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Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I come out of it I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

Please don't change because you have been adapted by that behavior, even if you try to change it won't be possible as that's what you were used to right from your childhood, just have it in mind that those your helper won't linger tolerate the bullshit from you anyone, congratulations 🎉

Its a good thing you atleast recognize your bad behaviour the next should be making a conscious decision to change .start by rendering little acts of service to people and learn to show sincere gratitude when next anyone comes through for you. It is well !!

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

Accepting your flaws is the first step to redemption. Try and make yourself a better human and with time hopefully.

This is a character flaw. It’s a good thing you've been able to identify it. I'm sure you already know how to address it. Start by checking in on people. Send them a text or call them just to ask about their well-being. Do not make any requests, even if you're in need or they offer to help. Add this to verminnel 's advice.

Help yourself 1st. Change your character, mindset and manner of interractions. Put people's emotion and feelings on same pedestal as yours.
If these fails, go for therapy and prayers.
you'd need it.

You aren't no user. You are just in the midst of fools.

You aren't no user. You are just scared and confused.

To be frank with you. This is your cross, carry it.


Good people suffer because they are good.

Bad people suffer because they are bad.

This is that point in your life where you learn to manage how you have been created. That is who you are, trying to change will make you miserable.

Moreover, if you succeed in changing now, who will teach the next set of people the hard lesson that some people are selfish and they need to look after themselves first before they look after someone that's not useful to them.

So dude, that's your duty in life. To teach others some lesson. This is a small challenge, get used to it. More will come.

Enjoy your selfishness while it lasts. Switching doesn't make it better.

Na because people care about you na Y
When people stop caring, you won’t see who to use

By acknowledging your flaws its a good place to start your redemption

Hope when you use your brain too uno dey forget aam!!.. because that is very important!!!

My brother me and u na thesame thing ooo. Infact all my frds done run away from me finish. But I too inturn help people.

It takes real strength to admit this kind of self-awareness. Many people go through life taking without ever reflecting.
The fact that you recognize this pattern and genuinely want to change shows growth.
Change doesn’t happen overnight, but taking responsibility is the first step. Wishing you grace on this journey of becoming a better version of yourself.

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.


I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

Funny thing is i used to have a friend that is like this . After 20 years I decided to cut things off from him . That guy don too do me !! Yet he ALWAYS expect favor and always doing the worse to people around him ! So selfish!! So greedy!!
Food no go Dey house yet him go deh carry olosho 20k ,30k and guess what !! He was living with me .

Dear Friend,

First, thank you for being real. Most people go their entire lives blaming others, but you've chosen to look inward—and that takes courage.

What you’re experiencing is what many people never admit: the trap of self-centeredness. It's like a cycle—take, forget, repeat. But yesterday was your wake-up call, and trust me, that's grace. Because self-awareness is the starting point of transformation.

Here’s how you can begin to change—for good:

1. Own Your Past—But Don’t Dwell There

Yes, you’ve used people. Yes, you’ve neglected gratitude. But don't let guilt paralyze you. Instead, let it fuel your growth. You can't undo the past, but you can start showing up differently today.



2. Start Giving Without Expecting

True change begins when you offer help without needing anything in return. It doesn’t have to be money or favors. Sometimes, it's your time, a kind word, or simply remembering to check in on someone. Giving rewires the selfish mind.


3. Apologize Where Necessary

If there are a few people you've consistently taken for granted, consider reaching out to them—not just to say sorry, but to say thank you. That act alone will soften hearts and rebuild broken bridges.


4. Set New Daily Habits

Practice saying thank you—out loud.

Each day, ask yourself: “Who can I help today, even in a small way?”

Keep a list of people you’re grateful for. Read it when you feel alone.


5. Let This Pain Mold You, Not Define You

What happened yesterday was painful—but pain is a teacher. Let it remind you of who you don’t want to be anymore. And let every small change you make from here be proof that you’re becoming someone better.


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You’re Not Alone

Many people have walked the same road. What sets you apart now is your decision to turn around. Keep walking that path. One day, the same people you used to take from will smile because they see someone who now gives from the heart.

You got this. One good deed at a time.

—A friend who believes in second chances. 💛

Godfrey858:
Funny thing is i used to have a friend that is like this . After 20 years I decided to cut things off from him . That guy don too do me !! Yet he ALWAYS expect favor and always doing the worse to people around him ! So selfish!! So greedy!!
Food no go Dey house yet him go deh carry olosho 20k ,30k and guess what !! He was living with me .

I've got a friend I hosted in my house since 2021, I just served him a quick notice for September. I told him since May, dude is not showing any signs of leaving, I will remind him in August. Dude has been acting nice, he flexed me on his birthday last week. Country is very tough because of Tinubu policies and local man has had enough 👌🤷.
I can't continue to live hand to mouth in my own house. I had to quit shopping and eat out but it's taking a toll on me.

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

I just wanted to share something I believe is important when it comes to choosing a woman to build a life with — especially if you're a man who already has his finances in order.

It’s great if a woman has money, ambition, or success. That shows drive and responsibility. But those qualities alone shouldn't be the foundation for choosing her as a partner. A lot of women who’ve made significant financial strides tend to operate with more masculine energy and that often shows up in how they communicate, make decisions, or handle disagreements. They're usually more assertive, more independent, and often more argumentative not in a bad way, but in a way that can create friction if you’re naturally looking for peace and balance at home.

The truth is, most women don’t make money with the idea of sharing it with a man, not the way men often do. A man typically sees his resources as something to provide for his partner and children. Many women, even high earners, still expect a man to lead and provide, and rarely flip that dynamic.

That’s why I think it’s wiser to prioritize feminine traits when choosing a life partner. Look for someone nurturing, respectful, and kind. A woman who can bring peace into your life who cooks, keeps a good home, supports you emotionally, and cares for the children. These qualities go a much longer way in building a fulfilling and lasting relationship than just income or status.

Money fades, careers change, but a woman’s character and feminine energy will shape your everyday reality. Choose someone who adds to your life beyond the financial side someone whose strength lies in her softness, not in competing with you.

Just my thoughts, bro. Choose wisely.

It's only the people that are possessed with demonic spirits that behave that way. That behaviour is pure witchcraft.

NOTHING YOU FIT TELL ME!

Don't be surprised those you thought you were using were the ones actually using you.

This guy again? Is a problem in this life that you don't have, or you are just creating content

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

It’s normal for you to use people.

In real sense, it’s an animal kingdom. Somehow and someways, we all will be mandated to feed on each other- directly or indirectly.

The weakest, poorest and least influential will always be meals for the strong, rich and influential.

It’s a chain and normal

Godfrey858:
Funny thing is i used to have a friend that is like this . After 20 years I decided to cut things off from him . That guy don too do me !! Yet he ALWAYS expect favor and always doing the worse to people around him ! So selfish!! So greedy!!
Food no go Dey house yet him go deh carry olosho 20k ,30k and guess what !! He was living with me .

wtf
Guy u suffer for that guy hand oo
Chai


Please write 40 characters

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

nigga u need to change your character or else u will end up alone in this world

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

Good you've recognized that you actually have a bad trait. That's the beginning of the solution to your problem. Visit any Church of Christ nearest you for worship and see the power of God. You will be glad you did

no space bookin
Characters don take over.
Write yo Exam and submit yo answer Script .and await yo result

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

Don't change ooo, just dey use people anyhow till depression set in.RIp is very easy to type, n that all dey owe you.

The first step to redemption is self awareness.. now that you know your evil nature, try to work towards being a better person else you'd meet what others like you meet; a sad and lonely end.

KiNg0G:
Right from time I have always been a user, care less about people but myself and whenever I get into trouble I always expect others to help me out and I do get into trouble and they certainly will. As soon as I get what I want. I seem to forget about all their good deeds until I get into another trouble or needs a help out.

Now that I'm an adult it's gotten more worst, I find myself doing stuffs just to satisfy my own pleasures, my own selfish gains but something happened yesterday that no one I know was able to help me out.

I was angry at first then I came to my senses those people I called I haven't even done one bit of favour for them but they have for me several times.

It dawned on me that I am a user who rely on people to help me out all the time.I hate this character and i want to change for good.

Give your life to Jesus Christ, that's the beginning of new life.