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Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 7:17pm On Jun 02, 2025
We had a scenario in the compound last week about two love birds. The guy asked his girl to vacate his room and pronounced that the relationship is over between them.

His reason been that the girl is still chatting and receiving calls from her ex. Something he warned her about, and she promised to stop.

After the first event, he started spying on her phone and found out she deleted all the charts he saw earlier with the ex. Further inquiry led to him noticing a particular number always call her when he is at work. And that number, happens to be the ex's digits.

Finally, he noticed she changed her ex's name on her phone and that gave him a reason not to ever trust her again. And thereby ending the relationship.

Do you think this is a enough reason to end a relationship?
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Nobody: 7:18pm On Jun 02, 2025
Badfinga:
We had a scenario in the compound last week about two love birds. The guy asked his girl to vacate his room and pronounced that the relationship is over between them.

His reason been that the girl is still chatting and receiving calls from her ex. Something he warned her about, and she promised to stop.

After the first event, he started spying on her phone and found out she deleted all the charts he saw earlier with the ex. Further inquiry led to him noticing a particular number always call her when he is at work. And that number, happens to be the ex's digits.

Finally, he noticed she changed her ex's name on her phone and that gave him a reason not to ever trust her again. And thereby ending the relationship.

Do you think this is a enough reason to end a relationship?
stay single brr
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Unseen(m): 7:47pm On Jun 02, 2025
Badfinga:
Do you think this is a enough reason to end a relationship?
More than enough reason.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by DMCY: 7:50pm On Jun 02, 2025
lol
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by slim75d(m): 9:00pm On Jun 02, 2025
Cheating has become a norm in the society, I experienced thesame attitude with my girlfriend, I saw her chatting with her ex. After some months, she slept over in my place, I unlocked her phone and checked her WhatsApp, lord have mercy 3 different guys banged her while we were dating
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Nehyooh(m): 9:06pm On Jun 02, 2025
This shouldn't be a question bro, he did the right thing.

I remembered my "ex" used to do; Her ex keep calling her, and the dump girl will be telling me, gisting me everything they discussed, I warned her, but no changes

One of reasons i jilted her was when she started the statement "It's not your fault, if not that my ex is a drunker, smoker, dirty, and I don't love him, I wouldn't have given you chance" whenever we had any little argument. I knew something is cooking, I dumped her dirty ass on the phone and ghosted her.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Nehyooh(m): 9:09pm On Jun 02, 2025
slim75d:
Cheating has become a norm in the society, I experienced thesame attitude with my girlfriend, I saw her chatting with her ex. After some months, she slept over in my place, I unlocked her phone and checked her WhatsApp, lord have mercy 3 different guys banged her while we were dating
Wtf huh
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by pebbycougar(m): 10:28pm On Jun 02, 2025
the miracle between my past addiction for being with a girl for a friend, I don't think I want a girl friend in life. I'm honest, #miracle
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Baronthecelebri(m): 5:08am On Jun 03, 2025
He did the right, I support him.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Peakdesign23(f): 6:09am On Jun 03, 2025
That's exactly how it's supposed to be.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Emmanuel900(m): 11:30am On Jun 03, 2025
I can proudly tell you that most Nigerian girls are serial cheater, there's nothing like loyalty to a Nigerian girl, most of them are big advocate of having 3 boyfriends and having the backup for those 3 boyfriends.

I don't take relationship seriously, the title of boyfriend these days is like a the title of a stupid simp. Once I'm interested in a girl I just vibe with her till I get what I want, I'm not interested in be a stupid boyfriend I just want to fvck and that's all but I won't tell them, now after vibing and Fvcking if the conduct is good I can stay around for more vibing and Fvcking.

I still haven't seen a girl that the vibe is good enough to make me pick up the title of a boyfriend. Most guys fall into that trap of playing boyfriend, that title is being allocated to a guy by Nigerian women to extract more resources from you, it doesn't mean they take you seriously. They know they will get more goodies and things from you if they give you that title while there are several other without that title that even have more access to the coochie.

Nigerian girls usually give the boyfriend titles to the richest and most capable among the guys they are Fvcking with till you can pay no more and they allocate the title to another guy, until they get a guy ready to pay into marriage. If you know the truth about these women you won't ever want to be the boyfriend of any
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by OKOATA(m): 12:38pm On Jun 03, 2025
Emmanuel900:
I can proudly tell you that most Nigerian girls are serial cheater, there's nothing like loyalty to a Nigerian girl, most of them are big advocate of having 3 boyfriends and having the backup for those 3 boyfriends.

I don't take relationship seriously, the title of boyfriend these days is like a the title of a stupid simp. Once I'm interested in a girl I just vibe with her till I get what I want, I'm not interested in be a stupid boyfriend I just want to fvck and that's all but I won't tell them, now after vibing and Fvcking if the conduct is good I can stay around for more vibing and Fvcking.

I still haven't seen a girl that the vibe is good enough to make me pick up the title of a boyfriend. Most guys fall into that trap of playing boyfriend, that title is being allocated to a guy by Nigerian women to extract more resources from you, it doesn't mean they take you seriously. They know they will get more goodies and things from you if they give you that title while there are several other without that title that even have more access to the coochie.

Nigerian girls usually give the boyfriend titles to the richest and most capable among the guys they are Fvcking with till you can pay no more and they allocate the title to another guy, until they get a guy ready to pay into marriage. If you know the truth about these women you won't ever want to be the boyfriend of any
She owns her body and can do what she likes and same goes to the guys too. You obviously don't stick to a girl except you a limpo.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 9:12pm On Jun 04, 2025
slim75d:
Cheating has become a norm in the society, I experienced thesame attitude with my girlfriend, I saw her chatting with her ex. After some months, she slept over in my place, I unlocked her phone and checked her WhatsApp, lord have mercy 3 different guys banged her while we were dating
I wonder why people cheat or double date. When I was single, I always made it clear to my girls from day one that any form of cheating is a tie breaker for me. I was lucky to date girls with the same ideology as mine.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 9:18pm On Jun 04, 2025
Nehyooh:
This shouldn't be a question bro, he did the right thing.

I remembered my "ex" used to do; Her ex keep calling her, and the dump girl will be telling me, gisting me everything they discussed, I warned her, but no changes

One of reasons i jilted her was when she started the statement "It's not your fault, if not that my ex is a drunker, smoker, dirty, and I don't love him, I wouldn't have given you chance" whenever we had any little argument. I knew something is cooking, I dumped her dirty ass on the phone and ghosted her.
My honest advice to any male or female is this, if you're not over your ex, don't go into a new relationship. For it has a way of affecting the present relationship
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 9:21pm On Jun 04, 2025
pebbycougar:
the miracle between my past addiction for being with a girl for a friend, I don't think I want a girl friend in life. I'm honest, #miracle
Can you please elaborate more, so that people can learn from your experience.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 9:25pm On Jun 04, 2025
Emmanuel900:
I can proudly tell you that most Nigerian girls are serial cheater, there's nothing like loyalty to a Nigerian girl, most of them are big advocate of having 3 boyfriends and having the backup for those 3 boyfriends.

I don't take relationship seriously, the title of boyfriend these days is like a the title of a stupid simp. Once I'm interested in a girl I just vibe with her till I get what I want, I'm not interested in be a stupid boyfriend I just want to fvck and that's all but I won't tell them, now after vibing and Fvcking if the conduct is good I can stay around for more vibing and Fvcking.

I still haven't seen a girl that the vibe is good enough to make me pick up the title of a boyfriend. Most guys fall into that trap of playing boyfriend, that title is being allocated to a guy by Nigerian women to extract more resources from you, it doesn't mean they take you seriously. They know they will get more goodies and things from you if they give you that title while there are several other without that title that even have more access to the coochie.

Nigerian girls usually give the boyfriend titles to the richest and most capable among the guys they are Fvcking with till you can pay no more and they allocate the title to another guy, until they get a guy ready to pay into marriage. If you know the truth about these women you won't ever want to be the boyfriend of any
That's true. But I still believe there are good girls out there that will love and cherish you wholeheartedly
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 9:33pm On Jun 04, 2025
OKOATA:
She owns her body and can do what she likes and same goes to the guys too. You obviously don't stick to a girl except you a limpo.
I don't want to support the claim that he or she owns his or her body and can do whatever they pleases. If you are not ready to dedicate yourself for your man or woman, then don't go into relationship. You should Just remain single or tell them your real mission
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 9:34pm On Jun 04, 2025
More comments from the ladies please
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Fiscus105(m): 3:47am On Jun 05, 2025
slim75d:
Cheating has become a norm in the society, I experienced thesame attitude with my girlfriend, I saw her chatting with her ex. After some months, she slept over in my place, I unlocked her phone and checked her WhatsApp, lord have mercy 3 different guys banged her while we were dating
Any married man, who doesn't have Express access to his wife phone......I pity who no pity him. That is a must for married man, a least, it would checkmate her a little bit.

We are in global village in which, any intruder can come to Ur marriage from different Angles, unlike during the time without phone) internet, in which, it was very easy to notice the intruders,and in which, it could easily be cautioned, before he unleashes damages.

....... meanwhile. Atimes, many of these women are "innocent and ignorantly" enter the traps of intruders.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Fiscus105(m):
Nehyooh:
This shouldn't be a question bro, he did the right thing.

I remembered my "ex" used to do; Her ex keep calling her, and the dump girl will be telling me, gisting me everything they discussed, I warned her, but no changes

One of reasons i jilted her was when she started the statement "It's not your fault, if not that my ex is a drunker, smoker, dirty, and I don't love him, I wouldn't have given you chance" whenever we had any little argument. I knew something is cooking, I dumped her dirty ass on the phone and ghosted her.
This type of street, you don't need to ghost her, small by small you change the relationship to forking spreeee. Anytime your manhood remembers her hole, you invite her.

Human beings should be dealt with, the way her character wants it.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Danisaint112(m): 6:02am On Jun 05, 2025
Badfinga:
Do you think this is a enough reason to end a relationship?
I know a girl who is pregnant and married now but still sleeps over at her ex place. She was pregnant but visiting her ex till marriage.

There’s a trend going on right now mostly by GenZ that many people might not be aware of: a lot of your wives gave their exes what we call a “goodbye/send-off sex.

The last time I brought this up, I got messages from men telling me to shut up and stop exposing the secret. But I have to speak on it—because it’s wrong.

Even the men who benefit from it wouldn’t tolerate it if they were on the receiving end. Let’s be real—no one wants to be betrayed like that.

Apart from avoiding ladies who keep in touch with their ex, before you marry anyone, act like a stranger and ask around about her past and present ordeals. You will learn a lot.

I have come to understand that women are very manipulative. Especially with those crocodile tears the usually shed. If you fall for it and they know you do, it is finished.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 7:21am On Jun 05, 2025
Fiscus105:
Any married man, who doesn't have Express access to his wife phone......I pity who no pity him. That is a must for married man, a least, it would checkmate her a little bit.

We are in global village in which, any intruder can come to Ur marriage from different Angles, unlike during the time without phone) internet, in which, it was very easy to notice the intruders,and in which, it could easily be cautioned, before he unleashes damages.

....... meanwhile. Atimes, many of these women are "innocent and ignorantly" enter the traps of intruders.
Having access to your spouse's account will not stop them from cheating. It only makes them to be more careful not to leave traces of their illicit act.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Fiscus105(m): 7:37am On Jun 05, 2025
Badfinga:
Having access to your spouse's account will not stop them from cheating. It only makes them to be more careful not to leave traces of their illicit act.
Yes,and at same time, it may reduce or even stop it, some married woman, ignorant enters into the hands of lovers/manipulated men.


I biliv you know employees work better in absence of CCTV than the one under no supervision of CCTV.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 7:40am On Jun 05, 2025
Danisaint112:
I know a girl who is pregnant and married now but still sleeps over at her ex place. She was pregnant but visiting her ex till marriage.

There’s a trend going on right now mostly by GenZ that many people might not be aware of: a lot of your wives gave their exes what we call a “goodbye/send-off sex.

The last time I brought this up, I got messages from men telling me to shut up and stop exposing the secret. But I have to speak on it—because it’s wrong.

Even the men who benefit from it wouldn’t tolerate it if they were on the receiving end. Let’s be real—no one wants to be betrayed like that.

Apart from avoiding ladies who keep in touch with their ex, before you marry anyone, act like a stranger and ask around about her past and present ordeals. You will learn a lot.

I have come to understand that women are very manipulative. Especially with those crocodile tears the usually shed. If you fall for it and they know you do, it is finished.
Background check of the would be wife or husband is necessary, though it won't reveal all the informations you seek. But it will give a glimpse of who you are about to marry.
About the goodbye knacking, it happens so often. This has led to some ladies pinning their ex's pregnancy to their husbands.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Badfinga(op): 7:42am On Jun 05, 2025
Fiscus105:
Yes,and at same time, it may reduce or even stop it, some married woman, ignorant enters into the hands of lovers/manipulated men.


I biliv you know employees work better in absence of CCTV than the one under no supervision of CCTV.
But once there is a loophole, it's over.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Fiscus105(m): 7:50am On Jun 05, 2025
Badfinga:
But once there is a loophole, it's over.
Stop defending weak points,.... having access to Ur wife phone can't totally stop it but it can reduce or even stop.

Women do fall into hands of men ignorantly and innocently......if her man is aware from very first beginning, such affair might have hindered.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by AllBlack: 8:13am On Jun 05, 2025
Badfinga:
Do you think this is a enough reason to end a relationship?
No it is not. He should have kept living with the two headed dog.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by AllBlack: 8:15am On Jun 05, 2025
Fiscus105:
Stop defending weak points,....

Women do fall into hands of men ignorantly and innocently..
And the BOLDED is a strong point. Bravo
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Danisaint112(m): 8:50am On Jun 05, 2025
Badfinga:
Background check of the would be wife or husband is necessary, though it won't reveal all the informations you seek. But it will give a glimpse of who you are about to marry.
About the goodbye knacking, it happens so often. This has led to some ladies pinning their ex's pregnancy to their husbands.
Yeah we believe the child she is carrying doesn't belong to the husband. And to think that the husband is even rich but the ex she is selling herself to her is a guy (once neighbors) who is still struggling with life and doesn't give a shit about the whole thing (he literally said this) and doesn't have plans to marry her.
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Nehyooh(m): 9:23am On Jun 05, 2025
Badfinga:
My honest advice to any male or female is this, if you're not over your ex, don't go into a new relationship. For it has a way of affecting the present relationship
That's it bro
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by Nehyooh(m): 9:25am On Jun 05, 2025
Fiscus105:
This type of street, you don't need to ghost her, small by small you change the relationship to forking spreeee. Anytime your manhood remembers her hole, you invite her.

Human beings should be dealt with, the way her character wants it.
grin
Re: Red Flag For Still Chatting With An Ex? by pebbycougar(m): 1:14am On Jun 06, 2025
evryday be like german naujeíon, at the conference I feel nationaly ridicud.
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