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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by fatima04: 9:36am On Nov 01, 2024
lightnlife:
This is a valid point and I'd want to narrow it down to regional accent.

I believe the Nigerian English at any level is closer to what you'll hear in the Southeast and west of England compared to other regions of the UK with heavy accent - Scouse, Scottish, Mancunian, Irish.

I'm particularly invested in language and communication and I get worried speaking with anyone with heavy UK accent.

@Babajeje123 what regions of the UK are the cases you referenced?

After thought 1: Every child possesses the ability to learn new language effectively till around 12 - 18 years. This is linguistically known as the Language Acquisition Device (LAD), as originally expounded by Noam Chomsky. If that holds true in this context, then children under 15 should be able catch with new language and accent.

Now I'm missing linguistic days cheesy Who will bankroll this research?
Nicely stated, another factor to consider is access to affordable childcare within that age range.

A lot of migrants with younger kids keep their kids at home because of the high cost of childcare and not having recourse to public funds and thus not able to utilise the 30hrs for working parents others have access to.

This means the kids have limited access to blend in to a whole new culture, assimilate into the system and so much more.

What in turn happens is, those kids are usually engaged on their ipad or computers for long stretches on shows that are now being found to be addictive and causing behavioural issues from new research.

In summary, there is a whole lot of micro factors to be considered which in turn could be increasing such diagnosis.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 9:18pm On Nov 01, 2024
Fabulous! I knew I was missing out a crucial point. grin

I've conversed with a few immigrants who say they're unable or unwilling to pay for nursery. This means the child's earliest exposure to a school-setting will be at 3/4 years when they can access the free basic education. Many resort to bringing grannies from back home. Whilst that in itself isn't an issue, I'd be concerned about the social skills the child will build if exposed to the nursery setting earlier on.

A friend who enrolled her one year old son at the nursery for twice a week said the boy has improved in social interactions and self-awareness.

All malam to hin kettle.


fatima04:
Nicely stated, another factor to consider is access to affordable childcare within that age range.

A lot of migrants with younger kids keep their kids at home because of the high cost of childcare and not rhaving recourse to public funds and thus not able to utilise the 30hrs for working parents others have access to.

This means the kids have limited access to blend in to a whole new culture, assimilate into the system and so much more.

What in turn happens is, those kids are usually engaged on their ipad or computers for long stretches on shows that are now being found to be addictive and causing behavioural issues from new research.

In summary, there is a whole lot of micro factors to be considered which in turn could be increasing such diagnosis.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by fatima04: 12:09am On Nov 03, 2024
lightnlife:
Fabulous! I knew I was missing out a crucial point. grin

I've conversed with a few immigrants who say they're unable or unwilling to pay for nursery. This means the child's earliest exposure to a school-setting will be at 3/4 years when they can access the free basic education. Many resort to bringing grannies from back home. Whilst that in itself isn't an issue, I'd be concerned about the social skills the child will build if exposed to the nursery setting earlier on.

A friend who enrolled her one year old son at the nursery for twice a week said the boy has improved in social interactions and self-awareness.

All malam to hin kettle.
Lol at bolded. The cost of it all is quite discouraging but I will say the potential benefit of all those early social interaction for kids is crucial.

And also people dont even know there are some free play group sessions for younger kids but we don work dey go 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by MJ01: 2:06pm On Nov 25, 2024
Hello house, any tips on how to get Nigerian passport earlier in UK please? Earliest appointment date is in April.

Travel plans in January

TIA
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Goodenoch: 9:27pm On Apr 03, 2025
fatima04:
Lol at bolded. The cost of it all is quite discouraging but I will say the potential benefit of all those early social interaction for kids is crucial.

And also people dont even know there are some free play group sessions for younger kids but we don work dey go 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️
Actually, there appears to be a consensus among researchers that day care is bad (read: terrible) for children up until the age of 21/2 or so; and even then it should be for limited periods of no more than half a day - https://criticalscience.medium.com/on-the-science-of-daycare-4d1ab4c2efb4
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 11:13pm On Jul 25, 2025
This is an interesting read. Thanks for sharing.

This resonates with me and it's good to a see some scientific evidence on my position that we are throwing kids out too early in the name of early education and social skills development as a cover for our drive for career and more money, robbing them of their childhood.

I'd like to see a 20 years research outcome on two categories of kids who got 30+ hours early education vs those who didn't.

Goodenoch:
Actually, there appears to be a consensus among researchers that day care is bad (read: terrible) for children up until the age of 21/2 or so; and even then it should be for limited periods of no more than half a day - https://criticalscience.medium.com/on-the-science-of-daycare-4d1ab4c2efb4
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m):
lightnlife:
This is an interesting read. Thanks for sharing.

This resonates with me and it's good to a see some scientific evidence on my position that we are throwing kids out too early in the name of early education and social skills development as a cover for our drive for career and more money, robbing them of their childhood.

I'd like to see a 20 years research outcome on two categories of kids who got 30+ hours early education vs those who didn't.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Santa2: 6:53am On Mar 02
I know its been a while anyone posted on this thread but I was hoping I can draw from experiences here. I am hoping I can get resources there on diagnosing a kid with Adhd. Would appreciate if anyone has knowledge of the process . It about time I stopped being a typical african parent and face reality head on. My kid is currently in Year 8 in a grammar school but he gets written up for behavioural issues a lot, seemingly small issues but its quite frequent.. Truth is he's been showing some of the signs but we kept writing if of as him just being a typical boy, he struggles to follow multi-step instructions, gets distracted easily, Zones out, he's bright but he gets inconsistent grades, fidgets (uses stress balls to mitigates these), cant sleep except he plays white noise at the background, the teachers always complain he needs to focus more. When he was in Year 5 a teacher mentioned we might need to get him assessed for ADHD but we (typical african parent) wrote it off as them trying to put a label on him. But now that we know better, we are looking for the best way to get him the help he needs.
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