₦airaland Forum

Merry100:
IVF? LOL. Science had to catch up with my grandma, not the other way around, my dad was born well before the '80s. And though he's a Christian, he was born to Muslim parents.

A lot of things happened in those days that were never documented. Sit down with some senior citizens and ask them questions instead of solely relying on Google for information.

Things are changing with time, life expectancy used to be 100+, but it’s gradually decreasing. My paternal grandmother passed away at 100. My maternal great-grandmother died in 2009 at over 100 years old.

Tunaji:
I know you're a veteran on this forum and you're probably trouble -shooting. I have an addendum to my last post, you can go and read and it goes thus: he who has ears let him heed what the spirit is telling the church. Don't argue for argument sake.

BloomingDale:
Women who marry in their 20s tend to have higher divorce rates compared to those who marry later, though the specifics depend on the age within that decade and other factors. Research consistently shows that marrying very young—especially in the early 20s or teens—correlates with a higher likelihood of divorce. For example, couples who marry before age 20 face a divorce rate as high as 50% within 10 years, according to studies like those from the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG). Marriages between ages 20-25 also show elevated risk, with around 60% ending in divorce over time, per some analyses.

The “sweet spot” for lower divorce risk seems to be around 28-32. A study by Nicholas Wolfinger using NSFG data (2006-2010) found that divorce risk decreases as age at marriage increases up to the late 20s, then slightly rises again past the early 30s—about 5% per year after 32. Women marrying at 25 or older are roughly 24% less likely to divorce than those marrying earlier, aligning with broader trends of increased stability with age.

Why? Younger couples often lack emotional maturity, financial stability, or clarity about long-term compatibility—factors that improve with time. The prefrontal cortex, key for decision-making, isn’t fully developed until around 25, which might explain some of this. Plus, marrying later often means more education and career grounding, buffering against marital strain. That said, waiting too long (past mid-30s) can introduce new risks, like entrenched habits or less flexibility.

Data’s messy, though—divorce stats vary by region, race, education, and whether couples cohabited first (which can bump up risk). The crude narrative of “early 20s = doomed” oversimplifies; plenty of young marriages last with the right conditions. Still, the pattern holds: marrying in the 20s, especially early, generally means a bumpier road.

TheBillyonaire:
➜Our mothers got married in their teens, even before 20s and their marriages are very stable. So you are wrong on that

TheBillyonaire:
Our mothers got married in their teens, even before 20s and their marriages are very stable. So you are wrong on that

Kobojunkie:
And Nigeria has over 170,000,000 NIgerians living under abject poverty by this generation as a result of the mythical beliefs you hold. Stability in poverty is a delusion.

BloomingDale

Kobojunkie:
Please take your semi-illiterate drivel to someone else!

TheBillyonaire:
Stop quoting prostitutes. There is something wrong with a people whose mindset deviate from the natural order. When nature activates puberty it says 'reproduce' but since men are natural breadwinners, we must wait till 40 to get our acts together. A woman needs to be pampered, so taking care of them at 20s will reduce prostitution.

Do not mind those ashawo that want to test plenty dicks and have their own money. A woman has less capacity to handle stress, cos women are emotional and psychic versions of us, hence the need to be pampered.

Tunaji:
The joke is on you.
I have been hearing of your alias on nairaland since 2008, you must be at least 45 years old yet you're discouraging young people from getting married early. Are you really a Nigerian? The real question is are you pro-Nigeria, cos you don't seem so?

BloomingDale

IbnB:
Kobojunkie is in her mid-sixties

TheBillyonaire:
➜You are always thinking about poverty. We are talking about age of marriage. Carry your poverty mind comot for here.

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

In the video she posted, Faithful Femininity advised Christian women to stay away from early marriage especially when they can’t cater for themselves.

The young lady advised Christian women in their 20s to desist from getting married when they make enough money.

Her words: “As a Christian woman, I have decided that my 20s are not for marriage. My 20s are to make money. Christian women stop entering into marriage so early.”

”Go and make money. You don’t have a dime in your account. God and find a way to make money. In 20s, in your 30s, go and make money. Stop following men around. Some of you are doing Hallelujah Challenge and wearing bridal gowns.


“Have you made money? Like, I will not enter a marriage without money. And I’m talking about multiple sources of steady income. I’m not that kind of Christian woman that will enter her husband’s house with nothing in her account. God forbid. My 20s now na to work hard. My 20s is to make wealth.”

IbnB:
Even if you give them thirty years, Nigerian girls won't bring anything of value to their marriage

Afolue:
what if husband no gree come when time reach?

Kobojunkie:
Many women who also married early had or got themselves an education and also boast of a ministore where they sell goods or maybe even a market stall — handwork —but poverty continues to follow them no matter what.

talented321:
There is one thing I realized some years ago and many people are just making a big mistake, you don't have to be rich before you can start a family.. Why I'm saying this is, I have seen many people who always brag around that they can't marry until they are rich, and while waiting for this wealth age and time wait for nobody...
My uncle was victim of what I'm saying and he is regretting his actions today...
All what I'm trying to say is, if you are managing with your life then just look for a sensible Man or woman and plan things together.. many things you have never achieved when you was alone with a sensible man or woman you might be able to achieve some..
YOU JUST NEED THE RIGHT PARTNER...

HaneefahRN:
➜Poverty can follow anyone regardless of what age they chose to marry. The economy of the country doesn't make it easy for anyone

BloomingDale:
Women don’t lose their eggs. You have a set number of eggs at birth. Older women just have difficulty giving birth but their eggs are still healthy. What depreciates and cause most of the diseases like autism is the man’s sperm because the sperm quality deteriorates as men get older due to their lifestyle.

Kobojunkie:
Against that handful of cases you mention, I play for you the over 50 million married Nigerians(North and South) who are living on the lowest rungs of poverty, many of whom also started families early and are— with at least one generation later — mired in poverty.

BloomingDale:
Na wa o. Nowadays it’s guys fretting that they might end up not getting married, while women are clocking out, since research shows women without kids are the happiest while it’s the opposite for men.

Merry100:
You don’t need to bring God into your baseless claims, just stick to biological facts since you seem allergic to reality.

Wow, what a scientist you are! You cherry-picked one example and decided it applies to all men, impressive logic. By that same reasoning, since Ekene Umena had a baby at 33, that must mean all women remain fertile as long as they’re healthy and maintain a good lifestyle, right?

Yes, fertility declines with age for women, but many in their 30s still conceive naturally. Male fertility isn’t immune to aging either, sperm count and quality start declining around 35-40.

Does that mean all men over 40 are infertile? No. Just like women don’t suddenly lose their ability to conceive once they hit 30. In fact, women have more than enough eggs, so even after losing a significant percentage, they still have plenty left to conceive.

The takeaway? Few women experience age-related fertility issues in their 30s, just as few men do as well. So, stop the sweeping generalizations.

talented321:
There is one thing I realized some years ago and many people are just making a big mistake, you don't have to be rich before you can start a family.. Why I'm saying this is, I have seen many people who always brag around that they can't marry until they are rich, and while waiting for this wealth age and time wait for nobody...
My uncle was victim of what I'm saying and he is regretting his actions today...
All what I'm trying to say is, if you are managing with your life then just look for a sensible Man or woman and plan things together.. many things you have never achieved when you was alone with a sensible man or woman you might be able to achieve some..
YOU JUST NEED THE RIGHT PARTNER...

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

In the video she posted, Faithful Femininity advised Christian women to stay away from early marriage especially when they can’t cater for themselves.

The young lady advised Christian women in their 20s to desist from getting married when they make enough money.

Her words: “As a Christian woman, I have decided that my 20s are not for marriage. My 20s are to make money. Christian women stop entering into marriage so early.”

”Go and make money. You don’t have a dime in your account. God and find a way to make money. In 20s, in your 30s, go and make money. Stop following men around. Some of you are doing Hallelujah Challenge and wearing bridal gowns.


“Have you made money? Like, I will not enter a marriage without money. And I’m talking about multiple sources of steady income. I’m not that kind of Christian woman that will enter her husband’s house with nothing in her account. God forbid. My 20s now na to work hard. My 20s is to make wealth.”

cr7lomo:
Reason why they say women are destroying society with their kiddish ideology...just look at the total nonsense u de type ... de reason like fish or chicken.... u women are creating a new generation of prostitutes ... u women are the reason why men treat you all like trash .... women don't know what men find attractive .... u think its money or experience...those are even the least