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The Family You Marry Into Matters—A Lot

Many people believe that once a man or woman agrees to marry them, that’s all that matters. But that’s far from the truth.

The family you marry into plays a significant role in the peace and quality of your marriage. Some families are deeply problematic. From the moment you say “I do,” the real battle begins—fights, disrespect, abuse, and in some cases, spiritual attacks. Sadly, your own partner may even join forces with their family against you, leaving you isolated, broken, or forced to walk away from the marriage.

On the other hand, if you’re blessed to marry into a family that loves you—especially one where your spouse’s mother embraces you with a kind heart—you are one of the luckiest people on earth. That kind of love and support is rare and precious.

The signs are usually there during courtship. A lady once told me how her mother-in-law swore that she would never allow her to marry her son. She forced her way in, thinking love would conquer all, but since then, it’s been one spiritual and emotional battle after another.

Whether you’re a man or woman, please take this seriously: the family you marry into matters. Some families are just toxic—let me say it plainly, some are evil. And it’s even worse when your partner is either blind to their actions or lacks the courage to defend you.

For me, my wife is a core part of my life and my assignment. Anyone who disrespects or abuses her has automatically done the same to me. I don’t separate her pain from mine.

So choose wisely. Love is not blind—don’t let it blind you to the reality of what you’re stepping into.

you are right.... though some families have terrible bad eggs that u begin to wonder weda they are really from that family

Hmmmm
This is really important.....we all should take note of. That

Only a fool will say that the family background of a potential spouse does not matter.

Before you get hitched with someone you must do your due diligence well...there are some issues that may crop up in future that love alone cannot resolve

So true.
Very important to be cautious and ask questions before getting Married.

Authoreety:
you are right.... though some families have terrible bad eggs that u begin to wonder weda they are really from that family

Very important. Thank you for your contribution always.

Rilwizy:
Hmmmm
This is really important.....we all should take note of. That

Some family are liability family. They must have one or two occasions to do monthly sha ni

Another point.
That is why you Must always ask questions before stepping into any family.

helinues:
Some family are liability family. They must have one or two occasions to do monthly sha ni

Very very right, I support you on this.
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PastorKosi:
Another point.
That is why you Must always ask questions before stepping into any family.

Some family, no matter how rich you are, even if your wife is understandable, her family can make you to divorce her..

Can you explain further? I didn't really get what you meant

helinues:
Some family, no matter how rich you are, even if your wife is understandable, her family can make you to divorce her..

PastorKosi:
Can you explain further? I didn't really get what you meant

Some family's ancestors started with poverty. Your wife and other siblings might be the first set of generation to get over poverty. They are just at the beginning of the journey, getting married into such family, even if you are rich, the efforts won't longer make sense in helping all the time. Not even necessary to be financial

Wow

Now I understand you.
It is well.
It well it is well

helinues:
Some family's ancestors started with poverty. Your wife and other siblings might be the first set of generation to get over poverty. They are just at the beginning of the journey, getting married into such family, even if you are rich, the efforts won't longer make sense in helping all the time. Not even necessary to be financial

Someone shared with me an encounter he went through in the hands of his in-laws. Please guys.. Do your due investigation before marrying anyone.

This is true.




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Yes we all know. That's why I keep telling my male folks out there, look before you leap. That Angela has big bum bum or figure 88 doesn't guarantee after strafing, you wife her. Always ask questions about the female family (same as the male). No just carry ring cum mumuly kneel down to propose. But nigas of these days don't care, they wife any kind bitch that comes their way, as long as she has big breast and nyash. Some prefer to trade big breast and nyash over they're mentally, physically and emotionally well-being, because they thought it's a bed of roses.

The family a man marries to will detaining if it will make the man or break the man (likewise the woman).

PastorKosi:
The Family You Marry Into Matters—A Lot

Many people believe that once a man or woman agrees to marry them, that’s all that matters. But that’s far from the truth.

The family you marry into plays a significant role in the peace and quality of your marriage. Some families are deeply problematic. From the moment you say “I do,” the real battle begins—fights, disrespect, abuse, and in some cases, spiritual attacks. Sadly, your own partner may even join forces with their family against you, leaving you isolated, broken, or forced to walk away from the marriage.

On the other hand, if you’re blessed to marry into a family that loves you—especially one where your spouse’s mother embraces you with a kind heart—you are one of the luckiest people on earth. That kind of love and support is rare and precious.

The signs are usually there during courtship. A lady once told me how her mother-in-law swore that she would never allow her to marry her son. She forced her way in, thinking love would conquer all, but since then, it’s been one spiritual and emotional battle after another.

Whether you’re a man or woman, please take this seriously: the family you marry into matters. Some families are just toxic—let me say it plainly, some are evil. And it’s even worse when your partner is either blind to their actions or lacks the courage to defend you.

For me, my wife is a core part of my life and my assignment. Anyone who disrespects or abuses her has automatically done the same to me. I don’t separate her pain from mine.

So choose wisely. Love is not blind—don’t let it blind you to the reality of what you’re stepping into.

These days you can cut off any form of extension. Its all about WILL power

The family you are from matters just as much abeg.

This is very true. Happened to me
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Vice-versa. And if the one you're from is messed up, build a new foundation, and start over. The same could be applied to the family where your would be spouse is from if such would-be is willing.

It takes only one person to change an entire family system." This individual might initiate positive change, or conversely, could introduce challenges that alter the family's trajectory. Ultimately, the presence and actions of one person can ripple throughout the family unit.

sometimes it matters more than the girl. Also her friends matter, her job. I remember when i was young and a girl i was dating was telling me how her friends target married men.....she didnt realise she was demarketing herself.

Ladies reading this, pay attention, I am giving you expo o. This is why good men walk away from you and dont commit!

PastorKosi:
Another point.
That is why you Must always ask questions before stepping into any family.

What if they tell you everything you want to hear

Tribe and culture of the family you want to marry into also matters. Such factors should be put into consideration before you begin to embrace love at first sight.

If you watch the movie, Ready Or Not, you will know that complete knowledge of the family you want to marry into matters a lot

This post is for me, something serious dey happened for my family right now,ma snr bro give belle to a Christian girl,so the girl mum dey tell us say the girl no go practice our own religion and they will not green make we cut the new born baby hair for 7 years say Dem see the vision for their church,,no be small matter dis thing dey cause right now

The OP is still a baby husband
Especially where he said any injury to his wife is an automatic injury to him.

His wife will use his head do gwom gwom or pepper soup.

Fighting is unavoidable, the only good aspect of marriage is where your spouse truly love each other and committed to success of their union despite all tribulation

Household enemies (village people) are a real problem to many marriages, and they exist in 99% of all families.

Only families that are really close to God and undergo periodic deliverance can be free.

COMRADES are speechless, as a first class bachelor, I am here to eavesdrop gossip

bestmutiu2019:
This post is for me, something serious dey happened for my family right now,ma snr bro give belle to a Christian girl,so the girl mum dey tell us say the girl no go practice our own religion and they will not green make we cut the new born baby hair for 7 years say Dem see the vision for their church,,no be small matter dis thing dey cause right now

Una too weak for Una family.
How can the mother of the girl dictate to you how you will take care of your own son. Wetin concern someone like me with vision or church.

I love this post. We need to be careful and prayerful about the family we get married to. To me, most importantly, we need to pray to God to give us partners that stands with us and has our back when extended family members come against us. If we genuinely and fiercely protect each other, extended family issues will not overwhelm us. The problem is when either party takes sides with his or her family.

helinues:
Some family are liability family. They must have one or two occasions to do monthly sha ni

Go back to politics section, this section is for serious issues.

It does oOoOO 📌👌💯, naso my ex girlfriend told me I will put her mother on salary after we get married 👻

They want to be after my life like Tinubu

RISQUE:
Go back to politics section, this section is for serious issues.

Erase my comments and stop nagging. Too much of nagging can lead to stroke oo