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I came across this conversation (see screenshot) and honestly, it just confirms what many of us have been saying.

Though the chat is about FWB but it still portrays hidden scenarios in our modern relationships.

We’ve reached a point where relationships aren’t even about love, attraction, or connection anymore. It’s all about how much you’re willing to pay. This is why girlfriends demand for monthly salaries, expensive gifts and outings.

Look at this:

FWB? Cool. But first, let’s talk pricing.

Weekly package: 100k for two meetings.

Monthly package: 200k for five meetings.

If we meet and don’t have sex, you STILL have to pay for my transportation and a ‘thanks for coming’ fee.

Let’s be real; this is a business model. And the sad thing? This mindset is becoming more and more common.

Social media has made entitlement the norm. Women now openly expect men to fund their lifestyles just for the privilege of being around them. It has turned into a financial obligation rather than a mutual experience.

🚩 If you’re not paying, you’re not valuable.
🚩 If you say "I love you," prepare for a bill.
🚩 If you refuse to comply, you’re “broke.”

Many relationships are more like soft prostitution since it's pay for play.

Seems most women’s first concern is what you can provide financially—you’re in a contract. And trust me, that contract will only benefit one person.

Now analyze this friends with benefits arrangement and see the huge benefits this lady intends to get who will In turn give the guy a worn out vjay and if she is not clean might be stacked with infection.

It's a losing game for men.

What are your thoughts?

Better be a skit.

Minimum wage is #70k. Yet a prostitute wants #200k/month just to show up 5 times per month.

She also expects to be wined, dined and generally PAMPERED.

All because of a DEAD-FISH, loose-lipped and UNFAIRLY used pussy.

MADNESS!

Namaster:
Better be a skit.

Minimum wage is #70k. Yet a prostitute wants #200k/month just to show up 5 times per month.

She also expects to be wined, dined and generally PAMPERED.

All because of a DEAD-FISH, loose-lipped and UNFAIRLY used pussy.

MADNESS!

That is not even the problem.

The problem is that the guy going into this agreement with her is obviously not earning up to a million naira.

So rather than save that 200k and look for a reasonable working class girl to date, he'd rather throw it on a liability.

I'll call it low self esteem. That's what he's suffering from.

Nazgul:
That is not even the problem.

The problem is that the guy going into this agreement with her is obviously not earning up to a million naira.

So rather than save that 200k and look for a reasonable working class girl to date, he'd rather throw it on a liability.

I'll call it low self esteem. That's what he's suffering from.

Instead of the idiot to just patronize regular hookup girls and pay 15-20k per night

odinson1:
Instead of the idiot to just patronize regular hookup girls and pay 15-20k per night

Hookup isn't even the solution cos if you're spending 20k on hookup per night for 15 nights in a month, that's going to be about 300k per month. What is his net income that he would be willing to cough out such amount on sex?

His solution is to get a working class girlfriend. Or better still stay single and build his life.

Dpsychologist:
I came across this conversation (see screenshot) and honestly, it just confirms what many of us have been saying.

Though the chat is about FWB but it still portrays hidden scenarios in our modern relationships.

We’ve reached a point where relationships aren’t even about love, attraction, or connection anymore. It’s all about how much you’re willing to pay. This is why girlfriends demand for monthly salaries, expensive gifts and outings.

Look at this:

FWB? Cool. But first, let’s talk pricing.

Weekly package: 100k for two meetings.

Monthly package: 200k for five meetings.

If we meet and don’t have sex, you STILL have to pay for my transportation and a ‘thanks for coming’ fee.

Let’s be real; this is a business model. And the sad thing? This mindset is becoming more and more common.

Social media has made entitlement the norm. Women now openly expect men to fund their lifestyles just for the privilege of being around them. It has turned into a financial obligation rather than a mutual experience.

🚩 If you’re not paying, you’re not valuable.
🚩 If you say "I love you," prepare for a bill.
🚩 If you refuse to comply, you’re “broke.”

Many relationships are more like soft prostitution since it's pay for play.

Seems most women’s first concern is what you can provide financially—you’re in a contract. And trust me, that contract will only benefit one person.

Now analyze this friends with benefits arrangement and see the huge benefits this lady intends to get who will In turn give the guy a worn out vjay and if she is not clean might be stacked with infection.

It's a losing game for men.

What are your thoughts?

It's poverty induced mentality...that gender is in surving mode in this part of the world

Honestly, i think it is going to be a good deal for many rich and middle class men but not too good for poor men.
The truth is that you will always get a woman at your bargaining price.
Don't be scared about ladies charging 100k, 200k. It makes it look as if all would be like that but no, there will be those who are going to collect 5k for a weekend, 10k etc.
There are prostitutes collecting 1k to nack, 2k, 5k etc depending on your pocket and there are those top class collecting millions from politicians and drug dealers.
If you are giving your woman 300k per month for feeding with 2 kids, it may not be necessary again since you can always give a babymama 100k to do that while you keep a young girl in university on 10-15k per weekend or 40-60k per month on your payroll to quietly do the job while you can save the rest.
Since some women wan craze, make all of us craze together.

Nazgul:
Hookup isn't even the solution cos if you're spending 20k on hookup per night for 15 nights in a month, that's going to be about 300k per month. What is his net income that he would be willing to cough out such amount on sex?

His solution is to get a working class girlfriend. Or better still stay single and build his life.

There are even a lot of single mothers with 1 to 3 kids that will jump at the offer of extra 50k per month to whatever they are doing be it selling food or clothes or whatever and still give you regular sex like 3 times a week.
Everybody go dey alright laslas

femi4:
It's poverty induced mentality...that gender is in surving mode in this part of the world

Relationship as never been about Love in the first place.
The earlier most men know this, the better for them.
Below all the I Love You and co, there is an underlining business behind it.
The women want comfort that comes from a man - money, to solve their life problems, sex etc and the man wants sex, kids if he wishes, rest of mind, respect etc.
If you have this at the back of your mind, you will always seek to look beyond Love, sex and beauty from a woman if you position yourself well and know what you are doing.

emmaodet:
There are even a lot of single mothers with 1 to 3 kids that will jump at the offer of extra 50k per month to whatever they are doing be it selling food or clothes or whatever and still give you regular sex like 3 times a week.
Everybody go dey alright laslas

Do single guys actually pay single mothers with kids to sleep with them....🤔

Nazgul:
Do single guys actually pay single mothers with kids to sleep with them....🤔

I am just saying if they are going to go that low, there are young girls of 21-25 years old with kids that can be priced low and still get a good satisfaction pending when man soup done.
Spiritual konji is real bro.

Nazgul:
Hookup isn't even the solution cos if you're spending 20k on hookup per night for 15 nights in a month, that's going to be about 300k per month. What is his net income that he would be willing to cough out such amount on sex?

His solution is to get a working class girlfriend. Or better still stay single and build his life.

He doesn't deserve one. I wouldn't know why you keep recommending this.

He should stay single.
Men do not benefit from marriage.🙏

pocohantas:
He doesn't deserve one. I wouldn't know why you keep recommending this.

He should stay single.
Men do not benefit from marriage.🙏

You ehnnn

pocohantas:
He doesn't deserve one. I wouldn't know why you keep recommending this.

He should stay single.
Men do not benefit from marriage.🙏

Please how is a girlfriend equal to a wife, from marriage?

Nazgul:
Do single guys actually pay single mothers with kids to sleep with them....🤔

Why should the single mother not be the one paying the guy to get sexually satisfied

pocohantas:
He doesn't deserve one. I wouldn't know why you keep recommending this.

He should stay single.
Men do not benefit from marriage.🙏

Lol...who said men do not benefit from marriage?

Don't let some few nairaland teens compromise your beliefs about marriage from men's perspective.

Nazgul:
Hookup isn't even the solution cos if you're spending 20k on hookup per night for 15 nights in a month, that's going to be about 300k per month. What is his net income that he would be willing to cough out such amount on sex?

His solution is to get a working class girlfriend. Or better still stay single and build his life.

I don't think he'd want to be having sex 15 nights a month with Prostitutes. At least twice a week is Okay

Nazgul:
Lol...who said men do not benefit from marriage?

Don't let some few nairaland teens compromise your beliefs about marriage from men's perspective.

Someone is following FWB and having random knacks. You come recommend sensible working class babe for am. You want him to break her heart??

emmaodet:


You ehnnn

I prefer your solution to Naz's own.😈

pocohantas:
Someone is following FWB and having random knacks. You come recommend sensible working class babe for am. You want him to break her heart??



I prefer your solution to Naz's own.😈

As we are not privy to the entire conversation, it’s hard to tell. I think the girl wants something serious, the guy wants something casual so she’s listing demands he can’t meet to show her disdain.

The ‘benefit’ in FWB is sex. Simple. Friends with benefit is a term for friends who have sex with themselves. The friendship has to be in existence and they both must see the sex as beneficial. Anything outside that is a misconstrue of the phrase.

We corrupt everything with money in Nigeria. People pay money to get jobs, pay to pass exams, pay to jump the queue, pay to get ahead. Relationship is just one aspect that money is corrupting, it is basically everywhere you look.

Nazgul:
Lol...who said men do not benefit from marriage?

Don't let some few nairaland teens compromise your beliefs about marriage from men's perspective.

whats wrong being a teen, often times i read your comment nd i accord you a knod thats rare, But on this one i disagree

experience may differ But using a default standard Marriage Men benefit nothing from
marriage ... in my lil teen experience, that side of a woman that fascinates men most is often seen pre-wedding, 90% of the men women built are usually outside marriage so !!!

its ok for anyone to have a contrary view, however Men benefiting from marriage should outline these benefits more, maybe we see it and don't just know it

eazzzy1:
As we are not privy to the entire conversation, it’s hard to tell. I think the girl wants something serious, the guy wants something casual so she’s listing demands he can’t meet to show her disdain.

The ‘benefit’ in FWB is sex. Simple. Friends with benefit is a term for friends who have sex with themselves. The friendship has to be in existence and they both must see the sex as beneficial. Anything outside that is a misconstrue of the phrase.

We corrupt everything with money in Nigeria. People pay money to get jobs, pay to pass exams, pay to jump the queue, pay to get ahead. Relationship is just one aspect that money is corrupting, it is basically everywhere you look.

should something immeasurable as sex be ascribed "Benefits" ... biological do you know what men lose per ejaculation

when a woman have some good sex she glows but for men whether the sex is good or bad the Man looks drained

if i will give a folake highlander for sex, how do we measure the sex, whu get calculator

odinson1:
Idon't think he'd want to be having sex 15 nights a month with Prostitutes. At least twice a week is Okay

Guys who are willing to patronize hookup girls and local hoes can't limit themselves to having sex twice a week. Konji can hit them at anytime.

pocohantas:
Someone is following FWB and having random knacks. You come recommend sensible working class babe for am. You want him to break her heart??

The girl can change him and make him a better person through consistent prayers and fasting. You never can tell.

If it worked for our parents, it should work for him.

Nazgul:
The girl can change him and make him a better person through consistent prayers and fasting. You never can tell.

If it worked for our parents, it should work for him.

Lmao. You are not okay!

Not only dating is transactional , but also marriage


a lot of women don't marry you if you're working a highly paid job or have massive amount of money



society is flawed


Nigerian men shouldn't complain after all they like the sex they get in return

Dating, relationships, or marriage has always been transactional.

The point there is to make sure you are getting real value for your offer. Also, the value you bring to the table is what you will use to negotiate a better deal (partner) for yourself.

But now, women specifically first of all, enjoy their youth with numerous guys, wear Victoria's secret panties for a honeypot thats not so secret, with milage that makes Ifesinachukwu motors seems like snail.

But she still wants to be proposed to while kneeling down, do wedding and honeymoon, and making sure her man get the used version of her, which he paid heavily for.

Men, una dey try, I swear.

pansophist:
Dating, relationships, or marriage has always been transactional.

The point there is to make sure you are getting real value for your offer. Also, the value you bring to the table is what you will use to negotiate a better deal (partner) for yourself.

But now, women specifically first of all, enjoy their youth with numerous guys, wear Victoria's secret panties for a honeypot thats not so secret, with milage that makes Ifesinachukwu motors seems like snail.

But she still wants to be proposed to while kneeling down, do wedding and honeymoon, and making sure her man get the used version of her, which he paid heavily for.

Men, una dey try, I swear.

pansophist:
Dating, relationships, or marriage has always been transactional.

The point there is to make sure you are getting real value for your offer. Also, the value you bring to the table is what you will use to negotiate a better deal (partner) for yourself.

But now, women specifically first of all, enjoy their youth with numerous guys, wear Victoria's secret panties for a honeypot thats not so secret, with milage that makes Ifesinachukwu motors seems like snail.

But she still wants to be proposed to while kneeling down, do wedding and honeymoon, and making sure her man get the used version of her, which he paid heavily for.

Men, una dey try, I swear.

Hmmmmmm.
Well, have come to the conclusion that what we lost in virtue women, something that was normal and natural for my grandfather to have like a virgin or a faithful wife, we have gained in technology.
My grandparent were never opportuned to be educated, they could only speak one lingual franca - Yoruba, they couldn't even travel beyond their area - Ondo/Osun axis, couldn't read and write but what they lost in that, they gained in Virtuous women.
Our grandmas would all be rolling in their graves seeing the privileged the modern woman is enjoying - after several different dicks without much stigmatization, still ended up being married, using cars, going on vacations etc and can still easily pull out of marriage if and when they are tired to jump into another one.
Life always find a way to balance equation or compensate.
For what we lost, we have gained alot in education, better health care or advance in health related issues - common malaria killed alot then not to talk of giving birth, No CS. The average person can speak atleast native language and english, we can use mobile phones, tv, trade stocks, forex, crypto online and also make money from home etc
Our forefathers would be rolling in their graves to learn someone can make money sitting from home without going to the bush or river to fish etc

pocohantas:
Lmao. You are not okay!

Desperate times calls for desperate measures. 😉

pansophist:
Dating, relationships, or marriage has always been transactional.

The point there is to make sure you are getting real value for your offer. Also, the value you bring to the table is what you will use to negotiate a better deal (partner) for yourself.

But now, women specifically first of all, enjoy their youth with numerous guys, wear Victoria's secret panties for a honeypot thats not so secret, with milage that makes Ifesinachukwu motors seems like snail.

But she still wants to be proposed to while kneeling down, do wedding and honeymoon, and making sure her man get the used version of her, which he paid heavily for.

Men, una dey try, I swear.