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Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Yahayaaminat123(op): 1:03pm On Jan 02, 2025*

Is single mom a crime or a deadly disease??

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by domack99(m): 1:29pm On Jan 02, 2025

Been a single mum is not a crime but how you become one is more important to a man.

Also been an industrious single woman will do you a great advantage

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Yahayaaminat123(op): 1:33pm On Jan 02, 2025

Thank you ... I really appreciate it...

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by coputa(m): 1:39pm On Jan 02, 2025

Yahayaaminat123:
Well am a single mom of one and it's giving me hard time to be in a relationship..

For the past few months I have seen guys that approach me but after hearing my story of being a single mom, they all cut me off.
I don't know if it a crime for to be a single mom...
My parents are expecting me to bring a man home after all am not getting any young..

So please I need answers and I won't mind to meet a serious guy ready for a relationship

why are you so desperate to remarry again, can't you work hard to take proper care of your child,

Is the father sending money for his upkeep

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Namaster: 1:45pm On Jan 02, 2025*

Single-motherhood is NOT a crime.
It's a DISEASE!

A highly CONTAGIOUS and DESTRUCTIVE disease.
Like LEPROSY on steroids.

MEN who avoid them are SENSIBLE men.

Being a single mother means YOU decided to have UNPROTECTED sex with an IRRESPONSIBLE man who ABANDONED his own child. UNLESS the father is dead.

IF you can make such a DEBILITATINGLY horrendous decision that alters your BODY and LIFE in unimaginable ways, then you can NEVER be trusted.

And that includes trust in your ability to be FAITHFUL.

Single-motherhood is PROOF that you make BAD choices.

In fact, it's proof that you made a SERIES of bad choices including:
1. Failure to use condom.
2. Willingness to fucck an irresponsible man.
3. Failure to use morning-after pills.
4. Putting pleasure OVER commonsense.
5. Fucking an irresponsible man WITHOUT condoms means GOD only knows how many STDs call your body home.

Apart from the above, ANY man who gets serious with a single mother will be OUTNUMBERED in his own family.

He's NOT marrying a woman. He's marrying a NUCLEAR family. That is father, mother and their BASTARDS.

He'll become the BREADWINNER of another man's family.

In short, single mothers are BAD NEWS in TOO many ways.

Smart men must DODGE them.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by farady(m): 1:48pm On Jan 02, 2025

Being a single mum is not a crime. However, just like the guy above said, how much you allow the circumstances that got you to that point affect your psyche and overall well being is very important.

Most single mums act on some default settings that are a big turn off for men e.g, (1) their pecking order put the man at the rock bottom after their child, career or business and themselves (2) they feel so entitled and believes the world or men owe them (3) if their baby daddy is still alive, they will always wish things work out, even when another man is by the corner. For men, it is safe if the baby daddy passed on.

Besides, una wahala no be here, the baggage is always so much. If you're willing to prove the bookmakers wrong, you can attract very good men. It's plenty of work no doubt on your path. Will you be willing to place your man above your child?

If you strongly desire to have a man, in addition to believing God, you must allow the Spirit of God to dwell in you and break you down completely.

There's nothing that God cannot do. However, you will need to address some important behaviour in your life. Cheers

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by flexxyworld(m): 1:49pm On Jan 02, 2025

It’s really not a crime. It’s just those baggage that comes with them. Their hurts and traumas some of them never properly heal from it and they always take it along without realising it. Another, is just Ego from the man, like why must it be another man’s used toy, especially now when there’s evidence. Then sometimes those single mother are always self centered, it’s always about them and their child. So you will be getting very divided attention. But as long as you have healed and open to love again. I pray you find a man who is genuine and will be true to you.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Samantha125(f): 1:52pm On Jan 02, 2025

It's not a crime... Maybe you should go for single fathers as well.

I had also always made sure to keep away from single fathers because I don't want to get in between someone and his or her father.

I'll only consider them if one day it happens that I'm also a single mother myself.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Omotena1: 2:05pm On Jan 02, 2025

Namaster:
Single-motherhood is NOT a crime.
It's a DISEASE!

A highly CONTAGIOUS and DESTRUCTIVE disease.
Like LEPROSY on steroids.

MEN who avoid them are SENSIBLE men.

Being a single mother means YOU decided to have UNPROTECTED sex with an IRRESPONSIBLE man who ABANDONED his own child. UNLESS the father is dead.

IF you can make such a DEBILITATINGLY horrendous decision that alters your BODY and LIFE in unimaginable ways, then you can NEVER be trusted.

And that includes trust in your ability to be FAITHFUL.

Single-motherhood is PROOF that you make BAD choices.

In fact, it's proof that you made a SERIES of bad choices including:
1. Failure to use condom.
2. Willingness to fucck an irresponsible man.
3. Failure to use morning-after pills.
4. Putting pleasure OVER commonsense.
5. Fucking an irresponsible man WITHOUT condoms means GOD only knows how many STDs call your body home.

Apart from the above, ANY man who get serious with a single mother will be OUTNUMBERED in his own family.

He's NOT marrying a woman. He's marrying a NUCLEAR family. That is father, mother and their BASTARDS.

He'll become the BREADWINNER of another man's family.

In short, single mothers are BAD NEWS in TOO many ways.

Smart men must DODGE them.

What if it was based off other circumstances?

Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by richmond500: 2:05pm On Jan 02, 2025

Samantha125:
It's not a crime... Maybe you should go for single fathers as well.

I had also always made sure to keep away from single fathers because I don't want to get in between someone and his or her father.

I'll only consider them if one day it happens that I'm also a single mother myself.

hehehe.
Justice for singu parents.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Namaster: 2:11pm On Jan 02, 2025

Omotena1:
What if it was based off other circumstances?

Such as?

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Samantha125(f): 2:14pm On Jan 02, 2025

It's best they date each other since they're both experienced when it comes to parenting.

Even if I had a crush on a guy and found out that he had a child, the crush would immediately fade away.

richmond500:
hehehe.
Justice for singu parents.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Yahayaaminat123(op): 2:18pm On Jan 02, 2025*

Well I really appreciate everyone's advice on the issue...

Everyone has his or her untold story

Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by DaddyCash: 2:30pm On Jan 02, 2025

Gram!
You have hit the head on the nail! grin

domack99:
Been a single mum is not a crime but how you become one is more important to a man.

Also been an industrious single woman will do you a great advantage

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by richmond500: 2:33pm On Jan 02, 2025

Samantha125:
It's best they date each other since they're both experienced when it comes to parenting.

Even if I had a crush on a guy and found out that he had a child, the crush would immediately fade away.

I am currently dating single mother of three.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by advanceDNA: 2:37pm On Jan 02, 2025*

Yahayaaminat123:
Well am a single mom of one and it's giving me hard time to be in a relationship..

For the past few months I have seen guys that approach me but after hearing my story of being a single mom, they all cut me off.
I don't know if it a crime for to be a single mom...
My parents are expecting me to bring a man home after all am not getting any young..

So please I need answers and I won't mind to meet a serious guy ready for a relationship

Seriously?? u are trying to pretend u don't know why some men doesn't want a woman that already has a child(ren) from another man that doesn't want her.??
...this shouldn't be too hard to understand because the truth is, even you seff would prefer that your own son brings home a single girl without another man's children.....

In fact, even u that is a single mother prefers a guy that doesn't have kids compared to guys that has kids..

That being said......think of the things that will make u naturally settle for a man that has kids.....Make sure have those things and u will see guys rushing you.... cool

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by advanceDNA: 2:37pm On Jan 02, 2025

richmond500:
I am currently dating single mother of three.

Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Rich4god(m): 2:40pm On Jan 02, 2025

Sorry to say, but the experience people have with single moms is what is fueling the stigma on single mom.

A greater percentage of single mothers are toxic, wicked, loose and cant take care of the home. They can't even bring up their children in a morally way/manner.

Emphasis on "GREATER PERCENTAGE ". Especially those who are single mom out of wedlock or via divorce. Those who are single mum through death of their husband usually have the husbands family to help look after her and put her in check.

Before you come for my head, my comment is based on real life experience as it's part of what I do. I have even written a thread about it .

As a lady, the best thing you can do to your self is to avoid being a single mother.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by marlow1962(m): 2:41pm On Jan 02, 2025

What happened to the other guy/ the child's dad?

Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by omamistudio: 2:43pm On Jan 02, 2025

Namaster:
Single-motherhood is NOT a crime.
It's a DISEASE!

A highly CONTAGIOUS and DESTRUCTIVE disease.
Like LEPROSY on steroids.

MEN who avoid them are SENSIBLE men.

Being a single mother means YOU decided to have UNPROTECTED sex with an IRRESPONSIBLE man who ABANDONED his own child. UNLESS the father is dead.

IF you can make such a DEBILITATINGLY horrendous decision that alters your BODY and LIFE in unimaginable ways, then you can NEVER be trusted.

And that includes trust in your ability to be FAITHFUL.

Single-motherhood is PROOF that you make BAD choices.

In fact, it's proof that you made a SERIES of bad choices including:
1. Failure to use condom.
2. Willingness to fucck an irresponsible man.
3. Failure to use morning-after pills.
4. Putting pleasure OVER commonsense.
5. Fucking an irresponsible man WITHOUT condoms means GOD only knows how many STDs call your body home.

Apart from the above, ANY man who get serious with a single mother will be OUTNUMBERED in his own family.

He's NOT marrying a woman. He's marrying a NUCLEAR family. That is father, mother and their BASTARDS.

He'll become the BREADWINNER of another man's family.

In short, single mothers are BAD NEWS in TOO many ways.

Smart men must DODGE them.

you cant make such conclusions what if the husband died? what if the relationship was abusive that she had to leave. unfortunately finding a good patner in this society is going to be quite difficult but not impossible.

my advice

be yourself be confident. dont act like you do not have a child hoping that a man would stay if he later discovers
there is mindset that comes with being a single mother which most men dont want.
due to the fact that you are playing both fatherly and motherly roles you may begin to have a boss lady mindset ad often that is transfer to the children. most men dont want to marry someone that would drag head of the family with them so try to retain your feminine side when you finally get a guy.

even if you dont, its not the end of the world take care of your child and live a good life

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by richmond500: 2:43pm On Jan 02, 2025

advanceDNA:

She gives me peace though and is very understanding.
The sex is great, the communication is topnotch, affection is mutual, the caring is too much sha, maybe because she is a mother.

I just like older women, so I am comfortable with her for now

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Gggjhhj: 2:46pm On Jan 02, 2025

Namaster:
Single-motherhood is NOT a crime.
It's a DISEASE!

A highly CONTAGIOUS and DESTRUCTIVE disease.
Like LEPROSY on steroids.

MEN who avoid them are SENSIBLE men.

Being a single mother means YOU decided to have UNPROTECTED sex with an IRRESPONSIBLE man who ABANDONED his own child. UNLESS the father is dead.

IF you can make such a DEBILITATINGLY horrendous decision that alters your BODY and LIFE in unimaginable ways, then you can NEVER be trusted.

And that includes trust in your ability to be FAITHFUL.

Single-motherhood is PROOF that you make BAD choices.

In fact, it's proof that you made a SERIES of bad choices including:
1. Failure to use condom.
2. Willingness to fucck an irresponsible man.
3. Failure to use morning-after pills.
4. Putting pleasure OVER commonsense.
5. Fucking an irresponsible man WITHOUT condoms means GOD only knows how many STDs call your body home.

Apart from the above, ANY man who get serious with a single mother will be OUTNUMBERED in his own family.

He's NOT marrying a woman. He's marrying a NUCLEAR family. That is father, mother and their BASTARDS.

He'll become the BREADWINNER of another man's family.

In short, single mothers are BAD NEWS in TOO many ways.

Smart men must DODGE them.

Werey get sense sometimes, pray your abortion sister no fall in this category, try use your head sometimes, have you not had unprotected sex before

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Yahayaaminat123(op): 2:47pm On Jan 02, 2025

marlow1962:
What happened to the other guy/ the child's dad?

He ran away

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Namaster: 2:47pm On Jan 02, 2025*

The issue is that my unfortunate ex boyfriend impregnated me and left me three years ago and since then I have vowed not to have anything with guys again...

This is MY point!

A woman who WILLINGLY lets an "unfortunate" man inseminate her is ALSO an "unfortunate" woman.

Irresponsibility is like a BODY ODOUR. You can NEVER hide it.
Even if it's masked with cologne, sooner or later it'll OOZE out like water out of a broken dam.

A man who will ABANDON his child will have a TON of red flags. Yet a woman still CHOSE to fucck him WITHOUT condom. And WITHOUT taking any birth control pills.

This points to a level of MENTAL INFIRMITY that sensible men must AVOID.

A single mother makes TERRIBLE choices.
They can INFECT you with their terrible decision -making and turn you into an "unfortunate" person like them.

Plus, a LOT of single mothers have a personal VENDETTA against ALL men. They think ALL men want to ABANDON them like their babby daddies did.

That TRAUMA makes them unhappy. They CANNOT allow themselves to be genuinely happy with ANY man because they think it's just a matter of time before he takes off.

They are JADED!
They are sentient BLACK HOLES that suck out positivity, excitement and happiness.

They laugh with reserve!
They love with reserve!
But they HATE with the fury of a thousand suns!!

ANY man who enters into a serious relationship with them will ATONE for a sin he did NOT commit.

Such a man will become like Jesus but WORSE because instead of becoming a Messiah in the end, he just becomes a LOSER.

A LOSER who pays and pays AND PAYS for a crime he did not commit.
He will WASTE his life to PROVE himself worthy to an UNWORTHY woman.

Dating/marrying a single mother is a life for the LOWLIEST of all LOSERS.
NOT for sensible men.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by farady(m): 2:48pm On Jan 02, 2025

Yahayaaminat123:
Well I really appreciate everyone's advice on the issue...
But as you all said being desperate or not able ti take care of the child isn't the issue..
The issue is that my unfortunate ex boyfriend impregnated me and left me three years ago and since then I have vowed not to have anything with guys again...

But along the line my parents sat me down to and asked me some essentially questions... All I could say is that am not interested in guys in generally but they said we don't judge book by its cover ...
My conclusion is that am not desperate nor rushing to settle down...I just need someone that I could confined in and he can do the same

Make you dey play

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by FunnyDude(m): 2:53pm On Jan 02, 2025

Yahayaaminat123:
Well I really appreciate everyone's advice on the issue...
But as you all said being desperate or not able ti take care of the child isn't the issue..
The issue is that my unfortunate ex boyfriend impregnated me and left me three years ago and since then I have vowed not to have anything with guys again...

But along the line my parents sat me down to and asked me some essentially questions... All I could say is that am not interested in guys in generally but they said we don't judge book by its cover ...
My conclusion is that am not desperate nor rushing to settle down...I just need someone that I could confined in and he can do the same

Your unfortunate boyfriend? Lol

During your prime, when they advice you to stay away from irresponsible boys you'll rather abuse the person. I have your type around.

Look for a single Father.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by tanigororo: 3:00pm On Jan 02, 2025

Yahayaaminat123:
Well am a single mom of one and it's giving me hard time to be in a relationship..

For the past few months I have seen guys that approach me but after hearing my story of being a single mom, they all cut me off.
I don't know if it a crime for to be a single mom...
My parents are expecting me to bring a man home after all am not getting any young..

So please I need answers and I won't mind to meet a serious guy ready for a relationship

It's not a crime nor a sin.
But you should opt to be second, third or fourth wife;or go for divorcee or a widow, no single guy will ever take you serious.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Ibkay32(m): 3:04pm On Jan 02, 2025

First, let me start by asking a few questions: How old are you? What do you do for a living? Are you an independent woman?

It’s important to note that a guy might be hesitant to date a single mom if she isn’t actively doing something productive or striving to build a stable life for herself. Being independent and having a sense of direction are qualities that most people look for in a partner, especially when when a man want to date a single mother.

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Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Kobicove(m): 3:11pm On Jan 02, 2025

coputa:
why are you so desperate to remarry again, can't you work hard to take proper care of your child,

Is the father sending money for his upkeep

There is nothing wrong with her wanting to remarry

Re: Is Being A Single Mom A Crime?? by Kobicove(m): 3:13pm On Jan 02, 2025

Namaster:
Single-motherhood is NOT a crime.
It's a DISEASE!

A highly CONTAGIOUS and DESTRUCTIVE disease.
Like LEPROSY on steroids.

MEN who avoid them are SENSIBLE men.

Being a single mother means YOU decided to have UNPROTECTED sex with an IRRESPONSIBLE man who ABANDONED his own child. UNLESS the father is dead.

IF you can make such a DEBILITATINGLY horrendous decision that alters your BODY and LIFE in unimaginable ways, then you can NEVER be trusted.

And that includes trust in your ability to be FAITHFUL.

Single-motherhood is PROOF that you make BAD choices.

In fact, it's proof that you made a SERIES of bad choices including:
1. Failure to use condom.
2. Willingness to fucck an irresponsible man.
3. Failure to use morning-after pills.
4. Putting pleasure OVER commonsense.
5. Fucking an irresponsible man WITHOUT condoms means GOD only knows how many STDs call your body home.

Apart from the above, ANY man who get serious with a single mother will be OUTNUMBERED in his own family.

He's NOT marrying a woman. He's marrying a NUCLEAR family. That is father, mother and their BASTARDS.

He'll become the BREADWINNER of another man's family.

In short, single mothers are BAD NEWS in TOO many ways.

Smart men must DODGE them.