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19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children - Romance (3) - Nairaland

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Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by thorpido(m): 7:23pm On Jun 20, 2025
What is God's concern with God decided to make it official?
They decided to live together outside of God and now bringing God into it.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Belurved1(m): 7:40pm On Jun 20, 2025
The woman don deliver, so husband self don confirm before wedding. No more story and fear. Or what else do you think the man want again?
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by SAMBARRY: 7:45pm On Jun 20, 2025
pocohantas:
She doesn't seem impressed.
The thrill of the "marriage" is long gone.
how will she feel impressed after she gave herself out without making the man put a ring on it 1st.i am sure she go don beg and pressurised the man taya before this could even happen

Na wetin pickmesha eye dey see be that

A man hasn't officially made you his wife you're living in his house to the extent of popping out children for him.make them continue doing pickmesha dey go
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Belurved1(m): 7:48pm On Jun 20, 2025
O kay o.
Oga do quick o, so that she can get rest of mind o. Na everyday she dey calculate o, only you can activate the countdown botton.

Dzzzz:
Congratulations and jubilations to you..I and my babe still Dey 5yrs courtship and she Dey complain say,I fit go marry another person😂..To be honest na still her I go marry..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Offpoint1: 7:49pm On Jun 20, 2025
Dzzzz:
Congratulations and jubilations to you..I and my babe still Dey 5yrs courtship and she Dey complain say,I fit go marry another person😂..To be honest na still her I go marry..
I wish most people could be like us wey dey stick to one bae forever 😂

All these people breaking up yearly dem dey try
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Offpoint1: 7:53pm On Jun 20, 2025
Ishilove:
Not unusual. My erstwhile neighbour officially got married after cohabiting for 25 years
Una just dey use that nonsense word "Cohabiting"... Natural marriage has happened the day both people consented to be together and their both families accepted them.

Bride price is a crime against nature
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Starz825(m): 8:02pm On Jun 20, 2025
DeAnonymousGuy:
How did God decided to make it official?
Una go just open mouth wa dey talk anyhow. It's 19 years of fornication not courtship.
You don't have any right to slam them

You don't...no matter how holy you are
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Kobojunkie: 8:03pm On Jun 20, 2025
UniQue84:
Do you think bride price is just physical...well I won't say much cos maybe you have limited knowledge about these things....even in the eyes of the law the man can be charged with kidnapping if something happens to that lady because no marital rites was done. You never see anything.
What nonsensical gobbledegook of a retort is this for Pete's sake? 😩😩😩😩
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Kobojunkie: 8:04pm On Jun 20, 2025
Starz825:
➜You don't have any right to slam them You don't...no matter how holy you are
na una way.... with one side, una go claim he dey holy, but the next, drag him under with the unholy.... Christianity ehn! grin
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Dzzzz: 8:11pm On Jun 20, 2025
Belurved1:
O kay o.
Oga do quick o, so that she can get rest of mind o. Na everyday she dey calculate o, only you can activate the countdown botton.
Baba I no run and if she run then no wahala..We Dey together..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Dzzzz: 8:13pm On Jun 20, 2025
Offpoint1:
I wish most people could be like us wey dey stick to one bae forever 😂

All these people breaking up yearly dem dey try
Baba na so ooo..My friend done marry 2 ladies within 4yrs..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Talismann: 8:35pm On Jun 20, 2025
Akinboboz:
Many homes are like this ... especially rural area dealers....btw....don't kill yourself if you wanna marry now and you don't have money for elaborate wedding....u can just do little gathering and pay her dowry and do the wedding at your convenience time...it's as simple as A.B.C
bride price na 1metre minimum for south-south and south-east girls now. Dey play
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by lexy2014: 8:39pm On Jun 20, 2025
pocohantas:
She doesn't seem impressed.
The thrill of the "marriage" is long gone.
Are you mistaking wedding for marriage?

they have done very well having kids and being together this long.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by BiGVEEN58(m): 8:41pm On Jun 20, 2025
Marriage is a dumb concept... It shouldn't come first in your relationship with someone. It comes last. Kindness and respect comes first amongst other traits.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Ex0rrcist: 9:09pm On Jun 20, 2025
Dzzzz:
Congratulations and jubilations to you..I and my babe still Dey 5yrs courtship and she Dey complain say,I fit go marry another person😂..To be honest na still her I go marry..
Same here too, 6 years and some months. My own no even complain say I go marry another person, she' just keep reminding about our wedding. And nah she I go marry too. I love her so much.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Ex0rrcist: 9:18pm On Jun 20, 2025
Offpoint1:
I wish most people could be like us wey dey stick to one bae forever 😂

All these people breaking up yearly dem dey try
I swear bro, having 1 is tá kí g enough not to talk of having 2-3 women. I no get that kain strength abeg,
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Lamanii22(f): 9:46pm On Jun 20, 2025
brain54:
It's called blessed marriage...

It's not uncommon. I know people that did this.

After many grown up kids and living together!
This is how mine would be too, would walk the aisle after my kids are grown
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Bimpe29(m): 9:51pm On Jun 20, 2025
13 years of illegal relationship eventually translated into legal relationship. Allahu Samad! Happy married life.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Vision101(m): 9:57pm On Jun 20, 2025
Fully tested before payment. The man is sure and the woman is sure. End of discussion.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Mosco100(m): 9:57pm On Jun 20, 2025
Congrats to them; the days of sin and shame are ended, and now are they in honour.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by brain54(m): 10:00pm On Jun 20, 2025
Lamanii22:
This is how mine would be too, would walk the aisle after my kids are grown
Lol your kids would form the bridal train...

But why would you want that. You are female right?
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Belurved1(m): 10:38pm On Jun 20, 2025
I said 'no problem' but if they want problem then I'll reply them 'no problem'

50cent


Dzzzz:
Baba I no run and if she run then no wahala..We Dey together..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Kobojunkie: 10:42pm On Jun 20, 2025
Bimpe29:
13 years of illegal relationship eventually translated into legal relationship. Allahu Samad! Happy married life.
Cohabitaton is not illegal even in Nigeria! huh
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by DeAnonymousGuy(m): 10:56pm On Jun 20, 2025
Starz825:
You don't have any right to slam them

You don't...no matter how holy you are
I never said i was holy or holier than them. Neither was i slamming them.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Dzzzz: 11:53pm On Jun 20, 2025
Ex0rrcist:
Same here too, 6 years and some months. My own no even complain say I go marry another person, she' just keep reminding about our wedding. And nah she I go marry too. I love her so much.
Baba courtship no get expiry date..Many rush enter marriage and then rush come outside..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Kobojunkie: 11:55pm On Jun 20, 2025
Dzzzz:
➜Baba courtship no get expiry date..Many rush enter marriage and then rush come outside..
You never see couples wey cohabit/court for over 20 years only to go their separate ways not long after that? Abi, you wan do courtship until death? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Dzzzz: 11:58pm On Jun 20, 2025
Kobojunkie:
You never see couples wey cohabit/court for over 20 years only to go their separate ways not long after that? Abi, you wan do courtship until death? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Baba na only that one you see?..You know see others wey court and wed under 1yr and they separated just months after marriage?..As e Dey for negative naso e Dey for positive..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Kobojunkie: 12:03am On Jun 21, 2025
Dzzzz:
➜Baba na only that one you see?..You know see others wey court and wed under 1yr and they separated just months after marriage?
➜ ..As e Dey for negative naso e Dey for positive..
I see both the ones who court for 3 months and the ones who court for 25 years before eventually going their separate ways. Yeah, they are all over the place, meaning it does not matter the length of the courtship at all... something you have been dizzyingly attempting to argue for a while there. grin

2. Length of marriage does not depend on the length of the courtship... that's how it is. This couple wey dey celebrate today fit split up tomorrow. Na so e dey take happen. If you are so afraid of divorce, may I suggest you completely avoid marriage altogether then. grin
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Dzzzz: 12:13am On Jun 21, 2025
Kobojunkie:
I see both the ones who court for 3 months and the ones who court for 25 years before eventually going their separate ways. Yeah, they are all over the place, meaning it does not matter the length of the courtship at all... something you have been dizzyingly attempting to argue for a while there. grin

2. Length of marriage does not depend on the length of the courtship... that's how it is. This couple wey dey celebrate today fit split up tomorrow. Na so e dey take happen. If you are so afraid of divorce, may I suggest you completely avoid marriage altogether then. grin
Who Dey argue anything with you bros…What I’m saying is life has its ups and downs..Why I go argue with you?..Abi na you wan ordain my marriage?..Alaye if you like court or no marry that one na anybody business..
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by Danielomisco(m): 12:56am On Jun 21, 2025
Now if them carry one person piikin gv u for the 3 you go vex sey women
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by dontrulee: 1:05am On Jun 21, 2025
The girl I'm currently cohabiting with made this suggestion.
I met her a virgin, she's extremely loyal, willing to bear my kids, doesn't want a fanciful wedding, not the fashionista type, feminine and dutiful. Infact, she's already doing wife duties without me marrying her yet and she claims she loves me so much.
We've been together for a year now.
The funny thing is I don't really feel a thing for her, I've made her understand that I can't marry her and one of the reasons is that she attends white garment church and she's extremely territorial. But overall she's a good person.
Re: 19 Yrs Of Courtship, 13 Yrs Of Living As An Unofficial Couple With 3 Children by GenFunction: 3:30am On Jun 21, 2025
LagosG:
Showed my gf this just now



Omo the way her face take change....I know say she don dive into the deep ocean of conclusions
lol.
Seun abeg na this ur 40 character mark na gbese o
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