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Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family members including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could remember during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

Maybe if you quit begging with your alternates on nairaland you will be able to focus on privacy.
His laptop and whatever content is on it is his private business. Just because he gave you access to his laptop doesn't mean you own it.

Your fiance never ready.

SUPERBLOOM:
Maybe if you quit begging with your alternates on nairaland you will be able to focus on privacy.
His laptop and whatever content is on it is his private business. Just because he gave you access to his laptop doesn't mean you own it.

I am not a begger like you and I don't have alternates...Thank God seun invented blocking

.as in ....is this real or fake story??
...u entered someone's laptop and deleted his personal files?? Na winch U chop or being a girl friend to you means you can force a man to do whatever you want.

Your fiance was right to be angry. Does the pictures on his laptop affect your relationship in any way negative? I guess not.

Don't try to be his mum when you are his fiancee.

Take it easy on remoulding him before he starts singing the usual "I want peace of mind" on your matter.

This issue is too petty to end the relationship.

Gandollar:
Your fiance was right to be angry. Does the pictures on his laptop affect your relationship in any way negative? I guess not.

Don't try to be his mum when you are his fiancee.

Take it easy on remoulding him before he starts singing the usual "I want peace of mind" on your matter.

This issue is too petty to end the relationship.

Mehn like a finance, a man I want to spend the rest of my life with having leaked sex tapes of celebrities on his gadgets is not a problem in the relationship...what kind of man is that? Even when he gave his niece the laptop is not a problem?

Our society is gradually deteriorating

Islandlady:
Mehn like a finance, a man I want to spend the rest of my life with having leaked sex tapes of celebrities on his gadgets is not a problem in the relationship...what kind of man is that? Even when he gave his niece the laptop is not a problem?

Our society is gradually deteriorating

Rome was not built in a day. Take it easy on asserting what you want and the man you want him to be.
Change takes time.

How can the little girl see those things if she's just to watch movie?

The little girl has no business searching through his computer.

Our society already lost it, but don't try to play savior cos you can't change the society.

I asked you a question earlier, does his having sextapes on his computer affect the relationship negatively?

What kind of porn does he watch...?

Gandollar:
Rome was not built in a day. Take it easy on asserting what you want and the man you want him to be.
Change takes time.

How can the little girl see those things if she's just to watch movie?

The little girl has no business searching through his computer.

Our society already lost it, but don't try to play savior cos you can't change the society.

I asked you a question earlier, does his having sextapes on his computer affect the relationship negatively?

The videos are mixed up with the movies, that's how I saw it too, it wasn't hidden...I believe you are a woman except you are disguised as one...How will you feel if your child comes back home and tell you that she watch some Indecency movies on her uncle laptop will you be happy about it and will you want her to come back to his house... isn't that a bad publicity

Ok imagine a sex tape of celebrity that has been leaked since 3 years ago, your fiance still save it on his laptop...is that speaking well of his personality, what does he need it for?

Islandlady:
The videos are mixed up with the movies, that's how I saw it too, it wasn't hidden...I believe you are a woman except you are disguised as one...How will you feel if your child comes back home and tell you that she watch some Indecency movies on her uncle laptop will you be happy about it and will you want her to come back to his house... isn't that a bad publicity

Ok imagine a sex tape of celebrity that has been leaked since 3 years ago, your fiance still save it on his laptop...is that speaking well of his personality, what does he need it for?

hope your so-called fiancee isn't having sex with his niece

I won't be surprised 😯😯

If this post make it to front-page 😂

nlfpmod

How you take see ham brr

I understand your fears.
Try to talk with him, sit down and talk with him, let him know how you feel about it, if he truly loves you, he may see reasons to reduce his porn habit or even stop completely. That's really all you can do. Force almost never works.

And don't allow anyone here or offline to downplay your feelings. This is someone that if everything goes well you will spend the rest of your life with, so don't allow them to dismiss you.

Don't start what you cannot finish.

Wish you success

Islandlady:
The videos are mixed up with the movies, that's how I saw it too, it wasn't hidden...I believe you are a woman except you are disguised as one...How will you feel if your child comes back home and tell you that she watch some Indecency movies on her uncle laptop will you be happy about it and will you want her to come back to his house... isn't that a bad publicity

Ok imagine a sex tape of celebrity that has been leaked since 3 years ago, your fiance still save it on his laptop...is that speaking well of his personality, what does he need it for?

I have always wondered why people (men and women) , keep sextapes on their devices. It doesn't make sense!

But you got to understand that the world is fast changing it's views on sex.

That your guy has such in his possession doesn't mean he's no good .

What I'm saying is, this is not enough to end the relationship!

Stop playing mother hen.

Allow him his private moments, don't choke him with your pedantic attitude.

Change is gradual.

You still didn't answer my question and until you do..

Gandollar:
I have always wondered why people (men and women) , keep sextapes on their devices. It doesn't make sense!

But you got to understand that the world is fast changing it's views on sex.

That your guy has such in his possession doesn't mean he's no good .

What I'm saying is, this is not enough to end the relationship!

Stop playing mother hen.

Allow him his private moments, don't choke him with your pedantic attitude.

Change is gradual.

You still didn't answer my question and until you do..

is that how your bf keep porn video on his phone

Firebox123:
is that how your bf keep porn video on his phone

Abeg Shattap when sensitive issues are discussed or you would be blocked for a whooping 7days! Be guided.

Islandlady

https://www.nairaland.com/7991929/desperate-lady-needs-advice

Will your so called fiancée be happy you slept with a rich guy for money not to drop out of school 🏫

Nobody is saint here

Gandollar:
Abeg Shattap when sensitive issues are discussed or you would be blocked for a whooping 7days! Be guided.

even the person that make the post have block you.


Aren't you shame already

Don't conclude yet. Could be he downloaded them,cux he wanted to date you. The saying that girls of these days wants nasty things as you called it.. It could be he downloaded them to learn ways to satisfy you.. Talk to him.. Don't loose a good nigga,cux of things that can be worked on..

Crap

Gandollar:
Abeg Shattap when sensitive issues are discussed or you would be blocked for a whooping 7days! Be guided.

Already blocked the idiot, this new feature is so needed here.

Islandlady:
I am not a begger like you and I don't have alternates...Thank God seun invented blocking

Please where is blocking and how can i do it

Islandlady:
Mehn like a finance, a man I want to spend the rest of my life with having leaked sex tapes of celebrities on his gadgets is not a problem in the relationship...what kind of man is that? Even when he gave his niece the laptop is not a problem?

Our society is gradually deteriorating

So your fiance still has Tiwa Savage's sex tape on his phone.

Chai! Them don scam Tiwa!

Someone collected money from her to delete her sex tape completely from the Internet

See how women for this thread dey form innocent

Like sai no be them like anything fvck related pass

If u are not comfortable with it then leave the relationship. U can't control an adult..

Islandlady:
I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

The way you ladies throw the word RESPONSIBLE around. Once a man doesn't appear or behave just the way you want him, the word comes out.

As for that guy, just leave him and don't let him disgrace you with his life.
I don't know what a full grown man will be having porn stored on his phone and laptop for? that is extreme.
The horrible part is how careless he is with it. I mean... why should someone whose brain is functioning properly give a porn filled laptop to a child. Maybe he even did it on purpose to subtly GROOM the child.

His porn addiction might even be the least of your problem because you don't know what other stems and branches have grown from it.

You stop talking to him about it and RUN.

Ojagun:

See how women for this thread dey form innocent Like sai no be them like anything fvck related pass

I remember when I used to fix phones and upload stuff for phones... even before android came out. Women are the number one hoarders of phone porn.

SUPERBLOOM:
Maybe if you quit begging with your alternates on nairaland you will be able to focus on privacy.
His laptop and whatever content is on it is his private business. Just because he gave you access to his laptop doesn't mean you own it.

You re wrong!
The guy is careless - don't overlook it. People like him will show no remorse for doing shameful act. Some times God go use a person mistake to send you a warning.

Na red flag be that, any man who feeds on pornographic content can never get sexual satisfaction with one woman. He will keep looking for women or girls to fit into his fantasy.

Ojagun:


See how women for this thread dey form innocent

Like sai no be them like anything fvck related pass

No mind them, if no be maternity. Many women go still claim virgin self.