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I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

My babe doesn't buy Garri but she is my sugar, I am her water...

😯

Wahala

Erigga the nightmare of an average Nigerian banny

What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Erigga don drop post, motivational speaker don analyse am, so feminist avoid me henceforth.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

She didnt buy the Garri..she yabbed him that his mates were eating turkey...that she no know wetin she dey think wey she choose am..but as pikin don enter na b3cos of her pikin she stay..bla blabla when money land na we drank garri together..na some women way be this..

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

To some women dey think all men flashing things are willing to go all out lifetime commitment dey very different from 1month to 4yrs love bombing with goodies..d day the goodies stop your skin go tell sharp ppl go ask you aunty shey u sick?

I always laugh when I hear such from women. If you really loved him, he wouldn't have drank garri in the first place.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

I am coming for you.

tunnyl:
What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

At all... If ur eyes are truly open U will see the real reason and motive behind her staying there. She was definitely gaining a lot but U probably didn't know what it was. Most women are users and will use U even when U are at Ur lowest and some of us men think they're being loyal staying when no one else was available lol baba check am well the real reason for her staying isn't to ur benefit but hers

dkidd:
At all... If ur eyes are truly open U will see the real reason and motive behind her staying there. She was definitely gaining a lot but U probably didn't know what it was. Most women are users and will use U even when U are at Ur lowest and some of us men think they're being loyal staying when no one else was available lol baba check am well the real reason for her staying isn't to ur benefit but hers

Thats what I meant bro. I was being sarcastic. Some women even love it when you are in the Garri phase so that they wont have to drag you with other females; so that you wont ask them for romance or sex; or so that you wont be the man in the relationship.

tunnyl:
Thats what I meant bro. I was being sarcastic. Some women even love it when you are in the Garri phase so that they wont have to drag you with other females; so that you wont ask them for romance or sex; or so that you wont be the man in the relationship

Lol na when I broke die I dey even get sex pass and they come forming the submissive and loyal queen supporting her beloved king to get back his kingdom and lost glory but it's easy to see through the charade. They're great schemers. I get u though.

At the bold. Those are special witches and they're like a bad omen and U will notice things dragging back because they will f-up Ur psych. Most of them are full of shii bro save for a very few

dkidd:
Lol na when I broke die I dey even get sex pass and they come forming the submissive and loyal queen supporting her beloved king to get back his kingdom and lost glory but it's easy to see through the charade. They're great schemers. I get u though.

At the bold. Those are special witches and they're like a bad omen and U will notice things dragging back because they will f-up Ur psych. Most of them are full of shii bro save for a very few

Yeah bro. Women are weird

It looks like an Ai article but the points still make sense.

Another question to ask her is this.

Was she drinking HIS garri with him while Another man in duplex, mansion, driving Benz was toasting her??

They gave you their Nigerian kpekus when you were broke. Hahahaha that's the garri they bought

That was how one was telling me she was with me when I was living in a self contained apartment. The way I washed her d0wn eh, she never tried that rubbish with me again.

This was a lady that was homeless, pulling up with friends, was working a 10k naira monthly salary job, dating a market errand boy when I met her.

Me on the other hand had finished all my suffering. I had been working with number 1 oil company in the world for 6 months earning more than a university professor then, have travelled 2 times to Europe, I bought my first car same month I met her. The so called self contained was a first class apartment.

Even God loves those who believe Him.

Ok

Baba help me ask o

Gbam.

I call it—the gospel of Saint Erigga
Naija women don cry tire for E page.

In his exact words:
"I was with him when he had nothing", is not the same as "I supported him when he was broke."

The man has special wisdom. He's the only Nigerian celebrity musician whose page I check once in a while for financial and relationship inspiration. Let me drop some.

Na waa ooo..

But she wanted him to continue drinking the garri till forever?

If she upgraded herself as he was upgrading, he wouldn't have seen a better upgraded girl naa.

Hahahahahahahaaa

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

You have a point ❤️
Personally I’m not comfortable with my woman bringing what we shall eat or drink to the table.

Na knacks I marry you for, if children come during the knacks it’s fine but no disappoint for the knacks wey I marry you for.

tunnyl:
What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

I was there with you through the thick and thin of it all .

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

just it, I just imagine how the men from this generation thinks!? always wanting to compete with women, only a shallow minded man will compete with a woman.

a lot are out there even with their wealth they can't keep a male female relationship let alone marriage, that a woman is you through the thick and thin is grace and commendable.

modified:-

not a woman that made the whole time a living hell never to remember. some women hung with you for real they even compounding your woes.

....... She only help in Finishing the Gari

THE ONLY REASON THEY WERE AROUND U WHEN U WERE BROKE WAS BECAUSE THEY WERE BROKE TOO!!!!!

IF THEY HAD SEEN A BETTER ALTERNATIVE THEY WOULD HAVE DUMPED U ASAP!!!

illicit:
My babe doesn't buy Garri but she is my sugar, I am her water...

😯

No problem, you have water and she has sugar. Where the hell is garri?