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You are preaching 60s, 70s and 80s gospels in 2025.
A lot of Nigerians are getting an education now and people's prospects are not what it used to be: people are getting jobs, the uneducated and the half-educated are trading heavily and making money at par or even more money than the white collars ones. People are in political parties and are doing well, making money off politicking. In short people ' s lot have gotten better in Nigeria. So the gospel to get marry early is a good one.

Kobojunkie:
Your kind of advise is the major reason why over 170 million Nigerians are currently living below abject poverty today, with many of them having been caged in poverty by their parents/ancestors before them.

2. Companion and nurse in poverty? How many people living in abject poverty in Nigeria today are enjoying said marriage?

DigitB:
Another proof that most women are empty brained.
We all know the hóre is just chasing clout sha.

Women should get married immediately they reach 18. She can still go on and conquer the world in any field she desires. Science, technology, humanities or whichever. A woman can achieve anything...

Fvcking liar that wants to ruin a young girl.

[quote author=BloomingDale post=134555051][/quote]U are clearly disturbed.

EDGEof2MORO:
support wetin you wan support. women are a special breed. after making all the money in the world, they will still wait for a man to take care of their bills. yeye

it thought you were making sense until you started talking about prefrontal cortex.

Na mix of everything 😀😀 culture, religion, science etc.

BloomingDale:
Na wa o. Nowadays it’s guys fretting that they might end up not getting married, while women are clocking out, since research shows women without kids are the happiest while it’s the opposite for men.

hummm everybody with there own life, me I just wish to marry oooo and have my children, although true most of ladies are agein and they don't really think about marriage

But everybody with his own life, na born them born me make me self born person abeg.

Tunaji:
➜You are preaching 60s, 70s and 80s gospels in 2025. A lot of Nigerians are getting an education now and people's prospects are not what it used to be: people are getting jobs, the uneducated and the half-educated are trading heavily and making more money than the white collars ones. People are in political parties and are doing well, making money off politicking. In short people ' s lot have gotten better in Nigeria. So the gospel to get marry early is a good one.

60s, 70s, 80s, yet we know that over 170 million Nigerians currently live in poverty despite this claimed education and jobs you say they have?

Are you OK?

People dey talk, olosho dey follow talk....Nawa o

Bad advice

Where do you live? What is the source of your statistic? World Bank or IMF?
Does $1 actually have the same purchasing power as 1,500 naira, its monetary equivalent? I mean what is your yardstick? Is poverty in inner city DC the same as poverty in Kwara for example?

See, I'm itinerant to some extent, and on ground in several places in Nigeria, the kind of life Nigerians have enjoyed in this 25 odd years of democracy, they would not have enjoyed it in a military rule. So yes, things are getting better.

Addendum: a healthy nation is a wealthy one. If you choose to marry late, the prospect of congenital abnormalities is much higher. He who has ears let him hear what the spirit is telling the church.

Kobojunkie:
60s, 70s, 80s, yet we know that over 170 million Nigerians currently live in poverty despite this claimed education and jobs you say they have?

Are you OK?

BloomingDale:
Na mix of everything 😀😀 culture, religion, science etc.

you were trying to cook a delicious meal and added battery acid to your recipe. "mix of everything" indeed

Tunaji:
➜Where do you live? What is the source of your statistic? World Bank or IMF?
Does $1 actually have the same purchasing power as 1,500 naira, its monetary equivalent? I mean what is your yardstick? Is poverty in inner city DC the same as poverty in Kwara for example? See, I'm itinerant to some extent, and on ground in several places in Nigeria, the kind of life Nigerians have enjoyed in this 25 odd years of democracy, they would not have enjoyed it in a military rule. So yes, things are getting better.

What in the world is all of this rambling for?

Person in her 20s weh never marry de give advice. No be juju be dat?

EDGEof2MORO:
you were trying to cook a delicious meal and added battery acid to your recipe. "mix of everything" indeed

Mix of everything does not mean it is false. What carries more weight is actually the part you seem to dislike the most, which is the scientific part that can actually be tested.

Kobojunkie:
Only to end up mired in poverty for the rest of their lives and then pass it on to their children and so on, right?

2. Abeg, please, this year, begin to dey use your brain!

Your brain is on sabbatical leave right?

ogbe88:
U are clearly disturbed.

Whether disturbed or not, my message is still getting across, which is for young women to care more/ prioritize themselves than the opposite sex. Women should decenter men and live their best lives. We came to this world alone and we will die alone.

I know you're a veteran on this forum and you're probably trouble -shooting. I have an addendum to my last post, you can go and read and it goes thus: he who has ears let him heed what the spirit is telling the church. Don't argue for argument sake.

Kobojunkie:
What in the world is all of this rambling for?

While making the money ,make sure you get pikin in your 20s even if nah 1. Thank me later.

Kobojunkie:
Millions of girls who have known nothing but poverty in their lives should go on to marry when they reach 18 and cement their lives of poverty and that of their offspring as a result. Many of you don't seem able to reason logically with your brains.

We men are logical all the time.

Most women claim they don't want to marry until they make their own money. Ask them what they're doing to make the money and you'll find out they're making chin-chin, small chops , cake, makeup and small tailoring then augmenting the income with hookup and hopping from one divck to another.

A woman marrying early will help her to align her goals properly. She don't have to keep worrying about men-catching most of the time. With her husband's support she can be whatever she wish to be.

BloomingDale:
Fvcking liar that wants to ruin a young girl.

The reverse is the case here.

DigitB:
The reverse is the case here.

Yeah, because she came to this world to live her life for a man. You try. Why did you not get married at 18?

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

In the video she posted, Faithful Femininity advised Christian women to stay away from early marriage especially when they can’t cater for themselves.

The young lady advised Christian women in their 20s to desist from getting married when they make enough money.

Her words: “As a Christian woman, I have decided that my 20s are not for marriage. My 20s are to make money. Christian women stop entering into marriage so early.”

”Go and make money. You don’t have a dime in your account. God and find a way to make money. In 20s, in your 30s, go and make money. Stop following men around. Some of you are doing Hallelujah Challenge and wearing bridal gowns.


“Have you made money? Like, I will not enter a marriage without money. And I’m talking about multiple sources of steady income. I’m not that kind of Christian woman that will enter her husband’s house with nothing in her account. God forbid. My 20s now na to work hard. My 20s is to make wealth.”

20s is the best time cos both eggs n sperms are in their best element that period

Got married in my 20s and making my money. Just ensure you get your education or handwork or business rooted and don't marry a weapon fashioned against you

DigitB:
We men are logical all the time.

Most women claim they don't want to marry until they make their own money. Ask them what they're doing to make the money and you'll find out they're making chin-chin, small chops , cake, makeup and small tailoring then augmenting the income with hookup and hopping from one divck to another.

A woman marrying early will help her to align her goals properly. She don't have to keep worrying about men-catching most of the time. With her husband's support she can be whatever she wish to be.

LOL.

Is she promoting marriage at around age 40? ...when she's financially secured? At that age her age mates would already be married and have kids about to finish secondary school and in the university. ...some would be divorced ... some bad relationships that turned them into woman/man haters ... if single either divorced or have a whole lot of baggage. Her options would be very limited and that will lead to desperation ...desperation to find a reasonable man...desperation to have a child in wedlock. A Christian and money is the main factor for marriage. Hypocrites everywhere.

Uchesis:
For some people it is easy to see the right person.

For some, very difficult

And for some others, there may be no right partner.



Each to his own.

it has been very difficult for me

Smilleydr:
hummm everybody with there own life, me I just wish to marry oooo and have my children, although true most of ladies are agein and they don't really think about marriage

But everybody with his own life, na born them born me make me self born person abeg.

last line funny 😄

Nawa oo, so until they reach what age before they get married

Lol... Who's shaking the table here?

Felimax:
Fish brain nothing like enough money.
Too much money and you may attract the kind of men you will regret later.

ednut1:
Marriage is a poverty alleviation scheme / money maker for many 9ja women lol. No guarantees that if they hustle they will make money

Lol bros

As a woman, the best time to get married is in your 20s. Except for unforeseen circumstances beyond your control like genotype incompatibilities, tribal segregation etc, do get married if you find a man whom you can integrate into his program, is ambitious, not given to mediocrity, can provide to the best of his capacity for you and loves you. I wish I started off earlier at 22 with what I have grown to know. I prefer for my kids to grow alongside me.

Of course, my opinion is not generalistic, but those who get it, get it. I look at my mother and I envy her. I wish I started off as early as she did. She had me at 22 years. She'd be 50 this year and we could pass as sisters, no jokes.

I mentioned sometime ago that as one ages, their standards stiffen. Ageing stiffens you. You become too self-conscious and could even set yourself up against yourself. Hyper-independence is a complex and that is what ageing will do to you, especially as a woman. With youth comes naivety (maybe not the right word to use), so it is best to capitalize on that if one finds a suitable partner they can lock in with. Marriage doesn't halt anybody from succeeding as long as they aren't married to the weapon fashioned against them. Everything can happen at once.

As a man, if you have a partner who's willing to grow with you, is contented with what you can provide, is supportive and well-grounded, you have no worries at all. There are no guarantees that you would be wealthy even into your 40s. In fact, with two in the picture comes a sense of responsibility and realization, so that reality pushes you to do better than you would have as a single person.

I'd implore my kids to get married early with my support if they don't mind. I love early marriage.

DigitB:
➜We men are logical all the time.
Most women claim they don't want to marry until they make their own money. Ask them what they're doing to make the money and you'll find out they're making chin-chin, small chops , cake, makeup and small tailoring then augmenting the income with hookup and hopping from one divck to another.
A woman marrying early will help her to align her goals properly. She don't have to keep worrying about men-catching most of the time. With her husband's support she can be whatever she wish to be.

Let me be sure that I get this right! In Nigeria today, the vast majority of women live below the poverty lines both in marriage and outside where they are generally in poverty as a result of being raised in poverty. We are talking many generations mired in poverty today — a population of well over 100 million women in Nigeria. But here you are attempting to convince us, against all logic, mind you, that by marrying and bearing children in poverty, a woman aligns her goals properly?

Are you people OK in the head at all?

HaneefahRN:
Got married in my 20s and making my money. Just ensure you get your education or handwork or business rooted and don't marry a weapon fashioned against you

Many women who also married early had or got themselves an education and also boast of a ministore where they sell goods or maybe even a market stall — handwork —but poverty continues to follow them no matter what.