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Dpsychologist:
Women are encouraged to “follow their dreams”.

Dpsychologist:
Second, we need financial equality in relationships.

Dpsychologist:
Finally, we need to create a culture of empathy and support for men.

Dpsychologist:
Finally, we need to create a culture of empathy and support for men. Instead of dismissing our struggles, listen. Instead of judging our failures, offer solutions. And instead of demanding more, appreciate what we’re already doing.

Men are not invincible. We’re not machines. We’re human beings trying to navigate a world that expects everything from us but gives little in return. It’s time to acknowledge that, to address it, and to create a better future for all of us.

liveyourlife007:
D!ck is the reason why a man's life is hard.
And do you know why a woman's life is soft?

Yeah👍 you got it!

MikeofKd:
Nice write up OP. Men suffer in great silence. I remember when I was still a kid one random midnight I sneaked to d parlour to watch cartoon and I saw my dad there in parlour deep in thoughts I stood there watching him for a few minutes without understanding, now I very much understand why he was in that position.

The life of a man is hard. Women hardly care , society barely cares , nobody understands a broke man , nobody. When He tries his best and yet nothing changes , people would call him all sorts of names.

That's why as a man , if you are ever gonna get married make sure it's a woman that loves you and not the woman you love, make sure you spoil yourself when you can. Go on solo vacations , buy a nice suit , eat good nourishing food. Drink good wine. Cause honestly nobody really gives a Bleep about a man in today's world. Take good care of yourself as a man.
Prioritize your Peace of mind, invest in yourself. Before you spend a dime on any woman make sure you have more than enough first , yes. Women can collect money from 200 men but one man can barely collect money from 5 men , be wise.

eazzzy1:
I’m not under any sort of financial pressure or obligation to meet anyone’s needs. There can’t be external pressure if there is no internal pressure, you think you should meet everyone’s needs and think you are failing when you can’t. That is the source of your pressure.

At the beginning of every year I come up with a budget, I know my income, my expenses and how much I plan to save & invest. At the end of every month I’m left with about $400 spare money, if my car breaks down and the cost of repair is above what I have in spare money, I’m taking the bus until I have enough to fix it.

If I’m that wicked to even myself, imagine someone telling me they want a $1500 phone or they want to buy a car and they are short $3000. I know the minimum amount I will save this year. I will not alter it unless it’s a life or death situation.

ednut1:
Na you dey put yourself under pressure. Look for what you can cope with. You can try babes hawking bread or those sales gals in buka 😂

eazzzy1:
I’m not under any sort of financial pressure or obligation to meet anyone’s needs. There can’t be external pressure if there is no internal pressure, you think you should meet everyone’s needs and think you are failing when you can’t. That is the source of your pressure.

At the beginning of every year I come up with a budget, I know my income, my expenses and how much I plan to save & invest. At the end of every month I’m left with about $400 spare money, if my car breaks down and the cost of repair is above what I have in spare money, I’m taking the bus until I have enough to fix it.

If I’m that wicked to even myself, imagine someone telling me they want a $1500 phone or they want to buy a car and they are short $3000. I know the minimum amount I will save this year. I will not alter it unless it’s a life or death situation.

liveyourlife007:
D!ck is the reason why a man's life is hard.
And do you know why a woman's life is soft?

Yeah👍 you got it!

Thazard:


Mad man

idahme:
I'm not anyone's provider, i provide for myself alone and if need be my parents and siblings. Anyone outside this cycle wil need to provide for herself first before we discuss combined provisions by both parties.

I don't shy away from this discussion with women when they are in relationships with me, irrespective of the fact that i am financially very stable I don't see it as my responsibility to care for another adult unless that responsibility is jointly shared by both parties. I earn 100 naira and she earns 50naira if she can't see the family having 150 naira that person isn't a partner but w knife who sees relationship as poverty eradication scheme for women instituted by the society. Any man who wants to form macho man and carry all the load on his head can do that that's his cup of tea and not mine.

My parents worked together, they brought hundred percent of what they have into the family that is why they are still waxing till date but unfortunately people who are involved in marriage and relationship don't bring everything they have into the union because of entitlement.

I have seen qn uncle succumb to High blood pressure as a middle aged man because he carried the load of his family hundred percent even though his wife worked with a state Government while he worked with federal government. After 22 years of his marriage, he complained to my mum for the firt time that he has been running around to augment his income because his wife has never assisted him for once, while in one of his errands to earn more he had a heart attack and succumb. Guess what, the wife is now carrying hundred percent of her family load. A word is enough for the wise.

Praise202:
The kind of family I was raised, I never believed this could be possible( that the man can be solely responsible for all family expenses down to salt, Maggie, water but lately I found a family that where the husband is solely the provider despite the wife and her first daughter working and earning .


It's unfortunate world to men

budaatum:
Really? I wish this were true in this world where many men are trying to reduce women to diq receptors tied to stoves.


We been telling you men this for decades, but you feel castrated by women earning as much or more than you do.


If you were honest you'd say men need to develop a culture of empathy and support their partners instead of unempathically going off to poke a LovePeddler and coming home and wanting to poke their wife without caring what they caught and might give her.

Now, for the financial struggle you men seem to have. If you treat your wife as the equal she is, she might equally contribute to your households finances, and you'd both bring up your sons and daughters to be assets to themselves and their future families. But instead, you out there poking ashewo and complaining you don't earn enough.

Hope you see how little sympathy I have for pigs. As for the men, I hope you learn.

marlow1962:
That is why I keep advising my fellow men, if God bless you today and you're financially okay, do no go down with a jobless woman.

Praise202:
The kind of family I was raised, I never believed this could be possible( that the man can be solely responsible for all family expenses down to salt, Maggie, water but lately I found a family that where the husband is solely the provider despite the wife and her first daughter working and earning .


It's unfortunate world to men

GboyegaD:
Unfortunately, some men think providing is what makes them the man/head of the home. As such, they don't mind slaving away for the title.

In my house, we have our principle which is a joint contribution of 95% of net income and it is my job to draw out the budget (it covers everything even to hair cut/braiding and buying of personal hygiene kits) and discuss it with madam. The remaining 5% for each party can be spent on whatever either party wants.

This way, there's no pressure since we both know where we are. At the end of each month, we do a mini audit by discussing what was properly done and what could have been managed better.

Dpsychologist:
Lol is it an accounting class