He is probably trying to impress a girl he's into here. A girl busy dick jocking/ hopping a couple of sharp Nairalanders on the low already 😁

The truth is that both genders have this Bleep up

Some men also marry big boobs and nyash over nice women.

Men that are gentle and take Bleep up from women are trying sha.

Women will follow you with the hands you give them.

Once they notice you don't take rubbish they will behave

This gender are funny

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

Your sister nah goat wey like to dey collect beating because her downfall is certain soonest

Bad boys for life

If I was the guy's sister and him and I got along then yes, I'd still do it... She said the money is for rainy days even though she's doing it the wrong way.

Bola4boy:
You're aiding and abetting nonsense. Is it because she's your sister? If you happen to be the guy's sister, will you do such? Pls let's be fair in our dealings o. That guy is your sister's savior, he no deserve such treatment.

Trust me, I know... But there's nothing I can do about it...🤦🤦🤦

Triplerg:
Let him be my twin brother, I will tell him the truth. You are okay with her using your name to lie that she borrows money from you? Just so you know, any consequences that will befall your sister will also you

She seems to be the one truly in the wrong all along with the guys that left going by her character flaws you expalained. If only she can decide to drop these flaws in place of some manners with prospective suitors. Itvis never too late if she realise it though. The choice is hers to get it right.

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

You are 100% just as bad as your sister because you are her accomplice in the scheme of things. She would never have succeeded in her lies and deceit without your active input just the way a driver of an armed robbery syndicate is 100% guilty as an accomplice of any armed robbery operation.

Samantha125:
The post is very true... Sometimes some of us ladies would be labelling men trash because we'd be in denial of the fact that we have a trashy taste in men.

I have this one sister who hasn't been lucky in relationships to a point that the family started looking down on her and regarded her as the black sheep of the family for being in multiple failed relationships... Because two of us are married to our high school boyfriends while one is married to her varsity boyfriend.

She's the only one with multiple failed relationships together with two kids from two different baby daddies... All her exes treated her like trash and her baby daddies don't even care about the kids... I once even confronted one of them for abandoning his own child, but the guy didn't seem to care... My sister was still willing to do anything to continue being with these guys until they finally ghosted her.

Now she's engaged to this wonderful man who was willing to overlook her flaws and adopt her children as his own, the guy's family also love her, but this sister of mine has all of a sudden started growing some wings and taking the guy's goodness for granted... Sometimes she'd be acting as if she's doing him a favour by being with him and I don't like it one bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She lied to the guy about her monthly salary and immediately they got engaged, she asked me to open a second savings account from another bank so that every month she could deposit a certain amount from her monthly salary into the account just so the guy can continue giving her that monthly allowance... If it happens that she wants something and the guy is short of cash, she'd then ask me to sent her a certain amount from that same account, so it can seem as if I'm the one who borrowed her the money because the account was registered in my personal details... I tried talking her out of it, but she wouldn't take a no for an answer.

When the guy asks her where she got the money, she'd lie by telling him that she borrowed it from me knowing very well that the guy would start feeling bad and looking for a way to repay me, but the truth is that, that money never gets to me... She'll spent it on herself... Now the guy recently bought a new car and my sister is already planning on manipulating him into giving her the car.

Interesting contribution.

I've reached a point in my life where I don't directly blame people for how messed up they are, especially in the relationship arena. I've gotten here because of my understanding of trauma, attachment styles deeply engrained from early childhood and how everything comes together to manifest; things that occasioned the most vulnerable developmental periods of people's lives. It is what gets people addicted to toxicity such that a calm and peaceful relationship doesn't give them the high that drama and conflicts gives.

I'm curious, seeing that the other sisters have turned out fairly well (going by what you've shared, at least) what's so unique about your sister's experience that makes her so sh!tty as far as relationships are concerned?

NoChill:
When her story casts, please don't forget to also come and inform us here

Correct man!

mekuso89:
Well if that is so, then I think the duo are in a serious spiritual problem. Most especially the lady in question she might have something to settle with her water spirits if not she may still become single again

It has nothing to do with water spirit. It's purely bad energy playing out or manifesting.

Either of them created the bad energy in the past.

ednut1:
What of men that ignored good girls for yansh and breast/ baddie

No man will ignore good girls even if the girl is not as fine as the guy. U ever wondered why lots of handsome guys marry girls that are simple looking or not very fine?

Handsome guys will Bleep, sample, play so called sexy beautiful baddies with curvy yansh and big boobs but they won't marry such. They will always go for simple looking women that will take care of the kids and home. Ever wondered why many beautiful ladies remain unmarried?