₦airaland Forum

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

skywalker240:
Sad but there's traces of truth in this write up


Men are going through alot, but As a married Man, yours is raised to powers >°

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

Gerrard59:
It was worse in 2015/6 when Buhari came to power. Nigerians were moving to Benin Republic to hustle as the country's economy worsened. That period marked the first social media japa frenzy. People left Nigeria to work elsewhere because Buhari rubbished the economy. They were alive then, so no excuses.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

kernniejay:
That statement alone from your wife is enough to make you think twice about your self. This year, I have decided to be a little more selfish in taking care of my personal needs and make myself happy. If I die today, life continues.

McLizbae:
You sound unconscious. Or, may be you are not in touch with the reality that is currently on ground in Nigeria.

Many men who can luxuriously take care of their family just in 2019 (right here) are currently struggling to provide the basic needs.

ibechris:
Na men dey like to suffer.

When u are in your 20's start early and awake ur investment mindset.

If u can do this early enough,at your 40's ur passive income should be enough to take care of your family expenses while u continue to grind with life.

I learnt this technique at an early age...not from my father but from someone whom I lived with years back.

Example is. If u have 30million,invest it for one year,use the proceed to settle all family expenses for one year,after that u can rest and be happy. Not all the time,waiting for salaries that isn't enough.

May his soul rest in peace and may this serve as a lesson for all our able young men especially our teenagers.

tensazangetsu20:
The man is a fool for having 4 kids and men can control child birth. What happened to getting a vasectomy after having the first kid. Nigeria is only going to get harder. 2 kids is even a lot for an average Nigerian. There has never been a time the economy of Nigeria has been good enough for the average person to adequately provide for 4 kids.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

pretydiva:
I think you should really have a deep conversation with wifey. Let me not conclude yet that she’s self centered/ selfish.

She buying over 10 new shirts for herself , but couldn’t even get you her hubby any even if it’s just one, says a lot about her person.

Just like you rightly said, men should take good care of themselves. No need to do too much, do the best you can and leave the rest. Shikena

Godwin4444:
this your analysis is flawed

Many Nigerian men graduate from school late 20's, they serve n start hustle early 30's. If u didn't do fraud or from rich family it is 30's that u will try to b stable which it's not everyone that gets lucky to b stable in their 30's.

N besides where will d 30 million come from cos u present it as if there's a place people can collect 30 million

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

tensazangetsu20:
The man is a fool for having 4 kids and men can control child birth. What happened to getting a vasectomy after having the first kid. Nigeria is only going to get harder. 2 kids is even a lot for an average Nigerian. There has never been a time the economy of Nigeria has been good enough for the average person to adequately provide for 4 kids.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

peropoliet:
you didn't marry right

Godwin4444:
this your analysis is flawed

Many Nigerian men graduate from school late 20's, they serve n start hustle early 30's. If u didn't do fraud or from rich family it is 30's that u will try to b stable which it's not everyone that gets lucky to b stable in their 30's.

N besides where will d 30 million come from cos u present it as if there's a place people can collect 30 million

DrDoc:
Marriage financial pressure kills alot of men

Bobodee09:
Have made up my mind aswell and no going back.

I have to be really selfish.