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The rate at which people are telling me to get married lately is alarming, it got me looking at the mirror to check why they are doing it.

Every person I meet, which I have not met for a while, would ask me if I am married or single.
Every week whenever someone younger than me in my area is getting married my friends would say to me "you really need to get married people younger than you are getting married" I keep thinking why always me? There are lots of guys older than me and unmarried but they don't pressure them about marriage like they are pressuring me.

I create this thread out of anger, because I have just come back from where I sit with my friends, and one of them suggested that they should contribute money and find me a wife.
Just because I am 30 years old.
Is 30 years a curse or what? since when i hit 30 years, people have made me depressed they kept suggesting that at 30 I should have this and that.

Its disgusting. they think its a joke but honestly I begin to hate it.

Just 30..Hmm
.the pressure I am facing at 38..I don't want to get depressed but the pressure is much on my side..the pressure I am facing really getting on me..but sometimes I said "I am enough"
Though I am looking for a wife..atleast now I can boast of paying bride price and traditional marriage..she won't be hungry in my house.

But past years I can't boast of even 200,000 and I am the first and bread winner of my family..but as God may have it man can boast of 5million..

Guy take your time..look for something that fetch you money..and start looking for decent girl to settle down in future

Snowx:
Just 30..Hmm ....the pressure I am facing at 38..I don't want to get depressed but the pressure is much on my side..the pressure I am facing really getting on me..but sometimes I said "I am enough" Though I am looking for a wife..atleast now I can boast of paying bride price and traditional marriage..she won't be hungry in my house.
But past years I can't boast of even 200,000 and I am the first and bread winner of my family..but as God may have it man can boast of 5million..
Guy take your time..look for something that fetch you money..and start looking for decent girl to settle down in future

You can't feed yourself and make sense of your life as it is but you are dreaming of having a whole other human adult as a dependent and intending to raise children on top of that? This thing wey dey do una self so, na for water e dey abi na for food?

Kobojunkie:
You can't feed yourself and make sense of your life as it is but you are dreaming of having a whole other human adult as a dependent and intending to even raise children on top of that? This thing wey dey do una, na the water e dey abi na the food?

Do you even read all before quoting me saying I can't even feed myself..smh..if food is my problem I don't have problem..please before you comment on someone post read through.

arkad321:
the rate at which people are telling me to get married lately is alarming, it got me looking at the mirror to check why they are doing it.
Every person I meet, which I have not met for a while, would ask me if I am married or single.
Every week whenever someone younger than me in my area is getting married my friends would say to me "you really need to get married people younger than you are getting married" I keep thinking why always me? There are lots of guys older than me and unmarried but they dont pressure them about marriage like they are pressuring me.
I create this thread out of anger, because I have just come back from where I sit with my friends, and one of them suggested that they should contribute money and find me a wife.
Just because I am 30 years old.
Is 30 years a curse or what? since when i hit 30 years, people have made me depressed they kept suggesting that at 30 I should have this and that.

Its disgusting. they think its a joke but honestly I begin to hate it.

IN LIFE, LOOKING AT ANOTHER MAN'S CLOCK/WRISTWATCH WILL MAKE YOU LATE

The people you are talking about DO NOT LOVE YOU.... or they may not know how to LOVE YOU.

Many were pressured into UNIVERSITY, and they graduated without any purpose.... still unaware of who they truly are.

So remove marriage from your mind, RELOCATE pls.... change environment, get tech skills so you can have remote work, join focus groups, hubs, churches, clubs where you can make impact and meet/attract meaningful people.......

LEARN DEEPLY ABOUT THE INSTITUTION CALLED MARRIAGE and its woes and pitfalls.... learn from DIVORCED MEN ....learn from MARRIED BUT ENDURING MEN. Don't go into marriage blind ooooooooo

this year will be better, just focus and show evidence of growth.

U don't know what pressuring is all about.

They are advising u and now u have turned it to pressure.

Na u dey pressure yourself uncle.

If u marry without money u will see the real pressure with ur naked eyes.

arkad321:
the rate at which people are telling me to get married lately is alarming, it got me looking at the mirror to check why they are doing it.
Every person I meet, which I have not met for a while, would ask me if I am married or single.
Every week whenever someone younger than me in my area is getting married my friends would say to me "you really need to get married people younger than you are getting married" I keep thinking why always me? There are lots of guys older than me and unmarried but they dont pressure them about marriage like they are pressuring me.
I create this thread out of anger, because I have just come back from where I sit with my friends, and one of them suggested that they should contribute money and find me a wife.
Just because I am 30 years old.
Is 30 years a curse or what? since when i hit 30 years, people have made me depressed they kept suggesting that at 30 I should have this and that.

Its disgusting. they think its a joke but honestly I begin to hate it.

ibechris:
U don't know what pressuring is all about.

They are advising u and now u have turned it to pressure.

Na u dey pressure yourself uncle.

If u marry without money u will see the real pressure with ur naked eyes.

LWKMD 😅😂🤣. Aswearugad, beginning of generational porverty 😥

arkad321:
the rate at which people are telling me to get married lately is alarming, it got me looking at the mirror to check why they are doing it.
Every person I meet, which I have not met for a while, would ask me if I am married or single.
Every week whenever someone younger than me in my area is getting married my friends would say to me "you really need to get married people younger than you are getting married" I keep thinking why always me? There are lots of guys older than me and unmarried but they dont pressure them about marriage like they are pressuring me.
I create this thread out of anger, because I have just come back from where I sit with my friends, and one of them suggested that they should contribute money and find me a wife.
Just because I am 30 years old.
Is 30 years a curse or what? since when i hit 30 years, people have made me depressed they kept suggesting that at 30 I should have this and that.

Its disgusting. they think its a joke but honestly I begin to hate it.

My brother, I will be 35 in March. Am planning how to better my life and future kids. I've reached that level that no one stresses me. Without proper planning, you will be doomed. Job stability is key, my elder sister wey b woman do tell me to get a job before starting family (na woman b dat)
I know a man that is still paying debt two years after his marriage 😥 because of wedding expenses (for what na). Look well oOoOO

Do not let anyone put you under pressure to marry

**Op I married when I clocked 40**

Some things I would advise though:

> Marry a soul mate who you can tell sit down on the ground and she will.
> You are a man and can marry when you are ready , however if you are waiting for millions before you marry you may never marry.
> I didn't have up to 200k in my account, but had a 3 million wedding with spare change.
> Don't let your wife to bes people dictate the spending on your wedding ( you are the one paying not them)
> My experience - I fought the TM list and reduced it drastically (whilst telling them they can marry their daughter if they won't budge) my wife did the needful.

Funny enough now, there is pressure on my wife not me to have a child.

I have asked her to chill, some days she listens...some days she doesn't stating menopause.

But me.... I put my feet down and told her whoever is putting her under pressure can come and give her belle (she won't cheat)...but the idea that I don't care puts shiver down her spine.

In summary, the decision to marry now or in 10 years time depends solely on you. Looking for a homely girl ready to settle down and not a broke a55 slay queen with a broke a55 family to make your forever partner.

Imagine demanding for a bike (okada), big gen amongst other outrageous things - regalia for a great grandfather who don kpai since all in the name of tradition for this economy. Aunty come dey say it's tradition (all in the name of looking for marriage) mcheww.

Good luck bro!

Snowx:
Just 30..Hmm
.the pressure I am facing at 38..I don't want to get depressed but the pressure is much on my side..the pressure I am facing really getting on me..but sometimes I said "I am enough"
Though I am looking for a wife..atleast now I can boast of paying bride price and traditional marriage..she won't be hungry in my house.

But past years I can't boast of even 200,000 and I am the first and bread winner of my family..but as God may have it man can boast of 5million..

Guy take your time..look for something that fetch you money..and start looking for decent girl to settle down in future

Even with this 5m... You still need to work on your hustle...
God will run it well for you

You need to make sure when you eventually see someone you want to settle down with.. make sure she's has some earnings


Never ever marry a woman who is a liability

Na bad thing

duduade:
Even with this 5m... You still need to work on your hustle...
God will run it well for you

You need to make sure when you eventually see someone you want to settle down with.. make sure she's has some earnings


Never ever marry a woman who is a liability


Na bad thing

True brotherly..Na wetin I dey pray for..some women of these days Na something else

Who you marry is more important than when you marry , as who you marry can determine your life's progression or retrogression.

OP! Where I come from, there is a saying ;
DEM NO DEY USE ANOTHER PERSON EYES TAKE SEE ROAD!

Meaning, RUN YOUR RACE.

Snowx:
Do you even read all before quoting me saying I can't even feed myself..smh..if food is my problem I don't have problem..please before you comment on someone post read through.

Don't mind that werey I was reading his reply to your post and I was trying to understand where's he's coming from. Some people lack comprehension shaa.

Snowx:
Just 30..Hmm
.the pressure I am facing at 38..I don't want to get depressed but the pressure is much on my side..the pressure I am facing really getting on me..but sometimes I said "I am enough"
Though I am looking for a wife..atleast now I can boast of paying bride price and traditional marriage..she won't be hungry in my house.

But past years I can't boast of even 200,000 and I am the first and bread winner of my family..but as God may have it man can boast of 5million..

Guy take your time..look for something that fetch you money..and start looking for decent girl to settle down in future

Sha marry who get sense. Someone that will not ask you to spend your whole savings on marriage. In fact, let me give you a pro tip. Ask your intended what she thinks a reasonable budget for marriage is aside the things obligated by traditional bride price of wherever she is from. And yes, she must be ready to contribute at least a third of that ammont.

calabaman:
Do not let anyone put you under pressure to marry

**Op I married when I clocked 40**

Some things I would advise though:

> Marry a soul mate who you can tell sit down on the ground and she will.
> You are a man and can marry when you are ready , however if you are waiting for millions before you marry you may never marry.
> I didn't have up to 200k in my account, but had a 3 million wedding with spare change.
> Don't let your wife to bes people dictate the spending on your wedding ( you are the one paying not them)
> My experience - I fought the TM list and reduced it drastically (whilst telling them they can marry their daughter if they won't budge) my wife did the needful.

Funny enough now, there is pressure on my wife not me to have a child.

I have asked her to chill, some days she listens...some days she doesn't stating menopause.

But me.... I put my feet down and told her whoever is putting her under pressure can come and give her belle (she won't cheat)...but the idea that I don't care puts shiver down her spine.

In summary, the decision to marry now or in 10 years time depends solely on you. Looking for a homely girl ready to settle down and not a broke a55 slay queen with a broke a55 family to make your forever partner.

Imagine demanding for a bike (okada), big gen amongst other outrageous things - regalia for a great grandfather who don kpai since all in the name of tradition for this economy. Aunty come dey say it's tradition (all in the name of looking for marriage) mchewwe

Good luck bro!

Godabeg ooo see what a man of 40 is saying? So you finally married a slave not a wife? What you call soulmate is a woman you will tell to sit down and she will sit down? So apparently she doesn't have a say? You succeeded in marrying a slave and you are happy, nice one!!

Snowx:
Do you even read all before quoting me saying I can't even feed myself..smh..if food is my problem I don't have problem..please before you comment on someone post read through.

Don't mind the guy. He is a clown that always rushes in to comment just to look intelligent and sophisticated.

That aside, don't let anyone pressure you. My immediate younger bro is 35 and doing well by God's grace but I'm the first to tell my folks to let him be when they start with the marriage business. You don't tell a man to go and marry. In fact, I think thats the whole point exactly. If you need to tell a man to marry, then that man is not ready for marriage.

Mom007:
Don't mind the guy. He is a clown that always rushes in to comment just to look intelligent and sophisticated.

That aside, don't let anyone pressure you. My immediate younger bro is 35 and doing well by God's grace but I'm the first to tell my folks to let him be when they start with the marriage business. You don't tell a man to go and marry. In fact, I think thats the whole point exactly. If you need to tell a man to marry, then that man is not ready for marriage.

Point made bro

Mom007:
Sha marry who get sense. Someone that will not ask you to spend your whole savings on marriage. In fact, let me give you a pro tip. Ask your intended what she thinks a reasonable budget for marriage is aside the things obligated by traditional bride price of wherever she is from. And yes, she must be ready to contribute at least a third of that ammont.

Nice point dear..you must be good woman

Prettygirl200:
Don't mind that werey I was reading his reply to your post and I was trying to understand where's he's coming from. Some people lack comprehension shaa.

Smiles...I was really surprised myself...atleast he would have read first..but it's well with his soul..

calabaman:
Do not let anyone put you under pressure to marry

**Op I married when I clocked 40**

Some things I would advise though:

> Marry a soul mate who you can tell sit down on the ground and she will.
> You are a man and can marry when you are ready , however if you are waiting for millions before you marry you may never marry.
> I didn't have up to 200k in my account, but had a 3 million wedding with spare change.
> Don't let your wife to bes people dictate the spending on your wedding ( you are the one paying not them)
> My experience - I fought the TM list and reduced it drastically (whilst telling them they can marry their daughter if they won't budge) my wife did the needful.

Funny enough now, there is pressure on my wife not me to have a child.

I have asked her to chill, some days she listens...some days she doesn't stating menopause.

But me.... I put my feet down and told her whoever is putting her under pressure can come and give her belle (she won't cheat)...but the idea that I don't care puts shiver down her spine.

In summary, the decision to marry now or in 10 years time depends solely on you. Looking for a homely girl ready to settle down and not a broke a55 slay queen with a broke a55 family to make your forever partner.

Imagine demanding for a bike (okada), big gen amongst other outrageous things - regalia for a great grandfather who don kpai since all in the name of tradition for this economy. Aunty come dey say it's tradition (all in the name of looking for marriage) mchewwe

Good luck bro!

Gbammm, OGA don talk am. God bless the senior man 🙏

duduade:
Even with this 5m... You still need to work on your hustle...
God will run it well for you

You need to make sure when you eventually see someone you want to settle down with.. make sure she's has some earnings


Never ever marry a woman who is a liability

Na bad thing

Alaye go and sit down....he shouldn't marry even with 5m? Are you high? You wet dey talk get 1m?

Mom007:
Sha marry who get sense. Someone that will not ask you to spend your whole savings on marriage. In fact, let me give you a pro tip. Ask your intended what she thinks a reasonable budget for marriage is aside the things obligated by traditional bride price of wherever she is from. And yes, she must be ready to contribute at least a third of that ammont.

Which mumu traditional Bride price must he pay for a non virgin? Or you have forgotten that BP is paid only for virgins back then?

Nah why women dey behave anyhow for marriage na...how will I pay one nonsense BP for a woman with 10-50 body counts and be kneeling to propose or whatever to her? I am never doing that shiit!!!

Prettygirl200:
Godabeg ooo see what a man of 40 is saying? So you finally married a slave not a wife? What you call soulmate is a woman you will tell to sit down and she will sit down? So apparently she doesn't have a say? You succeeded in marrying a slave and you are happy, nice one!!

Shût dafuq up!!!

You know damn well he meant a submissive wife but as usual your inadequate comprehension skills and zigzag emotional spectrum made you see red instead of yellow.

Are you married? No! Did you ever pay bride price? No! So how in hell do you have the guts to tell a grown ass man not to look for a submissive woman!

Kobojunkie:
You can't feed yourself and make sense of your life as it is but you are dreaming of having a whole other human adult as a dependent and intending to even raise children on top of that? This thing wey dey do una, na the water e dey abi na the food?

In your hurry to comment you did not read to understand!

Kobojunkie:
You can't feed yourself and make sense of your life as it is but you are dreaming of having a whole other human adult as a dependent and intending to even raise children on top of that? This thing wey dey do una, na the water e dey abi na the food?

Always go with the brain

luminouz:
Alaye go and sit down....he shouldn't marry even with 5m? Are you high? You wet dey talk get 1m?

Me and you no dey the same category...

You and your big ọpọlọ 👀👀👀

🤭

luminouz:
Which mumu traditional Bride price must he pay for a non virgin? Or you have forgotten that BP is paid only for virgins back then?

Nah why women dey behave anyhow for marriage na...how will I pay one nonsense BP for a woman with 10-50 body counts and be kneeling to propose or whatever to her? I am never doing that shiit!!!

Bia this he goat, I wasn't talking to, with, or about you and your type in any way, form or manner. It's like you want to be unfortunate in life. Do I look like the type that entertains foolishness like yours? The person I was speaking to has received and acknowledged the message so just where and how do you come in?

If only small children like you know that the words you utter, even on social media have power and go wait for you at critical junctions of your life, you will throw your phones inside River and use your words wisely.

Prettygirl200:
Godabeg ooo see what a man of 40 is saying? So you finally married a slave not a wife? What you call soulmate is a woman you will tell to sit down and she will sit down? So apparently she doesn't have a say? You succeeded in marrying a slave and you are happy, nice one!!

Most of you using this slave word if they tell you noe to bring half of the expenses in a marriage so that you wouldn't be a slave anymore you will start crying and running to your father's houses when you are supposed to be happy. You want to take dame decision as your husband (equality) but when it gets to financial equality you start shouting its the man's responsibility to become a slave for you for life una mumu no get part two abeg shift

arkad321:
The rate at which people are telling me to get married lately is alarming, it got me looking at the mirror to check why they are doing it.

Every person I meet, which I have not met for a while, would ask me if I am married or single.
Every week whenever someone younger than me in my area is getting married my friends would say to me "you really need to get married people younger than you are getting married" I keep thinking why always me? There are lots of guys older than me and unmarried but they don't pressure them about marriage like they are pressuring me.

I create this thread out of anger, because I have just come back from where I sit with my friends, and one of them suggested that they should contribute money and find me a wife.
Just because I am 30 years old.
Is 30 years a curse or what? since when i hit 30 years, people have made me depressed they kept suggesting that at 30 I should have this and that.

Its disgusting. they think its a joke but honestly I begin to hate it.

Oga dnt answer them ooo, remain the same stagnant) until you grow grew hairs. After all, you are created empty handed, and empty handed you shall go back to ur creator.