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Hello everyone. What are your views on this? Can you marry a 38 year old lady? What's your take? Thank you

Yes if she is a virgin or she lost her husband to the cold hands of deaaath

bazoodo:
Hello everyone. What are your views on this? Can you marry a 38 year old lady? What's your take? Thank you

I know a 38 year old lady who got married about 9 years ago and had 2 babies in quick succession without any issues, I know childbirth is your major reason for asking

It depends on the age and status of the man.

A man in his 50s or late 40s who has been married before or has gotten kids can marry a 38yr lady provided she's not a used, re-used, over-used, dumped and shattered street product.

But a single man who has t been married before, please don't try it

My sister is 37yrs, she's need a husband. She's a good girl.

cassidy1996:
My sister is 37yrs, she's need a husband. She's a good girl.

Hahaha, 37 year old woman is not a girl again, woman

Demigod22:
Hahaha, 37 year old woman is not a girl again, woman

unless if she is a virgin


Or


Her husband died

Otherwise

Yes she can, if she chooses, why not, there are men outside for her plus including me right now.

Did you expect a man of 50-60yr to marry a woman less than 38yr old ?
Unless you are rich like ned nwoko that you can marry a woman below that range.

Even if shes 40 i would marry her as long as she doesn't have children from another marriage.

cassidy1996:
My sister is 37yrs, she's need a husband. She's a good girl.

I know one that God married @38 and is blessed with kids
God answers prayers

Oh that sounds nice, that you're looking out for your sister, let link up and let see how it goes

bazoodo:
Hello everyone. What are your views on this? Can you marry a 38 year old lady? What's your take? Thank you

It all depends on what you want?
IF you are marrying her with the sole aim of making babies and growing a family, then you are already in trouble.

IF you don't plan having kids and she isn't bothered too or maybe she has, and both of you are happier around each other, then marry her.

IF you already have kids and you want her for companionship, then you're good 2go.

IF you already have kids and want her solely for sociopolitical upliftment, then you're good 2go

38yr lady provided she's not a used, re-used, over-used, dumped and shattered street product.
Assuming she is?

Are you sure you didn't contribute to her being used, re-used, over- used and dumped.

Because what goes round, comes around.

Nothing beats marrying a young, level-headed, properly-raised lady between 22 - 27yrs.

I'm telling you from my experience.

If she is still in good condition, you can marry her as the third or fourth wife.

No freaking way.
Her body count be looking at you like.

bazoodo:
Hello everyone. What are your views on this? Can you marry a 38 year old lady? What's your take? Thank you

Absolutely — age is not a barrier to love, compatibility, or a successful marriage. What truly matters is mutual respect, emotional maturity, shared values, and the ability to grow together.

Here are some considerations:

✅ Pros of Marrying Someone Who’s 38

1. Emotional Maturity: At this age, many people have a clearer sense of who they are and what they want in a partner and in life.

2. Life Experience: This can bring wisdom, resilience, and perspective to a relationship.

3. Stability: Often, individuals in their late 30s have reached a level of financial, career, or personal stability.

4. Intentional Relationships: She’s more likely to be serious about commitment and less into games.



🧠 Things to Think About

Life goals alignment: Do you both want the same things (e.g., kids, career focus, lifestyle)?

Timing: If either partner wants children, biological timing may be a consideration — but that’s a personal and medical decision, not a universal limitation.

Societal pressure: Some cultures may frown on age differences, but that’s their problem, not yours. A strong, healthy relationship isn’t built on public opinion.


My thoughts

If you're both on the same page emotionally and mentally, age becomes just a number. A 38-year-old woman could be the best life partner someone could hope for — smart, grounded, independent, and nurturing.

If you're asking personally whether I can marry a 38-year-old — But I support you or anyone else who sees beyond age and looks at the heart and mind.

ediko5:
It depends on the age and status of the man.

A man in his 50s or late 40s who has been married before or has gotten kids can marry a 38yr lady provided she's not a used, re-used, over-used, dumped and shattered street product.

But a single man who has t been married before, please don't try it

@gerrard59 shebi you see why I came for him .
You can't see me randomly mock or criticise anyone that hasn't warranted it.

Do you know how many women have left this forum because of shaming and how their psyche and morale has been destroyed?

AmNotDrunk:
No freaking way.
Her body count be looking at you like.

Lol Una no well for this NL I swear

Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone.

I can marry her,if she's fertile, and have a good character, and she's productive

bazoodo:
Hello everyone. What are your views on this? Can you marry a 38 year old lady? What's your take? Thank you

As third or fourth wife
As third or fourth wife
As third or fourth wife

I will take a 38yr old lady over GenZ girls..Those nitwit can cause BP if you not careful..

Tightpussy2024:
@gerrard59 shebi you see why I came for him .
You can't see me randomly mock or criticise anyone that hasn't warranted it.

Do you know how many women have left this forum because of shaming and how their psyche and morale has been destroyed?

You're very funny. I tried replying to the guy you quoted to correct his shallow mind and SIMPing mentality but Nairaland b o-t stopped me.

Firstly, you can't mock me because you're a real low-life. My posts isn't about mocking anyone but dishing out the reality. If you're not guilty of what I accused some set of ladies doing then you won't feel shamed.

What's funny about you so-called low budget feminists is that you believe civilisation is only for the female while the male still live in the dark age.

As highlighted in some of my posts here:
https://www.nairaland.com/8456524/past-operating-system-not-passed
https://www.nairaland.com/8458261/dont-responsible-decent-man-see

Men are now fully aware of the game used by street ladies to lure innocent, decent men into marriage.

You think after jumping around without self-respect a man will accord you respect. Look at the kind of society we have today, so many young ladies roaming about without any intent of making income via a clean source but HKup and when they are done are like I outlined above shattered, they now expect an innocent man to marry them

IyaTola:
Absolutely — age is not a barrier to love, compatibility, or a successful marriage. What truly matters is mutual respect, emotional maturity, shared values, and the ability to grow together.

Here are some considerations:

✅ Pros of Marrying Someone Who’s 38

1. Emotional Maturity: At this age, many people have a clearer sense of who they are and what they want in a partner and in life.

2. Life Experience: This can bring wisdom, resilience, and perspective to a relationship.

3. Stability: Often, individuals in their late 30s have reached a level of financial, career, or personal stability.

4. Intentional Relationships: She’s more likely to be serious about commitment and less into games.



🧠 Things to Think About

Life goals alignment: Do you both want the same things (e.g., kids, career focus, lifestyle)?

Timing: If either partner wants children, biological timing may be a consideration — but that’s a personal and medical decision, not a universal limitation.

Societal pressure: Some cultures may frown on age differences, but that’s their problem, not yours. A strong, healthy relationship isn’t built on public opinion.


My thoughts

If you're both on the same page emotionally and mentally, age becomes just a number. A 38-year-old woman could be the best life partner someone could hope for — smart, grounded, independent, and nurturing.

If you're asking personally whether I can marry a 38-year-old — But I support you or anyone else who sees beyond age and looks at the heart and mind.

So you can't respond to such a simple question without using ChatGPT?!

SamuraiXXX:
I know a 38 year old lady who got married about 9 years ago and had 2 babies in quick succession without any issues, I know childbirth is your major reason for asking

Not impossible but not very common. Please its about time we stop telling lies on social media to deceive others, while it is not impossible there will be alot of challenges and complications due to her age. Likely it was through IVF, a surrogate or she adopted and lied she gave birth, but there is also the slim chance she gave birth naturally which if that is the case please go and test for genetic disorders like trisomy 21, down syndrome autism etc

Ladies i am not saying you cant give birth or get pregnant naturally at 38 upwards but please know the realities and inherent risks of waiting till such an advanced age . the internet was created to enlighten people and not deceive them so let us be truthful. i work in health care and know all the risks and will not stand by while people are deceived .

Please have all your kids before 35!!! finish having all your kids before 35!!! to avoid a fiuture if struggles and pains and financial loads !!!
Fini

ediko5:
You're very funny. I tried replying to the guy you quoted to correct his shallow mind and SIMPing mentality but Nairaland b o-t stopped me. Firstly, you can't mock me because you're a real low-life. My posts isn't about mocking anyone but dishing out the reality. If you're not guilty of what I accused some set of ladies doing then you won't feel shamed. What's funny about you so-called low budget feminists is that you believe civilisation is only for the female while the male still live in the dark age.

I find it funny when I am labelled a simp, whereas I have been posting against rabid misandry disguised as feminism. All I am against is extremism because it does more harm than any good. That was how Ndi ifeminisi labelled men all sorts of names that we had an Andrew Tate and several offshoots. We have had an era where young men were falsely labelled rapists even when the incidient never happened or there was no clear cut evidence. Now, should a lady put a rape claim incident online, many don't outrightly believe her. Extremism is bad for both sides.

As highlighted in some of my posts here:
https://www.nairaland.com/8456524/past-operating-system-not-passed
https://www.nairaland.com/8458261/dont-responsible-decent-man-see

Men are now fully aware of the game used by street ladies to lure innocent, decent men into marriage.

The issue with your post is that you are not addressing the root of the matter. These women don't sleep with fellow women (at least in most cases). It is our men, especially those in the south, who fuel this trade. As long as men continue to pay humongous sums for sex, the supply will continue to soar. Check the rates charged in the Lekki-Ajah axis; it means the business is good. Our men, especially men in these groups:
- Money miss road Igbo men
- Yahoo yahoo boys
- Politicians

...are the root causes of this skyrocketing hookup trade. I have written them here:
- https://www.nairaland.com/7684230/how-reduce-hook-ups-nigeria
- https://www.nairaland.com/8064135/hook-up-girls-earnings-expenses-pictured

Additionally, there is the prevailing belief that a Nigerian man who is financially comfortable should be polygamous in nature. Such a man will have sexual intercourse with many women, and as long as this belief exists, it means there will be fewer chaste ladies. Men have sex with women; thus, we cannot expect to have plenty of chaste women when men are allowed or encouraged to have sex with as many women as they desire. The math is not mathing.

BTW, with the red pill preaching I have read so far, our men still marry rabid misandrists, pay huge sums to escorts, pay for their women's education, pay huge amounts for dates, kneel to propose, etc. So, you see, it is either the gospel isn't spreading enough or the target audience isn't interested.

cc: Tightpussy2024

cassidy1996:
My sister is 37yrs, she's need a husband. She's a good girl.

Your sister is too young to get married at that age, she should continue her lifestyle maybe when she gets to 45-50 then she can become a good girl and look for a God fearing man to love her for who she is and forgets her past.

Gerrard59:
I find it funny when I am labelled a simp, whereas I have been posting against rabid misandry disguised as feminism. All I am against is extremism because it does more harm than any good. That was how Ndi ifeminisi labelled men all sorts of names that we had an Andrew Tate and several offshoots. We have had an era where young men were falsely labelled rapists even when the incidient never happened or there was no clear cut evidence. Now, should a lady put a rape claim incident online, many don't outrightly believe her. Extremism is bad for both sides.


The issue with your post is that you are not addressing the root of the matter. These women don't sleep with fellow women (at least in most cases). It is our men, especially those in the south, who fuel this trade. As long as men continue to pay humongous sums for sex, the supply will continue to soar. Check the rates charged in the Lekki-Ajah axis; it means the business is good. Our men, especially men in these groups:
- Money miss road Igbo men
- Yahoo yahoo boys
- Politicians

...are the root causes of this skyrocketing hookup trade. I have written them here:
- https://www.nairaland.com/7684230/how-reduce-hook-ups-nigeria
- https://www.nairaland.com/8064135/hook-up-girls-earnings-expenses-pictured

Additionally, there is the prevailing belief that a Nigerian man who is financially comfortable should be polygamous in nature. Such a man will have sexual intercourse with many women, and as long as this belief exists, it means there will be fewer chaste ladies. Men have sex with women; thus, we cannot expect to have plenty of chaste women when men are allowed or encouraged to have sex with as many women as they desire. The math is not mathing.

BTW, with the red pill preaching I have read so far, our men still marry rabid misandrists, pay huge sums to escorts, pay for their women's education, pay huge amounts for dates, kneel to propose, etc. So, you see, it is either the gospel isn't spreading enough or the target audience isn't interested.

cc: Tightpussy2024

You made some brilliant points here but you viewed my post from a wrong perspective.

I understand that the men are the major cause and funders of women's reckless lifestyle. My posts are mostly to protect the 'innocent men' from being devoured by the spoilt female. There are some Red Pillers who focus more on teaching men how to stay aware from women and keep themselves pure and holy while there are some who focus on teaching men the manipulative strategies of women and this is what I'm doing.

You'll agree with me that damaged ladies usually target innocent men for marriage. A single mother won't eye a wayward man like the one who got her pregnant and abandon her for marriage, she won't eye the man of her spec in her prime age (reckless spender) rather they will eye that innocent, dedicated man they despise in their prime age for marriage who spent his youthful age building himself.

My teaching is to protect the innocent men from having marital relationship with the damaged women. Indirectly it makes the younger ladies to sit up and adjust their reckless lifestyle.

The current global shaming of single mothers by Red Pillers will indirectly help in the reduction of single mothers in the future.

Meanwhile I just followed you 😁