I belong to that classification of people known as wives. I am A Wife.

And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother. Not too long ago a male friend of mine appeared on the scene fresh from a recent divorce. He had one child, who is, of course, with his ex-wife. He is looking for another wife. As I thought about him while I was ironing one evening, it suddenly occurred to me that I too, would like to have a wife. Why do I want a wife?

I would like to go back to school so that I can become economically independent, support myself, and if need be, support those dependent upon me. I want a wife who will work and send me to school. And while I am going to school I want a wife to take care of my children. I want a wife a wife to keep track of the children's doctor and dentist appointments. And to keep track of mine, too. I want a wife to make sure my children eat properly and are kept clean. I want a wife who will wash the children's clothes and keep them mended. I want a wife who is a good nurturing attendant to my children, who arranges for their schooling, makes sure that they have an adequate social life with their peers, takes them to the park, the zoo, etc. I want a wife who takes care of the children when they are sick, a wife who arranges to be around when the children need special care, because, of course, I cannot miss classes at school. My wife must arrange to lose time at work and not lose the job. It may mean a small cut in my wife's income from time to time, but I guess I can tolerate that. Needless to say,  my wife will arrange and pay for the care of the children while my wife is working.

I want a wife who will take care of my physical needs. I want a wife who will keep my house clean. A wife who will pick up after my children, a wife who will pick up after me. I want a wife who will keep my clothes clean, ironed, mended, replaced when need be, and who  will see to it that my personal things are kept in their proper place so that I can find what I need the minute I need it. I want a wife who cooks the meals, a wife who is a good cook. I want a wife who will plan the menus, do the necessary grocery shopping, prepare the meals,serve them pleasantly, and then do the cleaning up while I do my studying. I want a wife who will care for me when I am sick and sympathize with my pain and loss of time from school. I want a wife to go along when our family takes a vacation so that someone can continue care for me and my when I need a rest and change of scene. I want a wife who will not bother me with rambling complaints about a wife's duties. But I want a wife who will listen to me when I feel the need to explain a rather difficult point I have come across in my course of studies. And I want a wife who will type my papers for me when I have written them.

I want a wife who will take care of the details of my social life. When my wife and I are invited out by my friends, I want a wife who take care of the baby-sitting arrangements. When I meet people at school that I like and want to entertain, I want a wife who will have the house clean, will prepare a special meal, serve it to me and my friends, and not interrupt when I talk about things that interest me and my friends. I want a wife who will have arranged that the children are fed and ready for bed before my guests arrive so that the children do not bother us. I want a wife who takes care of the needs of my quests so that they feel comfortable, who makes sure that they have an ashtray, that they are passed the hors d'oeuvres, that they are offered a second helping of the food, that their wine glasses are replenished when necessary, that their coffee is served to them as they like it. And I want a wife who knows that sometimes I need a night out by myself.

I want a wife who is sensitive to my sexual needs, a wife who makes love passionately and eagerly when I feel like it, a wife who makes sure that I am satisfied. And, of course, I want a wife who will not demand sexual attention when I am not in the mood for it. I want a wife who assumes the complete responsibility for birth control, because I do not want more children. I want a wife who will remain sexually faithful to me so that I do not have to clutter up my intellectual life with jealousies. And I want a wife who understands that my sexual needs may entail more than strict adherence to monogamy. I must, after all, be able to relate to people as fully as possible.

If, by chance, I find another person more suitable as a wife than the wife I already have, I want the liberty to replace my present wife with another one. Naturally, I will expect a fresh, new life; my wife will take the children and be solely responsible for them so that I am left free.

When I am through with school and have a job, I want my wife to quit working and remain at home so that my wife can more fully and completely take care of a wife's duties.

My God, who wouldn't want a wife?


by Judy Syfers
read a lil more about her search for a wife here: http://www.cwluherstory.org/why-i-want-a-wife.html

i have the author's name at the end of the essay.   
i'm not a man but i want a wife. did u read the essay?  women should have wives too


i've added a website "source" too.

what are you trying to sent across? please tell me.
my head already hurt from the homework I already did.
I can't read that long thing

seun, i am convinced you did not read the essay

rokiatu, i can't tell you. you have to read the essay
rather than create a summary,i posted the whole essay for a reason  come back tomorrow when you're less busy and READ girl.

Nice essay!  hmmm, the burdens wives carry. . .may God Bless wives!  May God give men more wives to help them get things right  

Negro_Ntns:

Nice essay!  hmmm, the burdens wives carry. . .may God Bless wives!  May God give men more wives to help them get things right  

back to senderrrrr!! may god provide women with wives, mann. that should be your prayer.
well, thnks for actually taking time to read the essay. unlike others. i refuse to name names. roki *cough* atu *cough* 

oyinda.:


rokiatu, i can't tell you. you have to read the essay
rather than create a summary,i posted the whole essay for a reason come back tomorrow when you're less busy and READ girl.

Negro please tell me jare

honestly I like it if you are the author then you are real thinker oyinda, I think we also need wives lol

ah disclaimer, i'm not the author o (i wish). Judy Syfers is the author and the essay was written in the 70s.
but I thought it was very relevant for naija women today.  i agree with you we do need wives just like the men lol

rokiatu, rokiatu, rokiyatuuuu. how many times did i call you? have u finished reading it?
ha ur hair is long oo. and ur lips look like angelina jolie's. no homo (haha funny right?)

hahahaha was too engrossed in the story did not notice the author 's name

Roky,

Oyinda is envious of the many privileges men enjoy at the expense of wives. She wants a wife or correctly,"wives" too and she is advocating it as just cause for all women.

When you get your wives you let me know so I can make you my wife and you all can then be my wives.

The article was written by a radical feminist in 1971 ( period of the radical  'third wave' feminism.)

Negro thanks but the poster has a F sign which
indicate she is female.

negro, i see u've already become a wife for rokiatu. summarizing the essay for her and whatnot.
will u marry me too? i need a wifeee

Lmao!! Oyinda, you dont know who u are messing with. . . after I bend you over all you will think of is how best to please my wishes and desires.

Roky, Oyinda can be misunderstood sometimes. . .but she is sweet and friendly.

you got that right negro. the second part of ur post I mean

I need a wife too, yeye men see d responsibilty her alone must do. Thank God i was born in dis generation ta lo raiye oshi