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DyshApp:
UK-based Nigerian woman, Uloma Nwogu, has recounted a distressing experience involving the father of her children, whom she claims reappeared after years of absence and attempted to use her as a route into the United Kingdom.


Uloma revealed in a post on Facebook that she relocated to the UK two years ago with her children after raising them alone for six years. She described the journey as both physically and mentally draining, stating that the stress of single-handedly raising children in a foreign land led to her developing high blood pressure.

According to Uloma, the children’s father resurfaced in January this year through a Facebook message, expressing a sudden desire to reconnect with the children.

After a series of conversations, he proposed to be included in her visa application and, in return, offered to reimburse her for the children’s school fees from the past six years.

God has given her a blank cheque. She should use it ASAP 😀

First of all, you have access to almost 8 Mill instantly. Next, you have a free house help in the abroad that you need.

Finally you are in an environment that favors women and they get correct justice system. He must pay child support not like this country

CoronaVirusPro:
If people did you wrong the first time, NEVER give them a second chance to do you wrong.

You can always build mutual relationships from a distance.

Second chance is fine. Third is where the problem lies.

Madam no mind the opportunist o. Since u blocked him and Je went on to arrest ur parents is a red flag. I repeat, do not allow him to come yo the UK o, else u would regret ur actions. If possible, return back his money to him and block him forever!

DeepSight:
Second chance is fine. Third is where the problem lies.

What makes you think you will survive the second. You missed the first, don’t try the second.

Righteousness2:
But you have been Hurting and nailing JESUS CHRIST over and over again to the Cross with your wicked and Evil lifestyle.
Yet when you come to Him for Forgiveness, HE forgives you.

What concerned Jesus with this................................

Righteousness2:
But you have been Hurting and nailing JESUS CHRIST over and over again to the Cross with your wicked and Evil lifestyle.
Yet when you come to Him for Forgiveness, HE forgives you.

The man hasn't repented. Why forgive him (Read Proverbs 28:13) . All he wants is to get to the UK and "disappear.". He isn't doing this for his family.

You can even forgive him if he is unrepentant, but limit any dealings with him.

Unless your days of suffering and trauma has never ended, that is when you will allow him...... Wó wá kẹ́kọ̀ọ́, In not only hardway but bitter route.

CoronaVirusPro:
If people did you wrong the first time, NEVER give them a second chance to do you wrong.

You can always build mutual relationships from a distance.

You are not Godly.

ehn, IF NA U NKO?

Thunderfayamods:
You are not Godly.

Godly..... Did you think he has repented, if yes why arresting the parents

grandstar:
The man hasn't repented. Why forgive him (Read Proverbs 28:13) . All he wants is to get to the UK and "disappear.". He isn't doing this for his family.

You can even forgive him if he is unrepentant, but limit any dealings with him.

His comment is beyond this particular issue.

Celestialsword:
Human being is imperfect including you,we learn and unlearn in the process of living.

So he should be given a second chance as he is holding the olive branch

He isn't holding an olive branch. That is why he arrested his in-laws.

That was his investment to get to the UK.

No one is perfect. The husband is not the only evil she'll meet in her life time. Everyone is evil

The guy want to use you. He is not a good father at all

CoronaVirusPro:
What makes you think you will survive the second. You missed the first, don’t try the second.

In life, I believe in second chances because no one is perfect, we all make mistakes. Unless the first hurt was of the kind in which I can see someone was making an attempt on my life or that of a loved one.

Other than that, I can forgive almost anything, and give a second chance, exactly because flawed as I am, I have often needed second chances in many things.

The reason I say the third is a problem is because if a second chance is flunked, a pattern has been established.

This story sweet me well weel.

But NPF no dey try. Go arrest her parents fa. Our legislooters no dey enact law for that side.

Never stop adding value to yourself as an individual!!!

She wouldn’t have thought that the man would be back one day to pay outstanding child support and even suggest doing a court wedding with her, but Real Value cannot be ignored. Na reality be that. Who knows what the man is going through now that makes him want to japa…lol

Lies. Let the husband come and explain. What I deduce was that the Husband was not in support then but she had her way which made the husband to say go and take care of yourself. Fine he has now thought of coming to the UK.
The fact remains you preasured him to your will then not necessarily that he abandoned.

How did you manage to relocate to the UK with the children without his input of application as well. Did you present his death certificate, Divorce judgement stating you have full custody or you claimed single mother with fabricated docs and stories


I despise all this appeal for pity stories. Let us hear from him as well

Bluffly:
Lies. Let the husband come and explain. What I deduce was that the Husband was not in support then but she had her way which made the husband to say go and take care of yourself. Fine he has now thought of coming to the UK.
The fact remains you preasured him to your will then not necessarily that he abandoned.

How did you manage to relocate to the UK with the children without his input of application as well. Did you present his death certificate, Divorce judgement stating you have full custody or you claimed single mother with fabricated docs and stories


I despise all this appeal for pity stories. Let us hear from him as well

Go and read her FB post not OP story. The OP summarised nonsense.

NaijaGoBetter2:
If the lady think am twice she should just take the money and move on, it's difficult to live in the UK as a single parent that's d reason their government always support single parent (citizen only) meanwhile this subject is not entitle to public fund... (Just 2yrs in d UK).

Though it might be difficult but she need d man to start his duty as a father....atleast d system is design to protect d women.

Lastly, if she insist in continuing her single parenting life style na her life but dt won't stop d children to take care of their fada when dey grow up

Your 2nd paragraph is funny... " system is designed to protect women".... so she should get herself a man who is a doormat?

Thank God most men are smarter than that... finding a man might be super hard if she doesn't have exemplary character.

Taking care of 1 kid that's yours is hard enough... what will now make you take care of another man's kids (plural)

Celestialsword:
Human being is imperfect including you,we learn and unlearn in the process of living.

So he should be given a second chance as he is holding the olive branch

Who should be given a second chance and who is holding the olive branch?

Thunderfayamods:
You are not Godly.

Have you ever observed that ungodly people live longer that godly people?

You know why? Cos ungodly people are cautious and sensitive knowing they are responsible for whatever befalls them. Unlike Godly people, they leave everything to God and why they die early.

This man fit see shege pro max from this woman for obodo oyibo if he try to misbehave over there 😁

delugadou:
Try to get some sleep

Make he zukwanike abi

Nigeria is full of entitled Narcissistic sociopaths who are good at weaponising forgiveness and using at as a tool of manipulation.

My sister should run and find her peace she already dodged a bullet.

Nonsense.

DyshApp:
UK-based Nigerian woman, Uloma Nwogu, has recounted a distressing experience involving the father of her children, whom she claims reappeared after years of absence and attempted to use her as a route into the United Kingdom.


Uloma revealed in a post on Facebook that she relocated to the UK two years ago with her children after raising them alone for six years. She described the journey as both physically and mentally draining, stating that the stress of single-handedly raising children in a foreign land led to her developing high blood pressure.

According to Uloma, the children’s father resurfaced in January this year through a Facebook message, expressing a sudden desire to reconnect with the children.

After a series of conversations, he proposed to be included in her visa application and, in return, offered to reimburse her for the children’s school fees from the past six years.

ruggedtimi:
Na visa the mxmu man want.

Baba wan japa, he is desperate. Anyway may the Lord heal the woman and lead her to take the right decision.

erniok:
Go and read her FB post not OP story. The OP summarised nonsense.

Okay

If she was still living in naija will he still as for reconnection with his kids?

She shouldn't deprived him from his kids, if he so wishes...But he can do that from a distance. It has to be over time if tasting...to know his genuine purpose. Not just a VIP front seat. Anywhere, what do I know...

DyshApp:
UK-based Nigerian woman, Uloma Nwogu, has recounted a distressing experience involving the father of her children, whom she claims reappeared after years of absence and attempted to use her as a route into the United Kingdom.


Uloma revealed in a post on Facebook that she relocated to the UK two years ago with her children after raising them alone for six years. She described the journey as both physically and mentally draining, stating that the stress of single-handedly raising children in a foreign land led to her developing high blood pressure.

According to Uloma, the children’s father resurfaced in January this year through a Facebook message, expressing a sudden desire to reconnect with the children.

After a series of conversations, he proposed to be included in her visa application and, in return, offered to reimburse her for the children’s school fees from the past six years.

bixton:
Who should be given a second chance and who is holding the olive branch?

The man, for having the courage to return back to his family,he is the one holding the olive branch.