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Onatounkiki:
I think he's good for me
We've bonded so well that sometimes I don't feel he's married
Our relationship has been mostly distance since it started

Onatounkiki:
Good day, I'm a lady of 29years, I have a married suitor who sincerely wants to marry me.
I have known him for years and I have always known that he loves me. We started seeing each other last year , his wife knows about us so his children and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I have spoken to his mum and sister too.

I told my family about him and he's willing to come over to see my parents anytime they are ready but my family hasn't agreed yet. Mind you, we've not had sex but this man checks everything I have ever wanted in my husband.

Is there anything wrong in getting married as a second wife

Note: We've not had sex and we are both Christians

Onatounkiki:
1. I want to get married to him because I sincerely love him
2. He's an actual family man and I'm very sure he can lead me right
3. He's so mature with his doings. He respects me, cares for me and because he loves me
4. I need this opinion because I'm not sure if getting married as a second wife is good enough but truthfully, I'm not going there to make trouble with the first because heaven knows I really do love her and her kids.
I have asked her if the man is the one pressuring her to accept me that I won't let e know she told me and I will quietly walk away but she said there was a vision that the husband will get married to a second wife and with the way she has seen me she likes me already.
We talk almost everyday with her and the kids and I love them like mine
This man loves his wife and he's performing his duties on both the wife and the children

Gotocourt:
Better look for a single man, your age is not bad. When the fight and juju arrows will start ehhhhhh 😨🏃🔥🗡️.

Firebox123:
or the man bring in third wife

JAOS:
If he can't afford to put both of you in different houses don't marry him for the sake of your unborn children no matter what your feeling are .marrying two wives is not an easy task a man should be financial buoyant before considering it and make sure it is your last option because the love he is showing you now may fade when you are his wife and keep in mind that one of the reason he and the first wife wants to marry you is so you can be a house wife that will be taking care of their children so make sure you are not working into an unhappy life just because you are getting older there are many widower or divorce men around you can try your luck with

Firebox123:
which one be widower and divorce men

columbus007:
But so many women would have been a better wife if she didn't not try to make her man a better husband.

Onatounkiki:
1. I want to get married to him because I sincerely love him
2. He's an actual family man and I'm very sure he can lead me right
3. He's so mature with his doings. He respects me, cares for me and because he loves me
4. I need this opinion because I'm not sure if getting married as a second wife is good enough but truthfully, I'm not going there to make trouble with the first because heaven knows I really do love her and her kids.
I have asked her if the man is the one pressuring her to accept me that I won't let e know she told me and I will quietly walk away but she said there was a vision that the husband will get married to a second wife and with the way she has seen me she likes me already.
We talk almost everyday with her and the kids and I love them like mine
This man loves his wife and he's performing his duties on both the wife and the children

Onatounkiki:
I think he's good for me
We've bonded so well that sometimes I don't feel he's married
Our relationship has been mostly distance since it started

thesicilian:
Women don't have a problem being a second wife as long as the man is rich.

But that's not even the issue. My major concern is, was his first marriage just a traditional marriage? Because if they did court/registry marriage, you cannot marry that man because that is a federal offense (bigamy)

Mariangeles:
Something doesn't seem right.
Run for your life!!! 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️




Don't worry, your own man that is solely YOURS will locate.



🚩🚩🚩

Nadingo:
It's not. It's a crime under the Criminal Code of Southern Nigeria.

Firebox123:
https://www.nairaland.com/7956471/wrong-react-way#127749721
https://www.nairaland.com/7889804/guy-younger#126615752

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Make you sure read the previous post made by the poster to understand better

Firebox123:
https://www.nairaland.com/7956471/wrong-react-way#127749721
https://www.nairaland.com/7889804/guy-younger#126615752

Before you comment on the post

Make you sure read the previous post made by the poster to understand better

gasparpisciotta:
I see what you are doing there bro, life sometimes play you over 2.5 in 0:0 goalless draw in the final minutes…🤌

She is free to marry anyone, it’s her life, her man and a vision 😎

Firebox123:
can you advise your sister's to marry married man with kids

Just asking

gasparpisciotta:
Why not bro, whatever makes her happy.

Firebox123:
definitely you're Muslim

Onatounkiki:
Good day, I'm a lady of 29years, I have a married suitor who sincerely wants to marry me.
I have known him for years and I have always known that he loves me. We started seeing each other last year , his wife knows about us so his children and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I have spoken to his mum and sister too.

I told my family about him and he's willing to come over to see my parents anytime they are ready but my family hasn't agreed yet. Mind you, we've not had sex but this man checks everything I have ever wanted in my husband.

Is there anything wrong in getting married as a second wife

Note: We've not had sex and we are both Christians

gasparpisciotta:
I believe in God, father Almighty
the maker of heaven and earth
and in Jesus Christ His only son….complete the rest 😃

Starz825:
Have you met your pastor about this...at least to pray your way into this..

Besides your family are not convinced yet....they mostly would know better ..listen to them again, they are trying to look at your future rather than your present situation.

The only support you think you have are only from the people who are desperate to have you in their family (the man and his wife)...and that alone is something to be very careful of....they might be up to something...this is Nigeria...


Meanwhile,


In anything you are going to do, listen well

Do not stay with the woman under the same roof...let your to be husband get another apartment and have your own job/business that brings in money...and also be ready to share him with other women too regardless of his love for you..

You hear me so... that's the message from me. Thanks

Onatounkiki:
I think he's good for me
We've bonded so well that sometimes I don't feel he's married
Our relationship has been mostly distance since it started

Onatounkiki:
Good day, I'm a lady of 29years, I have a married suitor who sincerely wants to marry me.
I have known him for years and I have always known that he loves me. We started seeing each other last year , his wife knows about us so his children and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I have spoken to his mum and sister too.

I told my family about him and he's willing to come over to see my parents anytime they are ready but my family hasn't agreed yet. Mind you, we've not had sex but this man checks everything I have ever wanted in my husband.

Is there anything wrong in getting married as a second wife

Note: We've not had sex and we are both Christians

nnamdi640:
Your emotion is playing bad game with you. Have you given single men this opportunity you are giving to this married man. You should know that the action you are about to take is totally wrong. The wise one will always tell you that never trust people because they will surely change. They are showing you love now doesn't mean they won't show you the other side of them. This quality you saw in this married man are still presence in single men just that you don't want to consider other options. To be honest with you,I would have encouraged you to marry the man assuming his wife is late, but with this I can't advice you to do so. Please, run for you dear life and focus on yourself the right single man will surely come if you truly have a good character.

Nadingo:
It's not. It's a crime under the Criminal Code of Southern Nigeria.