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| Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Cristlaw(op): 1:19pm On May 29, 2025 |
Good day Nairaland. I will be brief. I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman. we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage. My finance promise to support though. By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M. Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet. I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now. What should I do guys? 8 Likes 1 Share
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| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by yomi007k(m): 2:03pm On May 29, 2025*. Modified: 7:40pm On May 29, 2025 |
Answer these questions; 1.What if your family and friends don't add up the money to 2 M, what will you do? 2. After marriage where will the new couple live? How much is rent and furniture? 3.Is your lady working? After marriage, how much do you and your spouse set as your joint monthly income and expenses? 107 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Peakdesign23(f): 2:12pm On May 29, 2025 |
Hmmm..... Buy enough food stuff for you and your wife first, rent a good house in a secured environment. Wedding is just for a day, cut you coat, if possible do small trad, and marriage blessing. Don't think that people will come and gift you huge sum of money, some are just coming for coming sake, some will come for food, some for critiques, some for attention, some for pictures, some will come to find love. Wedding is no longer the way it used to be. Hunger and maintenance will come knocking after marriage. Nobody go reason una matta after that day, unless you have a caring parents/in-laws. 96 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Kizolalah82: 2:35pm On May 29, 2025 |
My brother If you no go vex . No hope on anyone to complete that money to be 2miter. If possible rally round do small trad 1m keep your 5h. Marriage is only sweet when there resource cos baby no go chop love.. 74 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by ibechris(m): 2:47pm On May 29, 2025 |
If u don't have regular income pls,avoid marriage ooh. Don't marry a lady that isn't working,or have no skill. Na beg I dey beg u oooh. 84 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by AllBlack: 3:20pm On May 29, 2025 |
Cristlaw:So 1M isn't enough for you to do a wedding? Don't you want to have money in your bank after the wedding? 38 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by muyico(m): 3:53pm On May 29, 2025 |
NO!! 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by pneumaticos(m): 4:52pm On May 29, 2025 |
Cristlaw:Don't ever marry based on your savings Never used the main money you have for wedding Never do a wedding beyound 10-20 % of your capacity Meaning reserve 80-90% of your capacity for.marriage Now...in marriage You have 4 main responsibilities as man Responsibility of your wife's needs Responsible for the needs of the home Responsible for the needs of the children Finally the most expensive which many half baked men don't know The vision of the wife You will not have an issue here if she is visionless But the implications of that is that you may be breeding a nagging wife Guys usually have their eyes on kids as home But there is usually more Been.ready for the wedding means you are 80-90 ready for all of the needs above Which is marriage itself If you have been saving and you are not ready either through savings plus works or business for the above needs and responsibilities You will easily get tired of marriage just after your wedding because of financial burden 22 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Seunpapa65: 5:37pm On May 29, 2025 |
Bro forget lavish wedding after every enjoyment Na them u go face reality just do something wey no go affect u later 23 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by helinues: 6:16pm On May 29, 2025 |
So after the marriage, which money would you be spending after exhausting almost a year savings for one day event? 60 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by lordm(m): 7:00pm On May 29, 2025 |
Your money go finish 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by DeltaBachelor(m): 7:20pm On May 29, 2025 |
If you feel and know the time is right for you. Emphasis on “feel” and “know”. It is a personal thing. Don’t let another person tell you otherwise. We all have our different paths 5 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by tunjijones(m): 7:21pm On May 29, 2025 |
No marry if you no get money o... Forget about the wedding, you get moni for the marriage? Marriage na after wedding o. Bros you go regret am if you no get money and you marry.. life go taya u. I know say you no go listen to this advise, but bodi go tell you before end of next year. You even talk say your wife say she go support you financially... Na the funniest part be dat,... You dey go trust woman... 69 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Nobody: 7:22pm On May 29, 2025 |
Cristlaw:Lexy2014 should be able to answer your question very well. Quote him and give him a call. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by jaxxy(m): 7:22pm On May 29, 2025 |
Marriage should make u better. if this girl will add value to u than be a burden then by all means rush and marry her but if she is a liability or not helping in anyway or supportive pls take ur time. As for ur parents u must come up with both a wedding and marriage plan that's sustainable and convincing for them and then they will accept. They see the struggles ahead that why they say what say so Be guided. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 7:23pm On May 29, 2025 |
Oga, the balance in your account after wedding should be like 2x or 3x your wedding budget. If you're hoping on family and friends to finance your wedding, what hope do you have of settling comfortably after wedding? People be living dangerously while pretending they're totally playing it safe. 12 Likes
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| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by sofeo(m): 7:23pm On May 29, 2025 |
Alright |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by omoredia: 7:23pm On May 29, 2025 |
Don't marry for love oo. Marriage na business. Think am well 6 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by AfahaAbia(m): 7:24pm On May 29, 2025 |
Oga use your head. I wonder why you are such in a hurry to marry when your income is not steady or sufficient. Rememeber day to day living with a woman under the same roof is not childs play 15 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Munzy14(m): 7:24pm On May 29, 2025 |
Cristlaw:Oga be calming down small small..which one is just few months left before we enter New year? INUKWA! 7months na em you call few?  Your parents feel like you are not ready. Maybe or maybe not. Marriage no be baby snap me unawares o, you must be aware. So 750k cannot sponsor your trad? If you are that desperate  If only you will understand that ceremony ends that day and the real marriage start after. 10 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by omoredia: 7:24pm On May 29, 2025 |
Just know that a woman will never support u. Don't expect that from this generation of women. I have warned you 13 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by nairalanda1(m): 7:26pm On May 29, 2025 |
omoredia:That is because many of you think of love in terms of eros only...and many of you also look down on women or are angry with the minority of women that are femminists and too woke. To truly love a woman, there has to also be agape and philos as well. That is what keeps the marriage going when the going gets tough. If you marry as business, eventually it will break down by the time the children are old enough. And you will have your kids despise you. No, it is not because their mother caused it, it is because they have had their idea of the world around them damaged, and yes, they will also despise their mother. Besides, you won't like it if your inlaw says he married your sister as a business thing. 32 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by fredoooooo: 7:26pm On May 29, 2025 |
You don't need anybody to validate your life . Ask yourself... Am I ready , financially and emotionally ? Can I share forever with my partner? What's my parent view on my partner? 31 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by advanceDNA: 7:26pm On May 29, 2025 |
AllBlack:Leave am...e go chop foam after wedding ceremony 7 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Treasure17(m): 7:26pm On May 29, 2025 |
Marry base on your budget and not rely on family and friends. 1.5M is decent enough depending on the kind of woman you want to marry. 1 Like 2 Shares |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Pjtechv2(m): 7:27pm On May 29, 2025 |
No wait till you're 60 yrs sir 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Baawaa(m): 7:28pm On May 29, 2025 |
Don't rush into marriage,if you rush in you will rush out   p |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Samakus(m): 7:28pm On May 29, 2025 |
I married when I knew that I was financially ready for it. I can see that you're not ready. Wait!! I repeat... WAIT!!! 4 Likes |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Talkisneeded(m): 7:29pm On May 29, 2025 |
He he he |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by BewareOf419: 7:29pm On May 29, 2025 |
Marriage na scam, don't try it! How old are you now? |
| Re: Should I Consider Marriage Now? by Anguldi(m): 7:29pm On May 29, 2025 |
Team God will help you🏃🏃🏃 coming |
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