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Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Ebinpawo1: 5:16pm On Jun 09, 2025
Not being humble and respectful
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Nobody: 5:17pm On Jun 09, 2025
tgmservice:
And who cares?
Delusional naija men think they are price made in heaven all women must strive to attain.

Even d broke and wayward once included
being broke doesn't mean settling for overused
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Talismann: 5:18pm On Jun 09, 2025
Honestey:
The silence hope killer for ladies looking for husbands is moody look or looking frown or sad at all times. Men want someone who will keep them happy but you are there looking like female fighter with long face always. Omoh e don be for you o.
bro bro bro na man you be oo

Because of this thing wey you talk so, one aunty don dey near late 30s for area now no husband.

She dey always keep strong akpu face, no smiling and she no dey greet
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Nobody: 5:19pm On Jun 09, 2025
UnknownQueen:
Very dangerous ke, grin cheesy cheesy grin grin angry.
Don't worry about me lightwind, na 6ft go end all of us last last, I don't mind drinking sniper if the pain is too much for me to bear.....
I've seen people with children suffer pain in old age, they weren't lonely but left alone in their sickness...so what difference did it make.
God abeg oo.. Sanitize ur mind please. Too much pollution undecided
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by emmyluizzz: 5:25pm On Jun 09, 2025
Vinnie2000:
Another is having Big Tummy. undecided undecided

If you are 30 and above as a single Lady and have Big Tummy,
LaiLai, you no go ever see Husband marry. sad
Make God bless you
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by fitinwell: 5:26pm On Jun 09, 2025
franchasng:
5.) Keep Using The Most Expensive Phone: I know it's your money your business, but if you want them to rush you with marriage proposal in Nigeria, learn to lay low unless you are DJ Cuppy and you know what she has been through grin



6.) Be a Social Media Freak Always On Facebook, Snapchat, IG, TikTok, etc: my sister you go teh for your Papa house oh lol. Unless you are using the platforms to make money or grow your career and he knows this, if not, hmmm



7.) Your Phone Is Always Ringing Like a Call Center Line Whenever You Are with Him



8.) Have Many Female Friends; Your Oppression Gang lol



9.) Be a Single Mother or Get Pregnant Out of Wedlock: The journey to finding a worthy husband no go easy at all, it's sad but that's how Nigerian men are cry
All these are not realistic.... When Favour falls on you... Even if u like... You like a lesbian... You will get married...


Don't underestimate the place of Favour...
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Talismann: 5:33pm On Jun 09, 2025
fitinwell:
All these are not realistic.... When Favour A Simp falls on finds you... Even if u like... You like a lesbian... You will get married...


Don't underestimate the place ignorance of Favour A Simp...
fixed
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Esthered: 5:42pm On Jun 09, 2025
Talismann:
listen and be wise, 24 is a perfect age to get married. Ask around. 20 to 24 is the perfect range. Be informed.

Now while I am not implying your sister na OS, you need to understand that a young, unmarried lady living alone (in Nigeria) is bad optics and sends a wrong message to potential suitors regardless how you choose to sugarcoat it.


There's a reason females look for female roommates if they can't help but get their own space.

Many years back we stayed in a compound with an unmarried, young pretty lady (22y) who was on her own. Omo we no know say she be landlord side chick and the landlord wasn't even staying in the compound with his tenants.


Na landlord wife come one early morning come expose her and na church girl. No be small wahala that day.

Be guided.
Don't use your neighbor to generalize everyone.

I'm currently doing a training with a bank and most of my female colleagues are single, responsible and well to do in their own way and live alone. Guess what, some are in serious relationships.

Someone relocated from ABJ to LOS where she has no family for a better offer, you'll tell her to leave the offer because she'll have to rent and live alone and will never find a man. Babes we get cars and are independent.....I laugh in Spanish.

Funny enough my sister is in a serious relationship wey the family sabi the guy and he helped her select the apartment while she paid herself.

You guys talk as if you don't have sisters with career aspirations and big dreams that if staying alone will help them SCALE, why not?

Abi una sisters no japa to UK or Canada alone? You'll tell her to stay back because she needs to keep th3 image of a responsible lady to land a man at the expense of her growth and self-development.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Esthered: 5:48pm On Jun 09, 2025
dkidd:
I agree. Staying alone should not be a problem if she can't help it and it's a better option but then having 300 Spartans in ur DM seeking a linkup with ur sis doesn't mean they want to wife her. They might just be all thirsty
I never said 300 o. I'm not even socially inclined to say the least but she's in a serious relationship that is altar bound.

You guys talk as if you don't have sisters.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Nobody: 5:51pm On Jun 09, 2025
Esthered:
I never said 300 o. I'm not even socially inclined to say the least but she's in a serious relationship that is altar bound.

You guys talk as if you don't have sisters.
Good for her. So wetin come concern my sisters here na undecided
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by yemmit90: 5:53pm On Jun 09, 2025
Helpout12345:
Bro, be careful. Why are you braking all guys code na?? You want all these women to increase their pretense games for men??

These are secrets code we use to filter them and you are here throwing the codes out in the open
They cannot, a good girl will always be a good girl, while a bad one will always be one. It is natural for a girl from good home to tick all boxes, while the ones from dysfunctional backgrounds will always exhibit those traits irrespective of where they find themselves.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by nwirinedu(m): 5:55pm On Jun 09, 2025
In addition to nos 2,4 and 7 include long finger nails, these nails are very dirty loaded with germs.
Don't let any lady with long nails serve you or your family food, even in a restaurant.
Families dying overnight is not always caused by generator fumes.
The bacteria under those nails can wipe out a continent.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Esthered: 6:02pm On Jun 09, 2025
dkidd:
Good for her. So wetin come concern my sisters here na undecided
The reason for that statement is that most guys pass comments here without speaking as though they have sisters that look up to them or mothers who were daring in their prime.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by torqque7(m): 6:04pm On Jun 09, 2025
Peakdesign23:
Some men love their woman smoking, drinking, fixing long nails and lashes, doing bbl, wearing leg chain and nose ring. Infact they encourage their girlfriends to do these things though. Talking from experience.
Talking from experience abi?did you make it to wife level after he encouraged you on these things?if your honest answer is no then you shouldn't have made this comment..girls like that are encouraged to do so just for fun purposes,NEVER to graduate to becoming a wife..she is only good for fun but not for building a life with so know the difference,less than 1% of men wife such women and most of them are irresponsible men themselves or they are floor mats for women(SIMPS).
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Geofavor(m): 6:05pm On Jun 09, 2025
meobizy:
You forgot the most important point.

Breathing oxygen.
My sister, if you breathe oxygen to sustain your existence, cancel all hope of becoming somebody’s wife. The worst part of this situation is if you exhale carbon dioxide. Spinsterhood will remain your destiny.
grin grin grin
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Geofavor(m): 6:05pm On Jun 09, 2025
Peakdesign23:
Some men love their woman smoking, drinking, fixing long nails and lashes, doing bbl, wearing leg chain and nose ring. Infact they encourage their girlfriends to do these things though. Talking from experience.
Girlfriend, not wife.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by torqque7(m): 6:10pm On Jun 09, 2025
odinson1:
See as women mount here dey vex. Men aren't allowed to have standards?
Madam those are only for women they're JUST having sex with. They have no intention to marry those women. Na wah o, men dey here dey talk wetin dem want, una wey be women go dey argue. Just shut up and learn for God's sake! And any woman who do most or all of those things you mentioned, is most definitely gonna be a hoe. That's the reason MOST men don't wife them up. They end up being single mothers, or hiding their nature so they can deceive one innocent man into wifing them up.
Them no get sense na..normal ,na why men dey call them fish brain be that..how can you think a man that wants to marry you will push you to look like you are for the streets?common sense hard some of this gender sha.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Nobody: 6:12pm On Jun 09, 2025
Esthered:
The reason for that statement is that most guys pass comments here without speaking as though they have sisters that look up to them or mothers who were daring in their prime.
Yeah and I never said anything bad about ur sister but mentioned the most possible intentions of guys in ur DM seeking a chance with her
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Nobody: 6:14pm On Jun 09, 2025
Geofavor:
Girlfriend, not wife.
Some husbands do love it on their wives. She's right. I have come across a few on Nairaland here who claim to die for women with those traits and that they will do whatever it takes to wife such
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Albinoflash(m): 6:20pm On Jun 09, 2025
Some women don't even understand the point of this post,I see some powerful and beautiful looking ladies walk pass and I tend to admire only to see all there leg chains and nose piercing and especially that body exposing crop top and immediately I just get a turn off for anything serious,that doesn't mean I can not knack oo,but if it's for anything serious with such lady,it's most unlikely just at first sight and it's common taught for most men.Ladies just learn Rather than rant.u guys should have encouraged the op cos secret just exposed,we don't usually say it out open
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Geofavor(m): 6:23pm On Jun 09, 2025
dkidd:
Some husbands do love it on their wives. She's right. I have come across a few on Nairaland here who claim to die for women with those traits and that they will do whatever it takes to wife such
No serious man with functioning brain cells wants his wife smoking and getting high when there are kids to raise.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Esthered: 6:24pm On Jun 09, 2025
dkidd:
Yeah and I never said anything bad about ur sister but mentioned the most possible intentions of guys in ur DM seeking a chance with her
I hope you didn't take offense and if you did, I apologize.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by blesdman(m): 6:26pm On Jun 09, 2025
Esthered:
Don't use your neighbor to generalize everyone.

I'm currently doing a training with a bank and most of my female colleagues are single, responsible and well to do in their own way and live alone. Guess what, some are in serious relationships.

Someone relocated from ABJ to LOS where she has no family for a better offer, you'll tell her to leave the offer because she'll have to rent and live alone and will never find a man. Babes we get cars and are independent.....I laugh in Spanish.

Funny enough my sister is in a serious relationship wey the family sabi the guy and he helped her select the apartment while she paid herself.

You guys talk as if you don't have sisters with career aspirations and big dreams that if staying alone will help them SCALE, why not?

Abi una sisters no japa to UK or Canada alone? You'll tell her to stay back because she needs to keep th3 image of a responsible lady to land a man at the expense of her growth and self-development.
Continue. Time will validate or invalidate ur opinion
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Esthered: 6:27pm On Jun 09, 2025
Geofavor:
Girlfriend, not wife.
Wife and not girlfriend.

The wedding I attended on Saturday, the chief bridesmaid who's married has tattoos, fixed nails and lashes and was smoking during the reception at the full glare of her husband who was also groomsman and they were doing PDA at every slight opportunity.

My former BM who's husband is a SAN, does some of the things the guy stated and she's over 45 but her hubby likes it.

You people shouldn't speak for men who choose to have their fantasy in their wives.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Esthered: 6:29pm On Jun 09, 2025
blesdman:
Continue. Time will validate or invalidate ur opinion
If your sister or female mentee asked for your advice of a lucrative opportunity that takes her to another state where she has no family, kindly state what your advice will be.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by DiasGodinHeaven: 6:42pm On Jun 09, 2025
franchasng:
Things That Reduces Your Chances of Finding a Worthy Husband in Nigeria As A Nigerian Single Lady Born in Nigeria & Living in Nigeria


I won't bore you with much details, so let's go straight to the point.


As a Nigerian girl born in Nigeria and living in Nigeria, if you want to reduce your chances of finding a worthy husband in Nigeria, do the below things:


1.) Body Tattoo: no sane Nigerian guy from a sensible family background would want to take you to his parents with visible body tattoo. Yes we are pretenders, but that's the truth.

So before you put that tattoo as a Nigerian Lady that wishes to marry a worthy Nigerian man, think twice.


Nigerian men will date you, spoil you, flex you with your tattoo but once it's time to settle down, he would remember that tattoo makes a lady appear wild and not well trained lol



2.) Long eye lashes: I am yet to see a worthy Nigerian guy that love those your long eyelashes, not one. So continue putting them on, nothing so you sis.



3.) Live Alone in the city: yes this sound irrational but that's the truth about Nigerian men. You better find a relative or sibling to stay with if you want to marry fast in Nigeria lol.



4.) Nose Ring and Leg Chains: Remember Nigerian men are hypocrites, so follow them like that if you want them to wife you oh. They will praise you as a girlfriend or mistress but once it's time to marry, they want Virgin Mary and Mary Magdalene as wife grin
You said it all
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by Geofavor(m): 6:43pm On Jun 09, 2025
Esthered:
Wife and not girlfriend.

The wedding I attended on Saturday, the chief bridesmaid who's married has tattoos, fixed nails and lashes and was smoking during the reception at the full glare of her husband who was also groomsman and they were doing PDA at every slight opportunity.

My former BM who's husband is a SAN, does some of the things the guy stated and she's over 45 but her hubby likes it.

You people shouldn't speak for men who choose to have their fantasy in their wives.
I am not speaking for everyone. However, culturally, in Nigeria, you know these things are frowned upon. Are there still some bad eggs? Yes. But the fact is most respectable men out there who are serious about marriage don't want any of that.
Smoking loud and so on is not healthy. Why would any sensible man want a woman who does that as the mother of his kids?
If I may, do these examples you gave have kids?

Yeah, there are few exceptions in men who might wife such a woman up. But the truth is these aren't often the best quality of men.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by DiasGodinHeaven: 6:44pm On Jun 09, 2025
Esthered:
I want to believe that the OP doesn't mean the above.

If your daughter OP was to go abroad for her studies, and she gets an apartment of hers where she lives alone upon graduation....and a worthy man will classify her as wayward......

This also applies if she were to be in Nigeria.

My younger sister lives alone (she moved out at 23), I went with her to cover an event this weekend which is her side hustle. There's no way you can call her irresponsible if you meet her sir. I know how many guys are in my DM asking me to link them to her.
There are exceptions to every rule
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by yeyebrity: 7:03pm On Jun 09, 2025
odinson1:
See as women mount here dey vex. Men aren't allowed to have standards?
Madam those are only for women they're JUST having sex with. They have no intention to marry those women. Na wah o, men dey here dey talk wetin dem want, una wey be women go dey argue. Just shut up and learn for God's sake! And any woman who do most or all of those things you mentioned, is most definitely gonna be a hoe. That's the reason MOST men don't wife them up. They end up being single mothers, or hiding their nature so they can deceive one innocent man into wifing them up.
Speak for yourself. I have pre wedding pictures of ladies that wear nose rings and leg chain. They even had their nose rings on in the pictures.
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by iykololo(m): 7:06pm On Jun 09, 2025
Vinnie2000:
Another is having Big Tummy. undecided undecided

If you are 30 and above as a single Lady and have Big Tummy,
LaiLai, you no go ever see Husband marry. sad
You are wucked grin grin grin grin
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by ccollins(m): 7:07pm On Jun 09, 2025
ThinkWISELY:
Who dey go Lagos from Abuja abeg help a Nigerian
wetin happen
Re: Things That Reduce Your Chances Of Finding Husband As A Nigerian Single Lady by xty50(f): 7:09pm On Jun 09, 2025
Help yourselves out first so your sperm wouldn't be low and no girl wants to end up with an infertile man
lightwind:
They are helping you out you better take the simple advice or you will end up being lonely single old woman. Old age matters a lot
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