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Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Someone else complained over the same thing on Twitter. There was a recent story too of a man who sponsored his spouse abroad, and she started misbehaving.
The thing is, most women do not remember past help rendered. Read on Briffault Law; past help does not dictate future association. Women do not operate on what you did for them, but on what you can continue to do for them. She already assumed because you helped her, you should be able to help yourself, and she's irritated by you already. A woman who truly loves you won't be this irritated. In conclusion, she does not love you, and your semi dependent nature is now irritating her to the extent she can't continue to fake the benefits-based love she had for you.

Funny enough, maybe your sister needs this business.


If you sponsor your girlfriend to school or open a business for her, whatever you see afterwards, you carry it.


Same goes to sponsoring your WIFE travelling out or bring her overseas.

shibyc:
➜Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures. I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.
➜ Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument. Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts ehn… like I’m begging her.
➜ She forgets one thing: **The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine.** Everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.
Now I’m realizing that **if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.**
➜ So now I’m asking you all: **Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially?** I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking—but now I dey reason am twice. What do you all think?

1. You opened a business for her, meaning you gave it to her, right? Why not remove your hand entirely from the gift which you claim you gave to her? Or are you instead a partner in the business, meaning you both own the business together?

2. Your action is wrong since the business DOES NOT belong to you. Even as a partner in the business, you do not dip your hands into business funds without approval from your partner.

3. Did she forget, or is she trying desperately to protect her business even from your entitled self?

4. Get away! When you give someone something, so long as you are not partnering with the person or sharing that something with that person, learn to remove your hand completely from it.

The poster above.

Na wah o.... You just enjoy the mentions that come from being controversial sha - especially controversial submissions that don't require reasoning.

You do not think gratitude should be shown to someone who risked his own money to set up the biz? You didn't read where the op is actually helping her with sales? Where he has 90% of capital amd inflow?

I hope no girl takes you serious in forming their reasoning.

Who send you?? Eh! Fine boy without sense.
WHO SEND YOU

Should we beat her for you? You ought to have been wise at this stage of ur life!

Alaye carry your cross, you didn't inform us when you are doing that, so why now?

They never learn, stop funding those people lifestyle, no pity for simps

Na stories like these dey give me goosebumps

Simps will always learn via the hard way,

I opened a business for my wife worth over 10m and collected 30% from it. This is because I don't want to give her complete control of the business. She is a good woman who has proven herself over and over again. She has not done anything to warrant me doubting her but you never can tell. Once a woman has access to money, they can change their ways.

Made her sign an agreement regarding the sharing formula.

Whatever the business makes, I get 30% on it plus I get to make important decision on the business. We both own it even tho she owns the larger percentage and manages it.

Na MuMú dey empower em naija GF/Wifé ...
Do it at your peril ..

Bro I will not say you made a mistake you are just unlucky.

They are tons of women that will forever be grateful for such investments

If you have good heart. I think you should just let it go and move forward.

Trust those gender at your own risk, apart from my mother I trust no nanny.

Is she ur wife..y Nigeria simp be like this..have u opened any biz for ur sisters or mother and did u meet her a virgin

As you some mem not dey learn, you lean by force! Only do things to a woman who is you wife.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

I don't know why you are throwing tantrums, did she ask you to sponsor her?

When she never born for you, pet her and impregnate her. Her brain go reset 🤷

Young boys of this generation will never learn.
Why open a business for a lady you haven't married?
My advice is collect everything you've invested on her and invest it on yourself then send her back to where you picked her from.

Girl...

U no get sister to sponsor or even mama to give such money?

Men like u are the reason why some ladies who are very poor call some of us broke men because we decided to respect ourselves.

See,where ur kindness has landed u. Well,ur own even better,my own brother bought generator,TV,rented a shop for the lady,even relocated the lady to Lagos,fed her with his money. When she started doing well,she now realised he wasn't good for him.

Before u know it ,my brother refused to believe his eyes,the lady started dating a police man...na so my brother matter come worse pass before. He used his new found boyfriend to arrest my brother on three different occasions before he realised his mumuness and eventually left the lady.

Don't train ur girl friend nor open any business for her...u are only setting her up for another guy to marry tomorrow.

You messed up big time.
You should have set up the business in such a way that, when push turns to shove, you get your desert.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Omo, make una dey sofree love na, girl love calculatively u should know

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

I love seeing simps in very much deep pain.
I will sleep peaceful tonight 😚😚😚

Sorry is your case o. You dey carry women matter for head when you never married her. I don't want to say you are mumu

What have you done for your sister and your mother?

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

You made a mistake. Show her, don't do it for her...you used your hand to create the monster.

Should we tell him?

In this era? People no dey learn. 90% of women misbehaves when they have financial power.
I'm sure you have a female relative that needs the empowerment more.

Simps everywhere

Sorry is your case o. You dey carry women matter for head when you never married her. I don't want to say you are mumu

Bring a woman to your level and watch her think she deserves someone above you and that you are no longer good enough for her. Improve her level and make her independent and secure and watch her conclude that she doesn't need you.

By the way, does your sister have a business? Your mother nko? Do your brother(s)? If yes, did you pour into them like you did your gf? If the answers to all this is "no," then you need to wise up, be enlightened and learn to invest wisely.

Fourty Characters suppose complete by now

Her real character is gradually coming out.
If it is possible just stay away from the business and allow her run it exclusively. Manage yourself and don't ask her for any money and in a couple of months her true nature will be laid bare for you to see.
And less i forget, opening a business for a girlfriend is akin to gambling ok. It's either you win or you loose. Take heart.