michelin89:

So they can Bleep another woman in peace!

debosky link=topic=141192.msg2357163#msg2357163 date=1213125850:

Many reasons - some cannot afford to have their wives and kids in the US, some don't want to uproot their family and have them living in a foreign country, but would rather the family have a stable base at home in Nigeria.

Another reason is, many of them have tried and been denied by immigration authorities due to reasons like insufficient finances, or some fraudulent information they may have filled in their initial visa applications. Some of them may not even have legal status in the US and so cannot invite anyone to come stay with them.

I believe you have only met a FEW men with this warped thinking, or they are saying that to cover up some other problems which they may not want to share with you.

it should also be said that some of them will not bring their wives so they can be freely promiscuous in the US, but those would be in the minority in my view.

Gbam

nalijah07:

PLEASE don't attack me for generalizing, but most of the Nigerian men I've met have wives back home, yet they have been in the states for years.

Whenever I've asked them about meeting their wives, or when she will be joining them they are very adamant that they do not want their wives to come to the US, and that the US is not a place for them. Can you help me understand?

eldee:

1) It could be expensive to live as a family in the UK/US

2) The US does not want new families, they want more workers not settlers, so procuring visas might be difficult

3)And Most important, coming abroad is educative. . .Women get exposed to the outside world, they start hearing bout Hollywood divorces
Give her an inch, she'll take a mile, why don't you leave her with the constant fact that she's Nigerian, and she's not American

michelin89:

Blame it on the westerns as usual. Losers!

michelin89:

Blame it on the westerns as usual. Losers!

eldee:

I'll try my best not to mistake your ignorance for stupidity

Uche2nna:


I need to see a fight on Nairaland to cheer me up. I am having a bad day.


eLDee and Michelin? I will pay

amber_ella:

Several of my classmate in graduate school were Nigerians or Ghanians with wives back home. They all had girlfriends, friends with benefits, and even got other women pregnant.

So I agree that for most of them, it's because they want to have the benefits of married life combined with the freedom to hump everything they see.

Many reasons - some cannot afford to have their wives and kids in the US, some don't want to uproot their family and have them living in a foreign country, but would rather the family have a stable base at home in Nigeria.

I believe you have only met a FEW men with this warped thinking, or they are saying that to cover up some other problems which they may not want to share with you.

it should also be said that some of them will not bring their wives so they can be freely promiscuous in the US, but those would be in the minority in my view.

jennykadry:

michelin and eldee na wetin?will u guys please allow me have a min rest on this forum,wats with all this cat fights

amber_ella:

Several of my classmate in graduate school were Nigerians or Ghanians with wives back home. They all had girlfriends, friends with benefits, and even got other women pregnant.

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amber_ella:

Several of my classmate in graduate school were Nigerians or Ghanians with wives back home. They all had girlfriends, friends with benefits, and even got other women pregnant.

So I agree that for most of them, it's because they want to have the benefits of married life combined with the freedom to hump everything they see.

Uche2nna:


@ Ika

Abi You wan fight?


I know this guy, he would be perfffffuuuct!!

amber_ella:

I have yet to meet an African with a wife back home who isn't running around screwing everything that moves.

But my sample size is small so I admit this is not a scientific survey.

michelin89:

Sorry dude you won't get me. You are just displaying your ignorance. An educated woman whether she lives abroad or home doesn't need Hollywood to know what's going on the in the world. Nor be Naija those girls who nor dey wear pant dey stay? Abi they had to come all the way to America to see that Paris and Co. move around naked?

Make you close that your mouth when what you are about to say can cause what you can't handle. Talk of stupidity. Shiorrrr!

Uche2nna:

@ Jenny

Why are You hell bent on evaporating my only chances of seeing a fight this afternoon


Abi You wan fight?