₦airaland Forum

Brilliancepower:
Men in their 30s.. ? Are you just waking up from sleep.. Am 45, I don't have any gotham pressure to get married again. But I get three Pikins and only one is with me, he is 5, the eldest is 15 ( him mama dey form champion, me I face my work), I get a girl that is 2 (her mama dey form champion, she dey with am). I noticed bill killed my dad at 58.. unless if am to die early, bills nor fit kill me. Bills dey make men die!🙄

doncartel:
Nigerians will soon start marrying at 50 years old with the way the economy is going.

By 55 you have finished giving birth, your children graduate from university when you are about 75. You retire at 80 and contest for president like Tinubu and Atiku. Sounds like a good plan.

Khastro:
Before I got married, my GM would say "never mind about the extra expenses, you'll spend them anyways"

I can tell that things weren't rosy when I was single, they aren't particularly rosy now that I've been married for years.

So why not go ahead and get married (to someone with whom you share mature understanding and a choosing to be responsible to each other).

mayDtolu:
The pressure on men to get married once they hit their 30s is honestly exhausting. In our society, the moment a man enters his 30s, people start acting like he’s overdue for marriage—throwing jabs, cracking jokes, or outright questioning his decisions.

But what many don’t talk about is the financial reality behind it all.

Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s a serious financial commitment. And let’s be real—it’s tough out here. Some men are earning as much as ₦500,000 a month and still don’t feel ready to marry, because even that amount barely sustains one person, let alone a family. When survival is the goal, the thought of taking on more responsibility can be downright scary.

Sometimes, it’s not even about unwillingness. It’s about survival. Stability. Peace of mind.

How do you handle the pressure?
If you’re a man in your 30s, have you felt this pressure too?
If you’re already married, did you feel financially and emotionally ready when you tied the knot?

Let’s talk. Share your thoughts in the comments.

columbus007:
Do you think it's easy feeding your sg alone before joining another? I don't find time to think about women, inshort God help me.

Quickstar:
I am ready to settle down but the problem is that I need a lady that is business minded and respectful so we can build our family together.
I base in lagos state.

idahme:
I'm average financially but loathe any semblance of laziness combined with entitlement and selfishness, many ladies fall into this category I don't want to be the answer of ladies in this group praying for a millionaire as a husband this is why I'm taking my time. Mine has no reason to do with finance....

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ednut1:
most men don’t care 😂

Myrepublic:
Nobody wan marry rubbish.. na rubbish full outside these days...

Na this one dey vex me pass..

The ladies will say they don't want to marry a broke guy..

They will now find a rich guy.. when the guy start having other women,she starts complaining.

Only you want riches,still want the man to be loyal to you.

When you only came to eat,and give birth.

Pikin when be say na me and you still born o,you will start forming you did too much by giving birth.


Guys say this prayer after me.
I will not marry rubbish..

mayDtolu:
The pressure on men to get married once they hit their 30s is honestly exhausting. In our society, the moment a man enters his 30s, people start acting like he’s overdue for marriage—throwing jabs, cracking jokes, or outright questioning his decisions.

But what many don’t talk about is the financial reality behind it all.

Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s a serious financial commitment. And let’s be real—it’s tough out here. Some men are earning as much as ₦500,000 a month and still don’t feel ready to marry, because even that amount barely sustains one person, let alone a family. When survival is the goal, the thought of taking on more responsibility can be downright scary.

Sometimes, it’s not even about unwillingness. It’s about survival. Stability. Peace of mind.

How do you handle the pressure?
If you’re a man in your 30s, have you felt this pressure too?
If you’re already married, did you feel financially and emotionally ready when you tied the knot?

Let’s talk. Share your thoughts in the comments.

JustAndy:
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Honestly I just believe men are not stupid as women think we are. I dont want to say much because this was the message I received from someone I just met...

Celestialsword:
Stop believing these lies,

You create whatever you want in life for yourself, you have to be purposeful or else life will give you whatever it pleases, which in most cases are undesirable things.

So, those things you wrote up there are the national anthem of lazy folks,who can't work hard and make good and right choices in life

Gerrard59:
With your example, you already see why women are actually important to men than men to women. As women have gained economic power, they see less need of men in their lives. Men, on the other hand, still seek women because of their hormonal urge.

silibaba:
Women even experience it more than men. Desire for sex is more in women just that they know how to contain it. But once you are about to get them laid, nah dem dey first pull off everything for dem body self.

descarado:
Those blaming here don't have up to 50k in their account. Real men marry. Just that they can't differentiate between a wife, mistress, maid and mother. The 4 are not the same and no wife should take the job of the other 3.

Unless they are ready to be sugar daddy, daddy, boyfriend and husband in one.

JustAndy:
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Honestly I just believe men are not stupid as women think we are. I dont want to say much because this was the message I received from someone I just met...

Mcslize:
Girls these days are all looking for Odogwu. The already made rich man they created for themselves in their dreams. Noone wants to build with any man.

But unknown to them, the rich ones are not even up to 10%. How they will all compete for such miniature percentage of rich men baffles me.

Instead of clamouring for a rich guy, a wise lady with wisdom will instead look out for a hard working and ambitious young man.

This is because a young man who is hard working and ambitious can become rich at any point in time. But common sense is far from most of them.

Which rich guy will harbour a liability who wasn't there when he got rich?

Fóolish bunch of delusionáls.

LoneSoldier:
This is the reason I tell men to focus on there self, marriage is a cage and a bondage, only one gender suffer it all, which is the male gender.....

Mind you am old enough to marry, but I choose not to marry, I don't know the hype they attach to this marriage of a thing, which favours a particular gender over the other....

I have choosen the bachelor's life, with my job nature... I always have time for myself so no pressure whatsoever....

BACHELOR FOR LIFE

Gerrard59:
If na so e easy, why do many Nigerian men in the abroad still seek to marry Nigerian women?

Humans are tribal. Most people marry their kind. This talk about other African countries is infinitesimal. How many Nigerian men seek to marry Ghanaian, Beninouse and Cameroonian women?

pocohantas:
They claim money is not the problem. They have money, but Naija women are the problem. So tell your brothers to use surrogacy.

5 to 7m and they will get the child they want.

- Employ a nanny to look after the kids.
- Employ another call girl for regular sex.

This is cheaper and more beneficial to them than a wife that would reduce their life span.

They are the ones not marrying, they are still the ones threatening women with menopause and wailing online everyday. Tufia!

Fab21:
I saw a post recently by someone online saying #2M isn't enough in this country.


As in, #2M? The economy is bad, though. But there are family men earning less than 100k and they're thriving.


Saying 500k isn't enough is somehow ridiculous ooo..

Mcslize:
Girls these days are all looking for Odogwu. The already made rich man they created for themselves in their dreams. Noone wants to build with any man.

But unknown to them, the rich ones are not even up to 10%. How they will all compete for such miniature percentage of rich men baffles me.

Instead of clamouring for a rich guy, a wise lady with wisdom will instead look out for a hard working and ambitious young man.

This is because a young man who is hard working and ambitious can become rich at any point in time. But common sense is far from most of them.

Which rich guy will harbour a liability who wasn't there when he got rich?

Fóolish bunch of delusionáls.

Exceed15:
Then social media is the wrong place to find her since you are already advertising urself

Myrepublic:
Nobody wan marry rubbish.. na rubbish full outside these days...

Na this one dey vex me pass..

The ladies will say they don't want to marry a broke guy..

They will now find a rich guy.. when the guy start having other women,she starts complaining.

Only you want riches,still want the man to be loyal to you.

When you only came to eat,and give birth.

Pikin when be say na me and you still born o,you will start forming you did too much by giving birth.


Guys say this prayer after me.
I will not marry rubbish..

Brilliancepower:
Men in their 30s.. ? Are you just waking up from sleep.. Am 45, I don't have any gotham pressure to get married again. But I get three Pikins and only one is with me, he is 5, the eldest is 15 ( him mama dey form champion, me I face my work), I get a girl that is 2 (her mama dey form champion, she dey with am). I noticed bill killed my dad at 58.. unless if am to die early, bills nor fit kill me. Bills dey make men die!🙄

Mcslize:
I sight you right there my fellow FX cumrade. Which profirms are you currently trading with?

I already know the best of the best ones. But just want to hear from the horse's mouth.

chidiokay:
what are you expecting, things like this shoudnt be a surprise anymore

shebi you sef get plans to nack her, give n take l'aiye mehn

JustAndy:
My English is very simple " we just met" na every woman wey you meet you wan knack bro... bet wey I dey give don pay 🤨

chidiokay:
lolzz !! so you meet this gurl to be her tutorial teacher abi spiritual father

oga na nack you wan knack, she knows already thats why she is billing to know if you are worth her time

spiSeyi:
FYI: lots of Nigerian men married Kenyan, Ivorian and as far as Zimbabwean most men in my family married Ghanaian