₦airaland Forum

SINisSIN:
If things are stagnant for you, there is nothing wrong going traditional ways to find out what is wrong and get solutions. What is wrong is killing your fellow human/destroying the lifes of your fellow human while seeking solutions to your life problem.

At 38 and 35, you might be having a similar marital
Problem and I will strongly advise you settle your problems first before starting any family. Fight your battle first.

SINisSIN:
If things are stagnant for you, there is nothing wrong going traditional ways to find out what is wrong and get solutions. What is wrong is killing your fellow human/destroying the lifes of your fellow human while seeking solutions to your life problem.

At 38 and 35, you might be having a similar marital
Problem and I will strongly advise you settle your problems first before starting any family. Fight your battle first.

elobrave17:
I am very worried too, not just about babalawo. I fear let her not spoil the small business that I am doing already if I leave her. Chaiiiiiii I think I am in a mess already!!!!

lionphil:
As long as you've not promised her marriage and have not slept with her, you owe her nothing so don't be scared.

My question is, are you willing to take wealth over your current beliefs??

Are your siblings facing challenges like you? If they aren't, then you need to pray harder with fasting for some days to experience breakthrough.

There are some decisions you'll take and you can't go back. This is one of them... When you start, you'll always have a reason to go back especially when something goes wrong. Even if someone innocently looks at you in a strange way, you'll rush down there. You will be scared of every little unusual thing which you'd have previously overlooked.

Discharge her and face your business... You've said it that you're not physically attracted to her. How will you feel free to go on a date with her or to an occasion?

madridguy:
Back to your previous thread, have you gift your late mother what she has been asking for before she passed on?

As a Christian you are, continue to pray and be steadfast on your belief.

dawnomike:
That is not what I meant...
If you choose not to proceed with the relationship after she has fallen in love with you, your matter can get to the shrine.

Other people might have different opinions, but for me; anything diabolical is a NO! NO!! for me..

If you're a Christian, stick to your faith no matter the trials and tribulation... If you're a traditionalist; stick to your belief in peace.

God bless you sir.

I have been down flat in life before too. Friends wanted to connect me to dark powers. I refused.

I stayed true to my Christian faith.

Today, I can only say JEHOVAH SHAMMA and HASHEM everyday

You can not serve play the two sides and believe all is well...
I have been through so much in life and came out of them to know that God is faithfull if only you wait on Him.

#MyOpinion

elobrave17:
....Personally i don't like the whole traditional thing and my family hates to hear anything like native doctor, herbal this or any traditional means. I am also the last born and respect my siblings a lot. If they find out what she does, they would never accept her. But then can it be true that i will find a solution traditionally as she suggested? What if she keeps going deeper to the extent of bringing a shrine into my family. I am very confused. This girl is industrious and would make a great team but then her age and this traditional stuff. I am 38 and everyone is asking me, "how is my family",thinking I am married. I feel ashamed to be single at this age.
People with experience especially elders in the house, please I need your advice on this.
Admin please can you push to front page. Thanks.

elobrave17:
I joined a new line of business after loosing my previous job. Company shut down so everyone had to leave. There are many aspects of this new business so you would always get people to do some part for you while you pay them. Finally I got my first direct business and got someone to assist me with some part of it of which I paid him for. He was actually guiding me because it was my first direct job. While doing this job, I met a lady who was also doing her own job. I noticed she has been in the business for long and very good in it. I went to her and told her few challenges I was having. We exchanged contacts and ever since I would call her once in a while to make one inquiry or the other and she has been helpful. Business has been dull and sometimes I feel like quitting. Someone has advised me to use my car for taxi sometimes when I don't have any business on ground. Honestly I find it difficult to do besides the car is a bit old and might begin to give wahalla if I stress it much. I am no longer a baby and would have married if not for lack of money, so marriage is one of my major priorities at this point.

Last week I remembered that lady that assisted me with the job. I called her and inquired if she is single and she said yes. We had a date and I told her I want a relationship with her and she didn't hesitate. We had some discussions from job to school & then family. In my mind I was having the thought to marry her if things work out because I felt we might be able to achieve a lot together. Since she knows the job more than me, I can hustle for business & contacts while she will be in the field doing the job. It looked so perfect to me but then she is not exactly my type of girl physically and I noticed she talks a bit too much. I was also concerned about her age. She told me she is 35 but I feel she is older than that. All these concerns I was willing to cope with them until she told me something that scared me. She told me that even though she is a Christian and prays very well but she is also into native tradition because of the job and other things. She told me that once things don't go as planned she normally seek for solution in a native way. She also told me to look deeply into my own life to see the need to look for solution to my own problems. She told me that in her dream before, she always see herself in the village and sometimes in the secondary school. I told her I also see myself in the secondary school in my dreams always. I always see myself writing exam with people, almost everyone will be writing well while I will sit alone and won't know what to write. Sometimes I won't even know the particular subject I was going to write until I receive the question paper. She then told me I need to find solution traditionally that she will give me a contact. She said that she want me to know what she does so that in the future I won't feel bad if I find out. She is now in love with me and also willing to support me financially to seek this solution traditionally. From the discussion, I noticed that she rely so much on this traditional stuff & almost all her faith is in it.

Personally i don't like the whole traditional thing and my family hates to hear anything like native doctor, herbal this or any traditional means. I am also the last born and respect my siblings a lot. If they find out what she does, they would never accept her. But then can it be true that i will find a solution traditionally as she suggested? What if she keeps going deeper to the extent of bringing a shrine into my family. I am very confused. This girl is industrious and would make a great team but then her age and this traditional stuff. I am 38 and everyone is asking me, "how is my family",thinking I am married. I feel ashamed to be single at this age.

People with experience especially elders in the house, please I need your advice on this.
Admin please can you push to front page. Thanks.

missjekyll:
Comedy.

Dude you have messed it up. You don't poop where you eat.
You could have asked her to teach you how she succeeded in this business.

But No, you have already plotted the graph in your mind of how you will take over her business. And run it into the ground , abi?

You better backtrack and find somebody else to teach you the business. Don't be throwing proposals about and for God's sake leave your colleagues alone.

cybernaut:
Once she can conceived marry her. Traditional religion is the best religion u can join as a black man or African.

Start going spiritual and do some rituals using animals to appeased the Gods of our land and be successful in no time.

Never use human for rituals but always do sacrifices using animal to elevate ur spiritual life .

Once she is fertile which is the major thing to check marry her.

Prayer and shouting is useless but offering sacrifices to the God of our ancestors will free many spiritual bondage for you and more roads will open.

Christianity religion is white men religion take note . Most Christians still visit native traditions from the backdoor.

Let me give you some tips.

Native Doctor - are people who cure sickness using herbs and leaves

Traditional Priest- are people who worship God in traditional ways

Ritualist- are people who sacrifice human beings for the own reason or people who deals on business of selling humans

So,ur girl friend is visiting traditional priest for more prosperity, success in her business in traditional ways ,which is the best because u will know ur boundaries.

Kobojunkie:
✹ You started a new line of business and that hasn't been going well
✹ You can't get extra money on the side with your car because it is too old
✹ You realize you would have loved to be married at this point but because your finances are not so great, you think it a bad idea

But this very same you decided, all on your own that it would make sense to not only pursue and even marry this particular gal who is not your type, not in the same place as you at all since she seems to have her business going really well, and probably on the older side, whose business is flourishing, but maybe take over aspects of her business while she continues to bring in the main finances? Do you know why they continue to report that many Nigerians are struggling with one mental problem or the other with the vast majority unaware?

elobrave17:
I don't have any plans whatsoever of taking her business from her and I didn't make any proposal to her. I asked her for a relationship so that through dating and with time I will know her better to see if I can marry her. The truth is I was attracted by her knowledge of the business and how well she does it. I felt we could make a great team so don't think I don't have anything to offer in all of it. Just two days in the relationship and she started telling me all about the traditional stuff. How would I have known what she's into if not that I got closer to her.
Thanks for your contribution.

missjekyll:
Dude,don't date your colleagues. Do your job and get out. Now tell me if she will be happy to teach you now after the relationship did not work out?

Kobojunkie:
✹ You started a new line of business and that hasn't been going well
✹ You can't get extra money on the side with your car because it is too old
✹ You realize you would have loved to be married at this point but because your finances are not so great, you think it a bad idea

But this very same you decided, all on your own that it would make sense to not only pursue and even marry this particular gal who is not your type, not in the same place as you at all since she seems to have her business going really well, and probably on the older side, whose business is flourishing, but maybe take over aspects of her business while she continues to bring in the main finances? Do you know why they continue to report that many Nigerians are struggling with one mental problem or the other with the vast majority unaware?

elobrave17:
I joined a new line of business after loosing my previous job. Company shut down so everyone had to leave. There are many aspects of this new business so you would always get people to do some part for you while you pay them. Finally I got my first direct business and got someone to assist me with some part of it of which I paid him for. He was actually guiding me because it was my first direct job. While doing this job, I met a lady who was also doing her own job. I noticed she has been in the business for long and very good in it. I went to her and told her few challenges I was having. We exchanged contacts and ever since I would call her once in a while to make one inquiry or the other and she has been helpful. Business has been dull and sometimes I feel like quitting. Someone has advised me to use my car for taxi sometimes when I don't have any business on ground. Honestly I find it difficult to do besides the car is a bit old and might begin to give wahalla if I stress it much. I am no longer a baby and would have married if not for lack of money, so marriage is one of my major priorities at this point.

Last week I remembered that lady that assisted me with the job. I called her and inquired if she is single and she said yes. We had a date and I told her I want a relationship with her and she didn't hesitate. We had some discussions from job to school & then family. In my mind I was having the thought to marry her if things work out because I felt we might be able to achieve a lot together. Since she knows the job more than me, I can hustle for business & contacts while she will be in the field doing the job. It looked so perfect to me but then she is not exactly my type of girl physically and I noticed she talks a bit too much. I was also concerned about her age. She told me she is 35 but I feel she is older than that. All these concerns I was willing to cope with them until she told me something that scared me. She told me that even though she is a Christian and prays very well but she is also into native tradition because of the job and other things. She told me that once things don't go as planned she normally seek for solution in a native way. She also told me to look deeply into my own life to see the need to look for solution to my own problems. She told me that in her dream before, she always see herself in the village and sometimes in the secondary school. I told her I also see myself in the secondary school in my dreams always. I always see myself writing exam with people, almost everyone will be writing well while I will sit alone and won't know what to write. Sometimes I won't even know the particular subject I was going to write until I receive the question paper. She then told me I need to find solution traditionally that she will give me a contact. She said that she want me to know what she does so that in the future I won't feel bad if I find out. She is now in love with me and also willing to support me financially to seek this solution traditionally. From the discussion, I noticed that she rely so much on this traditional stuff & almost all her faith is in it.

Personally i don't like the whole traditional thing and my family hates to hear anything like native doctor, herbal this or any traditional means. I am also the last born and respect my siblings a lot. If they find out what she does, they would never accept her. But then can it be true that i will find a solution traditionally as she suggested? What if she keeps going deeper to the extent of bringing a shrine into my family. I am very confused. This girl is industrious and would make a great team but then her age and this traditional stuff. I am 38 and everyone is asking me, "how is my family",thinking I am married. I feel ashamed to be single at this age.

People with experience especially elders in the house, please I need your advice on this.
Admin please can you push to front page. Thanks.

elobrave17:
I have not touched her if that's what you mean

cybernaut:
Once she can conceived marry her. Traditional religion is the best religion u can join as a black man or African.

Start going spiritual and do some rituals using animals to appeased the Gods of our land and be successful in no time.

Never use human for rituals but always do sacrifices using animal to elevate ur spiritual life .

Once she is fertile which is the major thing to check marry her.

Prayer and shouting is useless but offering sacrifices to the God of our ancestors will free many spiritual bondage for you and more roads will open.

Christianity religion is white men religion take note . Most Christians still visit native traditions from the backdoor.

Let me give you some tips.

Native Doctor - are people who cure sickness using herbs and leaves

Traditional Priest- are people who worship God in traditional ways

Ritualist- are people who sacrifice human beings for the own reason or people who deals on business of selling humans

So,ur girl friend is visiting traditional priest for more prosperity, success in her business in traditional ways ,which is the best because u will know ur boundaries.

elobrave17:
I am very worried too, not just about babalawo. I fear let her not spoil the small business that I am doing already if I leave her. Chaiiiiiii I think I am in a mess already!!!!

Galaxydon1:
[don't be surprised, your pastor may be going to a native doctor place for solutions

osazsky:
does this makes it right

sreamsense:
Keep fooling yourself around! Education and technology are also white men tool, why not drop them? You want him to go into backwardness. Why hasn't the ritual work for the lady since she is above 35? Christianity through Christ brought salvation of mankind to the world. If white man introduces Christianity to you just like education and technology, you look at that religion and found out you can relate with Jesus without going into ritual or diabolic means; why won't you accept such religion?

Many herbalists have abandoned traditional ways into Christianity and burnt their shrines and juju's when they had real encounter with Christ that is more superior to traditional gods. Today you can see brilliant minds in Christianity full of engineers, professors, doctors, inventors and best researchers. Christianity remains the most populous, richest and holder of world power today because the foundation is laid on Truth.

If you want to find out if Jesus is real, humble yourself; ask Jesus to show himself to you or enter into your shrine and tell your small god who is superior between him and Jesus of Christians. I pray Jesus will come to your rescue in case your demonic god wants to get angry at you or strike you. Christianity is not a white man religion, Jesus is close to you if you call him, and will reveal himself to you.

Juju that couldn't save your fore father's from the hand of white man gun to the extent some of your gods were even stolen, enslaved and transported to foreign lands without causing accident on their ways. Traditional religion is tied to backwardness, if not for Christianity; they will still be using twins and human-beings for sacrifices or bury slaves alife with dead kings. Traditional brought wickedness and evil to the world, but Christianity brought civilization that saves humanity. Jesus is real and full of love

cybernaut:
u can hit the wall is not my business. Christianity lead us to slavery. Am a pagan my choice if you like jump to the sea . King James who translates bible u lead today is a slave master and slave trader who teaches u about Christianity. To hell with you and your white men god .

PP123:
don't marry her

She'll turn you to fool's and dummies once you get married

Don't talk to her or delete her number as soon as possible

A word is enough for a wise