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A305:
She's truly not a sex person but on the other hand, you should have figured this out before marriage. You two dating timeframe (3 months) was too short to figure each other's compatibility and mismatch.

Sex greases the friction in marriage and if she can't fulfill that aspect with you, the friction will always be felt even if every other areas of your life is thriving.

You are married to her, that's done, Now be apprehensive towards the issue and press the issue hard with her. Gentle and never raise your voice; Tell her, your marriage may fail if she isn't flexible to change.

Tell her you willing to learn her body with her by fore play to see what set off her mood.

If she declines all these approaches: Go harder with this: She has to find a compromise. Now make her understand you willing to only have sex with her when you two want to pro-create and aside that; she should turn a blind eye when you decide to go satisfy your urge with another willing female outside your marriage.

If she greenlight this idea. Tell her, the marriage should end and file for divorce immediately, you are young and you still have a long way to go in life, you can still get another woman because you can't be paying for what you have freely in the house, Your wife only agreed to get married to you because of her age or because of the financial security you can provide NOT because of affection she has for you.

Failure to take drastic actions now, you will live the rest of your life in regret or broken marriage.

Yes I believe is because of financial security and nothing more, no affection or attraction

Greenlandz:
If she truly Love you she would kiss you even without your permission anyday and anytime without phobiaring of anything 🤒

That is my major concern, if the wife one trusted cannot kiss you then the sex life is dead.

Lanmonfishery:
No pre-intimacy??😂😂
If una wun nack, like how e Dey start
I Dey curious gan

No pre intimacy that is why sometimes my prick will not stand and sometimes my prick will just stand I will manage to touch her to make her wet 💦, most of the time she is dry down there, I will shook shook my dick to enter after my dick will be paining me.

Odingo1:
Yes I believe is because of financial security and nothing more, no affection or attraction

Oga, Do as I said in my earlier message you had just quoted.

Failure to negotiate your way out this. You will remain stuck in a sexless and emotionaless marriage and she will always have the upper hand every time because she has dictated to you how the game is to be played.

Flip the script on her to negotiate from a position of strength.

Jman06:
She might even have other guys he's dying to kiss but denying you. Our girls need reorientation about kissing. I don't know the kind of mgbeke girls we're having nowadays! You can't claim to love someone without desiring to kiss them. Kissing is impulsive when you are with someone you truly love

I disagree with this. When people choose to abstain from all forms of sexual contact, including kissing before marriage, even when they are meeting someone they are physically attracted to, they endeavour to control their emotions. Some might even avoid contact with a person just because they find it difficult to keep their emotions in check when around the person.

In this situation, the guy is not at fault; the issue lies with the woman. She shouldn't have gotten married if she knew she wasn't mentally or emotionally ready for it.

Jman06:
She might even have other guys he's dying to kiss but denying you. Our girls need reorientation about kissing. I don't know the kind of mgbeke girls we're having nowadays! You can't claim to love someone without desiring to kiss them. Kissing is impulsive when you are with someone you truly love

She said one of her ex ask her if she will be kissing the husband she married since she don’t kiss. But during the dating period she kisses me well after marriage she withdrew from kissing and now told me that she don’t kiss.

Give me a little break, so as to clarify some things. Omo, see the way you take rush me.
Actually, as a youngster back then, sex was all in my head. As i was growing up, entering adulthood, depression started to creep in. I don't see sex like something which would cure me from emotional struggles. I prefer other stuffs because they align well with me. If my wife comes to me for sex, we will do it all night. But i don't initiate it!

Adonko:
You shouldnt have sex at all...procreation ko, pocreation ni, that you are not a sex freak is ok ..but there is no rational human that dont love sex except you dont have sexual hormones such as testoterone or oestrogen.

Even animals do enjoy sex...so if you dont is either you are not getting the required quality from your partner or you have health issues.

Lastly swimming can never and will never be a substitute for sex weather direct or indirect so stop deluding/decieving yourself seek help.

A305:
Oga, Do as I said in my earlier message you had just quoted.

Failure to negotiate your way out this. You will remain stuck in a sexless and emotionaless marriage and she will always have the upper hand every time because she has dictated to you how the game is to be played.

Flip the script on her to negotiate from a position of strength.

Yes that is my next line action, if she failed to start kissing me and doing her work as a married woman I laid my conditions, then if the marriage pack up and I will forget the millions I spent on the marriage. She kiss me in dating period only to lock up after marriage. I felt that I am scammed. We are just staying like two man in the house, no intimacy, no love making, nothing only hosting with each and spending on her daily needs.

Odingo1:
She is testing samples but she said she developed the phobia before she even graduated a lab scientist. Other non activity in bed she will say she is not a sex freak. But she admitted that she use to have sex with ex’s that their prick will just stand and they shook prick on her and do and release.

She told you this and you still went ahead to marry her


You are a f*** sir.


If any woman ever tells me this , I begin to resent her from that day

revived2:
She told you this and you still went ahead to marry her


You are a fuul sir.
Deal with it no apologies

No she didn’t tell me before marriage, we kiss and do other things in dating period only she said that she is a church person that all those things is not good before marriage but she started saying all those things of not kissing after marriage.

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

op kindly read carefully i have read what you wrote up there...listen your woman dont love you, she is not crazy over you, you dont tilkle her when she thinks about you thats if she does ....to wrap it up she is not physically and sexually attracted to you .

I once dated a babe that was crazily inlove with me but i wasnt for her i actually wanted to hit and go during xmas season and she stayed glued ...BTW that babe can kiss me anywhere (place or location ) and anywhere in my body, she unbelt and pulls of my pants to do bj herself. But i dont like to kiss her just fuvck when am Hot when there is no other woman in-sight.

Listen this thing is auto- you dont force it ..she is not attracted to you at all to the point of fvucking only in the dark ..chaiii..if you continue like this she will dampen you self worth and confidence. Later she will begin to dispise you....that is marriage going down.

ADVISE...if i were you..i will give her space i mean dont ask her for sex or indulge in sex related activities with her for some months. Get busy building yourself..financially, physically (hit the gym if you can ) do light cute body exercises, intellectually -get more degrees or proffessional courses ...i mean be studious like never before..fashion sense...be that dresser that will be talked about in your street..have good fashion sense..make friends with other more quality ladies than her to boost your already dilapidated self worth ...i mean flirt abit...UP your personal hygiene..use quality roll-on, deodorant and perfume..use them after bath morning and night and shave frequently.

Still carry out your other non-sexual duty as a man but talk less this time and observe more..try to respond with silence most times when she is nagging even if she starts to nag about your sudden change sexually keep SILENCE..even if she touches you in bed pretend not to need it..and turn her off this is all in a bid to gain back your self worth and respect. She is your wife and she is supposed to fancy making love to you...a fact that cannot be denied.

Starve her of any sexual attention..you are a KING as a man ...as only a king can make a queen but a Queen can never make a king .ponder on the last statement.

Odingo1:
Yes that is my next line action, if she failed to start kissing me and doing her work as a married woman I laid my conditions, then if the marriage pack up and I will forget the millions I spent on the marriage. She kiss me in dating period only to lock up after marriage. I felt that I am scammed.

Exactly sir.

Before marriage, the little kisses she gave you was to prompt you to pay her bride price. Now you have done that. Her wish has been granted. She has forgotten that the real marriage starts after the wedding.

If you in Lagos and need more guidance, let me know so I send you the number of my lawyer who specializes in family/divorce cases via email, you could talk to him for further guidance.


Alternatively, you can take her to couples counseling/therapy. If no changes afterwards or she refuses to go. Bros you have tried your best. Count your losses and leave the marriage.

Adonko:
op kindly read carefully i have read what you wrote up there...listen your woman dont love you, she is not crazy over you, you dont tilkle her when she thinks about you thats if she does ....to wrap it up she is not physically and sexually attracted to you .

I once dated a babe that was crazily inlove with me but i wasnt for her i actually wanted to hit and go during xmas season and she stayed glued ...BTW that babe can kiss me anywhere (place or location ) and anywhere in my body, she unbelt and pulls of my pants to do bj herself. But i dont like to kiss her just fuvck when am Hot when there is no other woman in-sight.

Listen this thing is auto- you dont force it ..she is not attracted to you at all to the point of fvucking only in the dark ..chaiii..if you continue like this she will dampen you self worth and confidence. Later she will begin to dispise you....that is marriage going down.

ADVISE...if i were you..i will give her space i mean dont ask her for sex or indulge in sex related activities with her for some months. Get busy building yourself..financially, physically (hit the gym if you can ) do light cute body exercises, intellectually -get more degrees or proffessional courses ...i mean be studious like never before..fashion sense...be that dresser that will be talked about in your street..have good fashion sense..make friends with other more quality ladies than her to boost your already dilapidated self worth ...i mean flirt abit...UP your personal hygiene..use quality roll-on, deodorant and perfume..use them after bath morning and night and shave frequently.

Still carry out your other non-sexual duty as a man but talk less this time and observe more..try to respond with silence most times when she is nagging even if she starts to nag about your sudden change sexually keep SILENCE..even if she touches you in bed pretend not to need it..and turn her off this is all in a bid to gain back your self worth and respect. She is your wife and she is supposed to fancy making love to you...a fact that cannot be denied.

Starve her of any sexual attention..you are a KING as a man ...as only a king can make a queen but a Queen can never make a king .ponder on the last statement.

Nice will up the game coming days, is very embarrassing to me though

Odingo1:
No she didn’t tell me before marriage, we kiss and do other things in dating period only she cite that she is a church person but she started saying all those things after marriage.

If any woman tells me this after marriage , the first I'll do is to withdraw my finances

Next thing is to tell her blatantly my duslikwsy

Another thing is this, the fact that she could even tell you this afteR marriage, she doesn't rate you sir.
She's telling you about how her past men bleeped her while married to you, omo I cannot can.

I also think you rushed too early to marriage, 90days is too small.
Even though the 90days was too small, she literally gave you the signs, but you didn't take it seriously.


Sir let me advice you once again cuz you and my brother are of the same age.

1. Make known all these shits she's doing to her and tell her to fix up.

2. Withdraw your finances

3. If possible, stay away from home once in a while like 2&3days if possible.

However she reacts will determine what's next for you to do.

I really feel sorry for you bros, make I no fit see my wife pusaay if I dey fk her ..,,..,. LMFAO

Adonko:
op kindly read carefully i have read what you wrote up there...listen your woman dont love you, she is not crazy over you, you dont tilkle her when she thinks about you thats if she does ....to wrap it up she is not physically and sexually attracted to you .

I once dated a babe that was crazily inlove with me but i wasnt for her i actually wanted to hit and go during xmas season and she stayed glued ...BTW that babe can kiss me anywhere (place or location ) and anywhere in my body, she unbelt and pulls of my pants to do bj herself. But i dont like to kiss her just fuvck when am Hot when there is no other woman in-sight.

Listen this thing is auto- you dont force it ..she is not attracted to you at all to the point of fvucking only in the dark ..chaiii..if you continue like this she will dampen you self worth and confidence. Later she will begin to dispise you....that is marriage going down.

ADVISE...if i were you..i will give her space i mean dont ask her for sex or indulge in sex related activities with her for some months. Get busy building yourself..financially, physically (hit the gym if you can ) do light cute body exercises, intellectually -get more degrees or proffessional courses ...i mean be studious like never before..fashion sense...be that dresser that will be talked about in your street..have good fashion sense..make friends with other more quality ladies than her to boost your already dilapidated self worth ...i mean flirt abit...UP your personal hygiene..use quality roll-on, deodorant and perfume..use them after bath morning and night and shave frequently.

Still carry out your other non-sexual duty as a man but talk less this time and observe more..try to respond with silence most times when she is nagging even if she starts to nag about your sudden change sexually keep SILENCE..even if she touches you in bed pretend not to need it..and turn her off this is all in a bid to gain back your self worth and respect. She is your wife and she is supposed to fancy making love to you...a fact that cannot be denied.

Starve her of any sexual attention..you are a KING as a man ...as only a king can make a queen but a Queen can never make a king .ponder on the last statement.

Bruhhhhhhhhhhhh you've said everything I couldn't even type.

When he games up and she comes begging, he should starve her of any affection.

This woman is gonna ruin his self esteem if he doesn't game up.

Babes wey I dun date before wey be sey for video call alone she dun dey wet 😂😂
But our uncle here is fucking a dry pussy of his own wife,.,, wtf

Hezzyluv:
It will shock the shocker out of you by the time you get to know she's a porn start.

forming saint for the guy.....someone else is probably hanging her on the ceiling and burglary proof.

revived2:
Bruhhhhhhhhhhhh you've said everything I couldn't even type.

When he games up and she comes begging, he should starve her of any affection.

This woman is gonna ruin his self esteem if he doesn't game up.

Babes wey I dun date before wey be sey for video call alone she dun dey wet 😂😂
But our uncle here is fucking a dry pussy of his own wife,.,, wtf

He feels the lady did her a favour by dating and agreeing to marry him reason they courted for short time and hurriedly married her in just 3months of courting.

The way some guys think is really amazing.u see them ( these ladies ) outside u go think say them get level pass u,but unbeknownst to u,you get level pass them. U dont just know who you are.

Adonko:
He feels the lady did her a favour by dating and agreeing to marry him reason they courted for short time and hurriedly married her in just 3months of courting.

The way some guys think is really amazing.u see them ( these ladies ) outside u go think say them get level pass u,but unbeknownst to u,you get level pass them. U dont just know who you are.

I wish our uncle goodluck

What's bursting me up us the part where he said he only fks his wife in the dark

Bruhhhhhhhhhhhh 😂😂😂😂😂

Odingo1:
She is testing samples but she said she developed the phobia before she even graduated a lab scientist. Other non activity in bed she will say she is not a sex freak. But she admitted that she use to have sex with ex’s that their prick will just stand and they shook prick on her and do and release.

Baba ...Dem son run you street.....

revived2:
I wish our uncle goodluck

What's bursting me up us the part where he said he only fks his wife in the dark

Bruhhhhhhhhhhhh 😂😂😂😂😂

As in see the level of insult chaiiiiiiii..

Adonko:
As in see the level of insult chaiiiiiiii..

I checked the op profile and I saw in one of his posts that he says in Europe, if that the case it'll require a slightly different approach I think, make dem no fling out uncle comot for house

A305:
Oga, Do as I said in my earlier message you had just quoted.

Failure to negotiate your way out this. You will remain stuck in a sexless and emotionaless marriage and she will always have the upper hand every time because she has dictated to you how the game is to be played.

Flip the script on her to negotiate from a position of strength.

A man that married a woman after 90days will always be negotiating from a place of weakness ....nigga reeks all shades of desperation and probably felt she's too good for him....

whoever is less emotionally invested in the relationship has more leverage which makes being ruthless natural...clearly the lady doesn't give a flying fvck about him..I won't be shocked if the person her heart really wants is out there hanging her on the ceiling and burglary proof

revived2:
I checked the op profile and I saw in one of his posts that he says in Europe, if that the case it'll require a slightly different approach I think, make dem no fling out uncle comot for house

oh i see nonetheless he still have to up his game and be smart about it...he need to start planning a life without her now..invest more ...because its obvious if he stays in this marriage forever he will be doomed and may contemplate murder oneday.

Op have a powerful plan that will bring peace of mind to you .start planing now.

You done enter one chance you be mumu to fall for her trap at first. Just imagine how boring you will be all your life. Na side chick go delivered you but no peace for you. Married men with there wahala make una allow we rest

Odingo1:
No pre intimacy that is why sometimes my prick will not stand and sometimes my prick will just stand I will manage to touch her to make her wet 💦, most of the time she is dry down there, I will shook shook my dick to enter after my dick will be paining me.

So sad…I feel ur pain

My guy, you have been scammed

I share your wife's sentiments. Some souls on earth do not think exchange of saliva is hygienic.

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

Was she a virgin if not, change your style another style, another style be like that 🤣🤣. Be playfully kissing her all over she go start to laugh tickle her enter slow kisses. Use that scenty coil so that the room would be so arousing. Don't go start to the main issues continue. If she says stop playfully say Why now 🤭😜.

Shift am enter Position, afterall you're married say babe watch me,did you guys not court?

Then do your things she would change with time. Missionary style is very tiring and although it allows closeness. You might loose interest in her faster. If it doesn't work then give her time,if she still refuses and you can't handle it. Let her move,as a woman a wife sex us supposed to be something that connects spouses.


She is hindering you both from having personal attractions because you might loose interest,if you can please her, she should please you as well. You're both one and understanding and communication is everything. My opinion thanks.



If she doesn't allow kisses in the lips,kiss her shoulders, neck, cheeks instead. Everyone has his or her irritations.

Find side chick na. It's all your fault,for not doing those things before marriaging her. See your life for show glass now

Odingo1:
Sex is always done under cover of darkness, if I on blue light, she will say off it. If I initiate sex in afternoon she will decline it or find excuse. I have hardly seen how her kpekus look like.

calm down bro this is not the time to takk out. Let her get to the delivery phase of pregnancy whether doctor no go use hand scatter her kpekus for broad day light.

After her first delivery trust me, she won't bother if she waka nakedly at home or not, by that time u go see the kpekus taya sef

All these lie-lie stories on Nairaland. No wonder oyibo dey laugh whenever them visit here.