₦airaland Forum

tunnyl:
What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

She many not necessarily Leave you, but she beeped other guys while you were there drinking garri

solihu:
No problem, you have water and she has sugar. Where the hell is garri?

sugar and water is water and glucose . Them go dey alright .. Dem no need the garri .

😂😂😂

maasoap:
I wonder why baby mamas and single mothers litters everywhere. May be women are now impregnating women

If it isn't the cheap emotional blackmail...

Cleanthes:
I always wonder why most of Nigerian girls are not looking for richness instead they r looking for a rich man
Is it impossible for a woman to get rich in Nigeria or the women in Nigeria are just lazy?

That is the thing that beats me too ...

Why no get that richness for yourself and become a woman of substance ..

Mariangeles:
Taa!

No sensible lady is expecting y'all to carry jack!
They've got brains to do that themselves, and they know their worth.
I mean, how much can you give? Are you kidding? 🙄
You think it's by shouting?
You think every lady is chingum lady?
You all bother about taking care of yourselves first.

Like I stated earlier, you all should blow first, then you can come for the high value lady.
Otherwise, boy bye!

Nobody dey follow una drink garri again.
Make everybody work out their own salvation.




Oh prrruh! 🙄

No sensible lady expect men to carry their liabilities, you said That means majority of you ladies are not sensible because that is what you lots expect and preach. Even here on Nairaland.

Then you said ladies will not drink garri with us again?? You lot don't drink the garri unless that guy is your best offer at that moment. That garri self you cannot afford to buy it for yourself at that moment you are with him.

Then you said we should come when we make it. Fine. We will come then and misuse your asss.ss by then. You mean nothing to us at that moment.

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Ehen this is the one that sunk. FACT

Dpsychologist:
And you are not one of them.

No need to be petty because, I didn't agree with your initial long write up, okay? Sleep good, if that will make you feel better, peace 💫!

Helpout12345:
No sensible lady expect men to carry their liabilities, you said That means majority of you ladies are not sensible because that is what you lots expect and preach. Even here on Nairaland.

Men they're married to? YES!!!
It is a man's RESPONSIBILITY to take care of his wife, and he must step up to it. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Then you said ladies will not drink garri with us again?? You lot don't drink the garri unless that guy is your best offer at that moment. That garri self you cannot afford to buy it for yourself at that moment you are with him.

Is that what you told yourself to make you feel good about yourself?
Now, why would I want to drink garri, when I can afford shawarma?

Them you said we should come when we make it. Fine. We will come then and misuse your asss.ss by then. You mean nothing to us at that moment.

Taa! 🙄

You can't even try that nonsense on a lady who makes her own money, and knows her worth.


They always resort to threats and blackmail.

DixseenMktPlace:
You have a point ❤️
Personally I’m not comfortable with my woman bringing what we shall eat or drink to the table.

Na knacks I marry you for, if children come during the knacks it’s fine but no disappoint for the knacks wey I marry you for.

So The Day wey Life Hit you really hard, wey your preek no stand na that day you go know say no be only Knacks you Marry woman for.

Mariangeles:
Men they're married to? YES!!!
It is a man's RESPONSIBILITY to take care of his wife, and he must step up to it. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼



Is that what you told yourself to make you feel good about yourself?
Now, why would I want to drink garri, when I can afford shawarma?



Taa! 🙄

You can't even try that nonsense on a lady who makes her own money, and knows her worth.

It's not what I tell myself. It is the truth. It's what you lot say when asked to describe a man you want to date and marry. It's what we men see when we date and marry you lots. So it's fact.

And we cannot misuse ladies that make their money??m. You lie. Many of them are being misused here in Texas by us odogwus while they make good money. They used this same mentality of yours to be in that position. In fact, a big majority of them were once married to the Nigerian man that brought them to the US. Once they start making money, they discard their husbands with this same "user" mindset of women we are talking about here.

🥱

Helpout12345:
It's not what I tell myself. It is the truth. It's what you lot say when asked to describe a man you want to date and marry. It's what we men see when we date and marry you lots. So it's fact.

And we cannot misuse ladies that make their money??m. You lie. Many of them are being misused here in Texas by us odogwus while they make good money. They used this same mentality of your to be in that position.

Any woman that wouldnt tag team to make our lives better would be dumped for the one that would .. I don't care if we ate shiit together...

A case study is the movie acrimony or whatever ..

A man will respect a lady that built and established herself, more than the one that "suffered and drank garri" with him.
Fact!📌

A word is enough for the wise.

Mariangeles:
A man will respect a lady that built and established herself, more than the one that "suffered and drank garri with him".
Fact!📌

A word is enough for the wise.

Let me help you re-write it.

A man will respect a lady that built, established herself and have other better offers from other men but chose to stay and soak garri with him. OR if she is the one that provided the garri.

That's when a sacrifice is made.

Helpout12345:
Let me help you re-write it.

A man will respect a lady that built, established herself and have other better offers from other men but chose to stay and soak garri with him.

In your dreams! 🤣🤣🤣

It's the sense of entitlement for me.
Soak garri kor, soak garri ni! 😀

You all should keep playing yourselves, you hear?
O ga a nya unu n'eze! 😬

Bunch of ungrateful beings that don't deserve loyalty/companionship.
I blame ladies that give themselves to y'all on a platter without commitment. Nonsense!

Mariangeles:
In your dreams! 🤣🤣🤣

It's the sense of entitlement for me.
Soak garri kor, soak garri ni! 😀

You all should keep playing yourselves.
O ga a nya unu n'eze! 😬

But that's what we men do everyday all over the world. Women will reject us when we were broke but building ourselves. We suck it up.

When we have made it, women will be rushing us and we will still date or marry one of you broke lots based on "good character" only. Men make this sacrifice everyday.

Why is it difficult for you women to date and marry a man that is struggling financially while you have more money Also just on "good character" only

solihu:
No problem, you have water and she has sugar. Where the hell is garri?

Na spiritual garri bro

It's no longer enough that you were with him when he was drinking garri, men dun wise up now, when he was drinking garri did u give him peace. Did you contribute to the garri.

Men have totally flipped the script. As a woman you have to come correct now. Young guys are now looking for submissive provider, nobody come this world come labour just because he was created with a penis. Men dun scarce now, so as a woman you now have to bring so so so much to the table and still submit. The basic requirement is not enough anymore, you have to dp so much more. Otherwise just go and freeze your eggs until your simp shows up.

noooooo you said it urself, u self its all for sex and not other qualities..but i dont doubt you, you spoke 70percent of other guys mind

DixseenMktPlace:
No naw haba
Wetin bring dirty and illiterate here now?

solihu:
No problem, you have water and she has sugar. Where the hell is garri?

Me n my babe go thief am... We no dey buy

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

She did not leave a mansion to come and join you in single room and to drink garri.

You were absolutely the very best option she could find otherwise, she would have left you.

But most women think that just by their existence alone, they are doing you and the world a favor for being born a woman.

That is why they still expect a settlement after being in a relationship where the man feeds, clothes and shelters her and literally, caters for her life.

A woman feels spending time with a man in a relationship is a favour done to the man.

The worst part is that this grandeur illusion and delision is without exception in the minds of most women.

And simpish men have caused and contributed to this delusional deiitification of non-value adding females, the world over. It does not even matter ugly, poor, badly behaved and dumb they are, in their mind they are the epitome of beauty, wealth and character. Men should always bow down and worship the ground that they walk on!

I wish I can be this insanely delusional

Babanlagenius:
Any lady that’s collecting the little you have in your struggling stage is a devil’s incarnate, she’s holding you back from your growth and success while still acting like she’s there for you. Now here’s the truth…

You’ll never understand this until you come out of it.

This perspective resonates with something familiar to me.

The question I will like to ask is what will be the gain of such lady?

tunnyl:
What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

And who tell you say when she dey date you,she nor date another man🤣🤣🤣..dey play

COOL10:
I always laugh when I hear such from women. If you really loved him, he wouldn't have drank garri in the first place.

You get it.
In love, we always seek for the good and betterment of our partner.
In the head of some men-like me, when I see a woman, I see all the more that she can be, and I want to walk that journey with you.
That's why men do those spendingz.
We want you to be happy ALWAYS.
Looking out for you- in the small ways we can.

...and it goes both ways...

drehdinho:
This perspective resonates with something familiar to me.

The question I will like to ask is what will be the gain of such lady?

1. The money you give her despite your struggles.

2. The fact that she’s probably convinced she’s not sharing you with another lady.

3. The sex. (Same sex you think you’re enjoying more)

The evil one uses all 3 tools to keep her with you, and use just number 3 to keep you with her.
A good way to tame someone that’s more likely to succeed effortlessly.

One of the biggest lies is to think they’ve been the one trying to make the relationship work.

illicit:
My babe doesn't buy Garri but she is my sugar, I am her water...

😯

Don’t let gehgeh to hear that.

TrainPark:
She did not leave a mansion to come and join you in single room and to drink garri.

You were absolutely the very best option she could find otherwise, she would have left you.

But most women think that just by their existence alone, they are doing you and the world foe being born a woman.

That is why they still expect a settlement after being in a relationship where the man feeds, clothes and shelters her and literally, caters for her life.

A woman feels spending time with a man in a relationship is a favour done to the man.

The worst part is that this grandeur illusion and delision is without exception in the minds of most women.

And simpish men have caused and contributed to this delusional deiitification of non-value adding females, the world over. It does not even matter ugly, poor, badly behaved and dumb they are, in their mind they are the epitome of beauty, wealth and character. Men should always bow down and worship the ground that they walk on!

I wish I can be this insanely delusional

Reminds me of a case in think im USA where a woman demanded a settlement after being with a guy for 2years and not even legally married. Women and entitlement are 5 and 6.

Dpsychologist:
Yen yen yen
In which cases... How many ladies have even done that

Countless ladies do that but you people will always want them to keep mum about it so you can continue to push the narrative that women bring nothing to the table. When they get betrayed for girls that will look the other way while he was drinking garri, you people will say they don't deserve loyalty. What makes you think you also deserve loyalty?

I'm so glad that men are speaking up now and they no longer allow manipulative Nigerian women to use them.

dominique:
Countless ladies do that but you people will always want them to keep mum about it so you can continue to push the narrative that women bring nothing to the table. When they get betrayed for girls that will look the other way while he was drinking garri, you people will say they don't deserve loyalty. What makes you think you also deserve loyalty?

If there are women who help their men when they (the men) had nothing, people would have been noticing it and there won't have been this issue coming up

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

she stayed because no one better than you approached her...