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ThaThinka:
Such wisdom!

You're the kind of man I am growing to be. Na only the money remain. Life is not all competition.

Jonathan:
Una go just open mouth waaaa without much reasoning...
Na e easy and life doesn't happen, right?

occfx:
Every married man is seeing hell at the moment except those who are lucky with free flowing dough.

Just keep Amlodipin 10mg by your side and an anti depressant like Heineken or action bitters.

onyxo76:
This is true reflection of the average family man's life in this current dispensation.
One just has to avoid financial stess by all means, today I told my wife that we need a new inveter battery for the inverter, and I need her support ,she said she's giving her salary as first fruit to church this month, I told her I'm not going to keep fueling generator every night, na she kuku dey carry chutch doctrine for head.
I no go kill myself over anything again.

Bobodee09:
My actual problem is fear of the unknown and unforseen expenses.

For instance last year March my daughter just came back from school and by night she got really sick.
In just 6days we spent over 200k on hospital bills.

I don't have people to run to for help, infact I hardly even ask anyone for help...so I can't afford to be financially stranded.

So that my fear which limits me alot but I think I need to put it aside now.

Gerrard59:
It is the Nigerian culture - the average Nigerian man wants to be in total control of affairs in the house.

giacomogiovanni:
Leave that guy.

He talks like a someone without empathy.

Everyone isn't the same. Because you were able to have guidance and investment capital at a young age, doesn't mean another person has access to those advantages.

ibechris:
U guys see this life with a poverty mindset and that is why many of think every person should be at ur levels.

U see that write up I put up there,I said it without prior apology. At ur 40's,ur life shouldn't be too hard. Na una like to suffer.

If u did what was supposed to be done...e no supposed hard honestly.

I am opening my mouth wa because most of u prefer to gamble over being responsible and then,after few years u would start crying like u are doing now.

I made my contribution because of people like u who would get Offended instead of learning now that it is still early.

I stand by what I said and there is no apology yet.

pocohantas:
Honestly things are so hard these days. I calculated our most recent expenses and it is much. Many families have indeed lowered their spending. The only option now is another source of income or return to the village.

But what of us with men that we have begged to reduce work? Any advice for us? 😃

laconicezone:
This is the best thread I have come across on nairaland this year, this is true talk, men often take lots of risk to take care of everyone around them at their own expense, it's time we think of taking care of ourselves.

Fujiyama:
^^^
Every marriage is different.

Some men start out with a liberal mindset but this could have deadly consequences down the line - if a man is married to the wrong kind of woman. By the time the man realizes it - it is often too late.

juwoonn:
You're very correct brother 💯
My neighbor's wife has been on his neck for the past two years now to have the third child. The man is still standing his ground that the two they have is enough. Funny enough, they don't have as much money as they used to have. She is doing this to compete with her friends who have 3kids aready. I don't understand how the woman dey reason.

Bobodee09:
Bros abeg show me the way oooo.

Any investment or side hustle.

Am really struggling to meet up with expenses.

AngelSlay:
The money for on of your child school fee should be used to buy the jeans then tell her she would pay for the term as you have used the money to get yourself a pair of jeans.

AngelSlay:
It's obvious you la k financial education

Here's what you need to do have the following money for specific expenses
1. Money for school fees and rent should come from investment not savings
2. Medicals should be done at the beginning of the yeardor the whole family
3. Your win vex money that only you have and you wife doesn't know about

Ire o!

Mrexcell:
So many young nigerian men are falling dead these days because of trying to meet up with western lifestyles.

Bobodee09:
I haven't tasted alcohol since last year oct till date.
Not that I can't buy it but I just don't know why I just lost interest in it totally.

It been more than 2yrs I stopped taking beer but until last October I always have striker bitters in packs in my fridge.
Even last week my first daughter ask why I no dey take striker again....lol just told her have Giving my life to Jesus again.

I think I will get the drug sha cos my family has history of high BP.

occfx:
Fuel is not an option.... Tubular is about 250 to 350k...i use local made lithium as rescue mission. I do it myself anyway, may be thats why I find it cheaper. Good tubular is OK but try to flood it back every 6 months with distilled water

GloriousGbola:
the truth is we all have a limit we are not going to go below

because we know what comes with it

there is a reason one left some things behind because of the stress that comes with them

poverty is also a problem that can put you in a never ending cycle

yesterday i changed the tires of madams car. the week before the battery

some silly child will say manage it

thats when the car will break down at in oshodi and you find yourself facing a a whole new set of problems from area boy to local govt task force to lastma.

don't package yourself properly when meeting client and they will lowball you. same way you will size up an artisan and decide how much to pay him, na so client go also size you up.

and the cheapness of some accommodation also comes with the lack of security

osuofia2:
Consider having an health insurance. It's way better and cheaper

pocohantas:
I am worried about his health. He complains himself that it is mentally draining. Last year we had a situation and if I weren't an emotionally strong person, it reach to have high bp. But the second he was fit, he continued from where he stopped. We would agree A, he would do B. If he slumps now, world people would say he was hustling to give his fair wife. Whereas I have talked and fought. I just pray God touches his heart this year.

OlawaleBammie:
After getting the two kids and undergone vasectomy, u now realise that those two kids belongs to ur wife ex...lol

Sebi u no wan get sense ni, I will be happy to see you ing.est 3 bottles of sniper

djon78:
Actually I understand you
But this doesn't stop you from buying like 2/3 trousers or appareals/ clothes

It's great you are shouldering your responsibilities, I salute you.
But don't neglect yourself.

I used to be like you. Couple of years back I made a bit good money. But my madam, my home expenses, almost chop everything except the ones I invested back in my business.

Only for my madam, to ask me when we were quarrelling wetin I use the money do? Because I told her about the money. When I reminded her all the money I gave her, she no fit talk again.

That taught me a very big lesson. Now all my earnings, I still take good care of my family, but I don't neglect taking care of myself. I buy good clothes, shoes, etc. This year in Sha Allah I go take better vacation abroad even if na Rwanda or Qatar etc cause I no come this Life to watch others enjoy themselves. I work very hard and play harder

Bobodee09:
People like you just sound like everyone has a good paying job or good business enterprise in Nigeria.
Like everyone have millions of naira sitting there bank accounts

Where is the fund to invest??


Not everyone is lucky like some of who give the advise....some of us struggle everyday to make money.

GloriousGbola:
I admire your patience in not calling out these internet millionaires whose post history does not match the income and assets they claim to have

Jonathan:
Lol
Weyrey
Everyone is billionaire on the internet
You're most likely one struggling kid
You'll be fine

chris2face:
Truth is that I do my thing without looking at anyone as long as I have the money I will pay it without looking at her,I believe it's my responsibility and God being so kind an doing it but its just so painful that as a man u constantly put ur family first above ur own needs and wifey will get anything that need without really putting the family first like men do
God bless all real father's out there

ibechris:
Na men dey like to suffer.

When u are in your 20's start early and awake ur investment mindset.

If u can do this early enough,at your 40's ur passive income should be enough to take care of your family expenses while u continue to grind with life.

I learnt this technique at an early age...not from my father but from someone whom I lived with years back.

Example is. If u have 30million,invest it for one year,use the proceed to settle all family expenses for one year,after that u can rest and be happy. Not all the time,waiting for salaries that isn't enough.

May his soul rest in peace and may this serve as a lesson for all our able young men especially our teenagers.

For those who may not find this feasible,this theory is working for me and u can always adjust it to suit ur figures especially if u think the figure is too high. remember na advice ooooooh.

AngelSlay:
How much would you do lithium for me?

AngelSlay:
I used to be lien you too, I struggle but the day my 45yrs old uncle open my eyes to see the enormous opportunities, I never looked back, you will only suffer for a few months or years and laugh at the end, PAY NOW, PLAY LATER (PNPL).

occfx:
Depends on your need.... My sweet spot for Lithium is 24V. Then the current will determine the cost