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I moved into a new apartment early last year, and I've enjoyed the change of scenery.

There's this single lady in the compound, likely to be in her late 20s, she is beautiful and attractive. I'm very much interested in her, but I'm concerned about being rejected and the awkwardness of seeing her regularly if she turns me down. I also worry about how it might affect our interactions with other neighbors if she were to share that I approached her with other neighbors.

Should I take the risk and ask her out, or should I respect the boundaries of our neighborly relationship? If you think I should pursue her, what's the best way to approach her, considering I have her contact from our WhatsApp group?

First start by greeting exchange and compliment,Just be patient and observe her very well she will come to you for help.

joceey:
First start by greeting exchange and compliment,Just be patient and observe her very well she will come to you for help.

we greet and talk normally, but I don't feel it's best to approach her when she seek for help, won't it look like I'm an opportunist for approaching her coz she seek for personal help?

Op, If I am going to be very honest with you ,in my own humble opinion without being sentimental and judgemental ofcourse, and without offending anyone who thinks differently from my own point of view and my point of opinion, and also by looking into this your Neighbour to neighbour relationship matter in a distinctive perspective , I would like to say that I have nothing to SAY!!!.

Happy Sunday Op

@Dominique, can you kindly push this to fp for wider view.

this dude needs every opinion in this love situation he finds himself.

Do everything to avoid a sexual relationship with someone who lives in your immediate locality

Familymatterss:
we greet and talk normally, but I don't feel it's best to approach her when she seek for help, won't it look like I'm an opportunist for approaching her coz she seek for personal help?

It will make you two bond very well and you will know more about her and bond well.

Kobicove:
Do everything to avoid a sexual relationship with someone who lives in your immediate locality

why advising him

He'll come back to nairaland for help after 2-3 months

They no dey warn person nau

joceey:
It will make you two bond very well and you will know more about her and bond well.

which bond

Is that how your sister date Una neighbour

Kobicove:
Do everything to avoid a sexual relationship with someone who lives in your immediate locality

I get your point, but what if the intention is to settle with her and also avoid anything intimacy until after settling?

Familymatterss:
I moved into a new apartment early last year, and I've enjoyed the change of scenery.

There's this single lady in the compound, likely to be in her late 20s, she is beautiful and attractive. I'm very much interested in her, but I'm concerned about being rejected and the awkwardness of seeing her regularly if she turns me down. I also worry about how it might affect our interactions with other neighbors if she were to share that I approached her with other neighbors.

Should I take the risk and ask her out, or should I respect the boundaries of our neighborly relationship? If you think I should pursue her, what's the best way to approach her, considering I have her contact from our WhatsApp group?

Dating Relationships amongst neighbors in same house or compound often times fail to work out.

I will advice that you take your dating games or business outside your residential compound till one of you exits that compound, then you can come for her, if it isn't late.

Wallade:
Dating Relationships amongst neighbors in same house or compound often times fail to work out.

I will advice that you take your dating games or business outside your residential compound till one of you exits that compound, then you can come for her, if it isn't late.

that's true, but what if I make it known to her that I have a thing for her, but it might look and sound awkward coz we are neighbors and hear what she has to say?

Familymatterss:
I get your point, but what if the intention is to settle with her and also avoid anything intimacy until after settling?

don't try it brr

I'm once a victim

Don't say I didn't warn you

Familymatterss:
that's true, but what if I make it known to her that I have a thing for her, but it might look and sound awkward coz we are neighbors and hear what she has to say?

until they cast all your secret and past in your neighborhood right 👍

You'll definitely regret it believe me

I'm once a victim speaking out of experience

Firebox123:
don't try it brr

I'm once a victim

Don't say I didn't warn you

well, your situation might not be the same with mine, and this are 2 pairs of different people with different reactions to things.


you can share your experience tho, I can pick 1 or 2 from it.

Firebox123:
until they cast all your secret and past in your neighborhood right 👍

You'll definitely regret it believe me

I'm once a victim speaking out of experience

...

this is for someone who have secrets that can affect him if it's being cast, what if I don't have any secrets like that?

Familymatterss:
that's true, but what if I make it known to her that I have a thing for her, but it might look and sound awkward coz we are neighbors and hear what she has to say?

It is your risk not mine. Few words are enough to influence or deepen the thoughts of the wise.

Wallade:
It is your risk not mine. Few words are enough to influence or deepen the thoughts of the wise.

your points are noted, but you're concentrating on the negative part.

I'm concerned about being rejected and the awkwardness of seeing her regularly if she turns me down.

It’s obvious that you’re not concerned enough.

Just watch her pass you by each day😅while one other dude smashed her every now and then.

Familymatterss:
I mapproached her with other neighbors.

Should I take the risk and ask her out, or shoup?

Are you prepared to be paying her house rent when it expires?

Hope is not my blessing..u dey describe....i dey kill o

A man concerned about rejection.

Are you sure you are a man?

Once you start dating her. If you are not smart, know say na your house and money go suffer aam. She no go dey pay rent again, na u go dey buy food stuff... But one thing I'm pretty sure be say u go get fresh and sweet knacking steadily depending on how u play your game well!!. My own advice is to just be friends with her first. If you see say na person u fit risk aam for. Go ahead!!!

Don't toast her o. I repeat don't toast her..
Just be friends with her.. Bestie kind of Friend..


You dey fear rejection? Rejection makes you stronger in the game.

If you date her,you go dey responsible for all her bills.. and your kitchen is finished.

And she will so use you.. but as besties,you fit still make strict decisions,cux emotions won't be involved.

Why don't you look for a lady outside your compound?

Just do friends with benefit

Familymatterss:
Should I take the risk and ask her out, or should I respect the boundaries of our neighborly relationship?

Avoid see finish.
You just want to use your own hands to burden your bachelor status.

Adexgentle005:
Just do friends with benefit

that's not in my dictionary

Myrepublic:
Don't toast her o. I repeat don't toast her..
Just be friends with her.. Bestie kind of Friend..


You dey fear rejection? Rejection makes you stronger in the game.

If you date her,you go dey responsible for all her bills.. and your kitchen is finished.

And she will so use you.. but as besties,you fit still make strict decisions,cux emotions won't be involved.

Why don't you look for a lady outside your compound?

okay, I have actually talked to her, and she said she won't be comfortable with it.

no need to press further.

Familymatterss:
that's not in my dictionary

Let it be in your dictionary because that’s the best for you at the moment. If you see the seriousness in her then you can take it to the next level and leave the area.

Familymatterss:
okay, I have actually talked to her, and she said she won't be comfortable with it.

no need to press further.

And you wan come give up? You made a mistake of asking her out.. You should have entered like besties.. She might be interested and still say no,cux she don't wanna act cheap.. Those girls when dey do like ogbaje