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Oluromantic:
Is she employed? Does she have a job? It is not compulsory that its the guy who must initiate going out, she can too.

She must be really young. Her controversial nature especially to your sister whether your sister is at fault or not already spells that she's not ready to be a wife material let alone for marriage so that should guide your decision about whether you will marry her or not.
Even her dad knowing the kind of daughter he has he keeps telling me to be patient with her

BTW who tell you say 7 months don ripe to say na person weh u wan marry be this. See don't let women push you to what you're not ready for. They will always want it fast but don't be cajoled. You need more than 7 months to know many things she's keeping from you character-wise. Good luck!

ebijimi7:
she's 27 boss one of thr issues we had last week was that she was pressuring me to wife her as quickly as possible then I told her to calm down I have alot to look out for then she got mad,at this point I was provoked and ask her in annoyance that why didn't any of your exes wife you then

ebijimi7:
she's 27 boss one of thr issues we had last week was that she was pressuring me to wife her as quickly as possible then I told her to calm down I have alot to look out for then she got mad,at this point I was provoked and ask her in annoyance that why didn't any of your exes wife you then .
Yes boss she's employed i don't want her to give me money ofcourse you know woman they would insult you with that it

ebijimi7:
Good day guys I need your advise on this issues especially the ladies.
I have a lady I'm dating which I have intention of getting married to and its been 7 months together but the thing is that I'm a very gentle and quiet person that loves peace.
So everything wa going well when we first met until she started complaining of almost everything if we are going somewhere may be we board a tricycle to cover a short distance she woukd almost be fighting the person sitting next to her just because she wanted the person to adjust.
another thing she did that's annoying is the fact she expects me to tell her everything about me which is not possible.
So the main reason I created this thread was what happened last night.
So we were having a discussion then she talked about me not taking her out that I kept saying I'm broke but if it's utility bills now I would pay up instantly and if its to stock the house with food the money would come and yet I kept saying I don't have money for us just to go out and have fun, so I told her where I come from we don't catch fun and go hungry we fill our stomach before going to waste money catching fun.
Then she resorted to saying why is it that its my sister that use to help us go and get food instead of her,them I told her that my sister knows all this things and how to get them done properly why not leave it for her she got mad that I do things behind her without telling her and why are my always running to my sister foe stuff, then I told her I didn't run to my sister and my sister is this type of person that always look out for me since we lost our mum even if I just visit my sister she gets mad that why are my going to see my sister

illicit:
Let her buy the food stuff, are u a baby?

Why does your sister have to buy such for u? She is right on that, when u guys marry your sister will keep interfering in your house because you lost your mum and she is looking out for you...

Not every woman is comfortable with that, especially this your kind of girl, make she no go beat your sister one day, na you go avoid such

Remember that ur sister is a woman too and all they want is to control u,now they are competing for who get ur mumu button pass

Ur wife suppose get am pass ur sister, let her buy food for her husband...

Set limits
No bro my sister is not controlling me I was single for a year plus after I lost my fiancee to death in 2022 so since then I have no woman in my life my sister has Bern the one helping me get food items I cook at home and sometimes she woukd cook and ask me to come and carry it home and keep in my freezer so ice been used to it but she coming in now to feel she can just disconnect us is never going to be easy and also we are just 2 my mum gave birth to bo father no mother no family members trying to help so we just look out for each other.

On the other ones, I no get say but try sort this one

illicit:
Let her buy the food stuff, are u a baby?

Why does your sister have to buy such for u? She is right on that, when u guys marry your sister will keep interfering in your house because you lost your mum and she is looking out for you...

Not every woman is comfortable with that, especially this your kind of girl, make she no go beat your sister one day, na you go avoid such

Remember that ur sister is a woman too and all they want is to control u,now they are competing for who get ur mumu button pass

Ur wife suppose get am pass ur sister, let her buy food for her husband...

Set limits

On the other ones, I no get say but try sort this one

Fiscus105:
You urself not ready for marriage yet, you are still a mummy pet going by one sided information you give o, you want to marry a lady, yet the lady not mature and wise enough to stock food at home, but your sister, which wife will accept that oga? Who knows so many ways you are being acting like Mumu, which making her behave like lunatic too.

And most importantly, because of your being too soft to handle a woman, it seems she has taken control of the leadership at home.

ebijimi7:
she's 27 boss one of thr issues we had last week was that she was pressuring me to wife her as quickly as possible then I told her to calm down I have alot to look out for then she got mad,at this point I was provoked and ask her in annoyance that why didn't any of your exes wife you then .
Yes boss she's employed i don't want her to give me money ofcourse you know woman they would insult you with that it

ebijimi7:
Good day guys I need your advise on this issues especially the ladies.
I have a lady I'm dating which I have intention of getting married to and its been 7 months together but the thing is that I'm a very gentle and quiet person that loves peace.
So everything wa going well when we first met until she started complaining of almost everything if we are going somewhere may be we board a tricycle to cover a short distance she woukd almost be fighting the person sitting next to her just because she wanted the person to adjust.
another thing she did that's annoying is the fact she expects me to tell her everything about me which is not possible.
So the main reason I created this thread was what happened last night.
So we were having a discussion then she talked about me not taking her out that I kept saying I'm broke but if it's utility bills now I would pay up instantly and if its to stock the house with food the money would come and yet I kept saying I don't have money for us just to go out and have fun, so I told her where I come from we don't catch fun and go hungry we fill our stomach before going to waste money catching fun.
Then she resorted to saying why is it that its my sister that use to help us go and get food instead of her,them I told her that my sister knows all this things and how to get them done properly why not leave it for her she got mad that I do things behind her without telling her and why are my always running to my sister foe stuff, then I told her I didn't run to my sister and my sister is this type of person that always look out for me since we lost our mum even if I just visit my sister she gets mad that why are my going to see my sister

ebijimi7:
I'm not being mummy's pet oga the issues here was because my sister saw a bag of rice cheaper and she told me then I sent money to her to help me get it because if we buy it like that we both share the rice half half notwithstanding that the provision we bought at our own home my woman was the one that bought them and I told her that you don't need to stress yourself since she has already bought the bag of rice, but she's still mad at me because my sister procured it, my sister works with lago state government so it was fortunate fit her to get a link to get the rice cheaper. But my woman was mad because I told her I sent money to my sister go get us rice.

ebijimi7:
I'm not being mummy's pet oga the issues here was because my sister saw a bag of rice cheaper and she told me then I sent money to her to help me get it because if we buy it like that we both share the rice half half notwithstanding that the provision we bought at our own home my woman was the one that bought them and I told her that you don't need to stress yourself since she has already bought the bag of rice, but she's still mad at me because my sister procured it, my sister works with lago state government so it was fortunate fit her to get a link to get the rice cheaper. But my woman was mad because I told her I sent money to my sister go get us rice.

Mom007:
If your relationship has not grown organically to the stage where u trust her over your sister, don't force it. They don't tell a man things like this... it's like asking a man u are dating to give u house keys... they don't tell anyone.
P.S, never marry a quarrelsome woman. Even bible said that. They will loose that inhibition once married and all that quarrel is on your head

Ororocelemi:
You see she is getting pressured that her friends within the age range are getting married, pls run away from her. I had similar toxic gal some years back, she want use pregnancy hold me and always going out unnecessarily.
If you are not the outting type don't date any girl that likes "we outside" kind of life it's a recipe for disaster and for no reason should she complain about your blood sister buying food stuffs for you abi she dey mad?

Stand your ground now and quarrel with her seriously, let her know she must be under you and abide by your rules.

Before thinking of marriage stay with her in the same room for at least 3 months, then you can decide if she will be a wife for you or not.

Good luck bro

ebijimi7:
Good day guys I need your advise on this issues especially the ladies.
I have a lady I'm dating which I have intention of getting married to and its been 7 months together but the thing is that I'm a very gentle and quiet person that loves peace.
So everything wa going well when we first met until she started complaining of almost everything if we are going somewhere may be we board a tricycle to cover a short distance she woukd almost be fighting the person sitting next to her just because she wanted the person to adjust.
another thing she did that's annoying is the fact she expects me to tell her everything about me which is not possible.
So the main reason I created this thread was what happened last night.
So we were having a discussion then she talked about me not taking her out that I kept saying I'm broke but if it's utility bills now I would pay up instantly and if its to stock the house with food the money would come and yet I kept saying I don't have money for us just to go out and have fun, so I told her where I come from we don't catch fun and go hungry we fill our stomach before going to waste money catching fun.
Then she resorted to saying why is it that its my sister that use to help us go and get food instead of her,them I told her that my sister knows all this things and how to get them done properly why not leave it for her she got mad that I do things behind her without telling her and why are my always running to my sister foe stuff, then I told her I didn't run to my sister and my sister is this type of person that always look out for me since we lost our mum even if I just visit my sister she gets mad that why are my going to see my sister