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I am a 24 years old guy into business...
So, I lost my dad at an early age when I was 17 about to enter the university but I couldn't anymore due to the death of my dad. That's when everything changed for the worst for me, I have only one brother and my mom, she's the emotional type so 2018 my aunty(dad's sister) told me to go and register for jamb which I did and I scored 256 then but the bad blood between my mom and dad's family made my mom cut all means of contact with my dad's family, instead she suggested i go and serve oga and learn a trade same 2018, so I moved from Enugu to Lagos around October 2018 to serve oga for 7years.
I really wanted to go to school but I couldn't make decisions because I didn't want to go against my mom, unfortunately after 2years of service I left the trade back home in d same Lagos, I couldn't continue because they wanted to extend my service to 8 years which I told my mom I won't serve anyone for 8years... I came back home broke to the bone, 2021 I had nothing, I did different jobs to survive because my mom isn't buoyant too and she's not really the hustling type, around August I stumbled upon a business, building materials around where I lived so I started doing sales boy for this woman from 2021, mind you we were dirt poor very poor as at that time, I was working for this woman without pay for the first 4 months but she gave me cash like 2k , 3k almost everyday which was huge for me then... B4 Christmas I linked up with my secondary school classmates and they were all in school, four of them they asked me due to shame I told them I am also in school, that was a lie but I didn't want them to know I didn't enter the university, and I kept this lie till now...
After 2years with this woman around 2024 I left her shop and started trading the building materials business on my own and I don't even have a shop, the little money I was making during my 2years stay working for this woman I spent everything on my family, feeding, clothing because we had little to no clothes, shelter( we were paying rent and our rent is 250k and all on me) my mom and bro contributed nothing, since 2021 I have been carrying my family 99% of everything in the house are on me, I feel angry sometimes because it is kinda stopping me from achieving what I want to achieve, I told my mom I'll have to leave dem and pursue my path because the responsibilities are suppressing me, we fought about it she said I will not leave until I settle her which I did, I gave her 300k which I saved up, I gave to her to start a business so she can help reduce the burden, she traded for few months and the money just vanished... Now, I am 24 and still doing my business which isn't too profitable and I am still shouldering the responsibilities in the house and my classmates are all doing their NYSC while I am stuck here...
They keep asking me when I'll go for service but they don't know I didn't even attend the university, I am so sad about how my life played out and I have no one to help me I am doing all these by myself still catering for my family, anytime I discuss with my mom she'll tell me God's time is the best but she was the number cause of all these, I am still with her because I don't even have the money to move away, and I really want to attend the university and go for NYSC I am 24 turning 25 this year and I feel it's too late to do that... I plan on writing jamb next year can I still make it to become a graduate and serve my country...

Yes of course it’s never too late brooo National Open University is still very accessible and they have also been accredited to go for NYSC don’t give up brother the lord is your strength

Trust God’s plan!

It’s not about how early or late. Graduating or serving your nation at 16 or 35 does not guaranty success.

Keep pushing, you being baked for the best that’s yet to come.

Bro, I went to university, after sitting for jamb 5 times. when I got to the university, I realized that all those times I thought I wasted meant nothing. People were still very much older than me. even now after graduating and serving after 3 years of graduation due to backlogs in my school, I can still tell you nwanne, while education is important, not having it at the moment isn’t the end of the world.

Focus on your grind and secure that bag, then you can go to school in a fun and even more productive environment.

Nigerian universities na hell fire and rarely even worth it. Grow thick skin and focus on yourself until you stabilize financially. Bro, free all those things wey dey your mind Agu! The grind is the key, focus brotherly!

Your focus seems to be NYSC and not really University education......

Inferiority complex Guy

Why u lie give ur friends Dem say u dey school bro?

Agozskey:
I am a 24 years old guy into business...
So, I lost my dad at an early age when I was 17 about to enter the university but I couldn't anymore due to the death of my dad. That's when everything changed for the worst for me, I have only one brother and my mom, she's the emotional type so 2018 my aunty(dad's sister) told me to go and register for jamb which I did and I scored 256 then but the bad blood between my mom and dad's family made my mom cut all means of contact with my dad's family, instead she suggested i go and serve oga and learn a trade same 2018, so I moved from Enugu to Lagos around October 2018 to serve oga for 7years.
I really wanted to go to school but I couldn't make decisions because I didn't want to go against my mom, unfortunately after 2years of service I left the trade back home in d same Lagos, I couldn't continue because they wanted to extend my service to 8 years which I told my mom I won't serve anyone for 8years... I came back home broke to the bone, 2021 I had nothing, I did different jobs to survive because my mom isn't buoyant too and she's not really the hustling type, around August I stumbled upon a business, building materials around where I lived so I started doing sales boy for this woman from 2021, mind you we were dirt poor very poor as at that time, I was working for this woman without pay for the first 4 months but she gave me cash like 2k , 3k almost everyday which was huge for me then... B4 Christmas I linked up with my secondary school classmates and they were all in school, four of them they asked me due to shame I told them I am also in school, that was a lie but I didn't want them to know I didn't enter the university, and I kept this lie till now...
After 2years with this woman around 2024 I left her shop and started trading the building materials business on my own and I don't even have a shop, the little money I was making during my 2years stay working for this woman I spent everything on my family, feeding, clothing because we had little to no clothes, shelter( we were paying rent and our rent is 250k and all on me) my mom and bro contributed nothing, since 2021 I have been carrying my family 99% of everything in the house are on me, I feel angry sometimes because it is kinda stopping me from achieving what I want to achieve, I told my mom I'll have to leave dem and pursue my path because the responsibilities are suppressing me, we fought about it she said I will not leave until I settle her which I did, I gave her 300k which I saved up, I gave to her to start a business so she can help reduce the burden, she traded for few months and the money just vanished... Now, I am 24 and still doing my business which isn't too profitable and I am still shouldering the responsibilities in the house and my classmates are all doing their NYSC while I am stuck here...
They keep asking me when I'll go for service but they don't know I didn't even attend the university, I am so sad about how my life played out and I have no one to help me I am doing all these by myself still catering for my family, anytime I discuss with my mom she'll tell me God's time is the best but she was the number cause of all these, I am still with her because I don't even have the money to move away, and I really want to attend the university and go for NYSC I am 24 turning 25 this year and I feel it's too late to do that... I plan on writing jamb next year can I still make it to become a graduate and serve my country...

there are some hard realities I will tell u even if u don't follow them it won't still change it from been d truth.

U can't go to school again, u better focus on that business u are doing because money is d most important thing.

Don't b surprised that many of those u call graduates are still been fed by their parents but here u are sponsoring your family.

If u can make enough money well e go shock u say even after nysc someday, some of them will still call u to beg for urgent 2k

That thing u don't value, many of them will still b looking for where to learn d trade later.


U better value what u have n try to make d best out of life.

If u go out there n see how many guys wey no go school dey make things happen u go shock.


I pray inferiority complex doesn't set in for u so u don't go n marry an educated girl way beyond your reach that will mess u up later

Agozskey:
I am a 24 years old guy into business...
So, I lost my dad at an early age when I was 17 about to enter the university but I couldn't anymore due to the death of my dad. That's when everything changed for the worst for me, I have only one brother and my mom, she's the emotional type so 2018 my aunty(dad's sister) told me to go and register for jamb which I did and I scored 256 then but the bad blood between my mom and dad's family made my mom cut all means of contact with my dad's family, instead she suggested i go and serve oga and learn a trade same 2018, so I moved from Enugu to Lagos around October 2018 to serve oga for 7years.
I really wanted to go to school but I couldn't make decisions because I didn't want to go against my mom, unfortunately after 2years of service I left the trade back home in d same Lagos, I couldn't continue because they wanted to extend my service to 8 years which I told my mom I won't serve anyone for 8years... I came back home broke to the bone, 2021 I had nothing, I did different jobs to survive because my mom isn't buoyant too and she's not really the hustling type, around August I stumbled upon a business, building materials around where I lived so I started doing sales boy for this woman from 2021, mind you we were dirt poor very poor as at that time, I was working for this woman without pay for the first 4 months but she gave me cash like 2k , 3k almost everyday which was huge for me then... B4 Christmas I linked up with my secondary school classmates and they were all in school, four of them they asked me due to shame I told them I am also in school, that was a lie but I didn't want them to know I didn't enter the university, and I kept this lie till now...
After 2years with this woman around 2024 I left her shop and started trading the building materials business on my own and I don't even have a shop, the little money I was making during my 2years stay working for this woman I spent everything on my family, feeding, clothing because we had little to no clothes, shelter( we were paying rent and our rent is 250k and all on me) my mom and bro contributed nothing, since 2021 I have been carrying my family 99% of everything in the house are on me, I feel angry sometimes because it is kinda stopping me from achieving what I want to achieve, I told my mom I'll have to leave dem and pursue my path because the responsibilities are suppressing me, we fought about it she said I will not leave until I settle her which I did, I gave her 300k which I saved up, I gave to her to start a business so she can help reduce the burden, she traded for few months and the money just vanished... Now, I am 24 and still doing my business which isn't too profitable and I am still shouldering the responsibilities in the house and my classmates are all doing their NYSC while I am stuck here...
They keep asking me when I'll go for service but they don't know I didn't even attend the university, I am so sad about how my life played out and I have no one to help me I am doing all these by myself still catering for my family, anytime I discuss with my mom she'll tell me God's time is the best but she was the number cause of all these, I am still with her because I don't even have the money to move away, and I really want to attend the university and go for NYSC I am 24 turning 25 this year and I feel it's too late to do that... I plan on writing jamb next year can I still make it to become a graduate and serve my country...

Just like me my mates are in law school and I am here battling spill over.


My father buried his own father and mother all alone because he is the only surving child

My father buried my mother's father and mother all alone, because she and her 3 siblings do not have anything

He trained my mother in the University and sent her to a Journalism school and, but nothing came out . Since I was born I have never seen her working to earn money

She doesn't rent farmland to farm like other women.

She doesn't go to her home town to farm, so that my father won't be spending too much money on food

She doesn't go to my fathers hometown to farm.

Each and every thing we eat comes from my fathers salary

Unlike other mother's that send their children to learn a skill, like plaiting of hair, barbing, fixing generators etc she never enrolled us in. And now as adults we are finding it difficult to acquire a skill

She seriously pressured my father into buying a land so that she would use it to run a school. Father borrowed money from bank and bought it, and as bank starting taking their money from his salary we honestly suffered .

She never farmed in the land. She kept the on waiting for my father to bring money so that she would start the school. Now the land is in contention, and in court. Father doesn't even have money to settle lawyers.

My mother keep telling him that he would talk as a man in court

Late in the night while neighbors and community people that went to work will be sleeping and resting, she would wake up and start flogging us, when we were still children
Imagine us crying and disturbing people from upstairs that we live in from 1am to 5am


My mother doesn't work. She always complains that she is sick. But the spirit of quarrelling and stubbornness inside her is so strong


She quarrelled with each and every family neighbor of us, then.

She is impulsive. A neighbor of us stupidly asked me what I did to their dog, after it started barking, and when I told her, she became angry that I didn't slap him. The neighbor is a father of 3 boys between the ages of 20 to 14



Back when I was was in school i found a cheap lodge (70 or 80 naira) that isn't too far from our school, and I asked my father money for the lodge.

My junior sister said no that she doesn't want it, because it is not beautiful enough. She told my mother that she found a beautiful lodge that pays 100,000 naira.

My mother immediately agreed with her telling me that I don't know what is good. Another thing is that the lodge is very far to our school. For certain my sister chosed it because yahoo boys were staying in the lodge. And yahoo boys chosed that lodge because it was inside inside were police and SARS won't easily be patrolling.


My siblings and I don't even have relationship with any of our village people, both from her place and my fathers place, because of her

She is hypocrisy personified


People who say mother's love is strong are very lucky.

My mother won't sacrifice her comfort for our well-being

Because of her I am scared of women

This one no even know say him dey lucky. U can go to university anytime

Focus on getting ur business better and diversify too. Save and invest

discipline urself. I know it's easier said but then u have no option but to encourage urself. Forget those guys.

So they graduated with what exactly? Service ehen? After then Labor market where they either spend more years idle at home or they get underemployed which is most likely their best bet.
U no lost anything trust me. If u so much want it that bad study by urself online and accumulate the certs in fields that can propel u further in ur business line or related. Just be doing everything to empower urself and skill up. The only drag I see is ur family burden on u and I think u have made urself too available hence ur mom couldn't manage what u gave her to start the something. If she use the 300k buy only palm oil from village come dey sell she for city she fit dey make something on top although its not much she could have managed on it.

What's done is done. Start focusing on improving urself so instead of playing on the internet, use it, learn from it. There are many places to start and u can even get some foreign university certs too if u so much want to. Who service help?

Better face business and 10 years from now u will understand why God pushed u this way

Inferiority complex
You are feeling bad because others are going for nysc
Nysc that most people skip these days to find their square root.

ChangedMan1999:
Just like me my mates are in law school and I am here battling spill over.


My father buried his own father and mother all alone because he is the only surving child

My father buried my mother's father and mother all alone, because she and her 3 siblings do not have anything

He trained my mother in the University and sent her to a Journalism school and, but nothing came out . Since I was born I have never seen her working to earn money

She doesn't rent farmland to farm like other women.

She doesn't go to her home town to farm, so that my father won't be spending too much money on food

She doesn't go to my fathers hometown to farm.

Each and every thing we eat comes from my fathers salary

Unlike other mother's that send their children to learn a skill, like plaiting of hair, barbing, fixing generators etc she never enrolled us in. And now as adults we are finding it difficult to acquire a skill

She seriously pressured my father into buying a land so that she would use it to run a school. Father borrowed money from bank and bought it, and as bank starting taking their money from his salary we honestly suffered .

She never farmed in the land. She kept the on waiting for my father to bring money so that she would start the school. Now the land is in contention, and in court. Father doesn't even have money to settle lawyers.

My mother keep telling him that he would talk as a man in court

Late in the night while neighbors and community people that went to work will be sleeping and resting, she would wake up and start flogging us, when we were still children
Imagine us crying and disturbing people from upstairs that we live in from 1am to 5am


My mother doesn't work. She always complains that she is sick. But the spirit of quarrelling and stubbornness inside her is so strong


She quarrelled with each and every family neighbor of us, then.

She is impulsive. A neighbor of us stupidly asked me what I did to their dog, after it started barking, and when I told her, she became angry that I didn't slap him. The neighbor is a father of 3 boys between the ages of 20 to 14



Back when I was was in school i found a cheap lodge (70 or 80 naira) that isn't too far from our school, and I asked my father money for the lodge.

My junior sister said no that she doesn't want it, because it is not beautiful enough. She told my mother that she found a beautiful lodge that pays 100,000 naira.

My mother immediately agreed with her telling me that I don't know what is good. Another thing is that the lodge is very far to our school. For certain my sister chosed it because yahoo boys were staying in the lodge. And yahoo boys chosed that lodge because it was inside inside were police and SARS won't easily be patrolling.


My siblings and I don't even have relationship with any of our village people, both from her place and my fathers place, because of her

She is hypocrisy personified


People who say mother's love is strong are very lucky.

My mother won't sacrifice her comfort for our well-being

Because of her I am scared of women

Na wah oo

this ur own tie better gele but spillover isn't a big deal. I did that too because I was involved in some ish and rather than rustication I had an extension. The koko now is what are u currently doing to help "urself" focus on it and leave family wahala for who no want make progress

Nemesis0147:
Inferiority complex
You are feeling bad because others are going for nysc
Nysc that most people skip these days to find their square root.

Maybe I don't see it that way... But I'll kill dat inferiority complex... Thank you boss

[quote author=heykims post=135809967]Your focus seems to be NYSC and not really University education...... You re wrong... I want to study international finance

Is it the same NYSC in Nigeria? Lol
Bro, face your business and remember this quote "MONEY STOPS NONSENSE"

Read it again

Agozskey:
Maybe I don't see it that way... But I'll kill dat inferiority complex... Thank you boss

Greatness09:
Yes of course it’s never too late brooo National Open University is still very accessible and they have also been accredited to go for NYSC don’t give up brother the lord is your strength

I think open university is nore expensive than normal universities (Fed or state). Another thing is the courses available for study, conventional university has plethora of courses to choose from

OP, I beg you don't rate your self based on others, the life skills(business)you have those your classmates don't have it so everyone is different. You can still go for conventional universities and make your dreams come true but don't make the mistake of just studying anything just because you want to be in the University, study courses that are relevant in today's world that will open doors for you.

As for money, you need to plan strategically on raising money so it doesn't infringe on your desires for qualitative education.

N/B This is a note to every woman, this attitude of marrying a man without marrying his family is very pathetic and bad. I have seen situations where once the man dies the women don't see themselves as part and parcel if the family, this is very pathetic. Imagine the OP's mum stopping him from going to the university because it has to do with the husband's sister in one way or the other but the annoying thing is that she herself doesn't even have the money to educate her kids and Ian even business swavy. This is really bad, I don't like hearing this kind of issues. What is in the best interest if the child should be paramount and not st*pid ego of a woman quarrelling with the entire family of her late husband.

Women should learn to understand tha their children belong to a family whether their husband is alive or not. See how the son is going through emotional torture because of the acts of his mum..

Your mum needs to step up, once you go to the University you may hands up from her issues in the mean time else you will certainly not graduate unless you are very very stable financially

Nemesis0147:
Inferiority complex
You are feeling bad because others are going for nysc
Nysc that most people skip these days to find their square root.

I understand him, it's not easy as a young chap to go through this phase in life even when the opportunity came out and his mum blew it up because of her hatred dor her inlaws. The dude wouldn't have thought so much about it if his family problems hasn't eaten up on all his struggles since age 17

ChangedMan1999:
Just like me my mates are in law school and I am here battling spill over.


My father buried his own father and mother all alone because he is the only surving child

My father buried my mother's father and mother all alone, because she and her 3 siblings do not have anything

He trained my mother in the University and sent her to a Journalism school and, but nothing came out . Since I was born I have never seen her working to earn money

She doesn't rent farmland to farm like other women.

She doesn't go to her home town to farm, so that my father won't be spending too much money on food

She doesn't go to my fathers hometown to farm.

Each and every thing we eat comes from my fathers salary

Unlike other mother's that send their children to learn a skill, like plaiting of hair, barbing, fixing generators etc she never enrolled us in. And now as adults we are finding it difficult to acquire a skill

She seriously pressured my father into buying a land so that she would use it to run a school. Father borrowed money from bank and bought it, and as bank starting taking their money from his salary we honestly suffered .

She never farmed in the land. She kept the on waiting for my father to bring money so that she would start the school. Now the land is in contention, and in court. Father doesn't even have money to settle lawyers.

My mother keep telling him that he would talk as a man in court

Late in the night while neighbors and community people that went to work will be sleeping and resting, she would wake up and start flogging us, when we were still children
Imagine us crying and disturbing people from upstairs that we live in from 1am to 5am


My mother doesn't work. She always complains that she is sick. But the spirit of quarrelling and stubbornness inside her is so strong


She quarrelled with each and every family neighbor of us, then.

She is impulsive. A neighbor of us stupidly asked me what I did to their dog, after it started barking, and when I told her, she became angry that I didn't slap him. The neighbor is a father of 3 boys between the ages of 20 to 14



Back when I was was in school i found a cheap lodge (70 or 80 naira) that isn't too far from our school, and I asked my father money for the lodge.

My junior sister said no that she doesn't want it, because it is not beautiful enough. She told my mother that she found a beautiful lodge that pays 100,000 naira.

My mother immediately agreed with her telling me that I don't know what is good. Another thing is that the lodge is very far to our school. For certain my sister chosed it because yahoo boys were staying in the lodge. And yahoo boys chosed that lodge because it was inside inside were police and SARS won't easily be patrolling.


My siblings and I don't even have relationship with any of our village people, both from her place and my fathers place, because of her

She is hypocrisy personified


People who say mother's love is strong are very lucky.

My mother won't sacrifice her comfort for our well-being

Because of her I am scared of women

It was heartbreaking reading this, i can not relate at all jeez...You see what you described once i detect it in a woman I'm off instantly to go back no more.

The Lord is your strength, keep pushing until you achieve your desired goal.

@Agozkey

Thanks for sharing

But have you considered what your own path is?

Even though comparison is always tempting, it's not a healthy way to live your life

Be happy in your own skin

Be happy for your friends for their success in their chosen path

(Who knows: some of them may even be envying you secretly)

Why bog yourself down trying to play catch up with everyone else?

You can always educate yourself for your own career path through seminars, workshops, and even through traveling

Keep your head up

Hope that helps...

Your situation is better when compared to others. Try to hear other people's stories bro you'll cry

Bro I understand your pain. You have paid your fair share of black tax. Whether it is enough, time will tell. How old is your brother now, and has he started hustling to support the family?

Women I have come to see are terrible with money/business/investment despite their acclaimed love for trading.

Do not continue to pour water into a basket, if not you'll wake up 40 one day and ask yourself what you did with your life, though you spent every single day fighting for your life.

Black tax is real, and I doubt you can escape it.

On the issue of education, it's called higher education for a reason. Even at 50 you can always go back. But nor use shame drink gutter water. Do not compound your expenses because of friends. We all have our different graces and races to run in life.

Not everyone who graduated later became successful. And also I know some made men who achieved success without education.

School is not a scam. But the cost of running a full time program for four years without sponsorship is challenging. To succeed you must become selfish for your own survival. Meaning you may have to cut off the only lifeline your only family (your mum and brother) have.

In all, know this; a drowning man cannot save another drowning man. Save yourself first, and when you get to shore, call for help.

There will be consequences for whichever decision you make, I wish you courage to bear the weight of your decision(s).

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Bro! I just got spilled over this year because I wasn't allowed to defend my project (long story). Aside from that, I've spent five years in school (sixth year currently) due to strikes, COVID-19 breaks, and all that stuff.

Now, let me tell you something I've noticed! The most successful people among our peers in school were those who started hustling for a while before gaining admission, while those of us who got admission straight from secondary school were the "brokies" in school.

So, I had to change my mindset, sacrifice my CGPA a bit, and focus on learning freelance. Coincidentally, things got hard for my mother, and but freelance has started paying in $ so I used that same freelance income to sponsor myself throughout school and chop small undergraduate social life (lol).


Now we are at the verge of rounding things up, and those of us who started hustling have no issues. But you see those who prioritized only school? They are all anxious because they know things will be tough in the job market. In fact, one of my friends has started learning yahoo" (imagine a graduate learning fraud).

Some of the financially stable students were even getting married and buying cars by 400 level.

Another instance is my senior sister's classmate. They graduated from secondary school when I was still in JS1, but he didn't get admission until five years later. We got admission together, and he is my course mate. He is now done and heading to camp, but I noticed he is doing far better than a lot of his secondary school classmates who got admission before him because he was already hustling and earning while the others were in school. So when he got admission, he was already financially stable. While his classmates that got admission from secondary school were settling for 50k to 100k jobs after NYSC (Becuse no time to hustle again).

The problem you have here is that you lied.
Say the truth and set your mind free.
Provide daily bread for your momma, don’t give her money to start anything.
She will keep squandering money.
If she’s a go getter, she wouldn’t be bothering you about anything, knowing how young you are.

I would have advised you to scrab the idea of going to school but it will always hunt you so i suggest you go and satisfy your conscience, but it isn't really worth it trust me. Give yourself more time , maybe plan for 2026, but try to work harder and try to combine online presence with your building material business so that you can do business from any location and when you finally gain admission, you will be able to work remotely , sell building materials online and get people to deliver it to your client while you are schooling. If you try to grow an online presence starting from today, before the next two years you would have had enough customers that purchases building materials from you and that will be able to sustain your education.

Secondly , you need to write another waec so as to reduce your age because even if you gain admission right now , you might not be able to serve if you didn't finish school at the age of 30. You need to be very very careful , you can turn your inability to go to school early to blessing if you manage this well. Having street OT is a thing your friends won't learn in school and you already have it. That is the most important thing you need to run this town so you need to find a way to leverage on it , your story is not very far from mine, my father died when i was 14, my mother is uneducated and my father's family don't even care. The difference between my store and yours is that I was able to build a steady income at young age then later sent myself to school. But i wish i didn't even go to school because i would have been better off today. My business suffered while i was in school and if i had prioritized the business over school back then, by now dangote would have become my gate man.

I will also suggest that you call those your four friends to a meeting or conference call, explain your story to them. You didn't kill anybody so you shouldn't be hiding from your reality. They went to school because someone paid for it and you've got nobody so your story and their story is not the same. Call them and tell them your plan for 2026, they may even become your best support system.

I wish you best of luck .

If your mates die would you feel sad that it wasn't you?

Your path is different from theirs. Your milestones and markers of achievement are different from theirs.

Remind yourself of this everyday.

Agozskey:
I am a 24 years old guy into business...
So, I lost my dad at an early age when I was 17 about to enter the university but I couldn't anymore due to the death of my dad. That's when everything changed for the worst for me, I have only one brother and my mom, she's the emotional type so 2018 my aunty(dad's sister) told me to go and register for jamb which I did and I scored 256 then but the bad blood between my mom and dad's family made my mom cut all means of contact with my dad's family, instead she suggested i go and serve oga and learn a trade same 2018, so I moved from Enugu to Lagos around October 2018 to serve oga for 7years.
I really wanted to go to school but I couldn't make decisions because I didn't want to go against my mom, unfortunately after 2years of service I left the trade back home in d same Lagos, I couldn't continue because they wanted to extend my service to 8 years which I told my mom I won't serve anyone for 8years... I came back home broke to the bone, 2021 I had nothing, I did different jobs to survive because my mom isn't buoyant too and she's not really the hustling type, around August I stumbled upon a business, building materials around where I lived so I started doing sales boy for this woman from 2021, mind you we were dirt poor very poor as at that time, I was working for this woman without pay for the first 4 months but she gave me cash like 2k , 3k almost everyday which was huge for me then... B4 Christmas I linked up with my secondary school classmates and they were all in school, four of them they asked me due to shame I told them I am also in school, that was a lie but I didn't want them to know I didn't enter the university, and I kept this lie till now...
After 2years with this woman around 2024 I left her shop and started trading the building materials business on my own and I don't even have a shop, the little money I was making during my 2years stay working for this woman I spent everything on my family, feeding, clothing because we had little to no clothes, shelter( we were paying rent and our rent is 250k and all on me) my mom and bro contributed nothing, since 2021 I have been carrying my family 99% of everything in the house are on me, I feel angry sometimes because it is kinda stopping me from achieving what I want to achieve, I told my mom I'll have to leave dem and pursue my path because the responsibilities are suppressing me, we fought about it she said I will not leave until I settle her which I did, I gave her 300k which I saved up, I gave to her to start a business so she can help reduce the burden, she traded for few months and the money just vanished... Now, I am 24 and still doing my business which isn't too profitable and I am still shouldering the responsibilities in the house and my classmates are all doing their NYSC while I am stuck here...
They keep asking me when I'll go for service but they don't know I didn't even attend the university, I am so sad about how my life played out and I have no one to help me I am doing all these by myself still catering for my family, anytime I discuss with my mom she'll tell me God's time is the best but she was the number cause of all these, I am still with her because I don't even have the money to move away, and I really want to attend the university and go for NYSC I am 24 turning 25 this year and I feel it's too late to do that... I plan on writing jamb next year can I still make it to become a graduate and serve my country...

1. The people you are toiling day and night for will soon ask you these questions:

A. What have you been doing in the past years?

B. Are you trying to tell us that you just spent all the money you earned like that?

C. What have you done for us, that you are making so much noise?

2. Unbridled generosity is the demise of many kind and noble men. It's not that they give because they have an overflowing stream of wealth. But they give out of their kindness and human sympathy.

If you don't monitor family generosity especially when you're still young and upcoming, you'll never set foot at the door of financial freedom.

3. It's not easy to watch your parents and siblings languish while you have some cash you're trying to save and invest. It's not easy.

However, you must know how to give and what to give at any moment when you're still trying to become financially independent.

You will have to say NO most of the time.
You will have to decline many financial pleas no matter how much tears are downpoured.

It's not selfishness. It's frugality.

4. You don't have enough yet. You are only trying to gather and save the little ones you have. You must be strategic with every seed.

Otherwise, you'll blow up everything till the time clock 40. You'll weep and gnash your teeth.

5. It will be a very difficult situation.

Right now, the first thing you need to do is to separate yourself from your family. Since they are not interested in growth and development.

Mother and brother ought to be a solid team at this time. The same mother has blown 300k with no trace. Such a pathetic act of negligence and nonchalance.

The sign is already there.

6. If you know your trade very well and know the future about it, keep doing it and learn how to grow it. That trade or business should be your primary, ultimate, and number one concern right now.

You can always go back to school later. Except you have someone who will sponsor your higher education now and you are going to study a sought-after course. Otherwise, focus on your business now and do school later.

7. Get familiar with financial apps like Bamboo, Afri-invest, Chaka, Optimus, Rise, Meristem, etc.

They help you save and invest in the financial and stock market.

Do your research on YouTube.

8. At the end of the day, a degree or NYSC doesn't count. It's the value you offer and your freedom in all ramifications that matters.

Prioritize your life and business first.
Stay aloof from your family temporarily so that you can move fast.
Do degree later.

Thanks.

Agozskey:
I am a 24 years old guy into business...
So, I lost my dad at an early age when I was 17 about to enter the university but I couldn't anymore due to the death of my dad. That's when everything changed for the worst for me, I have only one brother and my mom, she's the emotional type so 2018 my aunty(dad's sister) told me to go and register for jamb which I did and I scored 256 then but the bad blood between my mom and dad's family made my mom cut all means of contact with my dad's family, instead she suggested i go and serve oga and learn a trade same 2018, so I moved from Enugu to Lagos around October 2018 to serve oga for 7years.
I really wanted to go to school but I couldn't make decisions because I didn't want to go against my mom, unfortunately after 2years of service I left the trade back home in d same Lagos, I couldn't continue because they wanted to extend my service to 8 years which I told my mom I won't serve anyone for 8years... I came back home broke to the bone, 2021 I had nothing, I did different jobs to survive because my mom isn't buoyant too and she's not really the hustling type, around August I stumbled upon a business, building materials around where I lived so I started doing sales boy for this woman from 2021, mind you we were dirt poor very poor as at that time, I was working for this woman without pay for the first 4 months but she gave me cash like 2k , 3k almost everyday which was huge for me then... B4 Christmas I linked up with my secondary school classmates and they were all in school, four of them they asked me due to shame I told them I am also in school, that was a lie but I didn't want them to know I didn't enter the university, and I kept this lie till now...
After 2years with this woman around 2024 I left her shop and started trading the building materials business on my own and I don't even have a shop, the little money I was making during my 2years stay working for this woman I spent everything on my family, feeding, clothing because we had little to no clothes, shelter( we were paying rent and our rent is 250k and all on me) my mom and bro contributed nothing, since 2021 I have been carrying my family 99% of everything in the house are on me, I feel angry sometimes because it is kinda stopping me from achieving what I want to achieve, I told my mom I'll have to leave dem and pursue my path because the responsibilities are suppressing me, we fought about it she said I will not leave until I settle her which I did, I gave her 300k which I saved up, I gave to her to start a business so she can help reduce the burden, she traded for few months and the money just vanished... Now, I am 24 and still doing my business which isn't too profitable and I am still shouldering the responsibilities in the house and my classmates are all doing their NYSC while I am stuck here...
They keep asking me when I'll go for service but they don't know I didn't even attend the university, I am so sad about how my life played out and I have no one to help me I am doing all these by myself still catering for my family, anytime I discuss with my mom she'll tell me God's time is the best but she was the number cause of all these, I am still with her because I don't even have the money to move away, and I really want to attend the university and go for NYSC I am 24 turning 25 this year and I feel it's too late to do that... I plan on writing jamb next year can I still make it to become a graduate and serve my country...

guy you and them weren't born on the same day, I graduate since 2020 right now all those people wey graduate with me na suffer them dey suffer so life is not the same

Agozskey:
I am still with her because I don't even have the money to move away, and I really want to attend the university and go for NYSC I am 24 turning 25 this year and I feel it's too late to do that... I plan on writing jamb next year can I still make it to become a graduate and serve my country...

Don't ever compare yourself to others, some have had a much better start in life than you, through no fault of yours, so why would you do that?

Do your best in all you put your hand to, without looking at others, that's all that is within your powers so focus on that.

lowkeybahdguy:
Bro I feel your pain...

I deferred my admission for 3 years when I ran into stormy waters in school. Today my course mates are 3 years older than me post-call. To put it in perspective, I spent 8 years in uni on first degree.

But I assure you, that I lost nothing; though at the time it seemed my world had come to an end. I battled over 10 carryovers before I went to NLS. I even attempted suicide with pills because I thought foolishly my world had definitely ended.

But today, I thank God for the experience. The delay in my progress enable me to mature mentally beyond my years and my mates. Today I have achieved success even senior colleagues can only dream of.

The issue of choosing a wife is a decision I have come to see can ruin or tie a man's destiny down. And when the woman become frustrated, the children and the husband become helpless victims of her rage and self-imposed righteous anger.

Do not marry for beauty. Do not marry for love alone. I currently live in a big house alone, and like tuface said "my manliness is starting to show". While I am desperate to start a family and start having kids, I do not wish to make the same mistake my father made. But fate, is a naughty fiend.

You must understand that it is up to you to break the generational cycle, else your kids will also suffer for it.

Last year I paid close to 10million in debts for my mum along with other sums I kept dashing her regularly. Thinking I was solving the problem once and for all. Bro, I don't even know what the woman did with the money because I paid everything to her account yet everyday she keeps asking me daily for money.

Despite paying off such massive debts would you believe she still went ahead to borrow a measly 300k from a neighbor before we moved out from our previous placeplace and the idiot neighbour has been disturbing me for the payment when my mum couldn't pay. I raised a 100k to pay the bitch despite my multitude obligations and recently the bitch called to remind me of the balance, I chewed the hell out of her though I will still be one to pay the balance. I am more pained because I was unaware though I suspected when they were running shenanigans around in the compound. I keep asking her what she used the money for, but she can't say or show me anything tangible.

My brother I cuss women. They are arrogant egg heads and skilled emotional blackmailers. There is nothing like unconditional love, not even from your mother. They only dote on you because they believe you have something tangible, or potential, or they have no other choice.

African mothers are expert manipulators, and it is part of the reason why men die earlier. Pray not to fall into the hands of a skilled manipulator in the form of a wife. As a man, you must be the head of your home. This was the mostake Adam made, and we are all gnashing teeth today.

Today I was so sick I couldn't go out to work, I had to collect drugs of 3k on credit. I almost died today, before I comot shame go take drugs on credit. I'm currently half a million in debt, because there's no family support. This is the largest sum I ever owed because I have come to hate debts passionately due to my experience with my mum but nobody cares. All they want is send money, when are you sending money, can you send money?

I do not wish that for my children.

I have been abused both politely and I'm politely about my singleness. But bro, my peace of mind is paramount. Recently a lecturer I was considered an arch nemesis opened up to me on some insights about marriage and I thank God for the inspiration.

Do not marry a lady addicted to easy or soft life. Do not contemplate training a girl through school. That is the responsibility of her parents, even if you have the means to. No matter how beautiful or loving a lady is, do not fall into the hands of a woman that will depend all her days on the fruit of your labour solely. God forbid something happens to you, your children will suffer.

Do not make the mistake I have made. Your parents represent the past. Your wife and your children are your future. Do not sacrifice your future to save your past.

I can still say more, but I believe I already said enough.

Do not lose hope. Every dark cloud has a silver lining. As men, we mature through damage. You will come out of this experience better for it. God's time is never late.

I thought that I am the only one that noticed that even mother do not give true love

I also thought that my mother is the only woman that behaves this way.


I think women behave this way because the society doesn't allow them to develop character.

From the beginning the society keep telling them that the are beautiful, and someone who's head is filled with such words won't ever think that she needs to, also, improve mentally


Right from secondary school older men keep pestering around them and they assume that they are the PRICE.

But boys/men on the other hand keep being rejected and emotionally abused, and each time this happens they feel the need to improve mentally or physically. This helps men in building character.


In University many girls will be getting upto 1million naira from simp, just for the sake of appreciating their so beauty.

Who will dash a male student even 20,000 naira?

So they knew that no one was coming to save them and they start planning their lives early

How can women who receive 200,000 to 5million reason that they need to plan their lives?

They assume that so long as they are beautiful The money will keep coming


So, in essence societal petting of women keep them from developing character, having empathy, responsible and accountable.

The grow too fast without absorbing the necessary knowledge of life on earth

Try find a way forget the nysc get university to enter first after that what next... I see a lot of kids who don't know anything get into the university graduate and do content online.
Start from somewhere leave your mumsy she's talking because of money aspect get someone else I believe God will make it possible.

Don't give up. As long as there is life, then there is hope. Wishing you the best