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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by zoomzoom(m): 1:58pm On Feb 08, 2025

[quote author=Tit4Tat1 post=134051448]It's always like that.. Try something new with ur spouse, go on vacations, play and joke as often as you can.. Just try to have some fun and see the spike coming back into your marriage.

This happens when you didn't court for long because she wasn't your best friend before she became your wife.
Noone says you can't still play discreet away matches, but don't get carried away and start behaving like your single friends.
You may think you married early, but you'll be glad you did as time goes on.
Don't thank me now, I'll wait for it in 5years.

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by lopezoraclenet(m): 1:59pm On Feb 08, 2025

Nna, just be patient. The first five to seven years of a marriage is always like that. After this range of years you will start seeing the benefits of marriage. Just patience and perseverance that's all you need.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by OdogwuMike(m): 2:00pm On Feb 08, 2025

Marriage is the last piece of the puzzle to adulthood, do not deceive yourself, it's a positive thing.

Get married!!

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by fabolouz1(m): 2:01pm On Feb 08, 2025

Don't run away , whether it's what you envisioned it to be or not , marriage is a beautiful thing .
Pray to God for directions and you will be victorious.

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by flyinnizam(m): 2:01pm On Feb 08, 2025

Sonnobax15:

Omoh,the kind of news I've been reading here on Nairaland recently especially since I started thinking about putting the ring into my banny's finger are so terrorizing and alarming

Make e no come look like say I no learn from other people mistakes cha .

Op,it's well with your soul...that's all I've got to say.

Lol

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by eepeepook: 2:02pm On Feb 08, 2025

You use your hand enter the thing. Face it. As old as I am, anybody telling me about marriage is wasting his time. They mostly do so because they don’t understand why an adult would live a carefree existence which involves solo feeding. The excuse they give of being seventy when my first child is fifteen years old is not enough. I better be that age, impregnate many women and birth five children of the same age so I won’t bother about their financial upkeep.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by pongwa(m): 2:03pm On Feb 08, 2025

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

when love hurts, it won't work
Maybe we need some time alone
We need to let it breathe.....

You need to have a deep conversation with your wife about the future of the marriage. Think before you leap

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Babbyad: 2:03pm On Feb 08, 2025

Lol...

RealityKings1:
Remember that your life and mental wellbeing must always come first before anything if you intend to live long.

Have you ever wondered why the men classified as irresponsible men live longer?

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Codes151(m): 2:04pm On Feb 08, 2025

funkmrflexx:
Omo it's not even about financial issue, I feel it's not just worth it

stay strong.
Speak to someone.

After than, have an understanding with your wife

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by BigIyanga: 2:04pm On Feb 08, 2025

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6I41xIN-oYw?si=-xi5uwF5t4XNw-ge

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by tiswell(m): 2:05pm On Feb 08, 2025

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Your headline is funny🤣

You aren't alone bro, marriage isn't designed to favour men.

Learn to unwind your heart,flex,eat whatever you like,fvck some external pvssy(s) and don't overload your mental, emotional,psychological well-being.

If you kpai today,your little boy and your wife will survive very well,and the funny part is that your little boy will grow with the negative story about you,as told by your wife.

Don't be emotionally weak, that's why most men die younger than women.

Be happy!!!

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Nobody: 2:07pm On Feb 08, 2025*

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Breaker001: 2:07pm On Feb 08, 2025

Don't leave your marriage as long as physical violence or/and any life threatening assault is not involved.
Everything you have spelt out in your post are those things that 99.99% of couples go through. You are even "lucky" in the sense that you have one child after 4 years in marriage. What if you had 3 children, wouldn't you handle the stress that come with raising them

It's normal to have that feeling of wanting to be alone; especially when your spouse is not providing that succour that you need. But that feeling will go away with time, especially as both of you keep growing in the marriage.

Don't see the issue of raising your child as stress, but rather enjoy it. Take time out of your busy schedule to play with the child, bathe him from time to time,...just enjoy it. See it as fun. Believe me, there's no feeling in the world like it.

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Britishpea: 2:07pm On Feb 08, 2025

The only solution to any marriage for men is you should play your responsibility game duly according to your capacity, and second Be mind prepared that they can leave if they want to.. especially when there are no kids...

the only limitation that has ever existed for any strong man in a relationship especially men is the effect of separation on the kids especially when they are still young...

many strong men wont divorce the woman but she will be abandoned at home while they take care of their children... But strive hard to make enough money that you can do anything at the thought of it...this will secure you coupled with the fact that you take care of your kids financially and morally..

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Britishpea: 2:08pm On Feb 08, 2025

any woman wey wan go make she quick dey go abeg

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by biggy00000(m): 2:08pm On Feb 08, 2025

I empathize with your situation as a fellow married man with few years (above yours) of experience.

You have given her too much power- When I got married n noticed some things I wasn't going to keep up with, I told my wife that if she keeps at it, I will leave home for her; told her I can't be stressed at work and stressed at home.

Take it back gradually- when next she says she want to leave, tell her to go then remind her that it's a one way route( if she goes, she can't come back)

Take it easy- if you die from stress now, your child will be fine n your wife will remarry.

Don't ever neglect your financial responsibility.

You owe her Love, she owes you respect

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Basicend: 2:09pm On Feb 08, 2025

funkmrflexx:
Vacation costs money, that one join wetin dey stress man sef

But you said earlier that money is not the issue.

You sound confused and disorganized bro. Are you sure you are able to give ur wife clarity needed to secure, lead or partner her?

The lord is ur strength.

May be u need to work more on yourself. Perhaps.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by tiswell(m): 2:10pm On Feb 08, 2025

tobore4u:
marry ur frnd una no dey hear

Nonsense talk,I guess you're a teenager sad

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Dada4me: 2:12pm On Feb 08, 2025

Are you talking for other men or for yourself?

I was in this state about five years ago, I wanted to seek for transfer to another state in my place of work just to have time for myself but as time went on we got over it by intentionally ignoring some of the things that offend us in each other. March will be our 12th year in marriage and it's getting better.

Just find a way to relax at this time, you will eventually overcome the challenges.

More importantly, invite Jesus into your home, He is the Prince of Peace.

Peace unto your home.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by MindHacker9009(m): 2:15pm On Feb 08, 2025

Marriage should be for free s*e*x and not for having kids only the very rich like Bill Gates, Dangote etc should be allowed to have kids.
A man has a job or business and managing himself well then gets married and when they start having kids the stress begins.

Why many men and almost all women not rich like Bill Gates etc want to have kids to stress themselves is the biggest mistake I can imagine.

This is what having kids led to for this Doctor:
US-based Nigerian doctor allegedly kills self over $15,000 child support: https://www.nairaland.com/8332499/us-based-nigerian-doctor-kills-self

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by rajiedreez: 2:16pm On Feb 08, 2025

Tit4Tat1:
You don't have to break a bank to go on a vacation..

Organize a sleepover during the weekends in one of the hotels in ur town with good facilities like swimming pool, games etc...

You too dey watch romance movies 😂😂😂😂

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Heavensake1: 2:20pm On Feb 08, 2025*

Sonnobax15:

Omoh,the kind of news I've been reading here on Nairaland recently especially since I started thinking about putting the ring into my banny's finger are so terrorizing and alarming

Make e no come look like say I no learn from other people mistakes cha .

Op,it's well with your soul...that's all I've got to say.

Everyone with his anus. I'm married,sometimes I feel that way too. Most marriage problems are tied to money which can be managed , but the ones that are not tied to money can best solved- seperated.
Learning from people in marriage about marriage can prepare you for marriage and it can also cause you problems in marriage,it all depends on you.
When going into marriage,two weapons you will need to conquer most problems are patience and tolerance. If you have them you are good to go, but if you don't have them,don't think about marriage.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Nobody: 2:21pm On Feb 08, 2025*

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Originalsly: 2:22pm On Feb 08, 2025

Maybe both you and she envisaged marriage the same .... as a rose bush ... climbing the rose bush picking flowers ... but never knew the bush has thorns . Every marriage has issues ... you either try to resolve them ... and move on until the next one ...or be thinking of bailing out like both of you. You don't even say what really makes you want out ...simply ..you want out. Then leave.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by occfx: 2:23pm On Feb 08, 2025

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

I bet, you don't drink. You think say beer palour dey full every night for nothing?

No let family problems kpai you, just stay in the bar till 11pm and go home and sleep. If the pressure is coming from extended family, run to another state and be visiting every weekend.

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Duduyankee1: 2:24pm On Feb 08, 2025

Please don't marry any lady that use to have my boyfriend, many body counts. Changing you in marriage would be so easy. From my experience any married woman threatening her husband with I am leaving the marriage has started seeing another man or about to or her friend is advising her to move on

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Saao(m): 2:24pm On Feb 08, 2025

MatrixReloaded:
It's everywhere but you can travel to Ghana under the guise of business trip. Let her breath, cheat if she want but send monthly stipends to her and look after ur son welfare. If she runs out of the house while u are still living with her the blame will be on you I can tell u that.
But if she runs out whilst u r away, it will only be a matter of time you will return and live freely as you wish. As for your son she ran away with never send a dime to her unless she returnd the child wholeheartedly that she cant cope, but Let her train the child till adulthood with her promiscuous lifestyle (and never accept her back afterwards)

oboy u be legend. I love this advice,

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Nobody: 2:25pm On Feb 08, 2025*

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by RUDEBOYY(m): 2:25pm On Feb 08, 2025

You feel like running away and your wife always threaten to leave and your u felling stressed about it...why not take the opportunity

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by Celsony: 2:26pm On Feb 08, 2025

Kobojunkie:
Isn't that the same silly man who tells women that they can find men who would marry them in 2 minutes, pay for everything, and upgrade their lives while at it? Una never see wetin dey really do una. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Really? Thats how easy it is to him? I dont blame him though he want to get crowd na why?

Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by jojothaiv(m): 2:28pm On Feb 08, 2025

Sonnobax15:

Omoh,the kind of news I've been reading here on Nairaland recently especially since I started thinking about putting the ring into my banny's finger are so terrorizing and alarming

Make e no come look like say I no learn from other people mistakes cha .

Op,it's well with your soul...that's all I've got to say.

We are in the same shoes, man.

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Re: I Feel Like Running Away From My Marriage by SeriouslySense(m): 2:28pm On Feb 08, 2025

calabaman:
Hmm man.

What did I just read, how can aunty threaten divorce and you mellowed down.

As for me, I would have left the marriage first and sent her back to her father's house.

Mind you I'm married. Mine once tried that.

I told her absolutely let's get a divorce and even started browsing on my smart TV how to get a divorce in Nigeria

She left the parlour and later begged me that night.

Don't EVER LET A WOMAN DO THAT YOU, abi you marry am free?

As commenters have advised, take some time off for yourself...I have a guest house close to my house were I go chill atimes in the guise of a journey were I can have some peace and quiet.

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