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zAm proud of you oop.

JAOS:
Holding 100% ownership of a business somebody else invested heavily in is wickedness
😕

W0men always overestimate their worth in relationships because they believe by default they have brought more to the table just by agreeing to date you

I mean..how on earth does a person demand for 100% equity in a business u are taking on zero risk

Street sister match make you! What do you expect.


You're looking in the wrong direction.

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

Rexymania:
Honestly you're funny.

She was even genuine to you...just teach her on how to reason with people

That's the duty of her parents and teachers.

immortalcrown:
Why do you depend on a street sister to find you a girl you will date for marriage? Is it that there is a community where the world-best girls come from and only the street sister knows the community? So, you can't find a girl from your village, from the city where you live, from the schools you are attended, from your workplace and from other places you visit?

I suspect that you have a very bad reputation, especially with the way you treat women. If not, you could have attracted a good woman without the help of your street sister.

His action is not out of place bro.


In fact, most worthy women that ended up as best wife to many men were found through matchmaking by a trusted elderly aunt, sister, relative or even neighbor. It's a proven method of finding a spouse, so don't make it look awkward if you don't like it. It has worked for many and will continue to work.


One of my friends got married to a wonderful, super beautiful lady through this method and they are heading to their 5th year in marriage by December this year.


Me too, I almost got married that way before my achalaugo started responding better than before



The only issus is that the matchmaker got the wrong person for the op.


Op don't give up, still keep an open mind, there are worthy ladies out there, maybe I will need to venture into this matchmaking business self, but the problem will be, if I find a hot lady in the process, I might end up liking her and confiscating her to myself

1Sharon:
Why can’t you date another lawyer? Why rely on someone else to find you a spouse?

Men generally don't operate that way. Like me, I don't fancy ladies in my profession during my single days, they turn me off.


So he mustn't date or marry a lawyer. He just wants a reasonable and worthy lady as a life partner, which is not too much to ask for.


Many single ladies are looking for worthy husbands but they are not worthy of the man they desire or seek.


In our present world, all ladies must realize that times have changed, it seems guys of nowadays now want their wife to be to be financially productive and possibly independent too. Like me, I never had that as a criteria when I was single and looking out.


But it seems most guys today want financially productive and independent woman for a life partner and I wouldn't blame them cos the global economy is no longer smiling

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

Outside her excesses, I think you also get your own for body. I don't have a problem with the standard you have raised for yourself. However, I hope you actually understand what you want when it comes your way.

When you finally meet a woman that ticks all these boxes you created, also note the following.

* She may not confide in you much.
* She may likely be independent.
* Your opinion may not be regarded with high esteem.
* She may not be submissive.
* She may be authoritative.

If you observe, I said "May". Meaning you may meet a lady that meets your standard and one or more of the above will not necessarily be present. But irrespective, you need to prepare your mind for all of these to curb you coming here years later to say that you want to divorce the girl of your dreams.

My little experience is that most ladies tends to introduce the girl they are better than in all ramifications to their assumed male friends.

And the funny thing is that, the said lady will never introduce that exact girl to her own brother if he is the one that made such requests....That is the genesis of the statement Women and double standards

1Sharon:
Why can’t you date another lawyer? Why rely on someone else to find you a spouse?

E bami bi.

Help me ask, go for your level. Leave the 'illiterate' alone

You have two degrees and you're a lawyer. So, why don't you marry a lady who has degree as well? An accountant? A lawyer? A medical doctor?

Some of you don't know what you want or are confused or dishonest about it.

franchasng:
Men generally don't operate that way. Like me, I don't fancy ladies in my profession during my single days, they turn me off.
So he mustn't date or marry a lawyer. He just wants a reasonable and worthy lady as a life partner, which is not too much to ask for.
Many single ladies are looking for worthy husbands but they are not worthy of the man they desire or seek.
In our present world, all ladies must realize that times have changed, it seems guys of nowadays now want their wife to be to be financially productive and possibly independent too. Like me, I never had that as a criteria when I was single and looking out.

But it seems most guys today want financially productive and independent woman for a life and I wouldn't blame them cos the global economy is no longer smiling

There are ladies who are well educated and industrious. Why doesn't he beam his search light towards them? It must not be a lawyer. A simple criterion: I want a university graduate or a graduate of so so institution is enough.

The OP is confused. He went to a street girl to get recommendations then complains about the recommendation.

Cognitive dissonance everywhere!

Babamide:
Asking a street sister to set you up already shows you are an unserious person.
The street sister too is just trying to run you street. Look for someone that has time to waste and see what they can cash out from you. Who your hand in marriage help??

That's an understatement. If I type what I've in mind, I will likely get banned.

Nothing special about being a lawyer in Nigeria 😆😆😆. The girl is exactly your level.

I love what you did, she's good for the street. Make her a baby mama simple.

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brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

You haven't blocked her yet?
I can tell that you're a very patient person. If it's me, I am not sure I can hold the conversation this long.
We all have limited time on earth and I wouldn't want to waste a second on unserious people.

This is why I laugh when Pansophonist is always talking about marriage via recommendation.

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

Shw insinuated he subscribed data for her, read that's why he felt offended

1Sharon:
Why can’t you date another lawyer? Why rely on someone else to find you a spouse?

Why don't you date someone in your financial class most of the time? You see how your question sounds? It's not about finding w lawyer, even educated people have this same opinion if the lady.

3 months after dating I started asking very serious questions like the OP, and i discovered she isn't different from the above lady but she has a bachelor's degree. People take on this mindset even while been educated.

You expect me to bring hundred % of your business funds that run into millions which i agreed and i asked how then will the profit benefit the family? The most ridiculous response ever, don't put your eyes in my money my money is my money and your money is out money, you are responsible for 100% of the bills and my money from the business should be left for me to do whatever i want to do with it. That was when i turned her to a farm tool until she got the memo

Rexymania:
Honestly you're funny.

She was even genuine to you...just teach her on how to reason with people

It's like telling a girl to teach you how to make money since you are sincerely broke and honest with her

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

The lady is not dumb because she's a secondary school dropout, she's dumb because she choosed to. I have a friend who also left secondary school to take over his father's farm back then, dude is doing very well and he started open University last year. Is finance is really way ahead of many of our mates with MSc and PhD. The bad side is even alot of masters holder will still have that fish brain of hers. And, you seem to have a chip on your shoulder though. Our definition of success is very varied. Some see success in education other see it in trade etc.

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

you’re a lawyer, you work, and u speak good English. I think that’s enough boldness for you to be able to go out there and get a woman that meets your standards, by yourself. Men that are not even up to you get nice women and you’re here asking a “street” sister to connect you. Baba, when you’re ready, you’d go out there and do the needful, Abi you’re not good looking ni? And when you meet that perfect lady, make sure you’re her perfect choice too.

Olatara:
E bami bi.

Help me ask, go for your level. Leave the 'illiterate' alone

Why una no dey comprehend? It's not ger level of education but her mindset, you are not even different from that SSCE holder.

My mum doesn't have a bachelor's but she gave birth to 3 PhD holders in Law, Medicine and Engineering why is this so? It's because she has the mindset of a supportive wife to her husband my dad and they are still waxing. She is productive, does business and contributed everything to the success of her family. So called educated women with bachelor's degree only have the mindset of relationships been a poverty eradication scheme for women.

The OP won't have an issue if the lady have the mindset of a wife and not see relationship as poverty eradication scheme which most of you fall into. Men don't marry degree they usually get married to mindset and ideology even if they meet you based on your physical attributes if you don't have the right mindset you will gnash your teeth. This thread isn't about her educational qualifications but her mindset and ideology.

tensazangetsu20:
Nothing special about being a lawyer in Nigeria 😆😆😆. The girl is exactly your level.

There is something special unless the said lawyer doesn't know his onions. My twin is a lawyer and i know everything that goes on with him, trust me his doing pretty well and already has assets worth 9 figures.

Can't you look for a woman for yourself suitable for u

1Sharon:
Why can’t you date another lawyer? Why rely on someone else to find you a spouse?

I have dated a lawyer. It wasn't a funny experience at all. I dey explain tire then cuz her reasoning dey somehow.

you are not rational...Are you sure you will succeed as a lawyer?? You will be better off as lease and rent agent....Someone said she was a secondary school drop-out yet you were subjecting her to an intellectual profiling like you said? You never asked her what class in secondary school she dropped out from nor if she would like to continue, or rather convince her on the reasons she has to continue...Maybe you did but you just didnt tell us...ok fine..

What intellectual proprietary were u expecting her to have? did you even know if the little edu she had was in one village in Esa Odo or Oron?...You even went ahead to ask someone who has never been married before nor catered for anyone in her life how much she wanted you guys to run a family?

She wanted a sole business, it is your duty to convince her, your duty to educate her and all...You can even teach her how to run a business since you think you were smarter..
The only difference between you and her, if there is any, is that you had some unreasonable ego that couldnt even make you find a girl yourself but took the help of a street sister to....

To you right now, you are intelligent...Oh boy, you are dull...
The poor girl might not truly have data...

Righteousness2:

Very Funny conversation.

My admonition to those who wanna get into marriage is this:

Marriage especially in these wierd times is not what you dabble into just anyhow or just anyone.

Times have really changed. Street is not smiling at all.
Due to lure and quest for vanities which is massive , Many today inclusive of guys and ladies you see around are more living and empty corpses due to being used by Yahoo boys, girls, men and women.

Dont just jump into marriage anyhow, else you use your hands to inherit loads of Problems and baggage.
Dont just get married to someone because you saw him or her in church and all that.

Dont just get married becos you see a lady with BIG BEHIND AND BEFORE or you see a guy with 60packs and fresh.


Ensure you Personally and Earnestly seek GOD'S Face and allow him lead you. As GOD reveals to you, follow his leading.

What is Happening right now is real crazy. If you wanna avoid stories, you better Earnestly seek GOD'S Face.

Infact if you dont Hear GOD font Marry..
In other Words, Ensure you are Led by GOD before you say I do.

Note:
When you seeking GOD'S face in Marriage, Do not go to him with a Choice either in your Heart or Head. If you do, the devil can show you the choice you already have.

But we were told that it's only God that knows our thoughts and not the devil. That's why He is omnipresent. Isn't that right?

You didn’t need to embarrass her..

She’s not want you want, be nice to her and exit nicely.

See man, people go through stuffs in life, people did not have the same opportunities you might have had and life did not treat everyone same.
You just leave quietly and no need pulling off all these, totally unnecessary

Britishpea:
you are not rational...Are you sure you will succeed as a lawyer?? You will be better off as lease and rent agent....Someone said she was a secondary school drop-out yet you were subjecting her to an intellectual profiling like you said? You never asked her what class in secondary school she dropped out from nor if she would like to continue, or rather convince her on the reasons she has to continue...Maybe you did but you just didnt tell us...ok fine..

What intellectual proprietary were u expecting her to have? did you even know if the little edu she had was in one village in Esa Odo or Oron?...You even went ahead to ask someone who has never been married before nor catered for anyone in her life how much she wanted you guys to run a family?

She wanted a sole business, it is your duty to convince her, your duty to educate her and all...You can even teach her how to run a business since you think you were smarter..
The only difference between you and her, if there is any, is that you had some unreasonable ego that couldnt even make you find a girl yourself but took the help of a street sister to....

To you right now, you are intelligent...Oh boy, you are dull...
The poor girl might not truly have data...

You said my mind.. I was pissed reading this.

Totally unnecessary drama. Haba! Using Armor tank to kill squirrel

JAOS:
Holding 100% ownership of a business somebody else invested heavily in is wickedness
Why do women behave somehow
Even the rich ones will still bill you 😕

Honestly.
I was avoiding broke girls, only to meet up with a comfortable girl that still bills me, but she would spend her own money on siblings and female friends.
Nigerian girls stinginess to their man is a pandemic.